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Ha me (who's not even had a gf since high school let alone date a GUY), SEDUCE someone lol.

The funny thing is I still am curious since he left out the interested in section (which I've only seen gay people do) on Facebook and I don't know of him ever having a gf (timeline hopefully will help me with this), but I need to stop getting my hopes up. It's not healthy. I do just wish we were a society where people could be who they were. It'd be so much easier
 
sruckus said:
Ha me (who's not even had a gf since high school let alone date a GUY), SEDUCE someone lol.

The funny thing is I still am curious since he left out the interested in section (which I've only seen gay people do) on Facebook and I don't know of him ever having a gf (timeline hopefully will help me with this), but I need to stop getting my hopes up. It's not healthy. I do just wish we were a society where people could be who they were. It'd be so much easier
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Text him that he's cute or something if he posts a pic on facebook and see what happens.
 
SpaceBridge said:
Wait, is this a subtle round about insult?
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Insult? Oh, no, not necessarily. It can simply be a matter of degrees.

I'm sure you feel good in the light, but fucking fantastic in the dark.

See how that works? ;)

sruckus said:
Hey gaf this is probably a post for the drunk thread, but I feel weird posting there. I've fallen for my first guy crush and it sucks because I'm pretty sure he's straight and he's also conservative. It hurts being lonely and dealing with infatuation and knowing you don't even have a CHANCE. Hopefully I'll get used to it sooner or later.
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God, that's the worst, especially if you see the guy on a regular basis, and he's awesome eye candy. I'm like, "Just have sex with me once, so I can get over you!!!"
*sigh*
 
woodypop said:
[. . .]Dude, I thought you were taller[. . .]
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:lol, you're not the first person to say that unsurprisingly. I've learned to rock a pair of boots, though. ;-)

Aww, sruckus, don't worry about it right now. I know your situation is a little tough, but if he's interested, he'll send you little signs. Don't worry about stuff like him not putting what sex he's interested in on Facebook.
 
Becoming infatuated with a straight guy is like a rite of passage, though. But it is kind of sad when it's like three years later and he's still the example you compare all others to.
Why did I just admit this?
 
sruckus said:
I also just hate that my religion (Christian as he is) is also so hateful sometimes against something I (of all people!) did not choose :(
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Have your family or friends made disparaging remarks towards homosexuals, or is it more that you feel Christians in general are going to hate you for being gay? I'm Christian myself (not exactly practicing but I still hold the beliefs) with religious parents, as are almost all of my friends back home. I went through a tremendous amount of anxiety trying to accept being gay and coming out in that type of environment, but ultimately it wasn't an issue. Not one person turned their back on me. It obviously isn't always that easy, but you shouldn't put your own life on hold because of fears like this. Unless your family is literally crazed with religious fervor (and even that isn't a guarantee!), they will still love you; ideally, the same goes for your friends.

You need to be comfortable and confident with yourself first, though, and having a support system to fall back on - whether financial, if you're still at home and would be concerned about getting kicked out, or friends/relatives from outside the "circle" - is pretty helpful and important.

You can be yourself in the everyday, it just takes courage at first and the desire to take chances while also accepting that there will be bad times that come along with the good, but you'll be a better, happier person because of it.
 
umop_3pisdn said:
Becoming infatuated with a straight guy is like a rite of passage, though. But it is kind of sad when it's like three years later and he's still the example you compare all others to.
Why did I just admit this?
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I feel like this is going to be me :). He's just so beautiful and his air headed personality is just so cute!
 
sruckus said:
I feel like this is going to be me :). He's just so beautiful and his air headed personality is just so cute!
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Don't (if it can be avoided)! It's probably like not fair or something, I don't know. Then again, I probably could have myself if I tried harder so maybe I'm a hypocrite. For me my justification is mostly that I'm compatible with very few people, the main thing I look for is this kind of effortless rapport that practically never happens for me. If memory serves I've had this with literally two people, and only one of those did I find sexy.

Cosmic Bus said:
Hey, some of us call this having standards. ;)
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Ok, this works :D
 
Cosmic Bus said:
Have your family or friends made disparaging remarks towards homosexuals, or is it more that you feel Christians in general are going to hate you for being gay? I'm Christian myself (not exactly practicing but I still hold the beliefs) with religious parents, as are almost all of my friends back home. I went through a tremendous amount of anxiety trying to accept being gay and coming out in that type of environment, but ultimately it wasn't an issue. Not one person turned their back on me. It obviously isn't always that easy, but you shouldn't put your own life on hold because of fears like this. Unless your family is literally crazed with religious fervor (and even that isn't a guarantee!), they will still love you; ideally, the same goes for your friends.

You need to be comfortable and confident with yourself first, though, and having a support system to fall back on - whether financial, if you're still at home and would be concerned about getting kicked out, or friends/relatives from outside the "circle" - is pretty helpful and important.

You can be yourself in the everyday, it just takes courage at first and the desire to take chances while also accepting that there will be bad times that come along with the good, but you'll be a better, happier person because of it.
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Family has. Mom constantly picks up on things (like me saying "angry" ((wtf))) and tells me not to say that. I love her and I'm pretty sure shed still love me, but I can't shake the feeling of disappointment. Despite me knowing I didn't choose this, I still feel inferior somehow. And I'm from a small town and my friends have similar views. My friends call me gay all the time but I can't imagine their reaction if I actually admitted it.
 
sruckus said:
I also just hate that my religion (Christian as he is) is also so hateful sometimes against something I (of all people!) did not choose.
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I thought the general idea was that being attracted to men was ok (even Jesus was tempted to sin), but acting on it is not.

And you -can- choose not to act on them (your sexual urges).
 
Obsessed said:
I thought the general idea was that being attracted to men was ok (even Jesus was tempted to sin), but acting on it is not.

And you -can- choose not to act on them (your sexual urges).
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I think that's the general belief as well. But I just can't imagine them being able to resist girls. It's unbelievably hard and what kind of god would give that burden to people!

And is it fair to the woman if she's unfulfilled because a gay person is having a hard time finding attraction? It's just not fair.
 
sruckus said:
I think that's the general belief as well. But I just can't imagine them being able to resist girls. It's unbelievably hard and what kind of god would give that burden to people!

It's just not fair.
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Out of curiosity do you believe that god is testing you and wants you to resist your gay urges, or do you believe god has no problem with homosexuality because he made you gay?
 
sruckus said:
Family has. Mom constantly picks up on things (like me saying "angry" ((wtf))) and tells me not to say that. I love her and I'm pretty sure shed still love me, but I can't shake the feeling of disappointment. Despite me knowing I didn't choose this, I still feel inferior somehow. And I'm from a small town and my friends have similar views. My friends call me gay all the time but I can't imagine their reaction if I actually admitted it.
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Well, it's certainly up to you to decide if telling your family is worthwhile now/down the road/ever, but I do feel like it's something every gay person should find the opportunity to do eventually, if only for their own peace of mind. Even with the worst, most strained parental relationships, the baggage that comes with always hiding a significant part of yourself is immense.

Are you younger and in school or college? Do you have the ability or interest to leave where you are and move somewhere new?
 
Obsessed said:
I thought the general idea was that being attracted to men was ok (even Jesus was tempted to sin), but acting on it is not.

And you -can- choose not to act on them (your sexual urges).
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When I came out, my dad said, "Well, I suggest a lot of masturbation... but putting everything else aside, we just want you to be happy. AND SAFE. PLEASE BE SAFE IF YOU DECIDE TO DO ANYTHING."
 
Obsessed said:
Out of curiosity do you believe that god is testing you and wants you to resist your gay urges, or do you believe god has no problem with homosexuality because he made you gay?
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It'd certainly be a strong test and one where God doesn't care that these kids with the burden of being gay commit suicide,but I suppose it's possible. It would just figure that I'd be the one to get the test though. I'm already weak, have extreme social anxiety and am affected by what others think of me, and have went through my whole high school life of being called gay (it got better in later years though. It honestly wasn't the worst life ever, I had some great friends)and I'm just not the type to be able to handle it. Why would certain people be tested so harsh and with something that we fail *so often* with as sexual urges? I tried. I didn't go through school proclaiming to the world I was bi/gay...I tries having a girlfriend and making it work, but the reality is I have been attracted to guys for a very long time.

Sorry for the long explanation, I really don't know what to believe because I just don't know what God would believe. It just sucks.

For those asking I am 23 and should he graduating college this spring. I am taking 5 years of college due to my getting a full time job at my college my sophomore year and thus finishing college part time. My field is more dependent on experience and knowledge vs predetermined college years (I.T,)
 
Cosmic Bus said:
Well, it's certainly up to you to decide if telling your family is worthwhile now/down the road/ever, but I do feel like it's something every gay person should find the opportunity to do eventually, if only for their own peace of mind. Even with the worst, most strained parental relationships, the baggage that comes with always hiding a significant part of yourself is immense.

Are you younger and in school or college? Do you have the ability or interest to leave where you are and move somewhere new?
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I sometimes have fantasies of finding some guy I love and moving away from here and basically live a double life where I come home for holidays but that's about it. That requires a lot of understanding by my significant other, of course.
 
sruckus said:
I sometimes have fantasies of finding some guy I love and moving away from here and basically light a double life where I come home for holidays but that's about it. That requires a lot of understanding by my significant other, of course.
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I can tell you right now that if it were me and you asked me to understand something like that, I would break up with you almost on the spot. Just saying.
 
sruckus said:
It'd certainly be a strong test and one where God doesn't care that these kids with the burden of being gay commit suicide,but I suppose it's possible. It would just figure that I'd be the one to get the test though.

Why would certain people be tested so harsh and with something that we fail *so often* with as sexual urges?
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Just going to throw this out there: There is evidence that strongly suggests pedophiles don't choose to have those unacceptable sexual urges. God seems to be a really harsh test giver with that in mind.

I personally do not believe in a god, but if you are so insistent on believing in a god (and specifically the Christian god) maybe you should ask the people in the Christian OT thread why god would test you in such a seemingly harsh way.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?p=34639581#post34639581
 
Sai-kun said:
I can tell you right now that if it were me and you asked me to understand something like that, I would break up with you almost on the spot. Just saying.
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I completely understand that and tend to believe that's the common view I'd encounter. I know it's selfish of me to believe someone would accept that, but that's why I called it a fantasy.
 
Sai-kun said:
I can tell you right now that if it were me and you asked me to understand something like that, I would break up with you almost on the spot. Just saying.
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I wasn't quite so adamant about it toward my bf. He wasn't out when we met and started dating, so I'd always play the "friend" when we met his friends and family. I simply told him I didn't like going back in the closet.
 
Obsessed said:
Just going to throw this out there: There is evidence that strongly suggests pedophiles don't choose to have those unacceptable sexual urges. God seems to be a really harsh test giver with that in mind.

I personally do not believe in a god, but if you are so insistent on believing in a god (and specifically the Christian god) maybe you should ask the people in the Christian OT thread why god would test you in such a seemingly harsh way.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?p=34639581#post34639581
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Yeah ive seen that viewpoint expressed here and it's certainly a puzzler...
 
woodypop said:
God, that's the worst, especially if you see the guy on a regular basis, and he's awesome eye candy. I'm like, "Just have sex with me once, so I can get over you!!!"
*sigh*
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It's nothing new. What's worse is that I usually have a crush on 4-5 guys at the same time. I'm a slut even when crushing.
 
Replicant said:


It's nothing new. What's worse is that I usually have a crush on 4-5 guys at the same time. I'm a slut even when crushing.
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Maybe there should be an unwritten rule for guys to adhere to: We gotta fuck everyone who crushes on us.

Would fucking a few guys you're really not into be too high a price to pay in order to fuck every hot guy you lust after?

Hmm... =)
 
Why does god let people die of hunger? Why does god let people have cancer? Why does god make disabled people?

Because he doesn't give a shit.
 
The way I tend to argue against all God-concepts (since I used to be kind of a Pan[en]theist or Brahmanist of sorts) is that the only thing that we can be entirely certain of is direct experience on a moment-by-moment basis. An experience of God is entirely impossible, there are things like "sensed presence" experiences (which I have had) that people may report as 'experiencing God', but that is elaboration as nothing about the experience points specifically to God, it's just "a presence", so such an interpretation points towards individual bias more than anything. Furthermore these experiences are unreliable like typically all mystic phenomenon are... not to condemn that as a way of acquiring 'knowledge' per se, just that for that to be a practical approach would require a kind of mental cultivation or insight that is unlikely to be developed to the point that these phenomenon become in some sense 'solid' or 'reliable', which then means that they tend to be too subject to delusion.

So if experience of any conception of God (this is assuming an ultimate position and thus being worthy of reverence) is impossible, that directly raises the question of if the concept holds any value at all. It doesn't actually influence our lives in any way because the 'realness' of it beyond its existence as purely a concept never enters our experience, so then why go about living with just that much more mental clutter? It's basically for these reasons that I'm particularly fond of the position of Apatheism.
 
vectorman06 said:
Quit now while you still can!
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Its a very entertaining diversion. After I was done looking at graphic pics, I started looking at pics of hot guys doing normal things, then I started looking at pics of (Wearable) mens fashion.

As it lacks any self expression, I cant see myself using it much, but what a distraction. I think I found what Im doing all day tomorrow.
 
OK this is going to sound like whining but my partner is away for a week.

During the day, I'm busy with the dogs, taking the Harley out, meeting friends, hitting the beach, whatever. I have no problem keeping busy, and even doing more things that he doesn't like to do, so that's fun.

At night, I am sleeping like shit and missing him like mad. I am so bad at this.


Arrrgh!
 
krypt0nian said:
OK this is going to sound like whining but my partner is away for a week.

During the day, I'm busy with the dogs, taking the Harley out, meeting friends, hitting the beach, whatever. I have no problem keeping busy, and even doing more things that he doesn't like to do, so that's fun.

At night, I am sleeping like shit and missing him like mad. I am so bad at this.


Arrrgh!
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Do push-ups
 
krypt0nian said:
OK this is going to sound like whining but my partner is away for a week.

During the day, I'm busy with the dogs, taking the Harley out, meeting friends, hitting the beach, whatever. I have no problem keeping busy, and even doing more things that he doesn't like to do, so that's fun.

At night, I am sleeping like shit and missing him like mad. I am so bad at this.


Arrrgh!
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Hell I'm not even an official relationship and haven't seen him since Friday afternoon and it's driving me crazy. Don't worry, I guess we are normal after all lol.
 
Hey gurls! Did yall miss me? Of course yall did <3

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Now to keep it cute and stay on topic, I been talking to this guy on grindr, he is cute and with a beautiful smile.
Going to meet him later this week. Thats all for today, Ciao!

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Marius_ said:
Hey gurls! Did yall miss me? Of course yall did <3

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Now to keep it cute and stay on topic, I been talking to this guy on grindr, he is cute and with a beautiful smile.
Going to meet him later this week. Thats all for today, Ciao!

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What happened to you? I missed you at least.
 
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