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it's been my experience that a lot of gays drop the strict sexual roles the longer they've been out. not always true, but often. i feel like this is more of a myth that a lot of younger gays have when coming out that drags on for years...

most of the longer-lasting gay relationships i'm aware of aren't really top/bottom.
 
Kangi said:
Er, no. GAF is generally very sympathetic and helpful, even though you may not think so if you never leave this catty thread. There are tons of topics day in and day out devoted to helping people, but there a few problem areas that makes a lot of people here twitchy. Religion, etc. Apparently, open relationships are also one of those areas, at least in this thread.
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it depends, of course you will see support for people coming and saying one of their relatives has cancer or something of that magnitude, in that sense GAF shows good support, as it should be.

but when you have a "first world problem" prepare to be hammered, laughed at and ridiculed, proportional to how silly (a portion of) GAF thinks your problem is. Fuck that.

and that's all I have to say about that topic.
 
sphinx said:
it depends, of course you will see support for people coming and saying one of their relatives has cancer or something of that magnitude, in that sense GAF shows good support, as it should be.

but when you have a "first world problem" prepare to be hammered, laughed at and ridiculed, proportional to how silly (a portion of) GAF thinks your problem is. Fuck that.

and that's all I have to say about that topic.
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That really isn't the case it all, when you also consider the threads of people helping with releationship issues and whatnot, but okay.
 
When you have a community as diverse as GAF your gonna get a lot of opinions and perspectives. Many of them will be counter to yours. Just ignore those I guess. But it won't be all sunshine and rainbows.
 
SpaceBridge said:
When you have a community as diverse as GAF your gonna get a lot of opinions and perspectives. Many of them will be counter to yours. Just ignore those I guess. But it won't be all sunshine and rainbows.
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100% agreed,

that's why some topics, at least those that are too sensitive, (meaning, you can't take negative feedback with ease) should be left out of the forum, it's the best for everyone.

that's what I was trying to say to excelforward.
 
SpaceBridge said:
When you have a community as diverse as GAF your gonna get a lot of opinions and perspectives. Many of them will be counter to yours. Just ignore those I guess. But it won't be all sunshine and rainbows.
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This basically.

In every thread, there will always be jackasses and jokesters, but in most instances, they are drowned out.
 
Dead Man said:
Gluten intolerance, lactose intolerance, and salicylate intolerance. Basically any non white vegetable or fruit is not digestable for her. When combined with the others it really limits what she can eat.
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Wow, I didn't know salicylate intolerance was a thing. That must be really rough. Did she know about her intolerances when you started dating her or was it something that popped up after? If it was before, how did you handle going out to dinner and things like that? If you eat some whole wheat bread, can you kiss her on the mouth afterwards or will she get sick from the cross contamination? Did you ever reconsider the relationship because of the difficulties her intolerances present?
 
sphinx said:
100% agreed,

that's why some topics, at least those that are too sensitive, (meaning, you can't take negative feedback with ease) should be left out of the forum, it's the best for everyone.

that's what I was trying to say to excelforward.
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Which is basically it right now. I'm in kind of a bad spot right now, and I don't think the positive feedback could outweigh the negativity I would possibly get.

I promise I really didn't mean to make a big deal of this. I'm just kind of vulnerable right now, and inadvertently stirred things up. I'm really sorry.
 
So me and HS senior are going to meet up, we aren't going to go all the way, just meet up and get a little frisky in the back of my truck.
 
DR2K said:
So me and HS senior are going to meet up, we aren't going to go all the way, just meet up and get a little frisky in the back of my truck.
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I bet you already know the responses you are going to get right? In any case I thought you didnt like younger guys?
 
DR2K said:
So me and HS senior are going to meet up, we aren't going to go all the way, just meet up and get a little frisky in the back of my truck.
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fDa83.gif
 
Delio said:
I bet you already know the responses you are going to get right? In any case I thought you didnt like younger guys?
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Yeah I know the sexless portion of gay-gaf will scoff their nose at me. I normally don't, but this guy isn't built like an 18 year old.
 
has DR2K done something horrible in the past or something? i haven't checked this thread much in a while, but it seems like a lot of posts to him are a bit harsh.

have fun and be safe!
 
btkadams said:
has DR2K done something horrible in the past or something? i haven't checked this thread much in a while, but it seems like a lot of posts to him are a bit harsh.

have fun and be safe!
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I pissed off a subsection of posters on here in my practices of vanity. But most people here are cool. Thanks bud!
 
DR2K said:
Yeah I know the sexless portion of gay-gaf will scoff their nose at me. I normally don't, but this guy isn't built like an 18 year old.
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In my experince a lot of them arent. It's the water i swear. So just some heavy petting with him? How did you run into him?
 
excelforward said:
Which is basically it right now. I'm in kind of a bad spot right now, and I don't think the positive feedback could outweigh the negativity I would possibly get.

I promise I really didn't mean to make a big deal of this. I'm just kind of vulnerable right now, and inadvertently stirred things up. I'm really sorry.
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No need to apologize. Very humble of you to do so. Hopefully you can get the advise and insight needed to make the right decision that makes you happy.
 
sphinx said:
I am sorry you didn't get the answers you were looking for but yeah, some topics are best left out of this forum. GAF in particular is pretty awful in regards to sympathy and compassion.

whenever possible, they'll think you deserve what you got and you are an asshole, otherwise you wouldn't have that problem.
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That's quite a generalization, don't you think?

Yes, there are assholes on this forum, and lots of threads/questions backfire, but at the same time there are people here who are willing to help and give advices. It's just sometimes those advices are like kick in the nuts and not pat on the back.
 
DR2K said:
So me and HS senior are going to meet up, we aren't going to go all the way, just meet up and get a little frisky in the back of my truck.
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Please be sure to report on your experience. I'm not even being sarcastic.


Re: Open relationships. I used to think that they could never work. That in the end someone was going to get hurt, etc. What I realized after living with a couple in an open relationship for a year and a half is that it is indeed possible. It will work for some people, it won't for others. I believe it all depends on the rules set and how good at communicating the two people are.
It would be silly to dismiss them simply because some don't work. Are we dismissing marriage because some people divorce? Do we really believe that gay people can't have long and fulfilling relationships? To me, it's the same thing.
I think that this belief of "it never works" is deeply rooted in the fact that people emitting this kind of judgement do not see themselves in open relationships. And you know what? That's fine. It's not for everyone.
 
Natetan said:
I think people are misunderstanding what I said. And I'll leave it at that.



If that's what you and your guy are comfortable with great. I'm in a similar situation but I bristle at the idea of bring taken care of and I've been very vocal about it not becoming that way just because im younger and he makes all the money. Ideally for me it wouldn't be this way but relationships just happen sometimes I guess. It has happened a lot over the years because of my finances (student loans) so I guess I met fetishiz that equality because I've never been in the position to have it.
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Oh, it's not about money but power struggle. I'll probably never meet a guy who makes as much as I do, I don't know if that's unfortunate or not ;0)
 
btkadams said:
:( sorry to hear this dude. while i'm not in an open relationship at the moment, i believe it may be the future of my current one. it's hard for me to give advice as i'm not in the same position and haven't been before. all i can say is i feel for you! that does seem like a huge breach of trust. it is definitely a big deal. it seems like it may be salvagable since it was a close friend and you know them both well, but if you really can't trust him again, then things might be extremely difficult.

i wish you the best of luck!
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Play together, you build on your relationship, everyone fucks, you destroy it. That's from my past experiences, yours may vary.
 
Mr_Zombie said:
That's quite a generalization, don't you think?

Yes, there are assholes on this forum, and lots of threads/questions backfire, but at the same time there are people here who are willing to help and give advices. It's just sometimes those advices are like kick in the nuts and not pat on the back.
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yes, should have written " a portion of Gaf", of course not everyone is a bad person, thank god :)

I do think there is a way to better use the internet (GAF in this case), and some stuff is better left for real life friends, but that's my impression.

forums are places to share opinions, not to seek advice for a problem. In that sense, if what you are looking for is support, you may get opinions instead... because forums are first and foremost for that.

basically what SpaceBridge said some posts back.
 
sphinx said:
yes, should have written " a portion of Gaf", of course not everyone is a bad person, thank god :)

I do think there is a way to better use the internet (GAF in this case), and some stuff is better left for real life friends, but that's my impression.

forums are places to share opinions, not to seek advice for a problem. In that sense, if what you are looking for is support, you may get opinions instead... because forums are first and foremost for that.

basically what SpaceBridge said some posts back.
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I can be insightful...sometimes. :p
 
DR2K said:
He wants to bottom, but I warned him that it would hurt a lot since it's his first time. So we'll be going slow.
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be nice and downright deny him the pleasure of being a bottom if you are too big.

don't hurt that defenseless, new-to-love bottom! XD
 
Alcoori said:
Please be sure to report on your experience. I'm not even being sarcastic.


Re: Open relationships. I used to think that they could never work. That in the end someone was going to get hurt, etc. What I realized after living with a couple in an open relationship for a year and a half is that it is indeed possible. It will work for some people, it won't for others. I believe it all depends on the rules set and how good at communicating the two people are.
It would be silly to dismiss them simply because some don't work. Are we dismissing marriage because some people divorce? Do we really believe that gay people can't have long and fulfilling relationships? To me, it's the same thing.
I think that this belief of "it never works" is deeply rooted in the fact that people emitting this kind of judgement do not see themselves in open relationships. And you know what? That's fine. It's not for everyone.
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I am goign to have to agree on the open relationship front. After a 4 year long term relationship the last thing I want right now is something so... exclusive or restrictive.

After a year of not talking to my ex we pretty much have an open relationship agreement. Neither of us have gone the whole way, but neither of us has restricted the other. He lives an hour away, this is working.
 
DR2K said:
That reminds me, I have to cut my nails.
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haha, :D you were reminded of your nails by reading that? how so?


........


ooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh...I get it.

dat fingering...


well, don't go inside until his butt can take 3 of them. Until he reaches that point, he is still an amateur, you gotta make a man out of him first

(and that's a JOKE, for sensitive gaygaf)
 
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