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[Jim Harbaugh]

So, I just turned 30. I assume this is not an unusual occurrence. Many of my friends are married and some have kids. I have one friend who got married recently and ever since then, contact with him has dropped significantly.
It went from daily/every other day contact on gchat while at work to every few weeks if I am lucky. The guy has a kid, but I know other people who had kids who didnt drop off the map completely like this. He stopped going on gchat while at work, which has nothing to do with his kid.

Am I just an asshole? I feel like if you have a kid, you shouldn't abandon your friends completely. Where would DJ, Methanie, and Michelle be without Uncle Joey?

Anyone else run into this? It is probably just one of those things you run into in life, but i was surprised at the quick deterioration of the friendship.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

When you have kids your priorities change. My bud has a kid, but just wait. they'll wanna hang out eventually, you guys'll still be pals but you won't see them as often as before.

Sometimes things change that way, you just gotta accept it.

 

[Apeopleman]

Damn bro, you're on a thread making rampage tonight!

My advice is to chill. The mods do perma-junior some members for spamming new threads.

Friends who abandon you and forget about your or say "sup" on facebook aren't your friends.

 

[catabarez]

Do you live with your friend? The Joey thing doesn't really work.

 

[EloquentM]

Did you ask him? Some people just change and fall off the map.

Also, you keep making threads.. I'd advise against that.

 

[Jim Harbaugh]

Damn bro, you're on a thread making rampage tonight!

My advice is to chill. The mods do perma-junior some members for spamming new threads.

Friends who abandon you and forget about your or say "sup" on facebook aren't your friends.

This isn't a legitimate topic?

 

[SonicMegaDrive]

I find the older I get, the less I want to just pal around with my old high school buddies. Especially the ones that haven't really changed all that much since those days. It isn't necessarily because I don't want to be friends anymore, sometimes I just can't find the time or energy for them.

 

[BakedPigeon]

Perhaps you could flip the coin in your situation. Have you ever stopped talking to an old friend without giving it much thought?

 

[Apeopleman]

Aw man, he just got banned.

Hopefully it's a 2 weeker. I'm assuming he just got promoted to Member and got excited.

 

[speedline]

Married guys can go 6 months with no friend contact at times, it's just the way life is. You and the other pals are not his priority in life, nor should you be. I have friends I haven't heard from in ages, but I still consider them friends.

 

[cubanb]

Why did he get banned for this?

 

[davepoobond]

Why did he get banned for this?

he's testing out the disappeared friend theory.

 

[vitaminwateryum]

Why did he get banned for this?

He made like three or four threads in a pretty quick period of time.

 

[cubanb]

Never ever seen that before. ever.....

 

[CheesecakeRecipe]

Did you ask him? Some people just change and fall off the map.

This is me. I had no kids or significant others but I'm pretty sure most of my friends from high school assume i'm dead.

EDIT: I don't think he was banned for this topic in specific. His other two topics were about how hot X was, so that might have done it. Hopefully a short ban to teach a lesson.

 

[Xzeon]

Why did he get banned for this?

his Rihanna addiction did him in.

 

[Harlock]

Why did he get banned for this?

Be careful in off topic, the moderators here are far more rigorous than in games.

 

[Violet_0]

Be careful in off topic, the moderators here are far more rigorous than in games.

out of curiosity, is asking why someone was banned bannable now? Not that I ... am doing it just right now.

 

[Harlock]

out of curiosity, is asking why someone was banned bannable now? Not that I ... am doing it just right now.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_prison_experiment

 

[Cyan]

out of curiosity, is asking why someone was banned bannable now? Not that I ... am doing it just right now.

No, though we'd prefer threads not get filled with "why'd this person get banned?" If you're really desperate to know, PM a mod, though an answer isn't guaranteed.

Having said that, a quick word of explanation, since I don't want people to get the wrong idea: this was not about asking about bans, the poster in question had a major freakout and account suicided over multiple threads. The posts have been deleted.

Spoiler

Also Jim Harbaugh was (one of) his alt(s).

Makes me kind of sad to see a long-time poster I never had problems with lose their shit like that, but what can you do.