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TheWiicast said:
My partner and I just did christmas (we're both working saturday). I got him a bunch of Blu-Rays and a John Deer cap and he got me the Mario 25th anniversary edition red Wii and a food processor :D I made hummus!

What'd you guys get four dudes?
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I only got one dude.

:p

No I didn't. :(
 
MaximumX2 said:
I really miss not having our mega thread. :(

Anyways, I'm glad to see so many of you guys are doing good. So do you guys remember the guy I told you I was seeing (we were friends with benefits at first)? Well, shortly after that we became boyfriends. We've now been together for 4 months and I told him I love him the other day, and he said he loves me too. It's interesting because I wasn't really looking for anything like this. It kind of just happened, and now I'm glad it did. It has certainly been a crazy year for me. One year ago I was heavily closeted (not out to anyone, not even you guys) and single, and now I'm out to everyone and am in love. Crazy shit. :lol
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that's awesome!! :)

TheWiicast said:
My partner and I just did christmas (we're both working saturday). I got him a bunch of Blu-Rays and a John Deer cap and he got me the Mario 25th anniversary edition red Wii and a food processor :D I made hummus!

What'd you guys get four dudes?
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my bf and i are both poor so we decided to just not get each other gifts and to plan a nice getaway either in early jan or in feb during our reading week break. really stoked! there's honestly nothing i really want at the moment. all the cool games come out in 2011 ha.
 
Coming out to my mother this weekend. Also letting her know I've been seeing a 37 year old for three weeks. Should be interesting.

I know she'll do the whole, "he's what? No, oh my god, that's... what? No!" thing, but I don't care. He's really amazing, and doesn't look or act 37. When I found out how old he was my jaw dropped. I refused to believe him. Still, even after him telling about how his 20 year high school reunion is next year, and he how graduated college when I started middle school, I realize we have this 13 year age gap, but I don't see him as a 37 year old. I can't. He's just... him. He's a special little catch :3

I am, however, fucking terrified of introducing the two of them. I know they'll get along and all, but I just know it'll be awkward.
 
eh, that's not so bad. it's just a one generation difference and if you don't see him as his age, there's no problem

at this point, if you like him, who cares what mom thinks?
 
TheWiicast said:
My partner and I just did christmas (we're both working saturday). I got him a bunch of Blu-Rays and a John Deer cap and he got me the Mario 25th anniversary edition red Wii and a food processor :D I made hummus!

What'd you guys get four dudes?
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My BF bought me a 2TB external hard drive because I was running out of space on my desktop, and I bought him two David Sedaris books since he just recently heard Santaland Diaries and wanted more of him! :D I feel like I should get him a little something else but I haven't been able to think of anything.
 
okno said:
Coming out to my mother this weekend. Also letting her know I've been seeing a 37 year old for three weeks. Should be interesting.

I know she'll do the whole, "he's what? No, oh my god, that's... what? No!" thing, but I don't care. He's really amazing, and doesn't look or act 37. When I found out how old he was my jaw dropped. I refused to believe him. Still, even after him telling about how his 20 year high school reunion is next year, and he how graduated college when I started middle school, I realize we have this 13 year age gap, but I don't see him as a 37 year old. I can't. He's just... him. He's a special little catch :3

I am, however, fucking terrified of introducing the two of them. I know they'll get along and all, but I just know it'll be awkward.
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There's 12 years between my partner an I. He's the same age as my oldest brother so that was kind of a buffer.

My parents were a little freaked out but they got to know him and they love him now.
 
I'm in a pretty weird "relationship" right now.

I met this totally amazing guy about one and half year ago. We seemed to have great chemistry together, became good friends really fast and it developed into a relationship during last christmas. It only lasted about one or two months though since he said it just wasn't going to work because he wasn't feeling "it". I was crushed because I was really starting fall in love with him.

Even though he broke up with me, we still continued our friendship. Eventually it got deeper and deeper (we watched movies together, had long discussion, went to parties together, etc) but I didn't want to get my hopes up since he had already dumped me once. But last week he suddenly called me at night if he could come over to my place because he was feeling super lonely and stuff. We then had two pretty great nights and apparently he wants to start dating me again.

Of course I'm all for it but at the same time it all feels like a deja vu from last christmas. I don't want to get my hopes too high and then get them crushed again. We're in different cities during the holidays so we'll see how it develops after that.
 
fernoca said:
So jealous proud of you guys with boyfriends and relationships and gifts and stuff. :p
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Same, except more emphasis on the jealous part :P

I have nothing even approaching a bf. I haven't even kissed a guy since last Christmas :(
 
Just had my first sexual experience with a man yesterday, it was awesome for the most part. I bottomed, didn't hurt too much at first, I kind of enjoyed it, but it was sore today. Anyone got any tips to help make bottoming a little less... painful? Or is it normal for the first time?
 
DR2K said:
Just had my first sexual experience with a man yesterday, it was awesome for the most part. I bottomed, didn't hurt too much at first, I kind of enjoyed it, but it was sore today. Anyone got any tips to help make bottoming a little less... painful? Or is it normal for the first time?
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Normal for the first time, hurts less subsequent penetrations.
 
DR2K said:
Just had my first sexual experience with a man yesterday, it was awesome for the most part. I bottomed, didn't hurt too much at first, I kind of enjoyed it, but it was sore today. Anyone got any tips to help make bottoming a little less... painful? Or is it normal for the first time?
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just be very slow at the start of it and use enough lube ;) it shouldn't hurt ever if done with care.
 
fernoca said:
So jealous proud of you guys with boyfriends and relationships and gifts and stuff. :p
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I fall in the jealous part of it. Still alone for Christmas. My family and some of my friends wants me to come over, but I'm not. I am alone, i feel alone and now i just rather be alone. Tired of family and friends that announced they are either engaged, got married, had a baby, or just dating someone whereas I am always alone.
 
_Isaac said:
So you're alone, and if you go with friends and/or family you'll feel more alone?
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More or less of it is that I do not want to listen about other people's relationship on Christmas.
 
neojubei said:
Jumping out of this thread, its too depressing reading about relationships
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you should join the GayGAF Skype (text) chat, always a couple folks on to keep you company if you need it. :)
 
DR2K said:
Just had my first sexual experience with a man yesterday, it was awesome for the most part. I bottomed, didn't hurt too much at first, I kind of enjoyed it, but it was sore today. Anyone got any tips to help make bottoming a little less... painful? Or is it normal for the first time?
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I think it varies based on the individual(s). For me it took at least a month before it was enjoyable to the point that I actually wanted it or he could reliably finish that way.
 
ZephyrFate said:
See, as much as I hate being single, my standards for dudes are still very intact and I would take a relationship very, very slowly to feel out the right guy. I would NOT leap into one just to be in one.
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You just spoke my mind right there.

Happy Holidays, Gay-GAF!
 
xelios said:
I think it varies based on the individual(s). For me it took at least a month before it was enjoyable to the point that I actually wanted it or he could reliably finish that way.
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I was in between being torn in half to feeling really good. It took a whole month for it to feel good for you? Well thankfully you're persistent.
 
okno said:
Coming out to my mother this weekend. Also letting her know I've been seeing a 37 year old for three weeks. Should be interesting.

I know she'll do the whole, "he's what? No, oh my god, that's... what? No!" thing, but I don't care. He's really amazing, and doesn't look or act 37. When I found out how old he was my jaw dropped. I refused to believe him. Still, even after him telling about how his 20 year high school reunion is next year, and he how graduated college when I started middle school, I realize we have this 13 year age gap, but I don't see him as a 37 year old. I can't. He's just... him. He's a special little catch :3

I am, however, fucking terrified of introducing the two of them. I know they'll get along and all, but I just know it'll be awkward.
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My partner of 14+ years is 12 years my senior and it works out great.

It helps that's he is a big kid too!
 
krypt0nian said:
My partner of 14+ years is 12 years my senior and it works out great.

It helps that's he is a big kid too!
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It makes me feel better to hear you and The Wiicast say that :3 I have absolutely no problems with it, he's definitely a 30-something in a 37 year old body. My mom is just very old school (born and raised in Iceland, so she's a bit of a "liberal conservative"). She'll just have to get used to it :P

On the topic of anal: how do you stop that urgent pee feeling? I get that in certain positions and it's reeeeally uncomfortable.

Merry Christmas, everyone :3 Y'all are fab people, really.
 
DR2K said:
I was in between being torn in half to feeling really good. It took a whole month for it to feel good for you? Well thankfully you're persistent.
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Pretty much. Initially it was just being in love and wanting to please him that made it happen. It was pretty uncomfortable to say the least. Fortunately I got used to it or learned how to relax. Then it started feeling amazing.
 
Winding down from an amazing Christmas with Chicagoboy and my families. Went down to my parents house and hung out with them. It appears that my dad has gotten over his weirdness over me being gay, and was absolutely fantastic this year. He was diagnosed with malt lymphoma this year, so I think that sort of put his life in perspective, too. Anyway, it was so nice to see my dad and Chicagoboy sitting down and having a good conversation.

Then, we went to Andy's family's house for their Christmas. Suffice to say, he has a very large family. On top of that, the already 80+ family members added another SEVEN children this year to the fold, so his parent's house was filled to the brim with people and babies. Overall though it was very fun.. just also very exhausting.

Now, just to wait until tomorrow to play WoW: Cataclysm...
 
Is it tacky/bad to ask a guy out while he is working? Today I decided to brave the snow and drove to old navy to check out some of the sales, don't judge me and the place was a mess. I kept checking out one of the sales clerks, he was really hot, he had on a tight shirt, he was a little chubby so you can see his nipples and tight jeans with a really nice rear end. I think he may have been Latino, he had glasses on but i could see his beautiful eyes as i asked him where the thermals were located. Of course the soccer mom vultures destroyed the store and took everything, so the clerk didn't find any. I left the store regretting that I didn't ask him out.
 
neojubei said:
Is it tacky/bad to ask a guy out while he is working? Today I decided to brave the snow and drove to old navy to check out some of the sales, don't judge me and the place was a mess. I kept checking out one of the sales clerks, he was really hot, he had on a tight shirt, he was a little chubby so you can see his nipples and tight jeans with a really nice rear end. I think he may have been Latino, he had glasses on but i could see his beautiful eyes as i asked him where the thermals were located. Of course the soccer mom vultures destroyed the store and took everything, so the clerk didn't find any. I left the store regretting that I didn't ask him out.
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So you think he's gay?
 
So a friend of mine met a guy on Friday. Today, he makes a post on Facebook about how he has 'The most beautiful boyfriend in the world.' While, yes, I am happy he met what seems like a nice guy, doesn't it seem a bit soon?

I just know that if I say anything, he'll get defensive about it. Not to sound pessimistic for him, as I certainly don't know the future, but given his past escapades there will be a post in two to three weeks time saying something to the effect of, "Oh, woe is me, I are the singles again."

I want him to be happy, but I also really want him to be realistic about this so he's smart, rather than getting hurt and turning bitter. *sigh*
 
Just passing by to say hello and leave you with one of my favorite quotes. I used to have it written in a little paper in my wallet and read it every time I felt a little down. Hope some of you find it useful!

“After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, and you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning and company doesn’t mean security, and you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises, and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child, and you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans. After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure… that you really are strong, and you really do have worth.” ~Veronica A. Shoffstall
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IDK if this is the thread for this, but its kinda a relationship? All my friends are club kids or rather have become club kids. I feel left out because all they do is party and drink and do drugs and sleep around. Im very conservative about that sort of stuff and usually find myself siting at home as I feel life passing me by. They recently all have come to find boyfriends as well. IDK I just feel like if i found some friends that had the same interests I do that it would be easier to find a bf, but the only gay people around(Las Vegas) seems to be vapid queens that are more concerned about style over substance. It doesnt help that im not very good at meeting people and making friends(havent made a new friends since high school, im 23)

/end rant
 
you may not like doing drugs, and you don't have to do them, but it's not a bad thing to go out and party every now and then

see why they like it so much?
 
ZephyrFate said:
see why they like it so much?
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No, not really.

</Misanthropy me>

I've got a party with a few people I know from high-school possibly this New Years Eve. But I'm not sure if I'll go. I may lie and just say I have other plans elsewhere. Mostly because:

-I'm "deaf" and generally my disability is a huge stumbling block for people.
-I don't like talking in general, so it's hard for me to conversate.
-I don't know what the hell I'd do other than sit there and look pretty while eating and drinking beer with a few classmates that I talked to at lunch.

*shrug*

and usually find myself siting at home as I feel life passing me by.
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I feel similar and am the same age as you. The only thing I can say is go out and do things. Unfortunately for me, I just feel out of place and just as empty inside as I do sitting at home. Depression (for me) is a bitch.

You may not like partying, but doing it once in a while/couple of months doesn't hurt. You don't need to do drugs or drink. But sitting around with people can't hurt to break the monotony.
 
your misanthropy has blinded you from the fact that meeting people at parties is like a huge chunk of where social interaction comes from in the modern age
 
TheSeks said:
You may not like partying, but doing it once in a while/couple of months doesn't hurt. You don't need to do drugs or drink. But sitting around with people can't hurt to break the monotony.
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Agreed. I force myself to go out someplace, either alone or (on a rare occasion) with some girls from work, now and then because simply being around other people for a bit is healthy and beneficial to your psyche. I don't go out looking for a date or to hook-up, nor do I want to get drunk; those times are just to remind me that there is life outside of my closed-up world.
 
ZephyrFate said:
your misanthropy has blinded you from the fact that meeting people at parties is like a huge chunk of where social interaction comes from in the modern age
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If that's the case, I feel really bad about the age we live in. :/

Cosmic Bus said:
I don't go out looking for a date or to hook-up, nor do I want to get drunk; those times are just to remind me that there is life outside of my closed-up world.
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It isn't that reason for me: I go for the free food and beer, really.
 
alternade said:
IDK if this is the thread for this, but its kinda a relationship? All my friends are club kids or rather have become club kids. I feel left out because all they do is party and drink and do drugs and sleep around. Im very conservative about that sort of stuff and usually find myself siting at home as I feel life passing me by. They recently all have come to find boyfriends as well. IDK I just feel like if i found some friends that had the same interests I do that it would be easier to find a bf, but the only gay people around(Las Vegas) seems to be vapid queens that are more concerned about style over substance. It doesnt help that im not very good at meeting people and making friends(havent made a new friends since high school, im 23)

/end rant
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How old are you/they? You're probably young and it's a phase. A lot of people go through that phase and it can seem troubling because it all happens so fast. Keep an eye on them, but don't go preaching to them your dissatisfaction.

Still, I understand your concern. Make your worries known, but don't be miserable around them (to the best of your ability). They'll grow out of it soon enough.
 
ZephyrFate said:
Why? Parties are fun!
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Because going to clubs week after week just doesn't sound appealing to me. There is many other ways to meet people. But it seems like doing the dancing, drinking, and one-night stand thing is what people want. Sad, really.

But that probably is just because I'm not a people person. *shrug*
 
My partner and I were visiting family for the holidays. We both had a flight back home right after my extended family's Christmas party, and since the party is near the airport, my partner comes along. My immediate family knows about me and him, but my extended family does not and I don't want them to because they are very conservative judgmental people whom I only see once a year.

Anyway, at the party we tell everyone my partner is my roommate and everyone is nice to him and everything goes smoothly. At the end of the party, a 93 year old relative who is sharp, sweet, and very energetic for her age approaches me and my partner. She gives him a huge hug and says, "Welcome to the HUUUUGE family!" She then approaches me and grabs my shoulders and says, "Are you happy?" I tell her yes. She then appraches my partner, grabs his shoulders and says, "And are you happy?" He says yes, she says, "GOOD!" and walks away.

DOES SHE KNOW?!!? :lol
 
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