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Henchmen21 said:
You must have a room to yourself then lol. There's no way I could watch porn if I shared a room with someone. I'd be too afraid they'd walk in on me while I was jerking it.
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You have to be very opportunistic. Like yesterday my roommate was gone for a couple of hours, so yeah. Then on Wednesdays I know that he is gone when I get back from classes so that gives me about an hour.

Also, Tumblr is amazing for porn I just found out.
 
Fantastical said:
You have to be very opportunistic. Like yesterday my roommate was gone for a couple of hours, so yeah. Then on Wednesdays I know that he is gone when I get back from classes so that gives me about an hour.

Also, Tumblr is amazing for porn I just found out.
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Damn it, now all I can think about it all those "College boy caught by roommate" you see in porn HAHA
 
Fantastical said:
Also, Tumblr is amazing for porn I just found out.
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The problem with Tumblr is that the names of the models/pornstars/regular guys are never stated, so you can't ever get more. Google Image Search is usually ineffective, too.

It sucks when you see a hot guy and have to look in the comments, hoping to put a name to the face.
 
I'm going to have to try to find some way around it. Or I can possibly get off on my reserves + imagination until the Thanksgiving break
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I'd actually like to hear of a university enforcing that policy.

I'm pretty sure my university had similar guidelines (most universities, probably), but I don't think I ever heard of anyone getting busted for downloading porn on the network, and I'm pretty sure 90% of the male students were. I heard of of a few kids getting served some cease and desist letters for torrenting music/movies. But never porn.
 
Fantastical said:
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Is there any way to filter that stuff out though? I really hate getting smut shoved in my faced when I'm just casually browsing hashtags that should by all accounts be SFW.
 
Okay, so I haven't ever posted in this thread until just then, but something recently happened that I find odd.

I'm an in the closet 19 year old guy who has never done anything sexual with another person. On Friday I received a friend request from this cute guy. His profile was hidden so I just accepted it to check him out basically. He goes to my university and it turns out he is gay. In addition we have no mutual friends and no classes together (that I can find). I really have no idea who he is or how he found me, but I would like to think he was creeping on me like the dozens of guys I do. :P

I sent him a message that might be awkward or rude saying "Hi, do I know you?" and I haven't gotten a response back yet. He has been online, though.

I'm running with a fantasy I guess that he somehow knows I'm gay (I would say my friends know I'm gay, but I'm not outwardly flamboyant or anything) and is interested in me, but I don't really want to embarrass myself.
 
Fantastical said:
Okay, so I haven't ever posted in this thread until just then, but something recently happened that I find odd.

I'm an in the closet 19 year old guy who has never done anything sexual with another person. On Friday I received a friend request from this cute guy. His profile was hidden so I just accepted it to check him out basically. He goes to my university and it turns out he is gay. In addition we have no mutual friends and no classes together (that I can find). I really have no idea who he is or how he found me, but I would like to think he was creeping on me like the dozens of guys I do. :P

I sent him a message that might be awkward or rude saying "Hi, do I know you?"
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Maybe you look gay :p
we will need pics to investigate this matter.

And that message should be expected, it isn't rude at all. Try chatting with him, just a 'hey'
 
Fantastical said:
Okay, so I haven't ever posted in this thread until just then, but something recently happened that I find odd.

I'm an in the closet 19 year old guy who has never done anything sexual with another person. On Friday I received a friend request from this cute guy. His profile was hidden so I just accepted it to check him out basically. He goes to my university and it turns out he is gay. In addition we have no mutual friends and no classes together (that I can find). I really have no idea who he is or how he found me, but I would like to think he was creeping on me like the dozens of guys I do. :P

I sent him a message that might be awkward or rude saying "Hi, do I know you?"
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Not at all. It would only be rude if you did know him. lol

Pretty neutral ice breaker.
 
Marius_ said:
Maybe you look gay :p
we will need pics to investigate this matter.

And that message should be expected, it isn't rude at all
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I would imagine I probably do. I mean, I'm not the best dressed (not even close actually), but I have a very twinkish build, and I guess some of my mannerisms could be seen as feminine.

I just don't really know what to do now... Facebook makes for some awkward shit.

Also I hit the submit reply button too soon so I added some stuff to the end.

The Broken Ska Record said:
But at what point do you ask "where do I know you from?" if you don't know them?
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Yeah, I feel like I'm putting him in a really awkward position if he really was trying to get to know me.

Obsessed said:
Oh I wasn't planning on torrents or anything like that.

And yeah, I kind of doubt they strictly enforce the policy. I'm guessing most of the male students here don't even know about it, and I can't imagine I'm the only one who has had the desire to watch some porn.
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Yeah, I wouldn't worry about it too much. I certainly stopped worrying. For like the first month I didn't watch any and then I just said fuck it and went to the usual sites when my roommate wasn't around.
 
royalan said:
I'd actually like to hear of a university enforcing that policy.

I'm pretty sure my university had similar guidelines (most universities, probably), but I don't think I ever heard of anyone getting busted for downloading porn on the network, and I'm pretty sure 90% of the male students were. I heard of of a few kids getting served some cease and desist letters for torrenting music/movies. But never porn.
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Oh I wasn't planning on torrents or anything like that.

And yeah, I kind of doubt they strictly enforce the policy. I'm guessing most of the male students here don't even know about it, and I can't imagine I'm the only one who has had the desire to watch some porn.

Still... not sure if it is worth the risk (if there actually is any risk).
 
On the subject of porn, why are there no good gay flash games? All I ever see is straight ones. Yeah, there's Humplex, but all his games are the same.
 
Granger Danger said:
IMO it is rude, and certainly not a very romantic way to start a courtship.
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Well imo, you dont go around adding people on facebook if you dont know them. So that type of question should be expected, and the reply should be simple "no, but you caught my attention ;)" or some shit like that
 
Fantastical said:
Okay, so I haven't ever posted in this thread until just then, but something recently happened that I find odd.

I'm an in the closet 19 year old guy who has never done anything sexual with another person. On Friday I received a friend request from this cute guy. His profile was hidden so I just accepted it to check him out basically. He goes to my university and it turns out he is gay. In addition we have no mutual friends and no classes together (that I can find). I really have no idea who he is or how he found me, but I would like to think he was creeping on me like the dozens of guys I do. :P

I sent him a message that might be awkward or rude saying "Hi, do I know you?" and I haven't gotten a response back yet. He has been online, though.

I'm running with a fantasy I guess that he somehow knows I'm gay (I would say my friends know I'm gay, but I'm not outwardly flamboyant or anything) and is interested in me, but I don't really want to embarrass myself.
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A few things:
First, your message certainly wasn't inconsiderate. If he responds in a friendly tone, then accept the friend request. Why not?

Second, I would strongly suggest using college as a time to come out. It's not easy - it certainly wasn't for me - but when you're away from the awkwardness of your family and you're surrounded by people who don't know you it becomes much easier. Plus, you're in college! The only real purpose for college nowadays is for putting off life so you can explore and have fun. Stop by your school's GLBT center -- they will welcome you with open arms.

Finally, don't lie about yourself. If people ask you questions, be honest with them. Yes, it can be awkward at first, but I think you'll find that there are quite a few people who are perfectly OK with it. You'll feel better, the people around you won't feel like they have to walk around on eggshells, and maybe you'll get introduced to some people.
 
SecretMoblin said:
A few things:
First, your message certainly wasn't inconsiderate. If he responds in a friendly tone, then accept the friend request. Why not?

Second, I would strongly suggest using college as a time to come out. It's not easy - it certainly wasn't for me - but when you're away from the awkwardness of your family and you're surrounded by people who don't know you it becomes much easier. Plus, you're in college! The only real purpose for college nowadays is for putting off life so you can explore and have fun. Stop by your school's GLBT center -- they will welcome you with open arms.

Finally, don't lie about yourself. If people ask you questions, be honest with them. Yes, it can be awkward at first, but I think you'll find that there are quite a few people who are perfectly OK with it. You'll feel better, the people around you won't feel like they have to walk around on eggshells, and maybe you'll get introduced to some people.
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I've been telling myself I will for too long now, and I want to. Part of the problem is that I went to an instate college and there are a ton of people I know from high school here. I wished to go out of state, but it was too much money.

Secondly, I think it will take a while before I'm comfortable enough to join any kind of gay club or something like that. I just can't see myself being really comfortable in that environment after pretending to be something I'm not for 19 years of my life. I feel like that will come later.
 
SecretMoblin said:
A few things:
First, your message certainly wasn't inconsiderate. If he responds in a friendly tone, then accept the friend request. Why not?

Second, I would strongly suggest using college as a time to come out. It's not easy - it certainly wasn't for me - but when you're away from the awkwardness of your family and you're surrounded by people who don't know you it becomes much easier. Plus, you're in college! The only real purpose for college nowadays is for putting off life so you can explore and have fun. Stop by your school's GLBT center -- they will welcome you with open arms.

Finally, don't lie about yourself. If people ask you questions, be honest with them. Yes, it can be awkward at first, but I think you'll find that there are quite a few people who are perfectly OK with it. You'll feel better, the people around you won't feel like they have to walk around on eggshells, and maybe you'll get introduced to some people.
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Depends on what college he's gong to. Not all college's are liberal. Case in point, there are two in my state. U of U and BYU. U of U is the state funded one while BYU is the Mormon funded school. BYU is anti-gay and I would never tell anyone to be open there (although I'd also say not to go to BYU anyways).
 
Henchmen21 said:
Depends on what college he's gong to. Not all college's are liberal. Case in point, there are two in my state. U of U and BYU. U of U is the state funded one while BYU is the Mormon funded school. BYU is anti-gay and I would never tell anyone to be open there (although I'd also say not to go to BYU anyways).
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My university seems surprisingly open to gays, so that's not really a problem. It mostly comes from my personal problems.
 
Fantastical said:
I've been telling myself I will for too long now, and I want to. Part of the problem is that I went to an instate college and there are a ton of people I know from high school here. I wished to go out of state, but it was too much money.

Secondly, I think it will take a while before I'm comfortable enough to join any kind of gay club or something like that. I just can't see myself being really comfortable in that environment after pretending to be something I'm not for 19 years of my life. I feel like that will come later.
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Yeah, don't force it. If you feel that you can't be safe or comfortable doing it don't. Just because you're in college doesn't mean you have to come out just for the sake of it. Don't get me wrong, you shouldn't stay in the closet forever but do so when you feel secure doing it.
 
Fantastical said:
I've been telling myself I will for too long now, and I want to. Part of the problem is that I went to an instate college and there are a ton of people I know from high school here. I wished to go out of state, but it was too much money.

Secondly, I think it will take a while before I'm comfortable enough to join any kind of gay club or something like that. I just can't see myself being really comfortable in that environment after pretending to be something I'm not for 19 years of my life. I feel like that will come later.
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I think it's OK to take things slow. My first year of college was spent in the same city I grew up and went to high school, and I was petrified; so many friends and classmates went to that school, and I didn't want to tell a bunch of people that I had lied to their faces all throughout high school.

My second year I transferred to another in-state college (University of Minnesota), but it was far enough from my hometown and big enough that I knew almost nobody. It made the process much easier.

If you want to take things slow, then I would suggest taking my last advice first: don't lie. That's it. The process doesn't have to involve wearing flashy pink scarves and waving a rainbow flag (though it can). You obviously know who you are, and you're willing to discuss your circumstances with a bunch of people you don't know on a video games forum. :-) The next step is to not lie about a phantom girlfriend. Taking things slow is perfectly fine, but I don't want you to sacrifice what could be the best years of your life.
 
Henchmen21 said:
Yeah, don't force it. If you feel that you can't be safe or comfortable doing it don't. Just because you're in college doesn't mean you have to come out just for the sake of it. Don't get me wrong, you shouldn't stay in the closet forever but do so when you feel secure doing it.
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I feel as though I should come out in college (this year, soon) but I don't feel comfortable just letting everyone know it, I guess.

Going back to the point though: I REALLY want to know how this guy found me. Is it wrong that I'm flattered by the idea that he did some intense stalking? I mean we have NO mutual friends, and I don't recognize him around the university, and I'm a little creepy myself. :P
 
Fantastical said:
I've been telling myself I will for too long now, and I want to. Part of the problem is that I went to an instate college and there are a ton of people I know from high school here. I wished to go out of state, but it was too much money.

Secondly, I think it will take a while before I'm comfortable enough to join any kind of gay club or something like that. I just can't see myself being really comfortable in that environment after pretending to be something I'm not for 19 years of my life. I feel like that will come later.
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I'm turning 22 in a couple of weeks and I feel like I'm finally coming to a point where I'm ready to tell people I'm gay. Still have some things to work out (especially an annoying medical one) but I'm getting there. I think that after I come out and the people around me know who I am and I have nothing to be 'ashamed' of, it's going to be whole lot easier to go to a gay bar (never been to one) and feel comfortable.

Wish I just told everyone when I was 13 or something. Always shied away from going to parties because I know I wouldn't feel comfortable there, wich is a shame, since college is a good place to party. Going into my last year now and feel like I'm missing out, wich sucks. Once you start pretending you're not gay it's hard to tell everyone you are.
 
Fantastical said:
I feel as though I should come out in college (this year, soon) but I don't feel comfortable just letting everyone know it, I guess.

Going back to the point though: I REALLY want to know how this guy found me. Is it wrong that I'm flattered by the idea that he did some intense stalking? I mean we have NO mutual friends, and I don't recognize him around the university, and I'm a little creepy myself. :P
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I got into college just as Facebook was taking off (it still required a college email to register). I spent many hours stalking "men" who were "interested in men". If they're putting the information out there, they wanted it to be seen, so I wouldn't call that "creepy". If he sounds nice, be friendly. Ask how he found you, find out what year he is in, ask what his major is. I don't think that would jeopardize any potential friendship.

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GasProblem said:
Once you start pretending you're not gay it's hard to tell everyone you are.
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This is so true. Just be aware that there are a ton of people - both here and elsewhere - who have gone through the process. There are many people at your school who have come out during college. It's extremely common. The worst part about coming out is that first conversation you have with your parents. I promise though, I promise life will become a million times easier after that.
 
SecretMoblin said:
I got into college just as Facebook was taking off (it still required a college email to register). I spent many hours stalking "men" who were "interested in men". If they're putting the information out there, they wanted it to be seen, so I wouldn't call that "creepy". If he sounds nice, be friendly. Ask how he found you, find out what year he is in, ask what his major is. I don't think that would jeopardize any potential friendship.
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I'm not holding it against him at all. I've done it too. At least he had the guts to friend request me, which I just secretly stalk them on Facebook. I'm just really interested in how he found out my name.

I'm going to message him being a bit more friendly, saying I didn't mean to be rude, just wondering how he found me. :P

I'm also anticipating this to end really badly with me feeling crushed at the end of it. :S
 
Fantastical said:
I'm also anticipating this to end really badly with me feeling crushed at the end of it. :S
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It may end that way, sure. But it could also be the start of a friendship, and five years from now you'll be happy that he sent you a friend request. Life is full of breakups and awkwardness, but it sounds like you're doing the right thing by not brushing him off.
 
SecretMoblin said:
It may end that way, sure. But it could also be the start of a friendship, and five years from now you'll be happy that he sent you a friend request. Life is full of breakups and awkwardness, but it sounds like you're doing the right thing by not brushing him off.
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Hopefully he messages me back this time. If he doesn't by the end of the week I'll be more forward.
 
This whole adding people you don't know on Facebook just baffles me.

It didn't take any guts adding you randomly, especially if he's not even replying to your message.
I mean... lol
 
HappyPuppy said:
Well my no fap week ended because of a guy named Renny Castro (first link on google) he has hairy forearms and that is my weakness. I'll go for another week maybe more depending on how it goes. Dam hairy guys that turn me on so fast (not bears).
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You avoided Fapping for a week? I wish I had that strength. Japanese guys are my weakness


I wish I knew more people to add to my Facebook
 
Alcoori said:
This whole adding people you don't know on Facebook just baffles me.

It didn't take any guts adding you randomly, especially if he's not even replying to your message.
I mean... lol
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Honestly, I wouldn't add someone randomly who I have an interest in. He doesn't even know if I'm gay.

But, that's assuming he's interested in me.

HappyPuppy said:
Well my no fap week ended because of a guy named Renny Castro (first link on google) he has hairy forearms and that is my weakness. I'll go for another week maybe more depending on how it goes. Dam hairy guys that turn me on so fast (not bears).
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Whenever I don't fap for that long I just binge the first day I fap. It's pretty pathetic actually.
 
HappyPuppy said:
Well my no fap week ended because of a guy named Renny Castro (first link on google) he has hairy forearms and that is my weakness. I'll go for another week maybe more depending on how it goes. Dam hairy guys that turn me on so fast (not bears).
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I like his enthusiasm.

edit: Hairy is hot, I agree. That's like half of the reason why I tend to like vintage porn.

Fantastical said:
Whenever I don't fap for that long I just binge the first day I fap. It's pretty pathetic actually.
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Yeah me too. Or even if I'm bored, for that matter :P Though I've only recently began to really believe in finding moderation in my life, my tendency is to go overboard, or to be way too 'all or nothing' with practically everything.
 
Fantastical said:
I feel as though I should come out in college (this year, soon) but I don't feel comfortable just letting everyone know it, I guess.

Going back to the point though: I REALLY want to know how this guy found me. Is it wrong that I'm flattered by the idea that he did some intense stalking? I mean we have NO mutual friends, and I don't recognize him around the university, and I'm a little creepy myself. :P
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I shall call this Twilight syndrome.

And I would say it isn't wrong.
 
fernoca said:
Heck, I'd love to be stalked on Facebook. XD

...no luck yet. :(
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yeah me too.

Would you rather someone else make the first move or do like making the first move in meeting someone?
 
fernoca said:
Yeah, but I want actual stalking. Like Fantastical's guy.
If I (or someone else) give a link to Obsessed, that's not stalking. :p
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Well I need some kind of info to begin the stalking. I mean they were at the same college, and it was possible the stalker just asked someone "hey do you know that kid's name?"

Put my detective skills to the test.

edit: Do you live in Puerto Rico or did you just visit it? Ziplining is pretty touristy so I'm going to guess you just visited.
 
Obsessed said:
Well I need some kind of info to begin the stalking. I mean they were at the same college, and it was possible the stalker just asked someone "hey do you know that kid's name?"

Put my detective skills to the test.
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:p

1. My name starts with the first 4 laters of my username here (name has been used in a few games like Jet Force Gemini and Grant Theft Auto; heck it's even the second name of the main character in The Ballad of Gay Tony. There's an ABBA song with my name too.)
2. I'm in Puerto Rico
3. Currently have a main-picture of a movie that started 2 weeks ago in the US, but starts this Thursday in here (posted about it on the "summer/august movies thread as the only one I was going to watch for sure).

GO!! :p

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edit: Do you live in Puerto Rico or did you just visit it? Ziplining is pretty touristy so I'm going to guess you just visited.
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Live here. ;)
Ziplining/canopy was "for fun" a few weeks ago with 2 friends.
 
fernoca said:
:p

1. My name starts with the first 4 laters of my username here (name has been used in a few games like Jet Force Gemini and Grant Theft Auto; heck it's even the second name of the main character in The Ballad of Gay Tony. There's an ABBA song with my name too.)
2. I'm in Puerto Rico
3. Currently have a main-picture of a movie that started 2 weeks ago in the US, but starts thisTthursday in here.

GO!! :p


Live here. ;)
Ziplining/canopy was "for fun" a few weeks ago with 2 friends.
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http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?=743264506
 
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