Has anyone ever encountered the "chronic complainer" personality? I sometimes run into people that complain nonstop and are always negative. These people are absolutely unbearable to be around and you will feel depressed and miserable if you have to spend even just a few minutes around them. What disorder causes someone to complain literally nonstop?
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Chronic complainers
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StreetsofBeige
Gold Member
You'd hate my parents.
If you announced to the family you got promoted to CEO making $10 million, they'd say that's ok, but why not $11?
If you announced to the family you got promoted to CEO making $10 million, they'd say that's ok, but why not $11?
AlteredForms
Banned
StreetsofBeige
Gold Member
LOL. You forgot the lawyer one. So true. My parents were the epitome of nagging.Found your old man.
Phunkydiabetic
Banned
I frequent the 'gaming' part of neogaf so yes, I've encountered many chronic complainers.
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Vagswarm
Member
There's a lot of miserable people out there. No matter what they have that causes this, they are often toxic to others. I find it's best to just avoid them. They usually have a very negative aura and like you said, complain about everything and/or criticize everyone.
In some instances I don't think a disorder is necessary. Some people are just lazy / entitled and prefer to complain and criticize others over improving their own lives. That way the focus isn't on them but on everyone else (while still gaining attention and sympathy and making it about them).
But I know for sure that narcissists are extremely negative and complain about everything and criticize everyone, because of their enormous sense of entitlement, delusional views and expectations of others, relentless projections of their own insecurities, and so on. They are also permanent victims in their minds.
In some instances I don't think a disorder is necessary. Some people are just lazy / entitled and prefer to complain and criticize others over improving their own lives. That way the focus isn't on them but on everyone else (while still gaining attention and sympathy and making it about them).
But I know for sure that narcissists are extremely negative and complain about everything and criticize everyone, because of their enormous sense of entitlement, delusional views and expectations of others, relentless projections of their own insecurities, and so on. They are also permanent victims in their minds.
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Sidney Prescott
Member
That's basically what my Facebook feed was when I used to use it, I no longer go on there aside from rare occurances to message a friend/family member. Twitter is pretty bad for it too.
Seeing as I spend most of my time on GAF in Off-Topic and only post in occasional Gaming threads, I don't encounter it too much on here. Either way I'm pretty laid back so I'm likely to just scroll past it anyways.
It's not worth letting the negativity get to you, surround yourself with good people.
Seeing as I spend most of my time on GAF in Off-Topic and only post in occasional Gaming threads, I don't encounter it too much on here. Either way I'm pretty laid back so I'm likely to just scroll past it anyways.
It's not worth letting the negativity get to you, surround yourself with good people.
Vagswarm
Member
So very true. For the longest time I did the opposite, not realizing the damage negativity and negative influences can have on you.
BadBurger
Many “Whelps”! Handle It!
One of my good friends was this way for years. It was funny when we were really young, both angry and elated to be moving up the corporate ladder and all. But it became tiring. He's fine now. Got a little older and learned to appreciate the good in life I guess.
Probably our reality
It's not even that. These people complain compulsively to the point where it has to be considered some sort of disorder. You can go on a vacation and they would find a way to ruin it with complaints. They will make anything miserable and it's nonstop.
Vagswarm
Member
(Not referring to your parents specifically, or meant as an insult...)
Those people are the worst. If you're not confident in yourself and seek other people's approval (which is usually the kind they target, go figure), they can really make you feel inadequate and not good enough for anything. Which makes you seek their approval even more! Even when you excel (better than them). Sh*t sucks. They also like to sabotage your efforts at any chance. I think they're called invalidators and one-uppers.
Ironically enough, they are usually the most inadequate people out there. Yet prance around as if they are superior to others and are only wanting what's best for them. lol. They vanish real fast when you call them out, like all bullies and control freaks.
I always tell people, do what's best for you and don't give a damn what anyone thinks. And don't share all your achievements with everyone. There's too many opinions and personalities out there to get caught up in other people's crap. Ego, jealousy, insecurity, control issues... all of that can factor in. Most people aren't going to come out and say they're jealous or whatever. And everyone isn't happy to see other people happy or succeeding.
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Mistake
Member
“I’m glad to see you”
-yeah, well you wouldn’t be glad to see my anus right now
“Auntie pls”
chromhound
Member
Cough* Era cough*
Wildebeest
Member
Don't know if it is a disorder. People learn at a young age what to do to get attention and love from their parents. Probably it would be upsetting to them if people just ignored their complaining or told them they didn't care, but they could potentially change their behaviour for the better.
StreetsofBeige
Gold Member
I've seen my share.
I've seen friends send back food for a new plate if their salad has stuff in it the cooks forgot to take out, and pizzas being remade because the toppings were wrong.
Its not because they are allergic or anything. But its got to be exact how they want it. Willing to wait 15-20 for something to be redone too. Must be important.
I dont think I have ever send back food ever. And if they accidentally put pickles on my burger I just pick it off. If my steak is close enough to what I actually wanted it cooked, close enough.
StreetsofBeige
Gold Member
The maintenance guy at my work (there's a few, but one is the building manager who can do things too, but one is the true handyman). No joke. Half the time he's sitting in the cafeteria browsing his phone because he has nothing to do.
Makes sense. The office is only a couple hundred people and the warehouse is a decent size, but if there's nothing to fix, then I guess you just sit and wait.
ForAcademicPurposes
Gold Member
My parents still do this. In fact it's gotten fucking worse since the lockdown.
Fools idol
Banned
My mother is one of them - really hard to spend time around her but family is family, and she helps out a lot with childcare.
I worry her attitudes will rub off on our kid, it's definitely a poor way to go through life
I worry her attitudes will rub off on our kid, it's definitely a poor way to go through life
BLAUcopter
Gold Member
Twitter says hi
p_xavier
Authorized Fister
Same as mine. I try to keep them out of my life as much as possible.
FunkMiller
Member
I‘ve gone the other way. Never had shit to complain about when I was young, but now I’m old… and not a day goes by when I don’t enjoy a good whine about how much it sucks to get old
Urban
Member
Yeah I had some friends like that. I cut the ties with them because they pulled me down all the time. I once said to those friends : Even if someone gifted you 10.000€ you would still complain because you don’t know that to the with the money ! The person agreed…
The brain is a scary place and some peoples mind are focusing only on the negative. It’s like a drug for them.
Just stay away from people like that
Nobody_Important
“Aww, it’s so...average,” she said to him in a cold brick of passion
My grandpa is like that. A few years ago the doctor found out he had cancer and they were able to get it before it spread. He was in the lIke 5% of people that make a full recovery from the surgery and all he did for weeks was complain about how his clothes didn't fit or how he still had to go to the doctor once a week.
Nearly died. Full recovery. Still complained lol
Nearly died. Full recovery. Still complained lol
StreetsofBeige
Gold Member
My sibs and I always take my parents out for dinner for their bdays or for some holiday dinner. And of course we'll pay for it and split the bill among us.
They'll complain if they didn't like the food. And not in a joking around family way. More like they are getting pissed for real, and they didn't even pay for it. My siblings and I just look at each other and smirk.
Sidney Prescott
Member
My aunt is like this. If she doesn't like the food she makes it known very quickly. It has made for some awkward moments in restaurants.
Amiga
Member
So often we have a few Arabic folklore characters based on this personality.
Shelbutt
Member
I have a coworker that I first met as a customer when I worked at the gas station. She works with me at Walmart now. Every time she sees me she’s always making a comment on how my old job is always closing early, always has someone new, etc. I’ve told her so many times I don’t talk to any of them and blocked them on socials cause I don’t wanna hear about it… she does NOT GET IT. I was in the bathroom stall minding my own business and she went out of her way to complain about my old job. I try to be nice cause she’s kinda old and she probably just doesn’t know what else to talk about but… man it gets annoying.
Virt McPolygon
Banned
There's nothing interesting about people who constantly complain. I'm one of them!
Jsisto
Member
Yup. Anyone who’s been working for a reasonable amount of time will inevitably encounter this type of person. There’s several people I can think of that Ive worked with for a good while that I honestly have never heard say anything remotely positive. The worst part is when you get two or more of these people in a room together. its an absolutely unbearable bitch fest. I do feel a bit bad, though, as I really think it’s a bit of a personality defect and they usually tend to not seem self aware enough to realize how unpleasant they are to be around.
tusharngf
Member
i have seen one guy who is a gold member complains about ENGLISH grammar all the time. Some of us are not native speakers but he will find some reason to complain lol.
Fare thee well
Neophyte
It's funny. I have depression, but 9 times out of 10 it gets triggered by human beings like this. If you're someone with extreme anxiety or an angry-depression, it just won't be good for me.
Of course I have a much higher concentration of negativity myself when being in the atmosphere of a gamer forum. I try my best, but I can get jaded hearing repetitive arguments, complaints, or ball-washing
Of course I have a much higher concentration of negativity myself when being in the atmosphere of a gamer forum. I try my best, but I can get jaded hearing repetitive arguments, complaints, or ball-washing
Ozzy Onya A2Z
Member
Yep, in my experience over the long term they drain/feed on your emotional well being.
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
Yeah fuck complainers let's go complain about them!