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[Symphonia]

That's kinda the one thing thats making me a bit 'eh' about this - what if I go in giving off a 'date' vibe when it really is nothing more than a friendly dinner? It could make work very awkward.

So, apparently, it was a friendly dinner. I didn't go in with the idea of it being anything more than a date, and I certainly wasn't giving off a date vibe. There was some gentle hand touching over dinner but nothing more than that. I kind of clicked it wasn't a date when we were sat on her sofa after dinner and she started talking about a guy she likes.

So, yeah, I feel kinda shit right now.

 

[trab pu kcip]

So, apparently, it was a friendly dinner. I didn't go in with the idea of it being anything more than a date, and I certainly wasn't giving off a date vibe. There was some gentle hand touching over dinner but nothing more than that. I kind of clicked it wasn't a date when we were sat on her sofa after dinner and she started talking about a guy she likes.

So, yeah, I feel kinda shit right now.

oh man that's a kick in the guts know that feel. happened to me twice now that I met someone and thought we were really bonding, then they suddenly tell me how they're still after their ex and blablabla. everytime really out of the blue. I don't know why people do this, I mean they have to notice when they're building up a date-type vibe? D:
but hand touching? like holding hands? cause that's some romance shit right there

 

[Symphonia]

But hand touching? Like holding hands? Cause that's some romance shit right there.

Like, we were sat at the dining table, in full conversation, and I had one hand just resting on the table. She put her hand on mine and kept it there for a good minute or so. This happened a fair few times during the entire duration of dinner.

 

[trab pu kcip]

Like, we were sat at the dining table, in full conversation, and I had one hand just resting on the table. She put her hand on mine and kept it there for a good minute or so. This happened a fair few times during the entire duration of dinner.

well that's just fucking confusing.

 

[TheExodu5]

Maybe she felt you weren't interested and just wanted to save face? Or maybe she was trying to get a reaction out of you.

 

[Symphonia]

well that's just fucking confusing.

I know, right? But given my track record of previous romantic encounters, it was about right that I get a woman who either likes to play mind games or is just a complete and utter psycho.

Maybe she felt you weren't interested and just wanted to save face? Or maybe she was trying to get a reaction out of you.

Well, that's just stupid. I mean, fair enough, I didn't exactly give much of a reaction to her holding my hand, although I did smile while she was doing it. Maybe that's where I went wrong.

 

[TheExodu5]

How long have you known her? Do you have anything to lose? I'd probably just talk to her about it.

 

[Jhoan]

NYC is just really bad now smh...

I'm a New Yorker. Elaborate. The whole single women scene has disappointed you or something?

In regards to TheExodu5's physicality escalation, alcohol does help but I would suggest doing little things from the get go while drinking. Things such as grabbing her hand to see a ring/talk about it, touching her hair, touching her arm to ask if she works out, keeping your leg(s) touching hers without moving it, etc.

If she reciprocates, then it's a pretty good sign. You can also hold hands while walking to places. Chances are all those little touches are going to build up sexual tension for when you finally do make out with her so that it's won't be a simple peck. Of course do it naturally

CyanideStrike, did you change the subject when she talked about the guy that she liked? I know that must have been uncomfortable for you.

 

[Symphonia]

How long have you known her? Do you have anything to lose? I'd probably just talk to her about it.

End of July. The only thing that would cause a problem is she's a work colleague, so it could get awkward in the office.

 

[Hypereides]

Like, we were sat at the dining table, in full conversation, and I had one hand just resting on the table. She put her hand on mine and kept it there for a good minute or so. This happened a fair few times during the entire duration of dinner.

You just entered... The Friend Zone. The zone of unexplained mysteries and happenings.

 

[TheExodu5]

End of July. The only thing that would cause a problem is she's a work colleague, so it could get awkward in the office.

That's a tougher position then. Personally, I'm at the point where I think I don't really care. I was becoming friends with the girl I was seeing and just asked her out and made it clear I was asking her out on a date. If she wasn't interested then I was perfectly happy being friends with her.

If you can have a similar outlook with this girl things don't need to get awkward, though I suppose part of that depends on her.

 

[Symphonia]

CyanideStrike, did you change the subject when she talked about the guy that she liked? I know that must have been uncomfortable for you.

Uncomfortable isn't the word I'd use but, yeah, I changed the subject pretty damn quick. It was just kind of awkward for the remainder of the night; I think I've kinda made my mind up about what to do about this.

 

[Kainazzo]

Ooooookay. I'll ask her out, but because this'll be the first time ever and I have a Class-10 wondergirl on the other side, I want to make sure I do this sorta' right.

SUBJECT: Yesterday's Meetup- Tomorrow!
Heyo!

I was the guy in the blue shirt scrunched up next to the table; the one who kept calling the Mattress Firm a Blockbuster. I had a pleasant time talking with you, especially about the perils of Copic markers, rolling around Termina Field, and just what the heck had happened at WCS. I swear I'll figure that last one out soon!

In the meantime, I'd like to do it again if you're interested. I promise I won't spoil the ending to Legend of Dragoon! Well, anymore of it.

~Michael

How's that sound? Short, simple, but looks like I gave a crap about the time spent with her?

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Sounds great!
You really needn't double check with us.

 

[Jaladinozozo]

Got dumped recently. Feel like I've been literally in the dumps these past few months. Traveled, worked a lot, saw lots of friends...still feel like shit. Like I have no game left and don't even know how to approach a woman anymore or what to say. Everything feels muted without "her". Never felt like being back to square one like this in my whole life and I'm in my late 20's. Even then everything feels so disposable, both relationships and friendships (at least they have been for me so far) I am starting to get really jaded and don't know why I bother.

 

[Kainazzo]

Sounds great!
You really needn't double check with us.

Sent, and thanks! Just wanted to make uber-duper sure that I had the right idea for any future messages. I'll try not to clog up this thread too much from now on

Now: the waiting game...

 

[trab pu kcip]

Sent, and thanks! Just wanted to make uber-duper sure that I had the right idea for any future messages. I'll try not to clog up this thread too much from now on

Now: the waiting game...

I agree with squiddy, it was cute
haha but we expect updates now!

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Got dumped recently. Feel like I've been literally in the dumps these past few months. Traveled, worked a lot, saw lots of friends...still feel like shit. Like I have no game left and don't even know how to approach a woman anymore or what to say. Everything feels muted without "her". Never felt like being back to square one like this in my whole life and I'm in my late 20's. Even then everything feels so disposable, both relationships and friendships (at least they have been for me so far) I am starting to get really jaded and don't know why I bother.

It'll hopefully pass, but in the meantime you could try focus 100% on yourself. You are right about relationships, they are quite often transient things but that doesn't stop you from enjoying them while you can.

Why at all live if it'll all end when you die?
Because living is quite fun.

 

[Kainazzo]

I agree with squiddy, it was cute
haha but we expect updates now!

Got one, and got it fast 0_o

Hey!

Yesterday was a blast. I will definitely be seeing you guys again at the next get together when I can. Such a bummer school started again today, but I'm sure I'll be able to squeeze in some time on the weekends I'm sure. I'll have to try and beat Legend of Dragoon before then ;p

-Sarah

Okie doke, so pessimist me is thinking she's just looking for friends, is trying to put it down nicely, and I shouldn't reply back. The optimist says she'd genuinely like to go out on a weekend, outside of a Meetup, and I should make start making plans. But because she didn't outright say that, I'm iffy.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

It does indeed kinda sound like she is talking about meeting up with multiple people.
That's not necessarily a bad thing, it would be another opportunity to hit things off.

 

[trab pu kcip]

It does indeed kinda sound like she is talking about meeting up with multiple people.
That's not necessarily a bad thing, it would be another opportunity to hit things off.

yep. now that you've messaged her you can also approach her more directly when you see her at the meetup
+ you also know she wants to go to the next one for sure now.
just use it as a chance to get to know her better, the rest will follow.

 

[SS4Gogita]

My first girlfriend in almost 10 years dumped me about a week ago, and I really want to get back in the saddle again quickly just because I really don't want to dwell on anything at this point in my life, especially when the relationship only lasted 3 months (a little more if you count the few weeks of dating beforehand.)

I found her via OKCupid, so I figure I should probably just reactivate my account there. It took me a while to get some messages the first time around, so I'd love to hear some critiques. Any advice is appreciated!

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/NPVinny?cf=profile

 

[drkOne]

Welp, here I am looking for some advice…

I've been seeing this girl for around two months now, we've gone on more than a couple dates.
When I first started talking to her I had no intentions of it getting serious, but I can't say I disliked the way she looked at me, and the way she talked to me made me feel special.

Fast forward a bit, we went on a couple dates. I decided I would enjoy the little things with her, as I never had the chance to do that with my previous relationships (I'm 21 by the way).

We had a talk about where we were exactly, and we both agreed that there was no need to label our relationship, we would get to know each other and personally I felt like things would go really smooth with her so I didn't need to worry.
(Last GF took me for granted as soon as we labeled our relationship, so I didn't want to make that mistake twice)

I had a nice time with her once, it was incredibly late, I was dead tired, misunderstood her hints and I told her I loved her. It was the first time I told that to a girl without her confessing first, I admit I went out of my comfort zone to make her feel special.

Turns out it bothered her. She told me that it seemed like this was all new for me.
I didn't even know what to say, I've told it to girls who deserved it a lot less…
I told her not to misunderstand my words, and we got to an understanding that we both express ourselves in different ways.

I haven't seen her in a month due to life getting in the way, and the last time we talked I asked her if we were exclusive.
She told me we were, in the present, but that the future is an uncertainty.
Am I wrong to be bothered that she had to add that last detail? It's obvious the future is uncertain, you don't need to shove it in my face as if you're trying to tell me something.

Another thing that bothers me a lot. I've been always extremely nice to her, finally I found a girl where I saw maturity and so I decided I wouldn't be playing games with her, being always nice and honest.
I had my reasons to want to show her that a man can be nice (she had some bad previous experiences), but now I feel like I gave away too much of myself without getting anything in return.

We haven't seen each other in a month, and considering how uncertain she was about her future I was going to take a step back and put our relationship on hold for the time being.
Giving her time to figure out what she really wanted, and I know most of you will probably say that'd be the right thing to do.
We're going to see each other soon, but once again I was the one making the plans and inviting her… Which I'm tired of.

I've already become a bit colder with her, since I don't see any return for being nice with her. But it's fucking painful to treat someone with the cold shoulder when you feel there's no need to.

Honestly, I just don't want her to "not see" why I'm getting colder with her and place me in the "asshole" box as she did with the rest of the guys.
Tips?

 

[DyTonic]

I'm a New Yorker. Elaborate. The whole single women scene has disappointed you or something?

In regards to TheExodu5's physicality escalation, alcohol does help but I would suggest doing little things from the get go while drinking. Things such as grabbing her hand to see a ring/talk about it, touching her hair, touching her arm to ask if she works out, keeping your leg(s) touching hers without moving it, etc.

If she reciprocates, then it's a pretty good sign. You can also hold hands while walking to places. Chances are all those little touches are going to build up sexual tension for when you finally do make out with her so that it's won't be a simple peck. Of course do it naturally

CyanideStrike, did you change the subject when she talked about the guy that she liked? I know that must have been uncomfortable for you.

I don't know it's just a lot of eye fucking and dry personalities from the ones I did make a move on. Maybe there is too much of a fake persona thing going on.

 

[huxley00]

I'm having a fucking nightmare with my GF tonight. She hates that I very occasionally play games and has been trying to mould me into a different person since we started going out. I've played my DS for one day this week and she's giving me shit.

She's out right now with her friends and sends me a text saying "you're not an adult, you could put your DS aside if you wanted to". I'm fucking home alone, why does it bother her that I'm doing it?? She's out doing her own thing, but I'm not allowed to do mine. WTF is even going on?

My last gf hated video games and thought they were childish. My current gf has her hobbies and I have my own. If I want to play games (say all day on a Sunday) while she goes to the gym or watches tv or puzzles or whatever she wants to do, its not a big deal. One of the most important things to realize is that people probably arent going to change. If she doesn't love you the way you are with all that comes with that, she and you are both going to be quite unhappy.

 

[Omegasquash]

Welp, here I am looking for some advice…

I've been seeing this girl for around two months now, we've gone on more than a couple dates.
When I first started talking to her I had no intentions of it getting serious, but I can't say I disliked the way she looked at me, and the way she talked to me made me feel special.

Fast forward a bit, we went on a couple dates. I decided I would enjoy the little things with her, as I never had the chance to do that with my previous relationships (I'm 21 by the way).

We had a talk about where we were exactly, and we both agreed that there was no need to label our relationship, we would get to know each other and personally I felt like things would go really smooth with her so I didn't need to worry.
(Last GF took me for granted as soon as we labeled our relationship, so I didn't want to make that mistake twice)

I had a nice time with her once, it was incredibly late, I was dead tired, misunderstood her hints and I told her I loved her. It was the first time I told that to a girl without her confessing first, I admit I went out of my comfort zone to make her feel special.

Turns out it bothered her. She told me that it seemed like this was all new for me.
I didn't even know what to say, I've told it to girls who deserved it a lot less…
I told her not to misunderstand my words, and we got to an understanding that we both express ourselves in different ways.

I haven't seen her in a month due to life getting in the way, and the last time we talked I asked her if we were exclusive.
She told me we were, in the present, but that the future is an uncertainty.
Am I wrong to be bothered that she had to add that last detail? It's obvious the future is uncertain, you don't need to shove it in my face as if you're trying to tell me something.

Another thing that bothers me a lot. I've been always extremely nice to her, finally I found a girl where I saw maturity and so I decided I wouldn't be playing games with her, being always nice and honest.
I had my reasons to want to show her that a man can be nice (she had some bad previous experiences), but now I feel like I gave away too much of myself without getting anything in return.

We haven't seen each other in a month, and considering how uncertain she was about her future I was going to take a step back and put our relationship on hold for the time being.
Giving her time to figure out what she really wanted, and I know most of you will probably say that'd be the right thing to do.
We're going to see each other soon, but once again I was the one making the plans and inviting her… Which I'm tired of.

I've already become a bit colder with her, since I don't see any return for being nice with her. But it's fucking painful to treat someone with the cold shoulder when you feel there's no need to.

Honestly, I just don't want her to "not see" why I'm getting colder with her and place me in the "asshole" box as she did with the rest of the guys.
Tips?

I mean, if she's telling you that the future is uncertain, don't bank on a future with her. I'd outright tell her that you're looking for something, and you feel like you're both in a place of weirdness/stress/questions right now. If she's not able to give you any answer, then just call it.

She's not giving YOU what you want. Now, she can call you an asshole for that, but you're there for you. If she thinks you're an asshole for wanting what you want (which doesn't seem in the realm of fiction, unless you're not sharing something with us), then she's not ready for a relationship between two adults.

All that said, you've gone on more than a couple of dates, which doesn't say "BF/GF" to me. If she's not there, then just tell her that you understand, but it's been a month since you've SEEN her. You're 21, yo. This is prime time to get out and explore stuff. Don't spend your time investing in something that's providing little return.

That asshole thing really bothers me...all her exes are assholes, they're all crazy and she's the only one who's sane, etc.

I'm having a fucking nightmare with my GF tonight. She hates that I very occasionally play games and has been trying to mould me into a different person since we started going out. I've played my DS for one day this week and she's giving me shit.

She's out right now with her friends and sends me a text saying "you're not an adult, you could put your DS aside if you wanted to". I'm fucking home alone, why does it bother her that I'm doing it?? She's out doing her own thing, but I'm not allowed to do mine. WTF is even going on?

I know this is a few days old, but WTF. Someone is going to say you're not an adult because you play DS? AND she's trying to change you? Have a talk with her about maturity, and if she doesn't understand that ragging on someone for a harmless hobby isn't mature, then just say "peace." Trying to change a person isn't what a relationship is about. It's about growth together and mutual acceptance and happiness. I could see her saying that if you were home along drinking by yourself, or if she invited you out and wanted you to meet her friends and you just didn't want to, but this is sort of silly. Hope you guys don't live together.

 

[MacGurcules]

Got one, and got it fast 0_o
Okie doke, so pessimist me is thinking she's just looking for friends, is trying to put it down nicely, and I shouldn't reply back. The optimist says she'd genuinely like to go out on a weekend, outside of a Meetup, and I should make start making plans. But because she didn't outright say that, I'm iffy.

It does indeed kinda sound like she is talking about meeting up with multiple people.
That's not necessarily a bad thing, it would be another opportunity to hit things off.

yep. now that you've messaged her you can also approach her more directly when you see her at the meetup
+ you also know she wants to go to the next one for sure now.
just use it as a chance to get to know her better, the rest will follow.

I haven't looked back over the rest of this saga, but just from the last few posts, I wanted to comment on this. Your message was just fine, but it didn't exactly try to draw her out into a one-on-one situation. It's entirely possible she's just trying to play it cool the same way you are. She may just not want to jump to any conclusions about your intentions if she was unsure of your meaning.

Based on what little detail I've read, I'd say stay in contact with her. No reason to be discouraged. She says she had a great time. You're probably safe to set up some personal time without needing weave a web out of it.

 

[Jhoan]

I don't know it's just a lot of eye fucking and dry personalities from the ones I did make a move on. Maybe there is too much of a fake persona thing going on.

Hahaha, it's definitely not an NYC thing only but maybe it has to do with the types of women you've been approaching. People always put on a public and a private mask. Maybe you've encountered the so-called "Ice Cold New Yorker" stereotype.

 

[RC Cola]

Minor update, but went to my first Meetup recently. Wasn't for dating or anything, so no "progress" there, but it was fun to get out and meet new people. Had a fun time, and got some recommendations for more groups to join (currently up to 10 groups, and I think there are 2-3 others I'm thinking about joining). Think I'm going to get addicted to this.

 

[GiJoccin]

Hahaha, it's definitely not an NYC thing only but maybe it has to do with the types of women you've been approaching. People always put on a public and a private mask. Maybe you've encountered the so-called "Ice Cold New Yorker" stereotype.

NY dating scene is actually pretty good for men

maybe you're hitting the wrong bars? approaching the wrong girls? bad luck?

 

[Jhoan]

NY dating scene is actually pretty good for men

maybe you're hitting the wrong bars? approaching the wrong girls? bad luck?

Personally, I haven't been having any luck lately but that's because I've been resorting to online dating as the main way to meet women and I'm a good looking Hispanic guy. Not that it matters any way since I'm gonna go to a cosplaying contest/drawing night that's being organized by the New York Comic Con/Reed Pop tomorrow with some friends. I'm also going back to school next week. However, I keep my expectations low; I'm just going to have a few beers, draw, and have a good time. If meeting a cute cosplayer comes out of it, then awesome.

So I kind of understand where he's coming from. Where's number47 when I need him to offer his two cents on how easy it is for him to talk to women?

 

[hydragonwarrior]

I have a question for fb (fuck buddy) GAF - so I'm reading up on all these posts regarding it from rsd nation and what not. The one common theme to all of it is to avoid cuddling because it will create some emotional bond...

The problem is, I like to have sex that involves cuddling - it doesn't feel right without it. And it seems I have to set that pace from the very beginning... In that case, am I pretty much screwed when it comes to forming any type of fb relationship? I hear way too much about creating unintentional attachment...

THanks!

 

[Minamu]

I have a question for fb (fuck buddy) GAF - so I'm reading up on all these posts regarding it from rsd nation and what not. The one common theme to all of it is to avoid cuddling because it will create some emotional bond...

The problem is, I like to have sex that involves cuddling - it doesn't feel right without it. And it seems I have to set that pace from the very beginning... In that case, am I pretty much screwed when it comes to forming any type of fb relationship? I hear way too much about creating unintentional attachment...

THanks!

Cuddling before and after sex will make the connection stronger, for sure. But since you're aware of it, it might be easier to control it. I fell in love with my fuck buddy for similar reasons. If you want to keep it strictly "platonic" I'd avoid staying over too perhaps. Set up boundaries together with him/her. Communication is key, that can't be said enough. I fell into the trap of doing things together outside of sex, and that reeled me in a lot stronger than the cuddling to be honest. If your hooking up moments turn into mini dates with making dinner or watching a movie beforehand, then you're in trouble most likely, unless you find that you actually want those things. That stuff was the most intoxicatingly cute cozy thing I've ever done with a girl and I just melted completely :lol But I'm very new when it comes to that area too so if you have more experience than me, it might be easier to check yourself. I wasn't even aware I had to check myself really.

 

[Idde]

I have a question for fb (fuck buddy) GAF - so I'm reading up on all these posts regarding it from rsd nation and what not. The one common theme to all of it is to avoid cuddling because it will create some emotional bond...

The problem is, I like to have sex that involves cuddling - it doesn't feel right without it. And it seems I have to set that pace from the very beginning... In that case, am I pretty much screwed when it comes to forming any type of fb relationship? I hear way too much about creating unintentional attachment...

THanks!

Cuddling before and after sex will make the connection stronger, for sure. But since you're aware of it, it might be easier to control it. I fell in love with my fuck buddy for similar reasons. If you want to keep it strictly "platonic" I'd avoid staying over too perhaps. Set up boundaries together with him/her. Communication is key, that can't be said enough. I fell into the trap of doing things together outside of sex, and that reeled me in a lot stronger than the cuddling to be honest. If your hooking up moments turn into mini dates with making dinner or watching a movie beforehand, then you're in trouble most likely, unless you find that you actually want those things. That stuff was the most intoxicatingly cute cozy thing I've ever done with a girl and I just melted completely :lol But I'm very new when it comes to that area too so if you have more experience than me, it might be easier to check yourself. I wasn't even aware I had to check myself really.

Yep. This was also the reason why my only friendship with benefits failed. We did too much cuddling, stayed in bed for hours, made dinner together, a lot of couply stuff. So if you don't want to get too attached, try too keep that to a minimum.

 

[hydragonwarrior]

Cuddling before and after sex will make the connection stronger, for sure. But since you're aware of it, it might be easier to control it. I fell in love with my fuck buddy for similar reasons. If you want to keep it strictly "platonic" I'd avoid staying over too perhaps. Set up boundaries together with him/her. Communication is key, that can't be said enough. I fell into the trap of doing things together outside of sex, and that reeled me in a lot stronger than the cuddling to be honest. If your hooking up moments turn into mini dates with making dinner or watching a movie beforehand, then you're in trouble most likely, unless you find that you actually want those things. That stuff was the most intoxicatingly cute cozy thing I've ever done with a girl and I just melted completely :lol But I'm very new when it comes to that area too so if you have more experience than me, it might be easier to check yourself. I wasn't even aware I had to check myself really.

Yep. This was also the reason why my only friendship with benefits failed. We did too much cuddling, stayed in bed for hours, made dinner together, a lot of couply stuff. So if you don't want to get too attached, try too keep that to a minimum.

Thanks! I'm going to hold off on the cuddling then - but I'm also going to let her know right off the bat about what I'm after. I'm having this sinking feeling that she's into me more than I think... But I'll confirm that with the talk lol

 

[stn]

I decided to message one girl on OKC for the first time in months. I swear, I'm batting .000 in messages I send. I get replies sometimes that go nowhere, and the girl(s) will always visit my page.

I've usually relied on my pics, and they've worked in terms of receiving messages. But sending? Nope.

 

[hydragonwarrior]

I decided to message one girl on OKC for the first time in months. I swear, I'm batting .000 in messages I send. I get replies sometimes that go nowhere, and the girl(s) will always visit my page.

I've usually relied on my pics, and they've worked in terms of receiving messages. But sending? Nope.

I find OKCupid is all about frequency - you're gonna bad .000 if you don't send a lot. Not that it will guarantee a response, but sending a message should be short and sweet and robotic and repeated.

Try this link out for some info (applies to pof too): http://www.returnofkings.com/5927/how-to-get-laid-on-plenty-of-fish. Specifically Step 7 and 8 (I'm not sure of 1 to 6 lol)

 

[Etrian Oddity]

Try this link out for some info (applies to pof too): http://www.returnofkings.com/5927/how-to-get-laid-on-plenty-of-fish. Specifically Step 7 and 8 (I'm not sure of 1 to 6 lol)

Yea, that's... a pretty wahjah list right there.

 

[BackwardsSuggestions]

Typically, I found a girl I really like, who really likes me and wants to date, but she's leaving in a week for a year.

Sometimes I wonder if someone is doing this on purpose. Truman Show style.

 

[hydragonwarrior]

Yea, that's... a pretty wahjah list right there.

Yeah Step 7 and 8 are the ones to stick with haha

 

[Tansut]

Yo GAF!

Quick question. Is it bad to call or text someone about a first date or should it be in person when you go for it? I've asked some friends and it seems like there's conflicting opinions on this so I thought I'd put it before you guys. It's really tricky to get a one on one moment with this girl I'm interested in because we're always together with friends at a busy bar or something. It's fairly frustrating because I feel like calling or texting is kind of a cop-out.

 

[A Human Becoming]

So I went to Starbucks today. The girl I was interested in was there, but on break. Not sure I would have given her my number anyway as I did earlier to girl at a shoe store. Is it desperate to give your number to a girl you've only talked to a little? That's what my friend told me. Killed my confidence a tad.

 

[ToLateToLove]

So.. give your opinion on this girl.

A girl I like. She has this favorite country she likes to visit all the time. Last she was there, one night partying.. she started making out with one guy and he asked if she wanted to have sex, she said yes and they fucked up the alley. After the sex she returned to the party, started making out with another guy and ending up having sex on a random persons hood of a car.

This is really hard for me to accept.. am I a prude or what?.. (yes, slightly drunk)..

 

[Minamu]

Yo GAF!

Quick question. Is it bad to call or text someone about a first date or should it be in person when you go for it? I've asked some friends and it seems like there's conflicting opinions on this so I thought I'd put it before you guys. It's really tricky to get a one on one moment with this girl I'm interested in because we're always together with friends at a busy bar or something. It's fairly frustrating because I feel like calling or texting is kind of a cop-out.

They all work I guess, but it's like this: In person >>>>> calling >>>> texting. Pretty easy. I don't think the odds drop with texting though but it's not as nice.

So I went to Starbucks today. The girl I was interested in was there, but on break. Not sure I would have given her my number anyway as I did earlier to girl at a shoe store. Is it desperate to give your number to a girl you've only talked to a little? That's what my friend told me. Killed my confidence a tad.

It doesn't matter. I do it every time, why would it be desperate? Asking and/or begging for hers is though And I'll get to your pm soon, I'm away from my pc for a few days.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

So.. give your opinion on this girl.

A girl I like. She has this favorite country she likes to visit all the time. Last she was there, one night partying.. she started making out with one guy and he asked if she wanted to have sex, she said yes and they fucked up the alley. After the sex she returned to the party, started making out with another guy and ending up having sex on a random persons hood of a car.

This is really hard for me to accept.. am I a prude or what?.. (yes, slightly drunk)..

If you don't want her, I'll take her.

 

[XenodudeX]

So.. give your opinion on this girl.

A girl I like. She has this favorite country she likes to visit all the time. Last she was there, one night partying.. she started making out with one guy and he asked if she wanted to have sex, she said yes and they fucked up the alley. After the sex she returned to the party, started making out with another guy and ending up having sex on a random persons hood of a car.

This is really hard for me to accept.. am I a prude or what?.. (yes, slightly drunk)..

She likes to have sex. She isn't in a relationship, so she can do whatever she wants as long as she's practicing safe sex.

If thats not the kind of girl you're into, then move on. Just don't sit around and wait for her like a chump.

 

[grap3fruitman]

So how do you meet people?

 

[dochuge]

Ok guys, I have a predicament. Met this woman in February, was a friend of a friend and she showed up and joined our group. She was immediately interested in me and asked all sorts of questions to my best friend, who is a woman. Turns out timing wasn't right and she was seeing a guy and wasn't sure if it was going to work out between them.

Fast forward to now. My friend gets a FB message from this woman out of the blue. They never talked on there. The conversation turns to me and she's still liking me. She asks all sorts of questions about me. Turns out she is seeing a different guy now but not that sure how that is going to work out. Yeah, sounds familiar.

I get an email from her and its actually not her, it looked like her FB account was hacked. I contact her to tell her and well we've been talking on FB for the last three days or so. Nothing much, but lot's of questions being asked in both directions. She's initiated contact a couple of times too. I don't think a woman would do that if she really wasn't interested. I really like her but I'm afraid if I asked her out it would look bad as she is in a relationship and I'm pretty sure I know she knows this. But I feel kind of helpless if I just sit back and wait for things to unfold too. So do I take a plan of action or let things progress naturally?

 

[Leeness]

So how do you meet people?

Try meetup.com? Just find something you find interesting and go to the meet up and enjoy it and there will be other people there to enjoy the same thing. Talk to them.

 

[Transhuman]

Let me just try something...

So.. give your opinion on this guy.

A guy I like. He has this favorite country he likes to visit all the time. Last he was there, one night partying.. he started making out with one girl and she asked if he wanted to have sex, he said yes and they fucked up the alley. After the sex he returned to the party, started making out with another girl and ending up having sex on a random persons hood of a car.

Now it's just a story about a cool guy who got laid twice one night.