This post sums up what I find horrendously wrong with modern day society, and the "dating" culture as a whole.
The guy has questions. There is no need for him to just "bang" this girl to figure anything out. It's a communication exercise, both internal and external. Whatever happened to just talking about things, rather than screwing something until they hopefully make more sense!?
Equally, if the question "...Do I think she's the kind of woman I would be faithful to...?" passes through anyone's mind, then they should not be in a relationship, with anyone, until they grow the hell up.
The emotional ramifications and potential damage to both parties, through this frivolous "banging" are much more dangerous than simply talking to someone to try and figure things out.
Your post is what I find horrendously wrong with America's school system. No reading comprehension. Did you read my entire comment? You're essentially saying what I said. Care to re-read again?
Every woman you meet is just a potential "bang." As in, every woman you have little to no personal/emotional attraction with (essentially, every attractive woman you DON'T KNOW) is someone who you would potentially just have sex with. Dating, and getting to know that person, is of course how you establish emotional connection (if there's any).
(Unless you're the kind of guy who would accept going on a date with a woman you find unattractive, in the hopes that "talking and figuring things out" will have you falling head over heels to her personality alone.)
Those who you have a personal connection with, are those you see sharing things with and being faithful to. That's what a relationship is, sharing things with this other human being; that being your interests, hopes, dreams, thoughts, body, etc. Having just a couple of things in common is incredibly premature and shallow, and letting your mind think that that's a good assessment of relationship material even more so. A relationship forms after you've had an interpersonal interaction. After, is the key word here.
Unless your A) intentions are clear to yourself and B) you get to know that person emotionally, you should not let your mind trick you into thinking she's relationship material until
you get to know her. That's what I said.
To be totally honest, her looks really don't matter. I mean, she's pretty but I don't have the mentality of "holy crap, she's so ridiculously hot, I want to get in her pants ASAP! How can I make this happen?!" Attempting to bang is the furthest thing in my mind right now. I feel we have a connection just by what we've talked about in class over the semester, we're comfortable talking to one another, and I'd like to learn more. That's pretty much it.
No, you don't understand. It's not about actively thinking you want to have sex with her. What do YOU want out of a potential relationship? If you've gauged who she is so far, and you've found little compatibility, what are your hopes that asking her out will change anything? Because I think the word relationship is so overused, and its meaning has been so undermined over the years. You share things with this person, on a daily basis. Aspirations, hopes, feelings, PROBLEMS. I'm just trying to figure out what is it that you want with this girl, because joking around in class, and both having iPhone 4s is not exactly relationship material.
Problems arise when guys fail to label the level of commitment they're willing to put into a relationship, mostly because they never know what they're getting themselves into. My earlier comment, which to due to its length my have convoluted my point, is, if you know some about this girl and didn't find much initial compatibility, do not let you mind trick you that if you do ask her out, she might not think you're the guy she'd go with. Essentially, just think that you want to be with this girl, and don't think about what comes after. If emotional connection, beyond that of what you've already talked about, arises, THEN you start thinking about considering her for relationship material. But you'll never know this if you don't ask her out. That was my point, essentially: ask her out, have an open mind, but don't think of her as relationship material just YET, those decisions are made sometimes date after date.
Stop being mr serious business for starters, stop being a pussy, OF COURSE hot girls like you, why wouldn't they?! Read the OP, I wrote it for a reason, watch the videos, learn some lessons and be the man. Just go talk to her for christ's sakes 
I'm sensing it's close to the end too, but I can also tell it's not completely there yet. She admits that even though this newfound space has been really good for her, it's also hard not having me anymore.
