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[Replicant]

LOL, you and your public transportation crushes.

I know rite? I think it's a joke now. I feel like a cat who sees a fish being dangled in front of him. I can see it but I can't touch it.

And Radiohead, I've been there (many times actually) and it sucks. The sooner you can forget him the better it'd be for you.

 

[red13th]

*sigh* I just saw a perfect guy on a bus. Again. Imagine him having the body of Chris Evans but his face is more masculine/not as baby-faced as Evans.

I stood next to him without even having the guts to look at him directly. Oh well, it's not like I have a chance with him. He's probably straight and wore that tight-fitting white shirt to impress the ladies on the bus. But damn it, those were the best 20 or so minute bus ride I've experienced. /yeahiknowimpathetic

It happens to me all the fucking time.
Yesterday I saw a guy who looked just like Alcide from True Blood except shorter, with light brown hair and green eyes. It was like meeting Joe Manganiello's younger brother of northern Italy descent (instead of Sicilian descent, I figure he's Sicilian with that name and those looks). Same hair, same beard, similar face, huge pecs/arms/thighs/etc. I wanted to do bad things to him

 

[ciD_Vain]

It happens to me all the fucking time.
Yesterday I saw a guy who looked just like Alcide from True Blood except shorter, with light brown hair and green eyes. It was like meeting Joe Manganiello's younger brother of northern Italy descent (instead of Sicilian descent, I figure he's Sicilian with that name and those looks). Same hair, same beard, similar face, huge pecs/arms/thighs/etc. I wanted to do bad things to him

I see what you did there; i love that song!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vxINMuOgAu8

 

[Koomaster]

Gay guys need to stop falling in love with straight guys.

We can't help who we love!!! ^____^;;;

But yes it sucks, and is unfortunately one of the reasons why I try not to befriend straight guys to start with. I still find myself in these situations somehow tho. <___<;;

 

[ZephyrFate]

Gay guys need to stop falling in love with straight guys.

That won't end anytime soon.

 

[Cosmic Bus]

Gay guys need to stop falling in love with straight guys.

Egodystonicity. Lack or rejection of homosexual identity. Poor frame of mind. Issues of esteem and self acceptance. Stress over being pigeonholed/stereotyped, etc.

Playing armchair psychiatrist for a second, I'd wager it's the ease of observing and silently longing that's a hell of a lot more appealing than the concept of rejection (or even a latent fear of violence) involved with simply broaching the subject with these guys. I swear that three-quarters of the problems I see discussed here and elsewhere could be solved or bypassed entirely if people would just open their mouths and say something.

 

[ZephyrFate]

Egodystonicity. Lack or rejection of homosexual identity. Poor frame of mind. Issues of esteem and self acceptance. Stress over being pigeonholed/stereotyped, etc.

Playing armchair psychiatrist for a second, I'd wager it's the ease of observing and silently longing that's a hell of a lot more appealing than the concept of rejection (or even a latent fear of violence) involved with simply broaching the subject with these guys. I swear that three-quarters of the problems I see discussed here and elsewhere could be solved or bypassed entirely if people would just open their mouths and say something.

Can you really pigeonhole being attracted to straight guys as any of these negative issues? Some guys just like straight guys.

 

[hateradio]

Also, if you only hang around straight guys, it is probably more likely to happen.

Can you really pigeonhole being attracted to straight guys as any of these negative issues? Some guys just like straight guys.

Why would a gay guy only like straight guys? That sounds completely counter intuitive.

 

[Sagitario]

Well, I don't know about you guys, but the moment there is no doubt about a guy being straight... I just stop thinking about him. It's like magic , I mean... why would I waste time and energy thinking about something that's never going to happen?

I guess that's why I have only had 2 crushes on my whole life.

Not initially no, but if I became friends with him (I'm not too particular about what my friends look like...) and was single it's possible I could fall for him depending on how he made me feel when I was around him.

I have problems looking in the mirror as well btw.

I have to say, probably not, and it makes me feel like a terrible person. It's hard to remember that no one really gets to choose how their face looks.

Thanks for the response, guys!

 

[Cosmic Bus]

Can you really pigeonhole being attracted to straight guys as any of these negative issues? Some guys just like straight guys.

Aspects of one or more of those things, yes, it's quite likely.

You could also say some people, I dunno... let's say they just like punching themselves in the face, but there's a very high probability that any such behavior is tied to a deeper issue and doesn't continue to occur "just 'cuz."

 

[dragonlife]

I swear that three-quarters of the problems I see discussed here and elsewhere could be solved or bypassed entirely if people would just open their mouths and say something.

I do all the time. It feels great!

 

[Prez]

Gay guys need to stop falling in love with straight guys.

That's the same as saying you should stop falling in love with people who have blond hair, or blue eyes. Or telling a bisexual person to stop falling in love with women.

You don't get to choose who you fall in love with unfortunately.

 

[ZephyrFate]

Also, if you only hang around straight guys, it is probably more likely to happen.


Why would a gay guy only like straight guys? That sounds completely counter intuitive.

Perhaps whatever they see in straight men they haven't found yet in gay men? I dunno. I fall for straight guys because I tend to have more in common with them (particularly in the area of sports, I cannot talk to any of you about college football and I hate that).

 

[Prez]

Perhaps whatever they see in straight men they haven't found yet in gay men? I dunno. I fall for straight guys because I tend to have more in common with them (particularly in the area of sports, I cannot talk to any of you about college football and I hate that).

I know the feeling. I've been to plenty of gay bars and the likes and the only person I could have a conversation with was the doorman.

 

[Phonomezer]

*sigh* I just saw a perfect guy on a bus. Again. Imagine him having the body of Chris Evans but his face is more masculine/not as baby-faced as Evans.

I stood next to him without even having the guts to look at him directly. Oh well, it's not like I have a chance with him. He's probably straight and wore that tight-fitting white shirt to impress the ladies on the bus. But damn it, those were the best 20 or so minute bus ride I've experienced. /yeahiknowimpathetic

lol, who cares if he is straight or gay or whatever, as long as you get to cop an eyefull it's okay

I had a hot, tall, dark South American guy who I used to eye on the bus every morning for about a year... I have no clue as to what he was into, but he used to look at me all the time too. Whenever I took my jacket off (made a show of it like a fucking peacock) he would stretch out and sit with his back to the window and look at me.

Maybe I should of said something but meh, I'm really not the gushing/relationship kind of guy, I was just enjoying the view

 

[ZephyrFate]

I know the feeling. I've been to plenty of gay bars and the likes and the only person I could have a conversation with was the doorman.

Solution: More gay men need to play sports or be invested in sports. I'm talking beer drinking, screaming at the TV, and then raunchy gay sex afterward.

 

[Phonomezer]

Solution: More gay men need to play sports or be invested in sports. I'm talking beer drinking, screaming at the TV, and then raunchy gay sex afterward.

The 2014 Gay Games is in Ohio, US. You should go

 

[Prez]

Solution: More gay men need to play sports or be invested in sports. I'm talking beer drinking, screaming at the TV, and then raunchy gay sex afterward.

Sorry dude, I don't care about sports (maybe because everyone only talks about sissy soccer).

I love music and I haven't met a single gay guy who I can talk with in that area. Plenty of straight guys though. And it's not just music, it's just that 90% of gay men are so horribly superficial.

 

[ZephyrFate]

The 2014 Gay Games is in Ohio, US. You should go

what is this goodness

omg

FUCK YES

 

[Prez]

Zephyr, you remind me of this guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D25kiWMDv0w

 

[ZephyrFate]

That clip is fantastic.

 

[Phonomezer]

Zephyr, you remind me of this guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D25kiWMDv0w

YEAH!

"He's getting your wife!"

"Then let the punishment fit the crime!"

I love Married with Children.

 

[hateradio]

I do all the time. It feels great!

You open your mouth for anything that moves.

Well, I don't know about you guys, but the moment there is no doubt about a guy being straight... I just stop thinking about him. It's like magic , I mean... why would I waste time and energy thinking about something that's never going to happen?

I guess that's why I have only had 2 crushes on my whole life.

But wasn't one of them straight?

 

[Escape Goat]

I love my PS3. I've been trying to get it so I can connect my media library through my network but I can't get it to work. Bah.

God of War 3 is

I picked up a HDMI cable to replace the RCA cable and it was sex on the screen. How did we get by back in the day? MGS4 is amazing as well. Mixing up stealth and action seemlessly like never before. Meryl, Otacon, Campbell...the gang is back! I even have a mini Metal Gear following me around! Sometimes, I catch myself trying to do the Raiden spin-cartwheel but Snake is too old for that shit

 

[ZephyrFate]

MGS4 is amazing until its plot becomes ridiculous and stupid. Kojima has proven he can't write to save his life.

 

[Escape Goat]

MGS4 is amazing until its plot becomes ridiculous and stupid. Kojima has proven he can't write to save his life.

It wouldn't be a Metal Gear without a convoluted plot.

 

[Granger Danger]

Solution: More gay men need to play sports or be invested in sports. I'm talking beer drinking, screaming at the TV, and then raunchy gay sex afterward.

 

[Kyon]

I love my PS3. I've been trying to get it so I can connect my media library through my network but I can't get it to work. Bah.

God of War 3 is

I picked up a HDMI cable to replace the RCA cable and it was sex on the screen. How did we get by back in the day? MGS4 is amazing as well. Mixing up stealth and action seemlessly like never before. Meryl, Otacon, Campbell...the gang is back! I even have a mini Metal Gear following me around! Sometimes, I catch myself trying to do the Raiden spin-cartwheel but Snake is too old for that shit

this should be you and me tbh

 

[dragonlife]

You open your mouth for anything that moves.

Within reason, yeah.

 

[ZephyrFate]

[IMGhttp://i.imgur.com/uP80z.jpg[/IMG]

No wonder I love Blaine.

 

[Dr. Malik]

I love my PS3. I've been trying to get it so I can connect my media library through my network but I can't get it to work. Bah.

Try PS3 Media Server

 

[xelios]

Never wasted my time on a straight guy. Always thought, "He's cute/sweet," then get over it.

If your ultimate goal is to not be alone you'll have to learn eventually. Straight guys only go for gay guys in deviantART fantasies.

 

[Sagitario]

You open your mouth for anything that moves.


But wasn't one of them straight?

Yes... and he was also my first one, during a... rather conflicting phase of my life. It never happened again and the second crush came years after that one.

xelios, that's what I do too: "He is cute/handsome/nice/kind/etc... and straight, well, at least it was free eye candy"

 

[Phonomezer]

deviantART fantasies.

*shudder*

I've never encountered a DA member who wasn't UNHINGED.

 

[Archurro]

Hey Gaygaf, I'm a lurker here, and I was hoping to get some help. This should probably be in the Coming out thread, but since this one is more active I'm posting here. Let me start by saying I finished HS and am moving into college this week halfway across the country from where I am. I've had two major crushed/loves or whatever you call it, and they've both been dudes. Now I internally identify myself as gay, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't have sex/date a chick. I'd say its somewhere between a 60-40 to 80-20 split. The main trouble is I'm not sure how to present myself to new people in the upcoming weeks. I still have some feelings for my last major crush, him being 1 year younger than me and still in high school as we keep semi-rare contact on FB chat, and subconsciously(and part consciously) I cling onto hoping he likes me back, as I don't know his sexual orientation. I want to move on and possibly date someone I meet in college, but I don't want to blatantly present myself as gay, and I don't want to "come out" on some social networking site or anywhere else where some commotion would happen. I don't know, I'm just ranting at this point. Maybe I'm just over-analyzing this? Should I take some drastic step or should I just put this away for now and get used to college life?

TL;DR - Going to college, wants to date dudes, doesn't want to "come out". What do?

 

[Sagitario]

Hey Gaygaf, I'm a lurker here, and I was hoping to get some help. This should probably be in the Coming out thread, but since this one is more active I'm posting here. Let me start by saying I finished HS and am moving into college this week halfway across the country from where I am. I've had two major crushed/loves or whatever you call it, and they've both been dudes. Now I internally identify myself as gay, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't have sex/date a chick. I'd say its somewhere between a 60-40 to 80-20 split. The main trouble is I'm not sure how to present myself to new people in the upcoming weeks. I still have some feelings for my last major crush, him being 1 year younger than me and still in high school as we keep semi-rare contact on FB chat, and subconsciously(and part consciously) I cling onto hoping he likes me back, as I don't know his sexual orientation. I want to move on and possibly date someone I meet in college, but I don't want to blatantly present myself as gay, and I don't want to "come out" on some social networking site or anywhere else where some commotion would happen. I don't know, I'm just ranting at this point. Maybe I'm just over-analyzing this? Should I take some drastic step or should I just put this away for now and get used to college life?

TL;DR - Going to college, wants to date dudes, doesn't want to "come out". What do?

First, welcome! Hopefully, some good advice will come from people here, they're really good [sometimes... ], unfortunately I have none

Second, are you hate of radio's secret Churro friend? If not, he's going to LOVE your nick and avatar

 

[dragonlife]

Second, are you hate of radio's secret Churro friend? If not, he's going to LOVE your nick and avatar

That's what I thought, too. I guess this "Churro" person he keeps bringing up is not an imaginary friend after all.

Also, Archurro, what's stopping you from coming out? Just wondering. Where would the "commotion" come from?

 

[Sagitario]

That's what I thought, too. I guess he's not an imaginary friend after all.

I am SO glad hate is not really crazy!

 

[ZephyrFate]

Hey Gaygaf, I'm a lurker here, and I was hoping to get some help. This should probably be in the Coming out thread, but since this one is more active I'm posting here. Let me start by saying I finished HS and am moving into college this week halfway across the country from where I am. I've had two major crushed/loves or whatever you call it, and they've both been dudes. Now I internally identify myself as gay, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't have sex/date a chick. I'd say its somewhere between a 60-40 to 80-20 split. The main trouble is I'm not sure how to present myself to new people in the upcoming weeks. I still have some feelings for my last major crush, him being 1 year younger than me and still in high school as we keep semi-rare contact on FB chat, and subconsciously(and part consciously) I cling onto hoping he likes me back, as I don't know his sexual orientation. I want to move on and possibly date someone I meet in college, but I don't want to blatantly present myself as gay, and I don't want to "come out" on some social networking site or anywhere else where some commotion would happen. I don't know, I'm just ranting at this point. Maybe I'm just over-analyzing this? Should I take some drastic step or should I just put this away for now and get used to college life?

TL;DR - Going to college, wants to date dudes, doesn't want to "come out". What do?

Come out. It really is the biggest barrier to having any fun with the same sex.

 

[Archurro]

First, welcome! Hopefully, some good advice will come from people here, they're really good [sometimes... ], unfortunately I have none

Second, are you hate of radio's secret Churro friend? If not, he's going to LOVE your nick and avatar

Wat?

Also, Archurro, what's stopping you from coming out? Just wondering. Where would the "commotion" come from?

I'm sort of a shy guy in general, and announcing that type of thing to everyone I see or know just isn't me. Also, I hope this doesn't seem shallow, but I don't want people perceiving me differently as almost everyone in my life thinks I'm straight.

 

[Koomaster]

1. Check if your college has an LGBT student organization of some kind.
2. Attend meeting
3. ???
4. Out of the closet

You don't have to wear the word 'Gay' on your shirt while walking around campus or anything. But get to know members of the campus lgbt community and have fun. It won't prevent you from meeting girls as well should you want to date in that area.

 

[ZephyrFate]

El Shaddai: Ascension of the Metatron is probably the most gorgeous game of this gen.

By far.

 

[SpaceBridge]

Hey Gaygaf, I'm a lurker here, and I was hoping to get some help. This should probably be in the Coming out thread, but since this one is more active I'm posting here. Let me start by saying I finished HS and am moving into college this week halfway across the country from where I am. I've had two major crushed/loves or whatever you call it, and they've both been dudes. Now I internally identify myself as gay, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't have sex/date a chick. I'd say its somewhere between a 60-40 to 80-20 split. The main trouble is I'm not sure how to present myself to new people in the upcoming weeks. I still have some feelings for my last major crush, him being 1 year younger than me and still in high school as we keep semi-rare contact on FB chat, and subconsciously(and part consciously) I cling onto hoping he likes me back, as I don't know his sexual orientation. I want to move on and possibly date someone I meet in college, but I don't want to blatantly present myself as gay, and I don't want to "come out" on some social networking site or anywhere else where some commotion would happen. I don't know, I'm just ranting at this point. Maybe I'm just over-analyzing this? Should I take some drastic step or should I just put this away for now and get used to college life?

TL;DR - Going to college, wants to date dudes, doesn't want to "come out". What do?

One thing you can do is not pretend where possible your "straightness". You dont need to go around and advertise your gayness, but like if your with some friends, and you see a cute guy, you can be like, "Oh, he's cute", as opposed to keeping quiet and internalizing your feelings.

I came out when I went to University, so its probably the best time to.

 

[<+)O Robido O(+>]

Wat?



I'm sort of a shy guy in general, and announcing that type of thing to everyone I see or know just isn't me. Also, I hope this doesn't seem shallow, but I don't want people perceiving me differently as almost everyone in my life thinks I'm straight.

I don't think people do that.

 

[Granger Danger]

I wish I knew, found in on Tumblr quite randomly

I did some sleuthing, it turns out it is called Skins and apparently stuff like this happens in it:

... *adds to watchlist*

 

[dragonlife]

I'm sort of a shy guy in general, and announcing that type of thing to everyone I see or know just isn't me. Also, I hope this doesn't seem shallow, but I don't want people perceiving me differently as almost everyone in my life thinks I'm straight.

It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal, honestly.

 

[anaron]

The first boy I fell in love with, and the only person I've had such strong feelings for is moving away for a new job in a few days. I've barely spoken or seen him and I tried talking to him the other night. I told him I wanted to hang out before he leaves because there's a good chance I may not see him for years, and it seems that whenever there's a chance for us to do so, nothing happens. He told me we'll hang out before he leaves, but I'm doubtful. I don't think I'm as in love with him as I once was, but I still love him a lot.

I hate that I love him.

This is an eerily similar - nearly identical - situation for me right now too. I feel for ya.

 

[_Isaac]

Wat?

I'm sort of a shy guy in general, and announcing that type of thing to everyone I see or know just isn't me. Also, I hope this doesn't seem shallow, but I don't want people perceiving me differently as almost everyone in my life thinks I'm straight.

I'm still not sure what commotion you're fearing. You're moving away from home, so you don't have to worry about telling your parents. Commotion usually comes from parents, and that's not really an issue here. Unless you're going to a really conservative religious school then I really don't think anybody has a problem with you being bi. People really don't care nowadays, so there's minimal chance of a commotion. All of my peers that know pretty much just said "coo" and moved on. People WILL perceive you somewhat differently because they'll know you like guys, but that doesn't mean they'll treat you differently. It's no biggie though. Even if they do treat you differently, that's okay too as long as they're not cruel. Sometimes, other guys just like to joke about it a bit in a friendly manner.

I also think koomaster's idea is pretty good. You should check to see if there's some LGBT group on campus and attend a meeting. You might meet some nice guys and gals that wouldn't be bothered by bi people.

Oh and welcome!

 

[Dr. Malik]

Wat?



I'm sort of a shy guy in general, and announcing that type of thing to everyone I see or know just isn't me. Also, I hope this doesn't seem shallow, but I don't want people perceiving me differently as almost everyone in my life thinks I'm straight.

The faster you embrace this the easier it will be, most people will just be like 'ok, so?'

 

[Zoibie]

Wat?



I'm sort of a shy guy in general, and announcing that type of thing to everyone I see or know just isn't me. Also, I hope this doesn't seem shallow, but I don't want people perceiving me differently as almost everyone in my life thinks I'm straight.

I feel exactly the same, which is why the start of University in a couple of weeks seems like the perfect place to come out. One of my old friends started there last year so that'll be interesting if/when they find out, although I don't mind him knowing.

Also my first real post in GayGaf. Hi all!