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[Escape Goat]

I don't like saying there are "leagues" but you just know when theres someone you're attracted to that does everything you do but does it much better and you could never hope to be as good. By comparison, you look like a bum and may as well be wearing a garbage bag. I met a guy through a mutual friend and hes an indie film director. He dresses nice, styled hair, great looks but masculine and part of the movie scene and all things hip to that.

I look at myself and I have a Justice League Batman in its box on my shelf, my Gamecube/PS2/Xbox are strewn across the living room floor and I have two boxes of comics under my bed. I can't help but feel so juvenile and lame compared to him but I don't really care. I think I'm going to ask him out and see if it happens. But I've never felt so nervous about talking to someone before. If he likes the real me, you know they're a keeper I guess.

 

[bishoptl]

Go get 'em, Ham!

When I clicked on this thread I thought you were referring to dating someone from a lower caste than yourself, not higher.

Well, we've all gone hoggin' at one time or another.

 

[Incognito]

Go get 'em, Ham!

When I clicked on this thread I thought you were referring to dating someone from a lower caste than yourself, not higher.

Well, we've all gone hoggin' at one time or another.

Hoggin'. ROFL. I thought only my friends used that term. "Oh, there goes Jeff again, Hog Hunting..." :lol

 

[Blackie]

Honestly? No. I think I'm hot and I have an unwavering belief in my own intellectual superiority. and sense of humor.

Some call it arrogance. They are correct.

 

[Mike Works]

Go get 'em, Ham!

When I clicked on this thread I thought you were referring to dating someone from a lower caste than yourself, not higher.

Well, we've all gone hoggin' at one time or another.

Pfft, I haven't.

But I've come close way too many times.

 

[The Shadow]

I've dated two girls that I really, truly think were out of my league. One I know for sure because her previous boyfriend was the son of some ultra rich family. I always felt kinda inadequate when I was taking her out to eat because I knew she'd dined at places that cost more at one sitting than what I pay for groceries in one week.

She's also "the one that got away". Probably the only gf I can think of that I really miss. She was something special.


*sniff*....

Teh Hamburglar:

Just remember that while you see things in him that you view to be better and therefore not worthy, there are things that he'll see in you that he will value just as much. While you think you're juvenile, he might see a free spirit and value that trait more than you do.

 

[videogamer]

well tell us how it goes

 

[Mason]

Some pics would be nice, too.

 

[Willco]

I dated this girl was that was really out of my league. Like if there were leagues, I'd be the CFL and she'd be the NFL.

Now the tables are turned. There is a chance after my latest woes, I might end up dating a XFL'er.

 

[ShadowRed]

Yeah every chick I've dated since graduating high school.

 

[3phemeral]

Several times -- but I realized it was more of a problem involving my belief of my self-worth and not what people would evaluate me as. A lot of the times the way you feel about how you view yourself coincides with how people view you, too. Don't fret, dude, have a little more faith in yourself

 

[The Black Gelding]

I don't like saying there are "leagues" but you just know when theres someone you're attracted to that does everything you do but does it much better and you could never hope to be as good. By comparison, you look like a bum and may as well be wearing a garbage bag.

"Leagues? What the flying hell are you talkin' about?"

Heh, just kidding. Folder must have some serious game. Good work, champ.

 

[way more]

I had a real crisis of faith last weekend when a girl whom fell below my stardards asked me to dance. I've since questioned my hotness. Have I been lucky and successful in getting girls "out of my league," have they been settling for me? Or have I since depreciated in value? When did I lose my way to vanity and pride, must I equate self-worth with beauty! I need to get laid.

 

[Richiban]

Y'all wouldn't have this problem if y'all would just realize that y'all are fucking money.

Look in the mirror, and tell me that I'm wrong.

 

[3phemeral]

Y'all wouldn't have this problem if y'all would just realize that y'all are fucking money.

Look in the mirror, and tell me that I'm wrong.

What in the HECK does that mean? lol

 

[LakeEarth]

Nope, they've all said no when I asked them out.

 

[Richiban]

What in the HECK does that mean? lol

:lol

All I'm saying is that the leagues only exist because you place them there with your own self perception. Maybe they're not in the same league as you are.

 

[Mama Smurf]

Almost every girl I've ever dated I've felt is out of my league. But seeing as it happens more often than I'd think likely, I suspect that's just my self image rather than the reality.

Honestly, girls can flirt with me outrageously and I'll just think they're one of those touchy feely people. I need to be hit over the head before I realsie a girl might like me.

 

[Incognito]

Honestly, girls can flirt with me outrageously and I'll just think they're one of those touchy feely people. I need to be hit over the head before I realsie a girl might like me.

Same here. Just last week I was chided by my roommate, a girl, when she found out her friend asked me out under the guise of "WHAT ARE YOU DOING TONIGHT?" and I responded with "going home to play halo 2 with the boys." Evidently, I missed the cue. She let me have it... :lol

Having said that, women need to be more upfront. I'm not a mind-reader.

 

[Suerte]

Pretty much all the time, one of them even broke it off with me over it because they were fed up convincing me otherwise :\ :lol

 

[Celicar]

No.

I'm hot, and I date equally hot girls. I rule.

 

[The Shadow]

Honestly, girls can flirt with me outrageously and I'll just think they're one of those touchy feely people. I need to be hit over the head before I realsie a girl might like me.

I'm the same way actually. Girls flirt with me but I just assume it's just playfulness or they're just the flirty type and that it's meaningless.

Granted, I think that translates to cocky/funny for some of them because there are those girls that just won't stop, even after you give obvious hints that you're not interested.

 

[Incognito]

No.

I'm hot, and I date equally hot girls. I rule.

No you don't. :lol

 

[demon]

No.

I'm hot, and I date equally hot girls. I rule.

I hate to break it to you, but for the last time, YOU'RE NOT REALLY LEONARDO DICAPRIO.

 

[ShadowRed]

Same here. Just last week I was chided by my roommate, a girl, when she found out her friend asked me out under the guise of "WHAT ARE YOU DOING TONIGHT?" and I responded with "going home to play halo 2 with the boys." Evidently, I missed the cue. She let me have it... :lol

Having said that, women need to be more upfront. I'm not a mind-reader.

God damn I feel the same way. I'm always afraid that what I take for signs of affection are actually just a chick being normal.

 

[Vormund]

No.

I'm hot, and I date equally hot girls. I rule.

Well the mods are definitely on the ball when it comes to your tag. :lol

 

[way more]

Most girls have a thing for me that they try to hide under a mask on contempt.

 

[FoneBone]

My social life is at a standstill right now because I feel like everyone is out of my league. I'm afraid to talk to people I don't really know, let alone ask them out. I'm also paranoid that people will interpret any efforts to get to know them better as me hitting on them.

No one's really gone out of their way to express any interest in me, but I guess that's how life works sometimes.

 

[Triumph]

Well, we've all gone hoggin' at one time or another.

We called it whalin', but yeah, same basic principle. And I won't hesitate to say I've braved the rough seas a few times meself.

But I've also dated incredibly attractive girls who were way, WAY out of my league lookswise. One of them was actually a model. It always ended with me being paranoid and insecure about the looks differential thing and driving them away.

 

[Celicar]

Wow. A bunch of jealous people. That's no surprise. Hot people like me get that type of thing all the time. I'm not going to feel bad about my good looks though. Why feel bad when I'm dating a hot girl that rubs and loves on me?

 

[levious]

Why feel bad when I'm dating a hot girl that rubs and loves on me?

Does that mean she makes you cum on yourself for her amusement?

 

[enjoy bell woods]

Wow. A bunch of jealous people. That's no surprise. Hot people like me get that type of thing all the time. I'm not going to feel bad about my good looks though. Why feel bad when I'm dating a hot girl that rubs and loves on me?

The most important woman in your life is Apples anyway. :rock

 

[Mama Smurf]

As I'm so fucking useless at reading signals, I suppose I should assume a girl is flirting as soon as they do anything remotely like that, but there was a situation about a half a year ago which really screwed that idea up for me.

It was my friend's birthday and she was inviting some people from her uni to come out as well as friends from home. Now one of her friends is lesbian. When we met, I found I got on with her well and, while hardly the most attractive person in the world, she was decent looking. So I'm thinking "Shame she's gay, oh well". So we go out and everyone's dancing, but she's dancing with me a lot. There's some contact, hands on the waist etc., but I don't think anything of it at this point, it's not like every girl I dance with likes me, plus, you know...gay. Then, out of nowhere (ok, not nowhere, out of a few drinks I guess) she leans forwards and kisses me! Not a full on kiss, just lips pressed together for a moment. While recovering from the shock of it (and the beginning to realise I'm gonna have a great "a lesbian kissed me, has a lesbian ever kissed you?" story to tell my mates), she does it twice more.

Obviously now I'm a bit confused, but I put it down to the drinks and when my friend whose birthday it is comes up to me to remind me that her friend is lesbian (I think she thought I'd made the move on her rather than the other way round), I just let it go. She's just very friendly and couldn't hold her drink.

That's not the end of it though. Later, when the club was closing, some of us decided we were hungry so went to find something. The lesbian girl comes up to me, puts her hand in mine and we walk hand in hand while we find a place. Then, when she gets her food, she tries to feed me with torn off bits of bread from whatever she had with her fingers.

Now all that adds up to someone seemingly being more obviously flirty than any girl has ever been to me in that first meeting situation. But she wasn't. She's gay, she's been gay for a long time and really had no interest in me like that.

So I just don't trust signals anymore. Obviously this is an extreme case, but if lesbians can make me think they're flirting with me, how can I hope to tell if straight girls are or are just friendly?

 

[Doth Togo]

Don't be a pussy.

Nobody is ever out of your league and never let anyone tell you otherwise - they're feeding you horse shit.

 

[Boogie9IGN]

No.

I'm hot, and I date equally hot girls. I rule.

Avoiding Reality,
All day, Every day.

^

 

[Richiban]

Don't be a pussy.

Nobody is ever out of your league and never let anyone tell you otherwise - they're feeding you horse shit.

See?! That's what I was trying to say! Doth Togo just said it better.

 

[Cubsfan23]

Don't be a pussy.

Nobody is ever out of your league and never let anyone tell you otherwise - they're feeding you horse shit.

+1

Decide what your reality is.

 

[way more]

Don't be a pussy.

Nobody is ever out of your league and never let anyone tell you otherwise - they're feeding you horse shit.

What if you pass out, throw up and then get kicked out of Denny's. I wait for her to call.

 

[Mama Smurf]

I realise what you guys are saying, and I agree with it to an extent, but do you guys honestly think that a guy like this:

could go out with a girl like this:

?

I know that girls don't just go for looks, and that first guy could no doubt get someone far better than most people would imagine if he's funny, has some money, can cheer her up etc., but I can't believe there's no limit there.

 

[Celicar]

Does that mean she makes you cum on yourself for her amusement?

I didn't say that. I'm hot. I don't have to say anymore.

 

[Doth Togo]

I realise what you guys are saying, and I agree with it to an extent, but do you guys honestly think that a guy like this:

could go out with a girl like this:

?

I know that girls don't just go for looks, and that first guy could no doubt get someone far better than most people would imagine if he's funny, has some money, can cheer her up etc., but I can't believe there's no limit there.

Yes, it can. Look at Jack Black. It's all attitude.

 

[The Shadow]

I know that girls don't just go for looks, and that first guy could no doubt get someone far better than most people would imagine if he's funny, has some money, can cheer her up etc., but I can't believe there's no limit there.

That wasn't directed toward anything I said, was it? Because I've said in the past that there are limits and I've been flamed for saying so.

Everyone has their limits, they have a set limit they impose on people that they would go out with.

The limit may be intrinsic, which is why people say things like "Only personality matters" IMO. Personality may be a big factor for them but they're lying to themselves if they believe it's the only thing that matters.

 

[etiolate]

I have

 

[All Hail C-Webb]

Go get 'em, Ham!

When I clicked on this thread I thought you were referring to dating someone from a lower caste than yourself, not higher.

Well, we've all gone hoggin' at one time or another.

Now I know where i got this tag, and I've never tried to get with a girl who I didn't think looked at least mildly attractive. Big women can be attractive too.

 

[demon]

I didn't say that. I'm hot. I don't have to say anymore.

Of course. You're Leonardo Dicaprio.

 

[Socreges]

Yes, it can. Look at Jack Black. It's all attitude.

...and celebrity and money. Jack Black isn't all that bad looking either, to his credit.

Now I know where i got this tag, and I've never tried to get with a girl who I didn't think looked at least mildly attractive. Big women can be attractive too.

Big women need loving, too... But they gotta pay...

 

[NLB2]

We need pics for proof Celicar.

 

[Zensetsu]

As I'm so fucking useless at reading signals, I suppose I should assume a girl is flirting as soon as they do anything remotely like that, but there was a situation about a half a year ago which really screwed that idea up for me.
(story taken out for ease of reading)
Now all that adds up to someone seemingly being more obviously flirty than any girl has ever been to me in that first meeting situation. But she wasn't. She's gay, she's been gay for a long time and really had no interest in me like that.

So I just don't trust signals anymore. Obviously this is an extreme case, but if lesbians can make me think they're flirting with me, how can I hope to tell if straight girls are or are just friendly?

Dude, exact same thing has happened to me before, with a straight girl too. All this frekin' flirting and following me around "walk with me" etc etc....so i ask her out.
"i just want to keep you as a friend"
Well why the hell did you just spend half the night draping youself on me like a hatrack you dumb broad!?

Signals are either bullshit, or i'm the least perceptive person in the universe.

 

[FoneBone]

Don't be a pussy.

Nobody is ever out of your league and never let anyone tell you otherwise - they're feeding you horse shit.

I wish I had the confidence to follow this advice. But then again, I don't think I'm in as ideal a situation as some of you...

 

[Mama Smurf]

Jack Black has a LOT of money, is famous, very funny and hardly unattractive. Hardly comparable to some ugly, fat guy with a decent paying job but nothing special who's not famous, and is no more funny than the average person.