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At first I misread "is" as "has" and caught myself nodding in approvalHappyPuppy said:
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dragonlife
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Copy/post some highlightsciD_Vain said:
It's unfortunate that you feel that way, because when you think about it, there are and there will be other people in your situation. You posting here about your experience might help someone else figure some stuff out. To me that's one of the best things about this thread.Exclamation-One said:
Keep us posted man, sure we might be able to help with any other stuff that crops up.
Besides, I'd say it's more like a support group at times than a clubhouse; everyone is welcome here.
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I was doing this with ruffles on a G+ hangout a while ago, it was hilarious. Some guys are just lolworthy with how they go on.dragonlife said:Copy/post some highlights
In my short lived experience with Grindr, I found that it was possible to make friends with some people. Not all guys on there are the same, but you're going to have a higher success rate on something like OkCupid.
I'm happy to say I'm taking a sabbatical from Grindr and OkCupid. I may never return to Grindr actually - it freaks me out.
Well, I actually just had a fun and long convo with a guy on Grindr. So I guess it's not a complete bust. He's actually fun, have similar interest as I do (although he doesn't game unforch), and can speak more than just "I'm horny, you hot, let's fuck". And if he's as hot as his picture suggest, I would!
Replicant said:
Well, as long as you don't log on it shouldn't matter. And even if you do, you're not upsetting anyone but not wanting to hook up right away (or at all).
I just meant that when you use Grindr, you should now that it is primarily for hooking up so don't be disappointed if barely anyone just wants to be friends.
There is a 'tool' for everything. If you want to find someone to hook up with, Grindr, Manhunt, A4A and the likes are useful and appropriate.
However if you're looking for a relationship/friends, then Plenty of Fish or Okcupid are the ones you should use.
I always shake my head at people using Grindr and complaining they can't find a boyfriend. People are just clueless and it is always a wonder to me.
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Replicant said:
Glad it worked out this time. I've met a couple of guys like that to. The last one was super cute and really easy to talk to. We went on a couple of dates but unfortunately he started seeing someone and took himself off the market. He was also leaving the city in 4 weeks so I guess in the end it's better it stopped here.
I'm not saying there aren't any decent guys on there (obviously since we use it
), but just don't get your hopes up!Also since we're in the relationship thread, I stumbled upon this video of a gay couple getting married. I'm jealous and happy for them (also love the space they had their wedding in):
http://vimeo.com/27956172
I genuinely don't think I'm built for relationships. A 'friend'* came to visit this weekend and after a couple of hours I was sick of him. It's weird, we have lots in common and it should work, but a relationship between us would end horribly. It's awkward because he sometimes acts like he wants more than a friends with benefits situation but this weekend pretty much killed the nagging doubt in my mind that maybe we could make a relationship work.
I'm probably going to die alone surrounded by my many dogs and honestly I'm ok with that.
*i.e fuckbuddy
I'm probably going to die alone surrounded by my many dogs and honestly I'm ok with that.
*i.e fuckbuddy
Lear said:
From my own humble experience I can tell you that when you'll want a relationship with someone, you'll know. I've dated a few guys and for some I've had the same feeling than you, ie I was getting along fine with them, we had lots in common but it just didn't click.
The ones I've had long relationships with (only 2 mind you), there was something more that I couldn't explain. They made me want to go the extra mile to make them happy, they were bringing me something that I wasn't finding in other people and ultimately they made me a better and happier person.
That said, it's also important to have your own "me" time when you're dating someone. Being together 24/7 is usually a recipe for disaster (but it works for some people).
sublime085
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I met a pretty awesome guy on Scruff a few weeks back. We traded numbers and texted for a while until we decided to hang out last tuesday.
He is so cool! He have a ton in common and he has a sweet beard. And he's a personal shopper at Nordstrom's (hello discount!). So believe it or not it is possible to find quality guys on the proximity based apps. I've had better luck with scruff than Grindr however.
We have hung out a bunch in the past week but tonight is our second official date. I hope it goes well, and if it does he hopefully accepts my offer to spend the night.
I haven't met a guy I liked in a while -- pretty excited!
He is so cool! He have a ton in common and he has a sweet beard. And he's a personal shopper at Nordstrom's (hello discount!). So believe it or not it is possible to find quality guys on the proximity based apps. I've had better luck with scruff than Grindr however.
We have hung out a bunch in the past week but tonight is our second official date. I hope it goes well, and if it does he hopefully accepts my offer to spend the night.
I haven't met a guy I liked in a while -- pretty excited!Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
Alright Lear: short, likes to bake, Kate Bush and Judy... If this keeps up, I'm going to start believing you're an alternate universe me.
Haha alright, some of them are hilarious and I try to be funny, but they don't seem to like my humor lol.dragonlife said:Copy/post some highlights
Him: Hey sugar
Me: Hi
Him: y dont u sprinkle some of ur sweetness on me?
Me: Um, no thanks.
Him: Hi whats up
Me: Not much, what's up with you?
Him: Laying in bed...
Me: Me too, i'm about to knock the fuck out!
Him: Oh fine then
Him: u've got a nice smile
Me: Thanks. How are you?
Him: i feel hot all over
Me: so you have a fever?
Him: my dick is hard
Me: hot all over and your dick is hard? you should probably get that checked
Him: talk dirty to me
Me: LOL i'll just leave you alone now
There were a couple decent guys i suppose.
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
Bahaha, at least they're being direct and you aren't wasting any significant amount of time trying to maintain conversation.
Only time anyone's ever openly said something so direct to me was this gross coworker who said he had just renovated his bathroom and that I should come over to try out the shower with him. -__-
Only time anyone's ever openly said something so direct to me was this gross coworker who said he had just renovated his bathroom and that I should come over to try out the shower with him. -__-
Alcoori said:Glad it worked out this time. I've met a couple of guys like that to. The last one was super cute and really easy to talk to. We went on a couple of dates but unfortunately he started seeing someone and took himself off the market. He was also leaving the city in 4 weeks so I guess in the end it's better it stopped here.
I'm not saying there aren't any decent guys on there (obviously since we use it
Yeah, he seems to be nice and normal. Although it's possible that he's just doing it to get me into the sack but if he does, he sure went about it full throttle/the roundabout way. Doing all the right moves (ie. talking properly instead of using the typical 3 lines, etc). Yeah, I'm not holding my breath that he's being serious about it but it'd be nice if I can get to know him better. Having said that, if he just wants a FWB/ONS that's okay too. I have no expectation. I spoke to him on the phone last night and his voice sounds hot so that's a plus.
As for example of Grindr creepy come-on. I had one that was so original last night that I didn't know how to respond:
Him: Hey you're hot. Are you into street gang fucks?
Me: 0_o;
Man, it's always the ones that have no picture who say weird things like this.
SpaceBridge
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Being at work with 3 hours of sleep, wrecked on caffeine, was not a feel good experience. Dont know how I did it when I was in my 20's, lol.
I went on a date with a guy last Friday. Date went fine, guy was nice and all but not really my type physically and I didn't really "click" with him. He seemed to like me a lot more than I liked him and asked me if I wanted to go out again.
Now I hate when people just don't reply instead of telling you that they're not interested so I wanted to reply to him. I was gonna tell him that I was attracted to him but that we could try and be friends but that seemed a bit too mean, so I used the fake excuse of going exclusive with a guy and as such taking oneself off of the market.
I feel dirty now, but last time I "forced" myself to go on another date with a guy I didn't feel the spark with, I had the worst sex of my life.
Now I hate when people just don't reply instead of telling you that they're not interested so I wanted to reply to him. I was gonna tell him that I was attracted to him but that we could try and be friends but that seemed a bit too mean, so I used the fake excuse of going exclusive with a guy and as such taking oneself off of the market.
I feel dirty now, but last time I "forced" myself to go on another date with a guy I didn't feel the spark with, I had the worst sex of my life.
Alcoori said:
Didn't you talk to him first before meeting him? Or you did talk to him and had a good convo with the guy but when you two met in RL, sparks just didn't happen? Or was he using a fake picture?
I'm always hesitant to meet RL because I'm wary that what's translated well online may not be so good in RL.
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If you're actively dating, you kind of need to be harsh. You don't need to throw a "I'm not attracted to you physically" bomb in someone's face (unless they REALLY can't take a hint, but most people can), but if you end up being friends with every guy you date you're not attracted to, you have a phone full of messages from guys who expect you to reply who still kinda, secretly, maybe hope you'll change your mind, and while that's not the worst problem in the world, it is super time-consuming and ultimately wasteful, for both parties. So just cut things off. It's a tad cruel, but it's the only practical option.
I'm not exactly a thing of extreme beauty myself, but man, from the limited experience I have, I have a new found respect for the way drop-dead gorgeous people handle situations like this, or why they sometimes come off as completely full of themselves. If someone like me, completely average (let's make that super clear, this isn't a bragging post in any way), can become inundated with people trying to get my attention, I can only imagine what it must be like for the actual hotties out there.
So yeah, complete privileged-person problem here, but uh, be careful.
I'm not exactly a thing of extreme beauty myself, but man, from the limited experience I have, I have a new found respect for the way drop-dead gorgeous people handle situations like this, or why they sometimes come off as completely full of themselves. If someone like me, completely average (let's make that super clear, this isn't a bragging post in any way), can become inundated with people trying to get my attention, I can only imagine what it must be like for the actual hotties out there.
So yeah, complete privileged-person problem here, but uh, be careful.
Replicant said:
I'd sooner meet people IRL. Without being too braggy about it, I'm very good at first dates and I think I'm good at making people feel at ease. It's also easier to "judge" someone if you meet in person than over the internet (gauge would be a better word).
Anyway, it's probably easier for me given that I'm totally out. I mean the worst that can happen is that I lose a couple of hours of my time. Not a big deal.
Our talk pre-date was good enough, he looked like his picture but something was missing. I don't know exactly what it was, probably a combination of the way he acted, what he was saying and my general mood but I just don't have any romantic aspiration when it comes to him.
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ivysaur12 said:
Aww - I like that AV. Where is it from?
dragonlife
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Guillo is awesome, therefore avatar. You're not the only Baten Kaitos fan around here, palivysaur12 said:
I'll need to replay the whole game again to get all the different portrait shots and make them into avatars like this one.See?
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=30166301&postcount=4450
Dat Twitter.
I really liked Baten Kaitos from what i've played. I stopped because i couldn't beat this boss, and i didn't have another save other than the one before the boss. It was on some airship i think.dragonlife said:Guillo is awesome, therefore avatar. You're not the only Baten Kaitos fan around here, pal
See?
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=30166301&postcount=4450
Dat Twitter.
Sseklebeast
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dragonlife said:Guillo is awesome, therefore avatar. You're not the only Baten Kaitos fan around here, pal
See?
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=30166301&postcount=4450
Dat Twitter.
Ah I remember seeing that in stores but did not know anything about it. Maybe I'll check it out!
dragonlife
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That part gets a lot of players, haha.ciD_Vain said:
Get them! The BK games are probably my favorite games ever.Sseklebeast said:Ah I remember seeing that in stores but did not know anything about it. Maybe I'll check it out!
Baten Kaitos Origins is my favorite of the two. It has an incredible localization, great voice acting, and has the most fun turn-based battle system I've ever encountered. Also, it's one of the games where I'm constantly satisfied when I pull off great combos. There's really nothing else like it.
Here's a video I highlighted when I streamed it. You obviously may not know what's going on, but pulling off stuff like that is and feels incredible. Video here. I highly recommend you pick up both when you can.
SpaceBridge
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dragonlife said:
Do I need to have played BK 1 to enjoy origins?
dragonlife
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You can play BKO without having played BK, but it won't make as much of an impact. There will be references/cameos you won't get if you don't play the original first.
The first BK and Origins are very different when it comes to combat. Some people prefer the first game's, some people prefer the second game's. I like both, but prefer BKO's combat; however, I still recommend you play through the original first. It will make your BKO experience that much more awesome. Trust me.
No other game has gotten an emotional response from me like BKO has. And that's mainly because of what you learn in it that sheds some light on events from the first game. But, again, it's not entirely necessarily to play the original; you'll just miss out on some great stuff
The first BK and Origins are very different when it comes to combat. Some people prefer the first game's, some people prefer the second game's. I like both, but prefer BKO's combat; however, I still recommend you play through the original first. It will make your BKO experience that much more awesome. Trust me.
No other game has gotten an emotional response from me like BKO has. And that's mainly because of what you learn in it that sheds some light on events from the first game. But, again, it's not entirely necessarily to play the original; you'll just miss out on some great stuff
SecretMoblin
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So I come here to formally introduce myself to GayGAF and I seem to have stumbled upon a Baten Kaitos discussion. Not only that, I see an avatar that makes me very, very happy.
So, um, hi? If this is what I can expect from this thread, then I should have subscribed a while ago.
Hi! I'm assuming this is the
unofficial HQ... I see it around all the time.
So, um, hi? If this is what I can expect from this thread, then I should have subscribed a while ago.
Hi! I'm assuming this is the
official
dragonlife
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Hello, there. I see you in the pics thread often, haha. And which avatar makes you happy?SecretMoblin said:
And more BK fans is always a good thing <3
SecretMoblin
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dragonlife said:
Yours! Where were all the BK fans a few years ago? I got mighty lonely back then.
SpaceBridge
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SecretMoblin said:
Aww, I thought it was my avatar that made you happy. ;P
dragonlife
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I know how you feel, man. I didn't even know about GAF until late '07 and got approved early '08. I used to go on GameSpot/GFAQs to talk about the games. The memory of Baten Kaitos DS still burns.SecretMoblin said:
I even made a "Let's play BKO" thread not long ago on the Gaming Side. But I lost my internet connection when I beat it, so I never got a chance to say that and...I forgot to. But I will reuse the thread when I play it again next month or something
SecretMoblin
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SpaceBridge said:
Yours looks... pensive. If it's of you, then I can tell a lot about your personality from it, and I like that. If it's from a game then I'm lost.
dragonlife said:I even made a "Let's play BKO" thread not long ago on the Gaming Side. But I lost my internet connection when I beat it, so I never got a chance to say that and...I forgot to. But I will reuse the thread when I play it again next month or something
I'll have to join you then. I'll need to replay it when I'm done with Xenoblade Chronicles. I'm going to wait on most of the big games this fall and replaying Origins would be grand.
dragonlife
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Are you in Europe or did you import? I need to softmod my Wii and import Xenoblade. I need that game badly.SecretMoblin said:
NoA sucks, etc.
Yeah, it'd be nice to replay it together. How are you enjoying Xenoblade? I'm currently playing Muramasa: The Demon Blade and it's so beautiful.
SpaceBridge
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dragonlife said:
I need to softmod my Wii too. Im just gonna wait a bit until the year ends to see if Nintendo will finally announce a NA version of Xenoblade.
SecretMoblin
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Yeah, I imported it. Just got it in the mail today and spent a few hours with it. It's excellent. It has the polish of a game developed in-house.
I'm honestly shocked about NoA's bizarre behavior regarding it. It seems like it'd be an easy sell; 'Twilight Princess with a soul'. The exploration, the gorgeousness, the seamless open world, it's all there. I'm hoping for my fellow North Americans that it gets announced and localized (as well as the other games, natch). Not just so they can play it, but for the future of Japanese games in the region. I adore Atlus, but I can't rely on them to be my only crack dealer.
And I was extremely nervous about softmodding my Wii. Terrified, actually. But popped open a beer, grabbed the nearest SD card, and did it. And it was pretty painless, thanks to the GAF guide.
I'm honestly shocked about NoA's bizarre behavior regarding it. It seems like it'd be an easy sell; 'Twilight Princess with a soul'. The exploration, the gorgeousness, the seamless open world, it's all there. I'm hoping for my fellow North Americans that it gets announced and localized (as well as the other games, natch). Not just so they can play it, but for the future of Japanese games in the region. I adore Atlus, but I can't rely on them to be my only crack dealer.
And I was extremely nervous about softmodding my Wii. Terrified, actually. But popped open a beer, grabbed the nearest SD card, and did it. And it was pretty painless, thanks to the GAF guide.
I don't like the English voice acting much on Xenoblade doesn't fit well with most of the characters. I play with Japanese audio track with subs. Very Enjoyable Gameplay with interesting mechanics, beautiful views and pretty interesting story so far. (Have played 5 hours so far between 2 days)
Softmodding was pretty easy thing to do IMO now the hardest part for me was paying for the import but still managed to do so. (I'm kinda broke and won't eat at college this week thanks to it)
Softmodding was pretty easy thing to do IMO now the hardest part for me was paying for the import but still managed to do so. (I'm kinda broke and won't eat at college this week thanks to it)
SpaceBridge
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Pupi18 said:
Oh god, please dont talk about Xenoblade in here. In pains me so. I may hit one of you guys up for soft modding tips if I cant do it right the first time.
SecretMoblin
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SpaceBridge said:
I'll keep the Xenoblade talk to OT.
But if Persona comes up, I'm not promising anything.
SpaceBridge said:
Its pretty easy you can even check neogaf wii homebrew thread which shows how to do things.
Bannerbomb
Brawl hack
Twilight Princess hack
Indiana Jones hack
Check which works for your version and follow the instructions they have there.
NOW BACK TO TOPIC. XD
SpaceBridge
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SecretMoblin said:I'll keep the Xenoblade talk to OT.
But if Persona comes up, I'm not promising anything.
Anything Shin Megami is okay by me too.
SpaceBridge
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ciD_Vain said:Guess what!! I was at Gamestop and found 1 copy of BK:O for $6.00 so i snatched it right up!
Aww, damn. I picked up a copy as wedding gift for you.
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