echoshifting said:
That sounds like a much more normal case of self-discovery and sexual exploration. Not quite the same thing as your brain rewiring itself. Your boyfriend likely felt more comfortable free of certain societal pressures in his home country, and this allowed him to explore a latent interest in men.
I don't know him, and I won't pretend to...I'm just saying there's an important distinction between a pattern of normal exploration and a spontaneous change brought on by trauma. Lots of homosexuals start out believing they are heterosexual or bisexual.
Yeah i guess you're right, it is pretty different than the brain rewiring itself. Maybe it could have been due to societal pressures from his home country like you said, but i don't think that was the case with him. His best friends from his home country were gay and were always around his family so i don't think he felt much pressure to be straight. From knowing him personally, i can tell you i know he is not or was not bisexual.
I find it really interesting because when i was younger i never "thought" i was straight, i knew that i liked guys. i did question whether i was bisexual or not, but i soon realized i wasn't. for my bf though, he tells me he never questioned his sexuality. he knew he liked only women for his first 23 years of life. it wasn't until he saw the random guy that his brain immediately shifted to being gay.