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[MoxManiac]

Because people are cowardly

 

[maynerd]

People can...bitches can't.

 

[aoi tsuki]

It's pretty easy to think like that. One day you just wake up, and realize you don't give a shit.

Yeah, pretty much. i had this girl that i had talked to before and we hit it off, but i didn't get her number. Some time later, i ran into her again, we hit it off, and i got her number. Almost got a date that night be she had already made plans. We planned to go out for lunch and some photography, but she flaked out. i was disappointed because everything was going so well up to then, but i just really didn't care at that point. She knows where i work and she's seen me around, so if she really wanted to go out she would've called or just talked to me by now.

Meh.

 

[nitewulf]

I'm saying that if I was straight up uninterested in someone at the end of the meeting I'd make that clear.

wouldnt that be tough to do. think about it carefully. say the girl is fantastic to talk to, great sense of humour etc, but is ugly as hell, and you just dont find her attractive. would you be able to just tell her that? wouldnt it be easier to just get over with the date and then ignore her?
im just asking by the way, thinking out loud.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

Just when I think you were going to make your very first worthwhile post, you add that petty little comment at the very last moment. Ugh.

I'm always right.

 

[Systems_id]

wouldnt that be tough to do. think about it carefully. say the girl is fantastic to talk to, great sense of humour etc, but is ugly as hell, and you just dont find her attractive. would you be able to just tell her that? wouldnt it be easier to just get over with the date and then ignore her?
im just asking by the way, thinking out loud.

I would assume the girl would be waiting for him to ask her out. If it doesn't happen, then she should know he's not interested. Hell I'd rather a girl just lie to me and say she's doing something when I try to ask her out. If she doesn't reschedule, you know she isn't interested.

 

[aoi tsuki]

wouldnt that be tough to do. think about it carefully. say the girl is fantastic to talk to, great sense of humour etc, but is ugly as hell, and you just dont find her attractive. would you be able to just tell her that? wouldnt it be easier to just get over with the date and then ignore her?
im just asking by the way, thinking out loud.

i've done that. A friend tried hooking me up with this girl, and i told him i was definitely against blind dates, but i caved for a seemingly-innocent meet 'n greet sort of deal. So i meet her. Ugly, but cool. At one point, after i had been hanging out with her for a while, she asked me if i was attracted to her. i told her point blank "no, not really". There was some awkward silence for a while, then we went onto something else. After thinking about it, i have to wonder if she just broke down and cried after i left, because she was totally into me.

Speaking of which, there's this odd girl a month back that i met at a bookstore. She had broken her arm and was having trouble opening the milk canister, and i helped her with that. i held the door open for her as we both left at the same time, and we ended up talking for almost half an hour about absolutely nothing just outside the store. She flirted with me, denying it all the while though i said nothing about it, and gave me her cell and home phone number, completely out of nowhere. She's weird-looking and androgynous. i should coerce her into modelling for me.

i'll say this much. i find, in general, that the ugly ones hold much better conversations or are at least more interesting than the hot ones.

 

[WrathOfOtaibah]

When girls do that, its their way of giving you an out with a chance to hold onto your dignity. Girls are never upfront but they always drop several hints about how they feel about you. If you're having a great time and leave on that note, she's not going to leave you behind. She'll make an attempt to stay with you. Not in the sense of an exclusive romantic relationship but she'll make sure she doesn't lose touch.

Being yourself is great advice when yourself is a strong, confident individual. Sorry, no girl is going to feel your 100+ game library or you GI Joe collection, still complete in package. Not saying you have that, maybe you do, but thats not being yourself. Being yourself is sticking to your guns and having the balls to back yourself up. If some girl tries to manipulate you, when you're yourself, you set her straight. If you bend to her will, you've pretty much lost her.

The ugly, fat, and the asexual will be the most aggressive because they have nothing to lose. The attractive girls though are always full of emotional issues. It was mind boggling at first but I'm starting to understand it now.

 

[RevenantKioku]

I'm calling a doctor on Monday and scheduling an appointment for therapy.
I decided to go out tonight. I had been reading tons of different shit today, and I felt good. I felt really great, and was smiling and just feeling awesome as I drove to a bar I had been to a lot with friends.
Step in and it all disappears.
I'm blanketed with fear. It makes no sense. I had been feeling great this entire week outside of these little blurbs with the women, but even by this morning I felt as if it passed. But I don't know what it was, I was honest to god scared of just being in this place with people.

 

[WrathOfOtaibah]

I'm calling a doctor on Monday and scheduling an appointment for therapy.
I decided to go out tonight. I had been reading tons of different shit today, and I felt good. I felt really great, and was smiling and just feeling awesome as I drove to a bar I had been to a lot with friends.
Step in and it all disappears.
I'm blanketed with fear. It makes no sense. I had been feeling great this entire week outside of these little blurbs with the women, but even by this morning I felt as if it passed. But I don't know what it was, I was honest to god scared of just being in this place with people.

Sounds a lot like me. Except usually its not fear, its boredom. I step into a party and if something isn't being accomplished within 5 minutes, I get bored and want to leave.

 

[GaimeGuy]

Not to be an ass or anything, but this brings back memories of that Ebaumsworld flash that went something like "she blocked me", to the tune of that Puddle of Mudd song. Ah, good times.

But in response to the thread, I've also had the "had a good time, but no follow up" thing happen too. Not fun. But the best thing to do is find something else to do and meet other people.

you mean the flash that Ebaumsworld stole from somewhere else, like everything else on their site?

 

[GaimeGuy]

When girls do that, its their way of giving you an out with a chance to hold onto your dignity. Girls are never upfront but they always drop several hints about how they feel about you. If you're having a great time and leave on that note, she's not going to leave you behind. She'll make an attempt to stay with you. Not in the sense of an exclusive romantic relationship but she'll make sure she doesn't lose touch.

Being yourself is great advice when yourself is a strong, confident individual. Sorry, no girl is going to feel your 100+ game library or you GI Joe collection, still complete in package. Not saying you have that, maybe you do, but thats not being yourself. Being yourself is sticking to your guns and having the balls to back yourself up. If some girl tries to manipulate you, when you're yourself, you set her straight. If you bend to her will, you've pretty much lost her.

The ugly, fat, and the asexual will be the most aggressive because they have nothing to lose. The attractive girls though are always full of emotional issues. It was mind boggling at first but I'm starting to understand it now.

 

[nitewulf]

i'll say this much. i find, in general, that the ugly ones hold much better conversations or are at least more interesting than the hot ones.

taking it a bit farther, would you be able to overlook the looks because of a girl's personality, or are we just very shallow?

i tend to find myself attracted to a lot of average looking women who have a great sense of humour. i met many hot girls who are dumb as bricks, and they just dont really attract me aside from physically. i dont really see myself actually having fun with them, like regular, pure fun.

 

[Eric_S]

taking it a bit farther, would you be able to overlook the looks because of a girl's personality, or are we just very shallow?

I hope you do't mind me butting into the conversation.

There's allways a limit. A woman can be as fun and intelligent as can be, but if I can't get sexually attracted to her, it's off. No point in deluding yourself into thinking something else. With that said I'm pretty leniant in the looks department, obese women need not apply though.

 

[aoi tsuki]

I hope you do't mind me butting into the conversation.

There's allways a limit. A woman can be as fun and intelligent as can be, but if I can't get sexually attracted to her, it's off. No point in deluding yourself into thinking something else. With that said I'm pretty leniant in the looks department, obese women need not apply though.

Exactly what he said.

The majority of the girls i've dated have been average or above average. A great personality adds to looks, but she's completely unattractive to begin with, there's just no chance of us being more than friends. On the other end of the spectrum, if she's hot with zero personality, there's no chance of us being more than buddies. i've had experience with everything from ugly to smokin' at least once, and that's the conclusion i've come to.