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Feels Bad, Man


There's a lot of bad stuff going on in the world, and there's a lot of bad shit going on in our lives... and it occurred to me that maybe it might just be worth having a thread where we can just say whatever it is that knocked our mood today, that brought us down, or just hit the wrong way.

Maybe it's a big event, a mistake, something in the news that connected, or even just a thought or revelation that you had which brought you down. Hell, maybe I'm just making excuses to vent myself but it struck me that maybe it would be beneficial for others to have somewhere to post that thing that did a little damage without feeling they have to start a new thread or keep it to themselves (as we normally do)

I'm more a lurker than a thread starter, but I would ask people not to be judgemental or confrontational if they can help it. If someone chooses to post something that brought them down then regardless of whether you agree with it politically or socially can we try to keep it respectful and recognise that wherever we fall on whatever political, social, religeous or whateever side of the fence we align to, we all have problems and a little empathy wouldn't go amiss.

And, please, let's try to avoid political discourse if we can - it's possible, maybe likely, that someone may post that politics has them down, if so, let's not argue it - just let 'em vent. Political discourse could benefit a lot from just that.





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[Trunx81]

Just had a big fight with my wife.
I left and am sitting at a lake since one hour.
It's peaceful here.
Gives me time to think.

 

[Kacho]

I plan to jump off the internet tonight when I get home from work. Def need a break.

 

[MidGenRefresh]

Nothing new is happening in the world. Wars, senseless murders, political assassinations... nihil novi sub sole, it's always been this way.

 

[DKehoe]

I plan to jump off the internet tonight when I get home from work. Def need a break.

The internet can be a drip feed of the extremes. So many platforms are designed to keep you endlessly engaged so it's good to remember to take time to disconnect and engage with the real world and your loved ones.

 

[gradient]

So, as per the rules of the internet, it's on me to post at least one to get it started...

Been friends with a girl for the past year or so. She got in touch out of the blue and we hit it off pretty well. Friendly to start but she made it pretty clear she was interested and so was I. But, the year hasn't been a good one for me and I kept hitting one problem after another which was really taking me down and left me supporting quite a few other people and in an increasingly bad place where I couldn't really manage any kind of relationship. Things didn't go anywhere and she got pretty frustrated and at one point we agreed to stop talking as she felt it was hurting her to remain in contact.

Didn't last long. She got back in touch, wanted to be friends and assured me we could be without her wanting anything. I enjoyed our conversations and we're on a similar wavelength so I was open to it. We've been talking for a few months since. She's dropped hints and I'll admit I liked her but the year continued throwing hits at me and I'm in no position to offer any kind of relationship, support or the time to anyone as I'm just keeping myself together. Inevitably she's just started seeing someone and it bothers me more than I'd like to admit. There's been times when I'd been low and could have done with some comfort, she pushed to get intimate a few times, but I hate the idea of using or leading someone on and she would inevitably have wanted more so I kept her at arms length.

I'm 90% sure I did the right thing, but her moving on hit a bit harder than I expected. Feels bad, man.

 

[Roll Fizzlebeef]

I find it really hard to put into words, seeing how society has changed. We are all on the same bus yet some continue to cheer as we speed up towards a cliff.

I wanted off 20 stops ago...

 

[Rush2112]

News is bad for your health. I sit on my porch, watch the world, smoke weed, listen to Pink Floyd and pet my cat. Much more relaxing.

 

[DKehoe]

So, as per the rules of the internet, it's on me to post at least one to get it started...

Been friends with a girl for the past year or so. She got in touch out of the blue and we hit it off pretty well. Friendly to start but she made it pretty clear she was interested and so was I. But, the year hasn't been a good one for me and I kept hitting one problem after another which was really taking me down and left me supporting quite a few other people and in an increasingly bad place where I couldn't really manage any kind of relationship. Things didn't go anywhere and she got pretty frustrated and at one point we agreed to stop talking as she felt it was hurting her to remain in contact.

Didn't last long. She got back in touch, wanted to be friends and assured me we could be without her wanting anything. I enjoyed our conversations and we're on a similar wavelength so I was open to it. We've been talking for a few months since. She's dropped hints and I'll admit I liked her but the year continued throwing hits at me and I'm in no position to offer any kind of relationship, support or the time to anyone as I'm just keeping myself together. Inevitably she's just started seeing someone and it bothers me more than I'd like to admit. There's been times when I'd been low and could have done with some comfort, she pushed to get intimate a few times, but I hate the idea of using or leading someone on and she would inevitably have wanted more so I kept her at arms length.

I'm 90% sure I did the right thing, but her moving on hit a bit harder than I expected. Feels bad, man.

Sorry to hear that, man. Sounds like a tough situation to be in. Sometimes even if something is the right thing for you then it can still feel shitty to make that choice. But it sounds like you still made the best choice for yourself in the long term and that's what counts so don't go beating yourself up. You stuck to what you needed to do and that's admirable. Give yourself the time to get yourself in the position where you are ready for that kind of relationship and then let it happen at that point.

 

[AJUMP23]

I can't beat moorewing in silksong.

 

[clarky]

Been with the Mrs 15 years today and just had one of the best meals.

OP. Shit will work its self out in the end, always does.

 

[Dacvak]

Damn, you know it's a real thread when it's center-justified.

I plan to jump off the internet tonight when I get home from work. Def need a break.

Same. Might hang around in the Friday Night thread, but I gotta stay off most sites tonight.

Gonna play some Silksong and then wake up early for THE NINTENDO DIRECT BAYBEEEEEEEE!!!!

 

[Kacho]

Same. Might hang around in the Friday Night thread, but I gotta stay off most sites tonight.

Gonna play some Silksong and then wake up early for THE NINTENDO DIRECT BAYBEEEEEEEE!!!!

For sure. I was glued to my phone yesterday because of the massive news. Ended up staying up way too late so I'm pretty drained. Gonna brew a pot of coffee and watch a movie with the kids. Maybe play some Hot Shots afterwards.

I won't miss the Nintendo Direct thread tomorrow. Looking forward to it.

 

[reezoo]

A lot of bad stuff going in the world, I blame on having politicians as rulers instead of leaders, this f**kers work only for interest groups not for the country or its people, not a single country has leadership, only self centered A**holes.

 

[ForAcademicPurposes]

Be careful with people who smile a lot. They're the ones who will really hurt you and turn you into a donkey of society.

 

[kiunchbb]

Nothing new is happening in the world. Wars, senseless murders, political assassinations... nihil novi sub sole, it's always been this way.

Empathy is good, but learning to be selfish is an important skill, unless it affect us directly, just be grateful for the peace to people in our life.

 

[Chuck Berry]

I'm a part time Captain Save-A-Ho and man am I in it deep at the moment

 

[Quasicat]

I just finished teaching about 9/11 today complete with a district approved video that shows details about the death of 3000+ people. Add that to the shootings in Colorado and Utah yesterday, and I'm just feeling done for today.

 

[Peggies]

It's a shit show. I think though it's worse for people my age (40) who actually got to know peaceful, good times without crazy temperatures in the summer, war all over the fucking world and that shit.

My boys don't know that world so they grow up thinking it's normal, which is why I'll try not telling them how nice it used to be.

Like, talk to your grandparents and they will tell you that today is still pretty great but so would a time traveler from the middle ages.

Anyway, it's a fucking shit show. Too many assholes in this world. Too many stupid people voting for them.

Fuck it.

 

[Reizo Ryuu]

I plan to jump off

the internet

 

[Beretta]

It's a shit show. I think though it's worse for people my age (40) who actually got to know peaceful, good times without crazy temeperatures in the summer, war all over the fucking world and that shit.

My boys don't know that world so they grow up thinking it's normal, so I'll try not telling them how nice it used to be.

Like, talk to your grandparents and they will tell you that today is still pretty great but so would a time traveler from the middle ages.

Anyway, it's a fucking shit show. Too many assholes in this world. Too many stupid people voting them.

Anyway, fuck it.

I'm slightly older but yes, echoing this. I get that the internet came along and people are more aware of everything that happens but it really does seem like the level of hate and evil has grown and the anonymity of the internet makes people more comfortable saying things that they probably wouldn't say in reality. Life used to be great and care free. It felt more safe in areas that are no longer safe. People have lost their marbles. It is depressing.

 

[SpiceRacz]

Cronos crashed on me 4 times in the span of a half hour yesterday. It's basically unplayable.

But in all seriousness, I need to tune out the news, Reddit, etc. It's sometimes not worth it to be informed on what's going on in the world.

 

[ForAcademicPurposes]

There's a lot of quotes from classic movies that I understand now that I'm older.

 

[LiquidMetal14]

I have all the energy I need in my kids. I'm only glad they aren't old enough to follow current events because a lot of youth is crushed right now.

 

[Dr.Morris79]

It's a shit show. I think though it's worse for people my age (40) who actually got to know peaceful, good times without crazy temperatures in the summer, war all over the fucking world and that shit.

My boys don't know that world so they grow up thinking it's normal, which is why I'll try not telling them how nice it used to be.

Like, talk to your grandparents and they will tell you that today is still pretty great but so would a time traveler from the middle ages.

Anyway, it's a fucking shit show. Too many assholes in this world. Too many stupid people voting for them.

Fuck it.

Keep it that way for as long as possible!

My morning started with a text from mine..

Dad, did you see the news?
Have you got a fiver?

Thanks dad

 

[Peggies]

Keep it that way for as long as possible!

My morning started with a text from mine..

Dad, did you see the news?
Have you got a fiver?

Thanks dad

What else can we do?

 

[FoxMcChief]

Nothing new is happening in the world. Wars, senseless murders, political assassinations... nihil novi sub sole, it's always been this way.

While true, not everyone has the mental capacity or tools (meds or techniques) to help them through the everyday horrors. My wife and oldest daughter both suffer from anxiety. Yesterday's two shootings triggered her anxiety, but luckily we are on top of her meds so she didn't spiral long.

 

[Tams]

If we could just rewind to say, 2004, that would be great. Ta.

 

[Trilobit]

But in all seriousness, I need to tune out the news, Reddit, etc. It's sometimes not worth it to be informed on what's going on in the world.

It's good to go out, meet people in a store and see that most people are reasonable normal people busy with their lives and without hatred or anger.

The online world is not the natural way for people to socialize or spend time. I also try to read old books to get distance to present times and gain perspective.

 

[FoxMcChief]

If we could just rewind to say, 2004, that would be great. Ta.

A week after 9/11 was peak America. Both sides had a common enemy.

 

[ForAcademicPurposes]

It's good to go out, meet people in a store and see that most people are reasonable normal people busy with their lives and without hatred or anger.

This helps until you realize that you don't truly belong there and negativity comes back in a big way. It comes in endless waves, and keeps you up til' morning.

 

[Trilobit]

A week after 9/11 was peak America. Both sides had a common enemy.

I'd go back to 1994 when Donkey Kong Country was released.

This helps until you realize that you don't truly belong there and negativity comes back in a big way. It comes in endless waves, and keeps you up til' morning.

 

[Soodanim]

Until you can no longer do whatever makes you happy, pull away from the negative things. Focus on what matters to you and what you can change instead of watching things you can't influence from afar and taking in the FUD that comes with everything online.

Even on GAF just hide the threads that don't add to your day.

 

[gradient]

I'm slightly older but yes, echoing this. I get that the internet came along and people are more aware of everything that happens but it really does seem like the level of hate and evil has grown and the anonymity of the internet makes people more comfortable saying things that they probably wouldn't say in reality. Life used to be great and care free. It felt more safe in areas that are no longer safe. People have lost their marbles. It is depressing.

 

[ForAcademicPurposes]

I'd go back to 1994 when Donkey Kong Country was released.

Thank.you bro. Feeling it.

 

[ForAcademicPurposes]

Keep it that way for as long as possible!

My morning started with a text from mine..

Dad, did you see the news?
Have you got a fiver?

Thanks dad

What can you get with a five eddies these days?

 

[Dr.Morris79]

What can you get with a five eddies these days?

I don't even know

That was a good friday night in the early 90's, these days, a 500ml coke?

 

[AJUMP23]

I can't beat moorewing in silksong.

I beat that bird.

 

[bitbydeath]

Makes me glad I live in Australia.

 

[EekTheKat]

I'm reminded of a quote I picked up somewhere, just a reminder of what we lost in this...modern era where people are branded enemies for simply disagreeing.

"He is my opponent, not my enemy"

Google attributes this to Bob Dole in 96 during his concession speech, but I think it's been applied to numerous cases in MMA/fighting and possibly many pieces of media as well over the years.

 

[MayauMiao]

Makes me glad I live in Australia.

I don't know man..

 

[Madflavor]

It's a shit show. I think though it's worse for people my age (40) who actually got to know peaceful, good times without crazy temperatures in the summer, war all over the fucking world and that shit.

My boys don't know that world so they grow up thinking it's normal, which is why I'll try not telling them how nice it used to be.

Like, talk to your grandparents and they will tell you that today is still pretty great but so would a time traveler from the middle ages.

Anyway, it's a fucking shit show. Too many assholes in this world. Too many stupid people voting for them.

Fuck it.

With you right there brother. I grew up in the 90s and 2000s. We were a lot happier.

Social Media ruined us.

 

[Vaquilla]

I don't know man..

These guys are harmless, we let them live in our houses in exchange for eating the mosquitoes and flies and such.

My last one I named Fred.

 

[MayauMiao]

These guys are harmless, we let them live in our houses in exchange for eating the mosquitoes and flies and such.

My last one I named Fred.

Sure but its still a spider, a BIG one.

 

[Toons]

I never rely on nostalgia to make me feel better. It's a way your brain shields you from inovnenicnes. thats how I've always viewed it.

We are in a turbulent era. And sometimes I hate the things I see online even being done by people who id otherwise find reasonable. Sometimes I find abhorrent ideas touted and gaining support and the option of fear presents itself.

But in the end, fear is just that. An option. There is also life and experience and as long as I'm here all I can do is go about my values and convictions to see the world off better than it was when I entered it. I have a hope and a faith for the future but that doesn't make everything easy all the time. Just had a birthday go by last week, my birthday gift was my landlord telling me he needs 400 bucks by next week or I'm out. Its fine. I'll work it out.

But I keep my head high. This is life. This will be something i look back on, and remember as a distant memory. I do believe that. I have many things that some do not or cannot have. I have friends. I have family, a community. I have many things i enjoy.. my art. My hobbies. Im making a comic book, entirely my own. No one will buy it most likely. But I will have made it when it's done. And thats not something everyone can say.

I go downtown to work and I see the dirtiness, I see the loudness but I see people, strangers, holding hands, living. I used to consider myself someone who prefers to be by myself. But in the last few years I discovered... I love people. I love to be among them. Even if I'm not talking to them. Silently i sit amongst us, and marvel at what we are doing. So little, but with vigor and passion. And in those moments any hate or anger I feel is ultimately lessened.

 

[MaestroMike]

Diarrhea day full of gas holding that sh!t while at work made time go by so dam slowly

 

[Halo is Back]

I plan to jump off the internet tonight when I get home from work. Def need a break.

Taking a break from the internet for your mental health can be very beneficial imo. During your break, I also recommend spending more time outdoors, such as at parks or walking. Just get outside and get some fresh air.

 

[SpiceRacz]

It's good to go out, meet people in a store and see that most people are reasonable normal people busy with their lives and without hatred or anger.

The online world is not the natural way for people to socialize or spend time. I also try to read old books to get distance to present times and gain perspective.

You're right. I don't spend a ton of time online, but it's important to get outside of the social media bubble for perspective and your personal sanity.

I'd go back to 1994 when Donkey Kong Country was released.

Don't forget this Donkey Kong masterpiece also came out in 1994.

 

[DKehoe]

I never rely on nostalgia to make me feel better. It's a way your brain shields you from inovnenicnes. thats how I've always viewed it.

We are in a turbulent era. And sometimes I hate the things I see online even being done by people who id otherwise find reasonable. Sometimes I find abhorrent ideas touted and gaining support and the option of fear presents itself.

But in the end, fear is just that. An option. There is also life and experience and as long as I'm here all I can do is go about my values and convictions to see the world off better than it was when I entered it. I have a hope and a faith for the future but that doesn't make everything easy all the time. Just had a birthday go by last week, my birthday gift was my landlord telling me he needs 400 bucks by next week or I'm out. Its fine. I'll work it out.

But I keep my head high. This is life. This will be something i look back on, and remember as a distant memory. I do believe that. I have many things that some do not or cannot have. I have friends. I have family, a community. I have many things i enjoy.. my art. My hobbies. Im making a comic book, entirely my own. No one will buy it most likely. But I will have made it when it's done. And thats not something everyone can say.

I go downtown to work and I see the dirtiness, I see the loudness but I see people, strangers, holding hands, living. I used to consider myself someone who prefers to be by myself. But in the last few years I discovered... I love people. I love to be among them. Even if I'm not talking to them. Silently i sit amongst us, and marvel at what we are doing. So little, but with vigor and passion. And in those moments any hate or anger I feel is ultimately lessened.

Let us know once you finish your comic book. If I'm still around on GAF when you do I'll buy a copy.

 

[roosnam1980]

thread summary in one pic..........................

he tried to warn us but all of you made fun of him.