OK, I haven't been checking here for a while, but I have tried some of the advices that has been given to me ( To the question where I could find some girls at my age which are not dating (19)) and it seems that the only thing that is left are either bar, or online dating. The bar one doesn't suite me, so that leaves only online dating. The only problem is that online dating has always felt a little bit sketchy to me. Like, I don't hear good stories about it.Other thing that was suggested here was that I should try to get into some groups, and from that try to meet some other people, make some friends, and eventually, start dating with girls. But the problem is that my current social life is completely deep down at the muds. I see some of my friends once a month if I'm lucky, and even that doesn't always go well (due to some mental/social problems). This naturally means I have a hard time to blend in into new groups too.
Also I'm in a position right now where I simply cannot raise my self-esteem, because i live at my father's and he ain't all too loving and supporting. Maybe half a year if I can move to my own I could try, but i fear the conditions won't be any different.
Or maybe I just should lay down for a while once again. It's just that at this age, all i can think about is that possible special someone. And seeing all my friends getting into serious relationships and moving out, it makes me jealous and bitter. Even reading the happy people on these threads with their happy stories make me sad.
I'm sorry, but the bolded is just straight bullshit. You're making excuses for yourself, and as long as you continue to do that, you're right, you won't improve your self-esteem. I get that your environment plays a big role in how you feel about yourself, but plenty of people overcome less than ideal living situations and there's no reason you can't be one of those people. As long as you have this idea in your head that you can't do it, you won't.
For what it's worth, online dating has come a LONG way. Unless meeting women off craigslist is your idea of online dating, dating websites have put a great deal of time into making sure their websites aren't "sketchy." Plenty of cool people have online dating profiles, and based off the results I've seen in this thread, the chance of meeting a cool person online seems higher than it's ever been. Given your social circumstances, I think online dating would be a great avenue for you to look at. Hell, it can't hurt, right?
With all that said, I would absolutely look into doing something to better your social life. I understand it's hard to build from the ground up, but you have to start somewhere. Look into something that gives you a built in community from the start. You're young, are you still in school? If so, then that's easy. Join some clubs, intramural sports, hell even a study group for that matter. If you're not in school, you can still find plenty of areas to look to. What are you interests? Do you like sports? Join an adult sports league. Ever thought about taking an acting class? Surely that would be a fun way to not only meet people, but improve your self-esteem and public speaking skills. I assume you like video games? Look to see if there are any gaming groups in your area. Honestly, the possibilities are endless if you're willing to look for them.
Anyway, I hope that helps. You're not stuck in your situation unless you tell yourself you are, so wake up and take control of your life.
Am I overreacting? Haven't seen GF all week. Decide to get pizza together for Friday dinner. Friday she's doing pretty bad reaction wise with her meds and is having a generally shitty day. Says her mom is probably going to come pick her up. So we don't have dinner together.
Try and help her out through texts but she stops responding around dinner time. Next day she responds late in the day, saying she's been doing awful and that she's at her mom's, been asleep all day, then stops responding. Sunday afternoon comes and she calls me and we decide to meet up later that day. I make her feel better and she's happy for once she says. Today I find out she went out Friday night to a party/bar and it's annoying because I've been worried about her and dealing with not seeing one another.
But that's under the notion that she's down and out, sick from her meds, yet she can still manage to go out and have a good time?
Besides the obvious danger of mixing her medication and alcohol, if she did indeed lie to you about what she did Friday night, then it sounds like you have a problem on your hands.
Are you against drinking? Do you not like her specific group of friends? Is there any reason that she would lie to you about what she did that night? If yes, then you know why she did. If not, it sounds like she may be trying to pull away from you.
