On the subject of kids, yes I intend to have a few. I'd be more comfortable with adoption but I'd consider surrogacy. I'd just rather have my kids have biological parents than having a surrogate enter the picture. Just seems to add another source of potential drama.
Plus I don't really care if my kid share my DNA or not.
The PonyGAF megathread was actually closed down. I'm almost certain Evilore put his foot down and said "pony discussion only" after locking it for a day or so.
I think Ponygaf was done to avoid talk and gifs outside here. There was a time were people were replying with just gifs and pictures of it, so mods allow only that in there and eve started banning talk of it outside the thread.
There was another thread that was a big disaster, apparently the mods weren't aware of it and upon been noticed it was locked. Forgot the name.
Girl thread, I think it's okay. They're trying one again (previous one was locked), is relatively recent. So let's see how that turns out. Girls can't catch a break around here and are often assumed to be guys.
Yes they both treat the soul in their own way, I simplified both sciences so they are better understood for people seeking professional help. I'm not a dualist.
Bah, I have a crush on my prof =/ I always thought the idea of having a crush on a teacher was weird but alas, it has happened to me. Doesn't help that I'm usually just on time to class and so I have to sit in the front row where the only open seats are.
This is true. And honestly, it's why I rarely post (besides being an asshole) in this thread. It's old hat. There is rarely interesting conversations because it goes in cycles.
fernoca said:
Girls can't catch a break around here and are often assumed to be guys.
Gaming = Male-majority-orientated hobby. Yes, there are "girl gamers" but they either don't do it hardcore like males, or are very silent about it.
Gaming forums = full of "hardcore" gaming fans. Thereby the majority is going to be 99% male 1% female. Can you blame people for assuming them male until proven otherwise?
Delio said:
I wonder how they can try not to have a megathread yet have a girl megathread and ponygaf megathreads..
Want this thread locked? Pull a FurryPandaman meltdown and whine about how PonyGayGAF is being Ponsecutedhomosecuted or whatever and have Evilore come in lock the thread and say you need to cool down.
AKA: Don't really question Evilores policies and stuff, because he doesn't really allow it.
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RPGCrazied said:
I deleted my Facebook not to long ago, I had like 2 people on it. Wasn't worth it. I normally use AIM/MSN/Yahoo for any type of messaging.
This is true. And honestly, it's why I rarely post (besides being an asshole) in this thread. It's old hat. There is rarely interesting conversations because it goes in cycles.
Gaming = Male-majority-orientated hobby. Yes, there are "girl gamers" but they either don't do it hardcore like males, or are very silent about it.
Gaming forums = full of "hardcore" gaming fans. Thereby the majority is going to be 99% male 1% female. Can you blame people for assuming them male until proven otherwise?
Want this thread locked? Pull a FurryPandaman meltdown and whine about how PonyGayGAF is being Ponsecutedhomosecuted or whatever and have Evilore come in lock the thread and say you need to cool down.
AKA: Don't really question Evilores policies and stuff, because he doesn't really allow it.
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MY MAN! (Except the deleting Facebook, fuck that. I still need it for Ass Creed: Brotherhood)
I'm oldschool. I wish people would e-mail me instead of Facebook PMing me. Drives me insane. Wish I could turn off the PM system.
One is a service I check regularly. Another is on a service I fucking despise and have to check to read their message that I promptly delete and grumble about them not e-mailing me.
This is true. And honestly, it's why I rarely post (besides being an asshole) in this thread. It's old hat. There is rarely interesting conversations because it goes in cycles.
Gaming = Male-majority-orientated hobby. Yes, there are "girl gamers" but they either don't do it hardcore like males, or are very silent about it.
Gaming forums = full of "hardcore" gaming fans. Thereby the majority is going to be 99% male 1% female. Can you blame people for assuming them male until proven otherwise?
Want this thread locked? Pull a FurryPandaman meltdown and whine about how PonyGayGAF is being Ponsecutedhomosecuted or whatever and have Evilore come in lock the thread and say you need to cool down.
AKA: Don't really question Evilores policies and stuff, because he doesn't really allow it.
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MY MAN! (Except the deleting Facebook, fuck that. I still need it for Ass Creed: Brotherhood)
I'm oldschool. I wish people would e-mail me instead of Facebook PMing me. Drives me insane. Wish I could turn off the PM system.
Gaming = Male-majority-orientated hobby. Yes, there are "girl gamers" but they either don't do it hardcore like males, or are very silent about it.
Gaming forums = full of "hardcore" gaming fans. Thereby the majority is going to be 99% male 1% female. Can you blame people for assuming them male until proven otherwise?
Don't blame them, was just mentioning possible reasons for the girls trying to have a thread of their own.
They're trying again, because prior attempts has been locked. Same way there has been other attempts at gay threads, hot guys, etc. and all ended locked. If it wasn't for homophobic remarks, it was because GayGAF got "too happy" with the pics and the threads ended looking like the frontpage of QueerClick.
Don't blame them, was just mentioning possible reasons for the girls trying to have a thread of their own.
They're trying again, because prior attempts has been locked. Same way there has been other attempts at gay threads, hot guys, etc. an all ended locked. If it wasn't for homophobic remarks, it was because GayGAF got "too happy" with the pics and the threads ended looking like the frontpage of QueerClick.
GirlGAF is a extreme minority, hell, they have to have GAyF (I like my version better, dealwithit.gif) flood the thread and talk about "what they want in a guy/boy." I mean see Devolutions thread: It was flooded by me/_Issac/and a few gay gaf and straight gaf that were talking about men/fashion more so than girls chiming in.
I mean it's great they're attempting to have a thread. But it's not going to be a "strictly female" thing.
I wish more people would do it. Board PM systems I don't mind, because I check the boards regularly. I check reddit semi-regularly so reddit's notifcation system doesn't bother me. I never/rarely check Facebook (and it's changes are really turning me off going there to play the games like Project Legacy) to the point of people begging me to use the IM and PM system is annoying. "Why the fuck would I get on a service I don't give two damns about? E-mail me, BITCH. >:|"
Don't blame them, was just mentioning possible reasons for the girls trying to have a thread of their own.
They're trying again, because prior attempts has been locked. Same way there has been other attempts at gay threads, hot guys, etc. and all ended locked. If it wasn't for homophobic remarks, it was because GayGAF got "too happy" with the pics and the threads ended looking like the frontpage of QueerClick.
GirlGAF is a extreme minority, hell, they have to have GAyF (I like my version better, dealwithit.gif) flood the thread and talk about "what they want in a guy/boy." I mean see Devolutions thread: It was flooded by me/_Issac/and a few gay gaf and straight gaf that were talking about men/fashion more so than girls chiming in.
I mean it's great they're attempting to have a thread. But it's not going to be a "strictly female" thing.
GirlGAF is a extreme minority, hell, they have to have GAyF (I like my version better, dealwithit.gif) flood the thread and talk about "what they want in a guy/boy." I mean see Devolutions thread: It was flooded by me/_Issac/and a few gay gaf and straight gaf that were talking about men/fashion more so than girls chiming in.
I mean it's great they're attempting to have a thread. But it's not going to be a "strictly female" thing.
I wish more people would do it. Board PM systems I don't mind, because I check the boards regularly. I check reddit semi-regularly so reddit's notifcation system doesn't bother me. I never/rarely check Facebook (and it's changes are really turning me off going there to play the games like Project Legacy) to the point of people begging me to use the IM and PM system is annoying. "Why the fuck would I get on a service I don't give two damns about? E-mail me, BITCH. >:|"
I thought Ducky McGee was a guy until that "dance with your guy(LOL)" thread. And she believes straight women are better dick suckers than gay men. (LOL) But I can't fault her for thinking that, since IIRC she's a mormon
Facebook's saving grace is it's photo service, but it's been turned into a shitty service since you can't have fuck huge photos anymore (downsized) and made harder to outside link. So fuck it, I'd use Flickr or something but that requires a Yahoo id and I haven't used Yahoo in nearly twenty years.
Hello everyone! Big lurker here, I've posted a couple of times here and there but never been an asiduous poster in this thread. Currently dating my man who I call my fiancé, we've been together for 3 years now and happily marching towards our fourth. I'm sure he'll read this, because he's the one who introduced me to GAF (I won't reveal his username, though!).
We're both very happy together, even though we're carrying on a long-distance relationship (he's from Norway, I'm from Spain). Anyway, cutting to the important part. To all of you currently seeking to be with someone, relax. In our case we met online (FFXI!), and it slowly escalated to what we have nowadays. There's no need to rush, love happens, and there's no point in being desperate because that makes you even less likable. Maybe even somewhat irritating.
Anyway, not really discussing anything, but I'm very happy that we're getting to spend our first Christmas together! Wooohoo~ It'll be really cool, all my family and us gathering around the Christmas tree, unpacking presents, etc. We've agreed on a certain amount we'll spend on each other and even though we both have lists up on Amazon, I know he wants to surprise me. He was going to buy me Skyward, the gold edition (with the controller and everything), but I accidentally spoiled myself the surprise.
Long-story short, I told him I wanted to get it as soon as I got my paycheque!
So now he had to cancel his order. ): I'm hoping I get some brilliant ideas soon, I've got a couple ones but I want something unexpected too. Any ideas would be appreciated (in spoiler tags, preferably, so he doesn't read!). Don't read it J.! I mean it! >:
On a totally different matter, the so-called gay death? That's nonsense, both me and my boyfriend agree that the older we'll get, the more handsome and sexy we'll look. Men simply look very good with age!
Disclaimer: This is our taste, though!
Pd. Also, he's leaving on October 1st to Washington, with the school he works at. I'll miss him much (mostly because of the change in time settings) but I really hope he enjoys it.
You have to fill out some questionnaire about the movies you like and stuff like that. I'm trying to put myself out there in the gay world and that's the only club in meetup.com that seems to apply to me and I got rejected. Just feeling a bit disappointed. I guess I'll continue to see movies alone.
You have to fill out some questionnaire about the movies you like and stuff like that. I'm trying to put myself out there in the gay world and that's the only club in meetup.com that seems to apply to me and I got rejected. Just feeling a bit disappointed. I guess I'll continue to see movies alone.
Which server? I was on Fairy and I still keep in touch with a handful of people I've met playing FFXI. I'd consider two of them to be very good friends.
GothPunk said:
Perhaps I'm getting way too deep into this. Ideas of masculinity and femininity just interest me a lot.
No way, you definitely hit the nail on the head. "Masculine" is the one word that I've found to be overused in the gay community (especially in dating profiles) and something I have begun to despise. It is as if masculinity is quatifiable and by being gay you somehow become less of a man, so you have to reassure everyone else that is not the case. Furthermore, there is the perception that body types, body hair, choices of activities, etc dictate whether you are masculine or not. I think this trend is very self-defeating.
Which server? I was on Fairy and I still keep in touch with a handful of people I've met playing FFXI. I'd consider two of them to be very good friends.
I was originally on Ramuh, quit and gave my stuff to a friend in Ragnarok (I didn't know him back then). When I came back, we started hanging out and it clicked!
@neojubei, I can't speak for everyone, but you don't really need to put yourself out there? I've never gone to gay-only related stuff, even though I would have no problem if I wanted to, it just happened that I have straight friends and only a few gay acquaintances. You can meet a lot of people everywhere, no need to look for gay friends/boyfriends. I.e. I've never gone to a gay bar/disco, of course it'd be fun, but I was pretty sure I wouldn't find the guy I wanted there. Just meet a lot of people, whatever their sexual orientation might be, be friendly, helpful and honest, shouldn't be difficut.
@SpaceBridge, your avatar is from the art of nickie, right? I can't find that drawing in his blog!
Yes they both treat the soul in their own way, I simplified both sciences so they are better understood for people seeking professional help. I'm not a dualist.
Indeed. Happy Endings is so funny. So many jokes in short succession I almost have to watch scenes twice to take it all in. Last night's episode with them all in the hotel room was hilarious. I highly recommend checking it out. On ABC at 8:30 Central.
So here is my situation and I'd like to here some opinions here, cause I am not 100% sure how I want to handle the situation at hand:
I was 3 weeks in Asia for a business project. It's weird but Asia is like the place were people get hit on or something, thing is at least 3 guys were really trying to hit on me in different cities and well, of course it is nice to feel people like you but I have a partner and we haven't talked or arranged anything regarding "having fun" outside of the relation.
I gotta say though, the guys were really nice and kind. Sure, I am a man and not immune to temptation but I respected the relationship and didn't do anything, not a touch a kiss or whatever, not even verbal action but there was this tension like " one more step or thing you say and I have you in bed"..kind of thing.. I didn't fall for it but I kind of wanted.. what can be so bad to have a nice guy with (let's asume) a nice cock for a couple of hours?
I would NEVER ever leave my partner for any of this guys, I very much love him and like him. So I am planning to tell my BF exactly this, what I experienced in Asia and I will tell him, that if he ever is in the situation I was in Asia, he has my permission to have fun. If it was him doing work aboard for some weeks and some guy wanted some safe fun, I don't see why not. I guess what I want is to keep a good communication and to everyone to be satisifed with life.
Am I doing this right? My BF is also easygoing and such.
I'd say that first, you'll be better by explaining what happened; about the guys hitting on you, nothing happening; and if anything bring the question of "how would've he reacted in a similar position". Casually just saying "oh so if you had 2 guys hitting on you, what you would've done?" might gave another impression and probably make it harder to explain your point (at first at least)
Explaining it, to give permission that he can do it; might open and bring other questions and doubts.
So if anything "arrange" that first as you said; before bringing the question/argument on the table. Make sure to know where he stands on that topic first and foremost. Because otherwise it might make yourself look as if you're just waiting for permission to start fooling around; and as if you've been thinking about it.
So here is my situation and I'd like to here some opinions here, cause I am not 100% sure how I want to handle the situation at hand:
I was 3 weeks in Asia for a business project. It's weird but Asia is like the place were people get hit on or something, thing is at least 3 guys were really trying to hit on me in different cities and well, of course it is nice to feel people like you but I have a partner and we haven't talked or arranged anything regarding "having fun" outside of the relation.
I gotta say though, the guys were really nice and kind. Sure, I am a man and not immune to temptation but I respected the relationship and didn't do anything, not a touch a kiss or whatever, not even verbal action but there was this tension like " one more step or thing you say and I have you in bed"..kind of thing.. I didn't fall for it but I kind of wanted.. what can be so bad to have a nice guy with (let's asume) a nice cock for a couple of hours?
I would NEVER ever leave my partner for any of this guys, I very much love him and like him. So I am planning to tell my BF exactly this, what I experienced in Asia and I will tell him, that if he ever is in the situation I was in Asia, he has my permission to have fun. If it was him doing work aboard for some weeks and some guy wanted some safe fun, I don't see why not. I guess what I want is to keep a good communication and to everyone to be satisifed with life.
Am I doing this right? My BF is also easygoing and such.
You basically just want to clarify a position on something, right? This experience provides a grounded example of how it has already came up, and how you feel comfortable responding to it, and now you just want there to be a dialogue, am I reading your thinking correctly? I only ask because since nothing happened you're really not obligated to tell him anything, so I am assuming that this is for your benefit. I would probably want to do the same thing.
I don't think you're doing it wrong. Honestly, I don't think you can really do it wrong, in a sense. The only thing that really matters in a dialogue on your end is listening well (and if it requires a response, honesty), you seem willing to accommodate other view points on the issue so I can't really see him being threatened. I only say this because often the 'easygoing' type is the most put off by any such serious discussion about a relationship. But if so, what you're asking from him is fair, especially considering the gentle and non-dependent approach that you seem to have.
You basically just want to clarify a position on something, right? This experience provides a grounded example of how it has already came up, and how you feel comfortable responding to it, and now you just want there to be a dialogue, am I reading your thinking correctly? I only ask because since nothing happened you're really not obligated to tell him anything, so I am assuming that this is for your benefit. I would probably want to do the same thing.
I don't think you're doing it wrong. Honestly, I don't think you can really do it wrong, in a sense. The only thing that really matters in a dialogue on your end is listening well (and if it requires a response, honesty), you seem willing to accommodate other view points on the issue so I can't really see him being threatened. I only say this because often the 'easygoing' type is the most put off by any such serious discussion about a relationship. But if so, what you're asking from him is fair, especially considering the gentle and non-dependent approach that you seem to have.
There's some part I didn't get, after re-reading, which is why my reply may give the "alert" kind of response.
Sphinx's basically planning to tell his partner what happened (even when nothing happened), but also to give permission to his partner to "have fun"; if he's in a similar position.
What I mean is, has the partner been interested in the past in "having fun" while sphinx's away, and sphinx said no; and recently changed his mind?
Because, that's what I'm wondering. I see no reason for sphinx to say "yes, I was tempted, so... I give you permission to have fun". I mean, is sphinx expecting his partner to say "yeah, you have my permission too".
I don't know; wondering that. Which is why I recommended to "make sure to know what his partner thinks about the idea"; before giving any permission.
So here is my situation and I'd like to here some opinions here, cause I am not 100% sure how I want to handle the situation at hand:
I was 3 weeks in Asia for a business project. It's weird but Asia is like the place were people get hit on or something, thing is at least 3 guys were really trying to hit on me in different cities and well, of course it is nice to feel people like you but I have a partner and we haven't talked or arranged anything regarding "having fun" outside of the relation.
I gotta say though, the guys were really nice and kind. Sure, I am a man and not immune to temptation but I respected the relationship and didn't do anything, not a touch a kiss or whatever, not even verbal action but there was this tension like " one more step or thing you say and I have you in bed"..kind of thing.. I didn't fall for it but I kind of wanted.. what can be so bad to have a nice guy with (let's asume) a nice cock for a couple of hours?
I would NEVER ever leave my partner for any of this guys, I very much love him and like him. So I am planning to tell my BF exactly this, what I experienced in Asia and I will tell him, that if he ever is in the situation I was in Asia, he has my permission to have fun. If it was him doing work aboard for some weeks and some guy wanted some safe fun, I don't see why not. I guess what I want is to keep a good communication and to everyone to be satisifed with life.
Am I doing this right? My BF is also easygoing and such.
So, listen, maybe Im not understanding this correctly, but are you telling your partner about the temptation you had in Asia as way to bring up the topic of having an open relatioship. And are you giving him permission for him to have fun when you`re away, not necessarily for his own good, but rather, as a way to justify your own desires to have fun with other guys. Im not a big fan of open relatioships, as Ive yet to see one that works, but that being said, please...please analyze your true motives regarding this, cuz while it sounds like your bringing this up as away to evolve your sexual relationship with him, it feels like its a little selfish on your part. (Please dont take offence to that). Has he ever brought this up before. Has he been in a previous open relationship. This can go wrong in many ways.
Ok now I'm thinking my interpretation is wrong, I was reading it as that he didn't want to have an open relationship himself but was giving his boyfriend permission to.
Well on facebook I posted a video of X-men Destiny. I basically was talking about how bad the game looks and how the game doesn't look fun to play. All the people seemed to Agree that the game was crap except one person. My Boyfriend... He got online on MSN and told me I was trash talking someone's work and that it wasn't fair. He told me that he doesn't get Bayonetta which he considers a big pile of shit that plays like Xmen but better looking (loooool). I didn't overreacted and I simply said I didn't agree with his opinion and told him that he is doing exactly was he said I was doing and he said whatever and we haven't talked since that.
Today is the 2 day without talking. If he is really gonna be like that I guess as much as I love him thing might come to an end. This is the first big problem I think I have seen with him and is a big problem because he simply overreacted and started calling me and the people on the post overcritical over the game, then he gets overcritical on msn and storms out and post something on FB about not dealing with BS anymore. I'm truly laughing and confused at the same time.
Imagine if I speak my mind on FF13 which is his favorite game and that game bores me to death. I think he would simply break up and send me hate emails. XD
Well since no one will really say anything about it like most of the time I guess is just a get vent that no one will reply.
Well, try calling him or something to see what he's up to. If he doesn't answer...Sorry, but he sounds really childish if he behaves like that.... heck because of X-Men Destiny (of all games).
If you want me to, I can post that Final Fantasy XIII sucks in you wall to see if he reacts.