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[NeOak]

Think I blew a date for tomorrow night an hour ago.

Got a girls number earlier this week and started talking to her over WhatsApp. I ask her out to a quirky pub in Covent Garden tomorrow night and she accepts. Things going well until this evening. When I get home from work I send her a casual little message, she responds, we start having a conversation. I mention that I just plan to stay in tonight as I started watching American Horror Story last night, and also asked if she had seen it. She hadn't, and then I say it's weird but she may not like it if she's squeamish. Apparently she likes stuff like that AND THEN FUCKING SAYS "Wanna watch it together? )"

I haven't met her yet and she's remarkably average in the looks department. I'm not feeling physical attraction towards her based on pictures, but I think she likes me. I'm not frigid, but I was just looking for a typical first date experience with this chick tomorrow and now I think I've ruined my chances with this message:

"I wouldn't want to embarrass myself by cowering behind you!
Let's just pub it up tomorrow night. I don't even know if you're legit or a 50 year old man yet "

Clearly I wasn't being overly serious with my response, but the message is clear: I don't want to bring her home on a first date. I think she got put off by this or possibly offended as it's been over an hour since I sent it and the rest of our conversation this evening consisted of quick exchanges.

As I've progressed much further beyond just talking on the dating website I'll send her a follow-up later to apologise if I offended her and ask if we're still on for tomorrow, but I'm not liking my chances.

I think she will bail out on the date too. Way to go man. We all make mistakes.

 

[Mr Swine]

Gaf i have à question.

Each time I chat with a girl on a dating site I'm the one that always starts a conversation and asks them question on what they like, do on their spare time and so on. I have been chatting with 2 girls last month on badoo for about 2-3 weeks time and I'm always the one asking questions, telling them what I've been doing while they sometimes ask me a counter question. When I stop asking them questions or what I have been up to then they never write back. It's infuriating, but what shall I do?

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Gaf i have à question.

Each time I chat with a girl on a dating site I'm the one that always starts a conversation and asks them question on what they like, do on their spare time and so on. I have been chatting with 2 girls last month on badoo for about 2-3 weeks time and I'm always the one asking questions, telling them what I've been doing while they sometimes ask me a counter question. When I stop asking them questions or what I have been up to then they never write back. It's infuriating, but what shall I do?

Tease questions out of them, by hinting at interesting stuff about you - don't be a straight-up open book. Some people might just not have an interest in you, and holding on - answering questions - waiting for something to happen, for them to get interested in you (because online, you're able to respond to hundreds of people at the same time - you have nothing to lose from talking to as many individuals as possible).

 

[isny]

Gaf i have à question.

Each time I chat with a girl on a dating site I'm the one that always starts a conversation and asks them question on what they like, do on their spare time and so on. I have been chatting with 2 girls last month on badoo for about 2-3 weeks time and I'm always the one asking questions, telling them what I've been doing while they sometimes ask me a counter question. When I stop asking them questions or what I have been up to then they never write back. It's infuriating, but what shall I do?

Some people just aren't good at coming up with questions.

Also, some may not be that interested in you if you haven't actually met them in person. You need to meet up with them and turn the charm on and get them interested in you.

 

[Kung Fu Jedi]

Gaf i have à question.

Each time I chat with a girl on a dating site I'm the one that always starts a conversation and asks them question on what they like, do on their spare time and so on. I have been chatting with 2 girls last month on badoo for about 2-3 weeks time and I'm always the one asking questions, telling them what I've been doing while they sometimes ask me a counter question. When I stop asking them questions or what I have been up to then they never write back. It's infuriating, but what shall I do?

Quite honestly, when I use to do online dating, if I got responses like that, I usually pulled the plug very quickly. They have to be able to give you something to talk about and when they don't, it is usually for one of two reasons. 1) they're not all that interested in us, or 2) they're just not great conversationists. If it is the latter of those two things, chances are we're not going to have good chemistry anyway. If I'm the one who is doing all of the work, I tend to cut off contact and look for someone who is more responsive and interested in what I have to say.

 

[Darklord]

Gaf i have à question.

Each time I chat with a girl on a dating site I'm the one that always starts a conversation and asks them question on what they like, do on their spare time and so on. I have been chatting with 2 girls last month on badoo for about 2-3 weeks time and I'm always the one asking questions, telling them what I've been doing while they sometimes ask me a counter question. When I stop asking them questions or what I have been up to then they never write back. It's infuriating, but what shall I do?

3 weeks? You're talking for far too long. Set a date up earlier than that.

 

[Mr Swine]

3 weeks? You're talking for far too long. Set a date up earlier than that.

Really? So it should be like max 2 weeks? Does it depend on how much I chat with them every day?

Quite honestly, when I use to do online dating, if I got responses like that, I usually pulled the plug very quickly. They have to be able to give you something to talk about and when they don't, it is usually for one of two reasons. 1) they're not all that interested in us, or 2) they're just not great conversationists. If it is the latter of those two things, chances are we're not going to have good chemistry anyway. If I'm the one who is doing all of the work, I tend to cut off contact and look for someone who is more responsive and interested in what I have to say.

Well I really don't know when to pull the plug sadly. I always hope that they do some of the work and not me do it all. I get a bit of anxiety when I'm the only one pulling the weight

Some people just aren't good at coming up with questions.

Also, some may not be that interested in you if you haven't actually met them in person. You need to meet up with them and turn the charm on and get them interested in you.

That is easier said than done for most people I think, I have never dated someone and I'm lousy at talking to girls so I don't know how it would work if I try to turn my old charm on them lol.

Tease questions out of them, by hinting at interesting stuff about you - don't be a straight-up open book. Some people might just not have an interest in you, and holding on - answering questions - waiting for something to happen, for them to get interested in you (because online, you're able to respond to hundreds of people at the same time - you have nothing to lose from talking to as many individuals as possible).

I try to do that but I usually don't come up with any good and interesting questions and stuff. Also girls I write to don't tend to answer my questions so it's like 2-3 out of 50 that answer what I write. I wonder if it's because I'm ugly looking?

But thanks for answering my questions always appreciated

 

[Minamu]

Two out of three current girls online are actively avoiding my meeting up suggestions/invitations, it looks so funny because they're not even being discreet about not giving a response. Some are just weird or not interested in more beyond talking I guess.

Mr Swine: Two weeks is too long as well. I'd say that if you're having a good conversation that's actually beyond simple cold talk, go for "So I assume you'd like to meet up for coffee?" or something like that. Depending on your vibe and self-esteem, this can be done within 10 messages, not 10 days. It also depends on their personality and what they're on the site for.

 

[spuckthew]

I think she will bail out on the date too. Way to go man. We all make mistakes.

I spent the better part of 10 minutes trying to think of something to say to decline the watching TV thing without offending her but at the same time make clear that I still want to meet up. I couldn't and threw that crappy response out there. Oh well.

 

[SaskBoy]

So I've been on OKCupid for a total of 2 hours and I've already received some messages from a girl.

Off to a good start I think!

 

[spuckthew]

I sent a follow-up text and she responded saying I misunderstood. Apparently the suggestion to watch American Horror Story together was for some other time - she said it would be kinda weird if we did that tomorrow. She's also out which I guess is why she didn't respond originally.

So, I overreacted and my apology now makes me feel weak. Go me. Fuck it, she said we'll talk in the morning so maybe I'm still in there.

 

[trab pu kcip]

I sent a follow-up text and she responded saying I misunderstood. Apparently the suggestion to watch American Horror Story together was for some other time - she said it would be kinda weird if we did that tomorrow. She's also out which I guess is why she didn't respond originally.

So, I overreacted and my apology now makes me feel weak. Go me. Fuck it, she said we'll talk in the morning so maybe I'm still in there.

it doesn't make you look weak. I think it's still good you said it, just in case.
no worries

 

[NeOak]

I sent a follow-up text and she responded saying I misunderstood. Apparently the suggestion to watch American Horror Story together was for some other time - she said it would be kinda weird if we did that tomorrow. She's also out which I guess is why she didn't respond originally.

So, I overreacted and my apology now makes me feel weak. Go me. Fuck it, she said we'll talk in the morning so maybe I'm still in there.

Better safe than sorry.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

I sent a follow-up text and she responded saying I misunderstood. Apparently the suggestion to watch American Horror Story together was for some other time - she said it would be kinda weird if we did that tomorrow. She's also out which I guess is why she didn't respond originally.

So, I overreacted and my apology now makes me feel weak. Go me. Fuck it, she said we'll talk in the morning so maybe I'm still in there.

It's not a weakness. Owning up to your missteps is a tough thing to do. People aren't always willing/able to do so.

 

[Idde]

I just go back from the salsadancing with the cute sister of my best friends girlfriend. And it was pretty freaking awesome. We met up at nine, and we left the salsaplace at a quarter to one. We spent half the night dancing, half the night talking about both mundane and serious stuff. We laughed a LOT together, especially since she had the tendencie to dip herself backwards in the dance. And once I wasn't completely paying attention, and I sort of kind might have...dropped her on the floor. Not hard, but she did fall. It was pretty hilarious

We were both kind of touchy, and perhaps even flirty, but I'm not sure if that was because you just touch during dancing, or if it was something more. I'm thinking something more.

During the dancing I saw some other woman I used to dance with during the lessons, so I danced with her a bit, and she said: is that your girlfriend? You make a really great couple. I corrected her, since so far she's just a friend.

We head on home on our bikes, and we have to go our seperate ways. We talk for about ten minutes, and a guy standing on the corner interrupts us, saying how cute we are together, that we should go get drinks at the bar he's standing in front of, if we've got a date to get married yet. So I say to the girl: "if we get married, shall we do it here?" She nods in agreement. Laughing because we're not really dating.

We hug goodbye (I suck at going in for the kiss, definitely can't tell if it's wanted/appropriate)

When I get home I text her: "So you think you can dance jury verdict: Showing initiative 8/10 (especially because of the random dipping) Enthousiasm: 9/10, technique: unratable/10 (inside joke so far).

Ps. There is no correspondence possible about the decision of the jury. Unless you buy me a beer, that tends to work.

Sleep tight."

Three seconds later she replies: "Haha, well, you certainly know how to get yourself a drink. Well, I owe you a few, so that's ok next time!

I had an awesome night. Good luck with your work tomorrow."

So....I guess that sounds pretty good so far? I certainly enjoyed myself immensely, and from what I can tell she had a good time as well. But what do I do now? First thing, talking to my best friend, telling him I'm thinking about asking her out on a proper date?

Second, I freaking hate the texting game. What's next? Do I text her tomorrow, or the day after? What do I say? Something like: "Glad you liked it I'll let you choose what drink you can get me, and where we're gonna get it?"

I hate this part

 

[isny]

I just go back from the salsadancing with the cute sister of my best friends girlfriend. And it was pretty freaking awesome. We met up at nine, and we left the salsaplace at a quarter to one. We spent half the night dancing, half the night talking about both mundane and serious stuff. We laughed a LOT together, especially since she had the tendencie to dip herself backwards in the dance. And once I wasn't completely paying attention, and I sort of kind might have...dropped her on the floor. Not hard, but she did fall. It was pretty hilarious

We were both kind of touchy, and perhaps even flirty, but I'm not sure if that was because you just touch during dancing, or if it was something more. I'm thinking something more.

During the dancing I saw some other woman I used to dance with during the lessons, so I danced with her a bit, and she said: is that your girlfriend? You make a really great couple. I corrected her, since so far she's just a friend.

We head on home on our bikes, and we have to go our seperate ways. We talk for about ten minutes, and a guy standing on the corner interrupts us, saying how cute we are together, that we should go get drinks at the bar he's standing in front of, if we've got a date to get married yet. So I say to the girl: "if we get married, shall we do it here?" She nods in agreement. Laughing because we're not really dating.

We hug goodbye (I suck at going in for the kiss, definitely can't tell if it's wanted/appropriate)

When I get home I text her: "So you think you can dance jury verdict: Showing initiative 8/10 (especially because of the random dipping) Enthousiasm: 9/10, technique: unratable/10 (inside joke so far).

Ps. There is no correspondence possible about the decision of the jury. Unless you buy me a beer, that tends to work.

Sleep tight."

Three seconds later she replies: "Haha, well, you certainly know how to get yourself a drink. Well, I owe you a few, so that's ok next time!

I had an awesome night. Good luck with your work tomorrow."

So....I guess that sounds pretty good so far? I certainly enjoyed myself immensely, and from what I can tell she had a good time as well. But what do I do now? First thing, talking to my best friend, telling him I'm thinking about asking her out on a proper date?

Second, I freaking hate the texting game. What's next? Do I text her tomorrow, or the day after? What do I say? Something like: "Glad you liked it I'll let you choose what drink you can get me, and where we're gonna get it?"

I hate this part

Some context? Are you guys in your teens? I think you guys need to either talk and figure out if it's more than friendship, or you need to make the first move man. If I were her I'd be confused as hell and if you didn't try anything or specify that what you're doing is a date, then she's totally going to friendzone you.

 

[TruckDriver]

Second, I freaking hate the texting game. What's next? Do I text her tomorrow, or the day after? What do I say? Something like: "Glad you liked it I'll let you choose what drink you can get me, and where we're gonna get it?"

I hate this part

I'd say just wait a day, then text or call and ask her out to dinner. It sounds like you had a good time with this girl, so why not set up an 'official' date? Just ask her to dinner, and suggest a place. I think she'd like it more if you had a game plan already, so to speak.

 

[Out of Working Order]

Well, what I've found is platonic female friends aren't necessarily good indicators. I know I act somewhat differently around them, and there's no sexual tension.

I firmly believe that no matter how ugly or boring you think you are, there will be at least one person out there who thinks you're the shit. I used to have really bad self-esteem issues before I met my ex-wife (still do, but not as bad) and after she left me. I'm not the most attractive guy (see avatar), I'm not in the best shape, I have no truly interesting activities (browsing reddit/GAF all day isn't really a good icebreaker), and I'm usually a pretty shy guy when I go out. What I'm getting at is this: your self-perception only affects one thing: the chances you're willing to take. Aside from the confidence you give off, your self-perception means about jack shit to how others see you.

On the flip-side, there are beautiful, smart, interesting girls out there who don't realize that about themselves. I'm not saying you should go out and target emotionally unstable women and take advantage of them, but you should realize that there are girls have the same thoughts as you, and that this wall you've imagined they've built up around themselves isn't really that impregnable.

I would agree that negative self-perception will not have helped me in the slightest bit. If I thought I had a lot to offer a woman then I'd be able to smile and approach women for a chat.

I used to look at women and smile. More often than not, they'd glare at me like I had two heads, or look past/though me. Every time it felt like a rejection. It's got to the point where even if a woman who I find remotely attractive shuts her car door as I get level, or drives off while I am there, I associate it with rejection.

Now I never look at women. I just don't want to make eye contact, because I know they will look at me oddly, or not look at me at all.

It sounds like you have the right attitude.

I was in a similar place. I did nothing but stay at home and play video games, and when I was with friends it was always playing video games or doing the same things. I was never pushing out of my comfort zone. In the last year and a half since I've moved out, I've been doing a lot of things. I'm meeting strangers, I'm picking up new hobbies, I'm trying to better myself, I'm making friends with and hanging out with women...a lot of things that were out of my comfort zone. I'm actually finding myself to be a far more extroverted person than I thought I was, to the point where I now crave social interaction. I am a very different person than I was just two years ago.

Go out there and try new things and you may surprise yourself.

Trying to get out of my comfort zone is exactly what I'd like to focus on. It just feels like I've hidden myself away for the last 10 years.

@Empowe: Everyone on a datingsite is very selectively showing themelves at their best. At their most sportive, adventurous and travely. I have pics up of myself breathing fire, surfing, playing tennis and playing chess in a river. Just because I think I'd like a woman who's interested in those things as well. But yesterday I was also just some guy geeking out losing his shit over Communitys return to form. So don't worry about it too much.

On the other hand, I also think you have to be proud of the person you are. That means you can either learn to be proud of where you are now. But, if you don't like your current life-position, it's only up to you to change it. Do you want to join a hiking club? Do it. Not because of some random chick on OKC, but just because you want to do it. Jump in the deep end and see what comes of it. Chances are there will be other people who you can talk to. Women even, who might hve something more to say then "Hi" and "Nice weather, innnit?"

My deal is I've got nothing to show like that anyway. I just wonder how I am going to show a woman a good time when I've spent the majority of my 20's holed up in my room.

I am not happy with my situation, so yeah, guess I've got to change it. I've been waiting for a woman to walk into my life, and it's just not happened. And yes, it would be a boost to my confidence if women my age would connect with me and actually have a proper conversation. Up to now, I've always felt they operate on a completely different level to me. Sad.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

So....I guess that sounds pretty good so far? I certainly enjoyed myself immensely, and from what I can tell she had a good time as well. But what do I do now? First thing, talking to my best friend, telling him I'm thinking about asking her out on a proper date?

Second, I freaking hate the texting game. What's next? Do I text her tomorrow, or the day after? What do I say? Something like: "Glad you liked it I'll let you choose what drink you can get me, and where we're gonna get it?"

I hate this part

Wait a day, then hit her up and say "Hey, Can I cash in on that drink?" and then make plans to hang out.

Don't overthink it (the motto of Dating-GAF), and play it cool.


Also for some much needed levity, 2 Chainz gives romance advice

 

[beat]

I'm always the one asking questions

But are you asking interesting questions, and more importantly, questions that can be answered in interesting ways? Yes/no questions are like square wheels in a conversation. You ask, you get a yes or no, and then whump! The conversation comes to a halt, because of course it did.

 

[Deleted member 10571]

It's so hard to find trust again GAF.

After ~5 years of not unwanted solitude I actually found someone. Started great, still is great, but after being disappointed for so long it's so so hard to really build trust and confidence, even if I try with all my heart. Love this girl, and she's far from being one of those girls always texting and needing, she has her own life with lots of friends which I appreciate and which helps me to get stronger again, too. I don't want to be the annoying "please say you like me" guy and life is just so much fun with her when she's around, so I try the best I can to give her all the freedom she needs, not texting ALL the time, not to worry too much when she's out at night with mutual friends etc. I know I can trust her, it's just, well you get it, hard for me. But ya I really like her and I'm happy as fuck she likes me, too

Thing is my last serious relationship ended because she hooked up with a 'friend' of mine, maybe some peeps in here know how this leaves scars. I guess I'll just keep trying Any experiences or hints are much appreciated.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Meeting a girl for the first time and worried about how to greet her. It will only take 3 seconds and yet it's the only thing that's really worrying me. This is so sad. I'm pretty sure that the only thing that matters is that whatever you do, you do it confidently and move on, but it's easier to think that than act on it. 3 kisses on the cheek is pretty standard here it seems, but I absolutely hate them. I'm just looking forward to actually talking and hopefully whatever happens during the greeting won't stick in my mind. Worrying about small things like this is the worst.

 

[Idde]

Some context? Are you guys in your teens? I think you guys need to either talk and figure out if it's more than friendship, or you need to make the first move man. If I were her I'd be confused as hell and if you didn't try anything or specify that what you're doing is a date, then she's totally going to friendzone you.

We're not exactly in our teens. I'm 27, and she's 24 (I'll call her Isabelladora, for brevity). And this was about seeing if there was some sort of connection, just going for a dance. Well, the connection was definitely there. And the context is: I've known my best friend his entire life. We're like brothers. His girlfriend is a really good friend of mine as well. So I thought asking her out was a bit weird. Everybody I know said it wasn't, so I'm gonna go to the movies with my friend tonight, say I really liked dancing with Isabelladora (perhaps not the best name to pick...) and I'm thinking of asking her out on a proper date.

I'd say just wait a day, then text or call and ask her out to dinner. It sounds like you had a good time with this girl, so why not set up an 'official' date? Just ask her to dinner, and suggest a place. I think she'd like it more if you had a game plan already, so to speak.

And after tonight, I'll probably do this. Should be ok

I would agree that negative self-perception will not have helped me in the slightest bit. If I thought I had a lot to offer a woman then I'd be able to smile and approach women for a chat.

I used to look at women and smile. More often than not, they'd glare at me like I had two heads, or look past/though me. Every time it felt like a rejection. It's got to the point where even if a woman who I find remotely attractive shuts her car door as I get level, or drives off while I am there, I associate it with rejection.

Now I never look at women. I just don't want to make eye contact, because I know they will look at me oddly, or not look at me at all.

Trying to get out of my comfort zone is exactly what I'd like to focus on. It just feels like I've hidden myself away for the last 10 years.

My deal is I've got nothing to show like that anyway. I just wonder how I am going to show a woman a good time when I've spent the majority of my 20's holed up in my room.

I am not happy with my situation, so yeah, guess I've got to change it. I've been waiting for a woman to walk into my life, and it's just not happened. And yes, it would be a boost to my confidence if women my age would connect with me and actually have a proper conversation. Up to now, I've always felt they operate on a completely different level to me. Sad.

The first bolded: That is actually a textbook (and I mean LITERALLY) a textbook example of way too negative cognitive schemata and self perception. The women who pull up when you're there don't do that because you arrive. They probably don't even see you. Not because they ignore you, but because people in general just don't pay THAT much attention.

And sorry to say, but women glaring at you and looking past or through you might have been a too negative interpretation from your side. In general people smile back and say hello in a friendly manner if you do that yourself. But it has to be a carefree and secure smile. There are ways to change this, CBT is a realy helpful tool, it can be done by yourself, but therapists specialize in this sort of stuff. The only way too overcome this is change your own way of thinking, and getting out of your comfort zone. Smiling to people, talking to people. And if they don't smile back, don't think it's because they don't like you. It's most likely they're stuck up assholes or bitches. Or they have other stuff on their mind. Probably the latter.

The second bolded: get the fuck out of your room There is an entire world out there with cool things to do. Do you live in a big city? Take half an hour and google for things that have your interest. Can be clubs like hiking, concerts, readings, courses, take a train or whatever to a city you don't know and just wander around (I'm DYING o do this again). point is, the only way to experience and do things that you think you'll like, is going out and doing them. If you've got some money, the only thing that's keeping you from doing those is your mind.

The third bolded: Someone on GAF here said it, don't recall who exactly. But the only thing that seperates women from men is their vagina and a pair of boobs. Do you think men operate on a completely different level from you?

I'd be willing to offer some concrete help via PM, because I think I've gone through a LOT of the same shit you've been through, and stil am. But I'd just recommend seeing a therapist. That's why they exist, a lot of people deal with the same stuff, and there's no shame in doing so whatsoever. They won't care, and you shouldn't care.

Wait a day, then hit her up and say "Hey, Can I cash in on that drink?" and then make plans to hang out.

Don't overthink it (the motto of Dating-GAF), and play it cool.


Also for some much needed levity, 2 Chainz gives romance advice

I'll be like the Fonze. Or Frozone. Completely cool.

Meeting a girl for the first time and worried about how to greet her. It will only take 3 seconds and yet it's the only thing that's really worrying me. This is so sad. I'm pretty sure that the only thing that matters is that whatever you do, you do it confidently and move on, but it's easier to think that than act on it. 3 kisses on the cheek is pretty standard here it seems, but I absolutely hate them. I'm just looking forward to actually talking and hopefully whatever happens during the greeting won't stick in my mind. Worrying about small things like this is the worst.

Don't think about the three kisses. Just do it. After that say "Hi, how's your day been?" She'll probably say something after that, and you can respond to whatever she said. There. You have a conversation.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Haha, thanks, but I'm not worried about the conversation or how to start it. I just really don't want to do the 3 cheek-kisses thing and I'm worried I'll continue over thinking it and make the greeting more awkward than it has to be.

 

[Darklord]

Really? So it should be like max 2 weeks? Does it depend on how much I chat with them every day?

I wouldn't even say 2 weeks. A week max. Some people do it in the first message even, I think that's a bit early but do it between 5 messages and 5 days. It depends on the conversation and person. No point wasting 3 weeks of your life on someone not interested in meeting or worse, you meet and fin out you have zero chemistry.

 

[TheExodu5]

Well I guess our first "date" went well, considering it was at 2PM yesterday and I just got back home 24 hours later.

Physically, she's a bit heavier than I would have expected...but honestly it feels like I don't care. She's very active and is eating well and is definitely more athletically capable than I am. She was a lot slimmer from photos a year or so ago, so maybe she went through some emotional trauma or hormonal changes...I don't really want to bring it up. Besides that it feels like we have great chemistry. We'll see where it goes, but at this rate, things could definitely get serious before long.

 

[isny]

Well I guess our first "date" went well, considering it was at 2PM yesterday and I just got back home 24 hours later.

Physically, she's a bit heavier than I would have expected...but honestly it feels like I don't care. She's very active and is eating well and is definitely more athletically capable than I am. She was a lot slimmer from photos a year or so ago, so maybe she went through some emotional trauma or hormonal changes...I don't really want to bring it up. Besides that it feels like we have great chemistry. We'll see where it goes, but at this rate, things could definitely get serious before long.

Well clearly her being a bit heavier didn't stop you from sleeping with her, so I wouldn't worry too much. Besides, you really liked her before you thought she was heavier, if she's under 200 pounds and eating properly I wouldn't worry too much about it. You guys get along well enough, so that SHOULD be enough as long as you still find her attractive.

 

[trab pu kcip]

Well I guess our first "date" went well, considering it was at 2PM yesterday and I just got back home 24 hours later.

Physically, she's a bit heavier than I would have expected...but honestly it feels like I don't care. She's very active and is eating well and is definitely more athletically capable than I am. She was a lot slimmer from photos a year or so ago, so maybe she went through some emotional trauma or hormonal changes...I don't really want to bring it up. Besides that it feels like we have great chemistry. We'll see where it goes, but at this rate, things could definitely get serious before long.

aw yisss. sounds great

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Well I guess our first "date" went well, considering it was at 2PM yesterday and I just got back home 24 hours later.

Physically, she's a bit heavier than I would have expected...but honestly it feels like I don't care. She's very active and is eating well and is definitely more athletically capable than I am. She was a lot slimmer from photos a year or so ago, so maybe she went through some emotional trauma or hormonal changes...I don't really want to bring it up. Besides that it feels like we have great chemistry. We'll see where it goes, but at this rate, things could definitely get serious before long.

Congratulations on the sex!

 

[DrM]

Well I guess our first "date" went well, considering it was at 2PM yesterday and I just got back home 24 hours later.
.

 

[giga]

God I haven't had sex in a month. Feels bad man.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

God I haven't had sex in a month. Feels bad man.

Don't even get me started.

 

[trab pu kcip]

Don't even get me started.

this.

 

[DrM]

Don't even get me started.

Needs to be quoted again.

Q2 of drought year 1 is ending on 31st

 

[Minamu]

And what are you guys doing about it? Posting on gaf?

 

[trab pu kcip]

And what are you guys doing about it? Posting on gaf?

well...YEAH! other shit doesn't work either. grrrm ._.
maybe this will help slipping in an asexual state of mind where only videogames & movies are important. living the dream

 

[SquiddyCracker]

And what are you guys doing about it? Posting on gaf?

I have so many excuses.
So many!

 

[giga]

And what are you guys doing about it? Posting on gaf?

It's Saturday night man. There's literally nothing or no one to do.

 

[trab pu kcip]

It's Saturday night man. There's literally nothing or no one to do.

good point

 

[SquiddyCracker]

It's Saturday night man. There's literally nothing or no one to do.

Precisely.
*plays videogames*

 

[Entropia]

God I haven't had sex in a month. Feels bad man.

Don't even get me started.

this.

I'm approaching a year and a half of a dry spell.

Spoiler

Though it's not all that bad, the last time was when I lost my virginity.

I went on my match.com account, and please tell me I'm not crazy - but they intentionally say people "viewed" your profile to get you to sign up, right? Prior and after having for a paid account my profile was getting like a lot of views, like 10 a day. When I was paying for it, it had like.. 10 across the 6 months I had it.

 

[Gvaz]

God I haven't had sex in a month. Feels bad man.

i haven't had sex since sept 2012

;_;

 

[electricshake]

I'm approaching a year and a half of a dry spell.

Spoiler

Though it's not all that bad, the last time was when I lost my virginity.

i haven't had sex since sept 2012

;_;

I had an 18 month dry spell a couple of years ago, followed by a year and then a 6 month spell too.

 

[Calibus]

There is way more to life than getting laid. Don't get hung up on "dry spells."

 

[electricshake]

Stupid mobile site.

 

[trab pu kcip]

There is way more to life than getting laid. Don't get hung up on "dry spells."

you sound like a person who is getting laid

 

[spuckthew]

I learnt that the chick I was meant to be going out with tonight had cold feet and bailed. The worst part is I was already half-way to London (by train) when she let me know. She must have been out today or something, though, because she took fucking ages to respond to my messages. Eventually she was like "I don't actually feel comfortable meeting so soon." Anyway, in the end we made the same plans for next Saturday instead. I guess it's fair enough as I asked her out the same day I got her number and we've only been texting for a couple of days. I told her it was cool without saying I wasted a journey.

When I got to London I called up an ex of sorts (ok, it was the Jewish girl) and made light of my situation. Asked what she was up to and SHE asked if I wanted to come with (obviously I was gonna see if she'd come out with me, but it took me by surprise when she asked first). She was meeting up with a couple of girl friends so I basically ended up hanging out with 3 hotties all evening at Waxy's. Win-win as I had a good evening and, for now at least, I've still got a date for next weekend.

 

[Calibus]

you sound like person who is getting laid

Actually no. I haven't had any in a little less than a year.

Don't get me wrong, it would be nice to be in a stable committed relationship that included sex, but it's not the end of the world if I am not. It's taken a long time, but I think it's finally starting to sink in that it will happen when it happens. I am working on myself and my well-being in the meantime.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

All I really want is long cuddle and falling asleep with someone in my arms.

Spoiler

plus sex

 

[trab pu kcip]

Actually no. I haven't had any in a little less than a year.

Don't get me wrong, it would be nice to be in a stable committed relationship that included sex, but it's not the end of the world if I am not. It's taken a long time, but I think it's finally starting to sink in that it will happen when it happens. I am working on myself and my well-being in the meantime.

aw damn, you're right of course.

All I really want is long cuddle and falling asleep with someone in my arms.

Spoiler

plus sex

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