SpaceBridge
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Replicant is always getting looks and nods, usually on the bus or gym.
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A lot of bi guys seem to not tell their girlfriend or boyfriend. There is the perception in both straight people that he is actually just gay and in denial and is calling himself bisexual to soften the reality of being gay.
Nobodyspatzy
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To just answer the question, yes. Mind you, I often do it when I am out with my (then) guyfriend more, as we do like to check out men (and women) together. Now, on the other hand, with some ladies I have been out with, I have gotten holy hell over it when I check out a guy...but others start out with playing scenarios, and telling me to go for it..which I sadly never do. It's like they get off on it or something. =/
For me, I can LOOK, but anything beyond that including simple flirting, it's so hard to do.
Loved that story =p
*Off-topic to the question* Ugh I hate Valentine's Day...but I am resolving not to just sit around this year...oh of my darling female friends I knew for years is taking me to Disneyland Monday and Tuesday! Yay! (and no, we never dated...it's a platonic relationship and I absolutely adore her for doing this!)
EDIT @ Subprime: I am fully bi, as I do like both genders equal well. I fully disclose this to everyone, male or female I have dated. In general they are ok with it, BUT most prefer a monogamous relationship, which I am fine with. Thus, with a very few exceptions I have probably told in other topics, it's either one way or the other for me...
Though truth be told, I have found guys like you describe at the local gay bar...I don't mind them at all, but they aren't fooling anyone ;p
I really don't know how to explain it. Cruisy look? Straight guys usually don't stare at another guy longer than 3 or so sec but gay guys or rather, gay guys who are interested in you will do so. For example, if you go to a gay bar and you notice someone looking at you. If you're interested you'll lool back for extended period. And if you're not interested, you look away. After you see each other for extended period, either you or him approach the other. If you get along in convo then you go with him for a hookup. Obviously the guy is not going to look at you if he's not interested. Also, make sure that you don't have food stuck in your teeth or your pants is unzipped because that maybe why he looks at you. But really if you boil it down, there's only a few reason why a guy will look at you for extended period:
1. You're terribly ugly and off putting that even Quasimodo is scared at you. Rest assured if you are that ugly, many people (not just good looking guys) will look at you. OR
2. You dress up or act like an attention whore. OR
3. You got food on your teeth or your pants is unzipped. OR
4. He's looking at something behind you. You'll know if this is not the case if you move around and yet he's still fixated on you or if he stare at you for extended period. OR
5. He finds you attractive.
Once you eliminate factor 1-4, you'll know for sure.
SpaceBridge
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I see... I wouldn't know because I have never been to a gay bar.
Thanks for the explanation (it makes sense, I guess), I will keep that in mind.
So what do you say to the girls who are angry? And what do you say to the girls who got off on the idea?
#1 on 'Replicant's Guide to Gay Looks'.
Dude, you've posted your pics here before and I'm pretty sure most people weren't running away in terror. So no, you're not ugly. Your fanboying Nintendo, OTOH, ugh, I don't even know how I can say it without being rude.
It's just an example and not always the case. Obviously it depends on the guy and his personality. Some are more forward while others are not. Also, that tends to be the behavior in straight environment like gym.
Gym actually is a funny place because even straight guys tend to do this if they are interested in knowing someone that they want to be friends with. I find it amusing though because let's face it in a place like gym, a person's personality does not stand out. So the only reasons why one may be interested to know a stranger in the gym is usually because of the other guy's looks or physique.
Dude, you've posted your pics here before and I'm pretty sure most people weren't running away in terror. So no, you're not ugly. Your fanboying Nintendo, OTOH, ugh, I don't even know how I can say it without being rude.
Hey... speak for yourself! I had to close my browser in disgust! >_<
YES, I AM JOKING. I have told him the same thing you just did, and so have others.
The moment I read that, I knew he would reply something like that.
The moment I read that, I knew he would reply something like that.
..thanks, kinda. They run anyway. But, whatever I don't mind. Frankenstein had many people running away from him (or towards him...with torches ) and still found someone. :O!So no, you're not ugly. Your fanboying Nintendo, OTOH, ugh, I don't even know how I can say it without being rude.
Did someone said something?
umop_3pisdn
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That's a bad example!
The end of Shelley's Frankenstein involves Frankenstein's creature realizing that he is now truly alone in the world and vowing to exterminate himself on his maker's funeral pyre so no one else would ever know of his existence...
That's kinda hot actually.
Okay I have a question. This really hot sophomore in my PE class openly admitted that he was gay to me at a friend's party. He was always touching me and pulling me aside during the whole thing, so I was wondering if he had any sort of attraction towards me?i ask because i'm so use to hearing straight guys telling each other that they're sexy and whatever. So i'm wondering if hat applies to here as well?dI'm really naive about flirting and everything so any answer is appreciated.
I could understand it being a busy time for him, but definitely not so busy that he can't think of you. I can easily pull off school full time, a job, and a side job and still have time for people I care about - because they're priorities. I have dinner with them once a week. I talk to them on the phone often. I write thank you cards. I message them on facebook. I talk to them in chat, etc etc etc. It's not hard to make time.
It's their reciprocation of love that's important to me. It's the intricacies of various subjects within school that make it worth attending. It's money and experience with work. Those are priorities and they all enrich life. I love games and music to death, but they're extras. I don't clear a calendar to play call of duty - that's always a (sometimes much) lower priority. I do require some amount of time solely to myself, but I always look forward to the people in my life far more than the things.
I wouldn't be too concerned about the odd occurrence. It happens with everyone. A pattern, however, would be worrying. I would try to listen to his problems (he likely has some) and see what I could do to help, though if he remained closed off after that, too damn bad. He's gotta put just as much effort into it as you are, and prove what he says through actions.
Maybe he's just more hands on - certain people are - but that would be an indicator of something to me. Friendship or a crush most likely. Usually those have ended up in the latter for myself.
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Might be a attraction or a friendly gesture. I would bet on a attraction though.
It's just lately he has seemed distant. I atleasyt got to talk to him tonight but he just runs away from talking about problems and folds in on himself. To him it's perfectly normal I guess and it's harder for me. Even now We were going to bed and he was busy typing to a friend of his. I simply asked how was that going and he didnt say much. I said "Oh your ignoring me" Playfully and he goes "No but you want my attention 24/7 even when I give a little to my friends"
I never demand his attention but I do want some of it if we are voice chatting. Sometimes it does feel like he is not making the effort.
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He sounds like your typical introvert. Was he always like that or is that only his recent trait? If it's the former then you will just have to deal with it if you want to be with him. You can't change someone's personality.
If he is recently more distant that usual then that probably means he has a problem and doesn't want to bother you with it. From his POV it's normal - he pushes people away because he doesn't want anyone to know about the problem, doesn't want to hurt anyone. Of course other people do notice that there's something wrong and it bothers them even more, but he is oblivious (more or less) to this while thinking that he still "protects" them. I know it's hard, but if that's the case, prying won't do any good; it will just make him put even more effort to make a poker face and be even more distant while trying to look that everything is fine or, even worse, make him angry. You just have to wait for him to open up.
So, I don't know if it is a sense of relief, enlightenment, or just feeling like I got knocked down a beg, or toppled over, but I just got a bit of information that was never really known for sure, but I from what I hear, is now fact.
I talked to my Ex's sister this morning, and not knowing that her brother and I don't talk anymore, and that I am proactively staying away from any reminders, she drops the bombshell that she heard hes dating someone new, and that it is the homewrecker who I have been warning my ex about for a year now.
I don't know how I feel. When I read it, I lost my breath. Why is it this person who intentionally ruined our relationship gets to reap the rewards of the man I loved, who loved me at some point. Is there any justice?
I know, its a two way street. I have made a lot of progress in moving on, I have really made every attempt to NOT be a post LTR slut, to not make this breakup a competition between him and I at who strikes the better gold than the other.
I love him, that won't ever change, but man, he went with the homewrecker after all? :/
I talked to my Ex's sister this morning, and not knowing that her brother and I don't talk anymore, and that I am proactively staying away from any reminders, she drops the bombshell that she heard hes dating someone new, and that it is the homewrecker who I have been warning my ex about for a year now.
I don't know how I feel. When I read it, I lost my breath. Why is it this person who intentionally ruined our relationship gets to reap the rewards of the man I loved, who loved me at some point. Is there any justice?
I know, its a two way street. I have made a lot of progress in moving on, I have really made every attempt to NOT be a post LTR slut, to not make this breakup a competition between him and I at who strikes the better gold than the other.
I love him, that won't ever change, but man, he went with the homewrecker after all? :/
SpaceBridge
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Hey B-ri, sorry but Im not too familiar with your previous situation, did your relationship end because your ex cheated with said home wrecker?
this guy used to be obsessed with my ex before we started dating. When we started dating, this guy wrote him a 3 page letter on MySpace about how they couldnt ever speak again, and he deleted his myspace.
In May when we broke up for a month, this guy suddenly reappeared, had "just" created a facebook, and was reaching out.
We got back together, but my ex kept hanging out with the guy. I told him how much I didn't trust this guy and his intentions, but my ex kept insisting they were just friends.
I then would find out over and over that my ex lied about them seeing each other. He would tell me he just stayed home, while instead he would go out to dinner with him, or nightclubs.
He would be telling stories to friends and coworkers about his hikes, which he told me he went with coworkers, id find out he infact went with this guy.
I never trusted him, and now it seems my distrust was entirely justified.
Well that sucks. But in a way I'm sure that knowing this will help you with getting over him. It was inevitable that you learned about your ex dating someone at some point, at least now you do.
Also, don't place the blame solely on the homewrecker. If your ex went with it he's as much to blame as the other guy, if not more.
You look better than ever, you seem to be getting your life back on track. Be proud of that. Learning your ex dates that guy sure stings a bit, but I'm confident you'll manage to handle that.
SecretMoblin
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SpaceBridge
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That sucks, really. But seems like your mistrust should be laid at the feet of your ex and not necessarily the homewrecker. That being said, your better off now, and you know that. If you ex wants to be with the homewreckers, there's nothing you can do to prevent that. Its noble that you can still maintain a bond with your ex (seems like you do). But the same way you cant control your ex's decisions, dont allow his actions to control you. You've done nothing wrong, and there's no need to measure yourself up to your ex. Sure it hurts, i get it, but it doesn't make you weak, it makes you a dude with a big heart. (and a great smile). Take your time, and do what make you feel right and happy, if that means still looking for a new LTR or being single...well, nothing wrong with that.
Sorry for all the spelling and grammar mistake. Just woke up and haven't had my cofee yet.
I know how you feel. The first guy that my ex went out with after we broke up was a guy he and I got into several fights about at the beginning of our relationship because he wouldn't stop flirting with my guy, and my guy didn't see a problem with it. Even though we had already broken up it still felt like a punch to the gut, and made me feel like a fool for ever trusting him in our relationship.
But Alcoori's right. It was bound to happen sooner or later, and knowing that your ex is moving on can serve as extra motivation to help you do the same.
And don't put too much blame on the other guy. Some people just can't help being thirsty hoes...and if that's your man's new taste in guys, be glad you're no longer with him. Gotta find the silver lining and focus on it.
I've avoided this thread for a while but I'll belatedly say this made me laugh out loud.
SpaceBridge
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I like that, I have felt that I am weak when I have broken down and tried to communicate, or see whats going on (but I havent gone the whole way through with it)
3 and a half years, its only been 3ish months. Its been hard.
Thank you for all your kind words.
Another one: speech therapist. 90% of them are women but the majority of the men are gay.
Are most psychologists (not psychiatrists) gay too?
SpaceBridge
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No, theyre just crazy.
SpaceBridge
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Wouldn't that mean yes?
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Architects ?
They say it takes half as long as your relationship to get over someone, in my case it proved true. It took me a year to be truly OK with it, be able to maintain a friendship with my ex and be OK for us to talk about our dating lives to each other.
Congressional staffers.
I can say this with authority: Librarians.
Really? I'll have to go more often to the library then!
Massage Therapists
Hot Dog Vendors.
SpaceBridge
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LOL. Well we certainly like to put hotdogs inside buns.
I rarely see male librarians here, but I can see some of those ladies being lesbians.
Models
Artists
Cosmic Bus
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Definitely a misconception.
Well this is just based on personal experience, all the models I met are either gay or bi.
krypt0nian
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HappyPuppy
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. Wanted to say hi gaygaf, been lurking a lot.
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