
Original Depression-GAF thread
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1.) NeoGAF user, erlim, made an amazing, moving, inspirational video as a tribute to his sister, who ended her own life following a struggle with depression. If you're struggling with your own mental health issues, listen to his message. Original thread here.
2.) check out deviljho's guide to getting started with mindfulness! He did an amazing job, and this is a very quick and easy way to get yourself started on the road to better mental health, even if you aren't ill.
3.) Check out Hyperbole and a Half's two part Adventures in Depression [one, two]. I've honestly never seen a better description of depression.
This thread is for gaffers and lurkers coping with mental health issues like depression. This thread is for supporting them and discussing these issues. Please have compassion and patience with others and yourselves in this thread. If you are in a crisis, please call for help and look at the resources.
*The information provided here is all meant to aid you and support you in getting the help you need. No amount of reading or posting on GAF can substitute for getting professional help.*
If you are thinking of hurting yourself, please get help right away! Go to the hospital emergency department - if you are thinking of ending your own life, it is a medical emergency. If you need help figuring out where to go, a suicide hotline can help.
NeoGAF's erlim made this amazing video as a tribute to his sister, who took her own life: The Forge - For Anybody Hurting.
US National Suicide Hotlines: 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433) or 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
Hotlines by state
Canada Crisis lines by province
UK Samaritans Charity 08457 90 90 90*
Northern Ireland Lifeline: 0808 808 8000
Australia LifeLine 13 11 14
New Zealand Crisis Contacts
Crisis centers by country.
The Trevor Project 866 488 7386
"providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning youth"
Veterans Crisis Line 1-800-273-8255 PRESS 1
I still see my hands coming off the railing, he said. As he crossed the chord in flight, Baldwin recalls, I instantly realized that everything in my life that Id thought was unfixable was totally fixableexcept for having just jumped.
Places to find help
US
NAMI
UK
SANE
EU
EUFAMI

Mental Health-GAF Resources:
[Depression-GAF is our established name, but its synonymous with Mental Health-GAF.]
Depression-GAF is a place for anyone suffering from mental illness, dealing with mental illness in friends and loved ones, or simply wanting to learn more.
It is hard to deal with mental illness. It will get difficult and frustrating, and that's a realistic expectation, but we want to help people heal and feel safe to examine their struggles and feel less alone.
Please note that your problems are decidedly real, even if you feel like youre reading posts from people that have it way worse than you. Its not a competition. Everyone is welcome.
This thread is the contact point for our various community efforts. To get the most out of things, make use of the contact list, the IRC chat, and the thread. Were a tight-knit community, but were incredibly open to new members. The many friendships Ive found in here have all started with single PMs.
All sorts of people watch the thread every day, and posts are often discussed in the various chats (IRC, Steam, Skype) before they are replied to. Its very easy to become a part of that. And the people who are getting the most out of our community, and are seeing the most improvement, seem to be the folks who use all of the avenues we offer.
Depression-GAF all-star contact list - hit us up if you need to talk! I curate the list, so if youre not sure who would be the best person to talk to, send me a message and I can lend you a hand. As always, let me know if you'd like to be added!
[Update. January 2016. I went ahead and removed the contact list. I haven't been able to curate it in a long time and we've had some turnover in the thread.
Most people are open to PMs. Don't be afraid to contact people from the thread with advice or to ask to talk!]
Depression-GAF Chat!

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server: irc.mibbit.com
channel: #depression_gaf
password: sawap
(/nick NEWNAME to change your nick)
The channel is always active, with the most users in the evening hours. Special chats may be announced in the thread.
Moderators: swecide, bgls, Colin., jb1234, MikeDip
There is a Mental Illness-GAF anonymous email account, if for whatever reason you do not wish to be named in the thread. In general, its best if we can put a name (and avatar!) to a series of posts, but we realize that is not always an option
mentalillnessGAF@gmail.com - this does not get used much, so we never check it. You can
PM me (or anyone else you trust) if you'd like me to post something anonymously for you.

1) Have patience and compassion with people, including yourself. People in here are often very sick and trolling that would get a laugh elsewhere can have dire consequences. Consider how you respond to posts you dont like. We get the occasional Just man up! type nonsense in here. Arguing with these posts is a waste of time. Our regulars will help deal with these people.
When someone doesn't take your advice or reply, don't take it personally. Some people just want acknowledgement of what they experienced and are not ready for change or ready to confront new possibilities.
While there are many people who read every post in the thread, it can move too quickly (or posts may be way beyond anything people are comfortable offering advice about - were not professionals!) for every post to get a response. We ask your patience with us. We try our best! If a post goes unanswered, politely ask for help, ask in chat, on steam, in a PM, or on skype.
2) Respect peoples privacy. It can be very hard to talk about your struggles here, all the more so if you dont want other GAF communities youre part of to know. Please keep the information shared here within this community, unless there is good reason to repost elsewhere (e.g. intervening with a suicidal member). We have an email account (discussed above) to post things anonymously in the thread, or you can assume a different handle in chat.
3.) Try to approach this thread with a positive or constructive mindset. We understand there are times you just need to vent and let your emotions out, and it's okay to do that too. We want to know how you really feel. However, realize who it might hurt, including yourself. This thread isn't meant to hurt people. Things go best when the venting takes a back seat to questions and discussion. If you have to vent, please understand that it is very difficult for others to respond appropriately to absolute statements - e.g. Ill never be happy! - or incredibly hurtful statements (including ones about tearing oneself down) - e.g. Im an ugly loser. - no matter how good their intentions. Many members will try their best to help, whatever the situation, though!
4.) Be open to what others have to say. Try to appreciate the different views and experiences that people have, and acknowledge that your experience is not absolute for others, and possibly even for yourself. You may not agree with all the advice or encouragement given, but people took their time to write it, so take time in considering it. Examine why or how it may or may not apply to you before outright rejecting or accepting it.
I ideally, if youre not sure how to post about your own difficulties, heidern suggested this nice 3-point guide:
1) Description of your issues(the more detail the better).
2) What actions are you taking or planning to take? Or if you can't take actions, what difficulties are you having?
3) Specific things you'd like help/advice on. Ask questions.

"Why can't people just cheer up?"
Mental illnesses are easy to dismiss as somehow less real than, say, diabetes or cancer. But asking why someone cant just cheer up is actually a lot like asking why they cannot make insulin, or shrink their own tumors. Mental illnesses are thought to be caused by a complex interplay of biological, psychological, and social factors, all of which are very real and very hard to change in an instant.
Theres a profound difference between being depressed and just feeling down, even if people say Im depressed in both cases. Depression involves a negative mood out of proportion to life events, and which is not easily lifted. A bowl of ice cream may be all thats needed on a crappy day, but depression is much more than that. The feeling may be analogous to waking up every day and feeling like your best friend just died. Or it may manifest as profound numbness, an indifference to all emotions. Realigning your thoughts is part of the healing process, but its not as simple as thinking a happy thought or two!
"Why even bother having this thread? It's depressing me."
Why? Because talking about it helps. It promotes awareness, lowers stigma, and lessens the sense of isolation.
Around 1 in 4 people around the world will meet the criteria for some form of mental illness in their lifetime. You probably know a family member or friend who suffers from one.
This may be a gaming forum primarily, but people in here come from all walks of life and we want to promote a community that is more understanding of the struggles that some have to live with. People can and do get better, they work to cheer each other on, we play games together, were friends. Theres a lot to be said for not having to explain what depression is and why you cant just feel better. We can skip that step in here and just hang out with people who know at least a bit about what were going through.
And youd be surprised how much comedy comes from the depressed mind! Its not all doom and gloom in here!
"I don't have depression/anxiety/bipolar disorder, but can I still post in this thread?"
Absolutely! But if you say Just man up! Cheer up! or anything of the sort, you will be literally crucified. Again, this thread should not hurt people. We ask for your understanding when things are difficult, frustrating, or dont make sense to the non-depressed mind (you lucky dog, you!).
If you dont believe in depression, wed just as soon NOT have you visit. Tom Cruise, Im looking at you, and I know your GAF account.
"This person just sounds like they are a huge whiner. What if they don't have depression and are just faking for attention?"
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"Their problem don't sound so serious. They should stop whining. Why don't they just do XYZ? All their problems will be solved!"
Try to suspend judgment about people. You don't know what their actual life circumstances are like, what their experiences are. Not everyone will disclose everything that's going on in their lives for a number of reasons (in fact, very few people disclose even a fraction of whats going on). Give people the benefit of the doubt and be constructive if you can.
It's okay to doubt someone, but this thread isn't about tearing people down and dissecting them. That energy is best used in other ways.
Disclaimer: Some serious issues may be out of the scope of most people's experiences and no one may have a good answer for you. But don't feel like you can't say anything about it. Just talking can help. Other people may be having the exact same issue(s).
*The information provided here is all meant to aid you in getting the help you need. No amount of reading or posting on GAF can substitute for getting professional help.*
1.) Depression
Questionnaires such as the Personal Health Questionnaire (PHQ-9) or Beck Depression Inventory are not necessarily diagnostic, but can be highly suggestive of a major depressive disorder.
(moving some stuff to Belmarduk's post - he needs to update the links, so they're still in my posts)