No I was wearing my clothes and so was he. He just kept touching me everywhere.
He keeps telling me he didn't want to cross any line but I said I wouldn't have stopped him if he did. We are gonna hang out again next weekend hopefully.
But he noticed it when we were sitting there. He was like, oh you have a wetspot...
He told me he wanted to kiss me but stopped himself from doing it. I just took care of myself a few minutes ago and my pupils were fucking big all of a sudden...I could tell I was that turned on lol.
No I was wearing my clothes and so was he. He just kept touching me everywhere.
He keeps telling me he didn't want to cross any line but I said I wouldn't have stopped him if he did. We are gonna hang out again next weekend hopefully.
But he noticed it when we were sitting there. He was like, oh you have a wetspot...
He told me he wanted to kiss me but stopped himself from doing it. I just took care of myself a few minutes ago and my pupils were fucking big all of a sudden...I could tell I was that turned on lol.
Really hoping we can meet next weekend. We just talked the whole time, and it was really nice. I haven't talked to anyone like that in a long long time.
Really hoping we can meet next weekend. We just talked the whole time, and it was really nice. I haven't talked to anyone like that in a long long time.
save your actual sexual experience for a guy that you're actually attracted to, not just some random guy because you're horned up. Also, my Osteopath looks like Michael Vartan and he massage me on a monthly basis but I don't get horned up from that (although damn, looking at him up close sure is a sight to behold, especially when he jumps on top of me). So I'd say you just have a lot of pent up sexual desire from men on men contact.
Why so prudish? Sex isn't some evil thing or something that must come with emotional attachment (otherwise there would be a lot of lousy lovers out there). If he is open to it then why not? Physical intimacy is not a bad thing at all, and I think everyone needs it from time to time, especially if you're single.
Why so prudish? Sex isn't some evil thing or something that must come with emotional attachment (otherwise there would be a lot of lousy lovers out there). If he is open to it then why not? Physical intimacy is not a bad thing at all, and I think everyone needs it from time to time, especially if you're single.
It's just from personal experience, if I can re-do it all over again, I'd rather do it first with someone that I like instead of some random hookup because I was horny. Plus, sex without attachment is kinda draining after a while.
It's just from personal experience, if I can re-do it all over again, I'd rather do it first with someone that I like instead of some random hookup because I was horny. Plus, sex without attachment is kinda draining after a while.
Oh, didn't know he was a virgin. But then, my first time was with some guy from the running club. He was nice, and had a nice body. I actually enjoyed my first time (though I was really nervous at the beginning). Then I never really saw him again since I moved town.
Sex with attachment to me is tough - it's not easy to like someone you also wanna fuck. Otherwise he'd be my boyfriend already! But then I haven't had a boyfriend for nearly 5 years. So hard to find someone who clicks with me and vice versa.
That I agree (with Replicant).
I rushed myself, because I was 23..and getting tired of looking and waiting and talking and been rejected, so met a guy online. Was nice, slightly older (40); but hey "nice guy, probably looking for something; well...nice".. Pfft.
Keeping in mind also that my first kiss ever was with that guy, and I ignored that he was a smoker (and apparently smoked right before kissing me). So my first kiss was also..ugh (aside that he wasn't even a good kisser). My face all covered in saliva, with taste and smell of cigarettes.
The thing was that, I was still trying to convince myself that the guy was good and stuff; even when he started avoiding me and ignoring me right after.
Oh well, live and learn.
In the case of MidnightScott, based on his posts his starting to meet guys and go out; so there's no need to rush things.
You guys bring back memories, my first time was also a hookup just cause i thought I would never come out and wanted to try it. But the second time was godly
That I agree (with Replicant).
I rushed myself, because I was 23..and getting tired of looking and waiting and talking and been rejected, so met a guy online. Was nice, slightly older (40); but hey "nice guy, probably looking for something; well...nice".. Pfft.
Keeping in mind also that my first kiss ever was with that guy, and I ignored that he was a smoker (and apparently smoked right before kissing me). So my first kiss was also..ugh (aside that he wasn't even a good kisser). My face all covered in saliva, with taste and smell of cigarettes.
The thing was that, I was still trying to convince myself that the guy was good and stuff; even when he started avoiding me and ignoring me right after.
Haha, I never had such feelings of attachment. My first time with a guy was when I was 23 too, but I knew fully that I wasn't looking for a relationship. And I kinda "chose" the guy since he was fit, was not bad-looking and was not too old (he was 35 at the time?). Plus he seemed nice and genuine. Luckily since I was fresh meat in the running club, and most of the guys were older than me, people were happy to take me under their wings, so to speak... So yeah, no complaints about my first time!
Though I think was more of me changing my mentality a little too.
#1. 40. Guy I said, smoker. Put his lips all over my face after smoking, overall sex wasn't bad ; but was my first time..ever so had nothing to compare to. Guy just disappeared from MSN and never returned calls.
#2. 38. Better looking than #1, but didn't cared; he liked dogs, was fun to talk, etc. Overall experience wasn't bad; except for one moment when he "really wanted" to bottom; so I did "my best"; guess I was doing something right...except that; well..let's just say that those sheets needed to be changed after. (Again) Guy just disappeared from MSN and never returned calls.
#3. 31. Nice guy, still studying, liked videogames, swimming; really great guy. Was better kisser than the first two; liked to cuddle. Went out to lunch, things were really nice. But!!! (again) ..Guy just disappeared from MSN and never returned calls.
#4. 40. Basically like #1, but didn't smoked on to that I had to hide in his car because he didn't wanted people in general to see he was in the car with another guy. Met him online so turned out to be a liar. I don't mind sizes, or positions ; don't actually care about it. But he was so obsessed online about how he was a top with 9 inches...and reality was that he was a furious bottom with 3 inches. To top that (no pun intented) he said he was from one city and turned out that he lived just 2 streets away. I still tried to you know, talk to him and continue chatting and stuff..but!!... Guy just disappeared from MSN and never returned calls.
#5. 38. #5, is the closest ..ever I've been to dating and even been taken out to dinner. Guy was really tall and looked like he spent a good amount of time in the gym (and was half italian too). he took me out, to a place in front of the beach, had a few drinks ate some things, talked about many things; he admitted even liking videogames though he didn't played much; he was really curious about the Wii and kept asking me questions about Zelda (was close to release back then). Then late went to his apartment, everything was..you know "too good". We parted ways, but continued talking during the week. Then he asked if I wanted to spend the weekend with him and I agreed. He picked me up, went to eat out, rented a few movies, grabbed a few things in the market and went to his apartment. Awesome moments, awesome place, great company, great kisser; he took to me dinner at another restaurant,..still "too good".
Until..the last day.
When I woke up he was already all dressed up about to leave (he had to go to work, which I knew..heck I even visited to his job during few days earlier and we kissed/made out on his office.. :O!). Looked serious, barely looked at me; then turned out that his car was having problems so he had to ask for a family member to pick him up to go to work. Which I understood. The person didn't knew he had company; so I had to hide while he left. And that was it. After that, never saw him again, never returned my calls. Did found him on Facebook once and talked to him and he replied back; but guess he blocked it or something since I can't find him anymore.
After, there has been 3 more guys which were nice; and the last one..I still talk online with him and on Facebook.
So, yeah..I guess #5 was "my first".
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Damn! This ended longer than I thought..and I omitted a lot of things. XD
Hehehehe.
Well, not that I actually went out out look for them; or specifically at those ages. But; guys my age (back then when I was 23 and now than I'm 29) usually ignore me and avoid me like a plague; even online.
Then again, those "older" guys avoided me like a plague..after; so it was the same.
#8, is the youngest one. 23. And we still talk, so who knows.
Hehehehe.
Well, not that I actually went out out look for them; or specifically at those ages. But; guys my age (back then when I was 23 and now than I'm 29) usually ignore me and avoid me like a plague; even online.
Then again, those "older" guys avoided me like a plague..after; so it was the same.
#8, is the youngest one. 23. And we still talk, so who knows.
This is more of a general relationship question, but now that it has been brought up, how much do you guys think age difference matters (ignoring underage parties)?
I think when the person is in high school (17-18), it can make a difference because...well...most of the people i knew in high school were just super immature :/ I wouldn't date a high school kid. But I mean, beyond the personality thing, I don't think age really matters at all.
This is more of a general relationship question, but now that it has been brought up, how much do you guys think age difference matters (ignoring underage parties)?
Nah; to me it doesn't matter. Granted I do have my limits; usually 10 years is the most (then again, I was 23 I guy #1 was 40 so there's 17 years.. ); so who knows..guess 15 years?
I shouldn't I guess, since well..is not like I should "demand specific types or age". But older than me; I have to find some physical attraction in him at least; along with his personality. For guys closer to my age; I usually just look for someone that understands the situations I'm going though right now and accepts me as..."not so ugly" as I am; and sense of humor.
Dang it, I wanna get into some of the discussions in this thread but they're mostly all about relationship advice and such (I guess that makes sense, this is the Gay and Bisexual relationship thread, after all =p), and since I have no real experience in that area and I'm already in a relationship, there's really nothing I can say to contribute to the discussion. ._.
But I want to get to know Gay GAF better, dammit! I wanna talk about something! D: So I'll ask a question...
I've gotten to know quite a few gay guys since I came out and moved across the country, and I really want a good gay friend
or perhaps even something more...but that's for another question
, but pretty much every gay guy I've met is very different from me, which makes it really hard to be friends. They all seem to either be hardcore partiers who go out and get drunk all the time (I'm not the partying type, and I don't drink at all), or super fabulous gays who are all about fashion and drama (and I mean DRAMA, they bring it with them wherever they go), or both. Okay, maybe not everyone fits into one of those categories, but it's pretty close. But there are no gay guys I've met who are just kinda plain, average guys and also happen to be a gamer like me, other than my boyfriend. Well, there was one guy, the first other gay guy I met and first real friend I made when I moved, but he started hanging out with a bunch of other guys and goes to parties almost every night, so we don't really hang out anymore... And he's a total Pokémon nerd like me, too, so it really sucks that he's so distant now. ._.
Anyway, with that said, my question is, is there anyone else here who feels like me? I'm sure there are other people like me here, but I just wonder if anyone else feels the same way, that they can't find a good gay friend who doesn't always go out partying and/or is always full of drama. I can find plenty of people like me online, in fact I've made quite a few friends on various forums, but when it comes to people I've met in person, there's no one...
I probably want a good gay friend so bad because I don't really have anyone who I can call a best friend (besides my boyfriend, who is my best friend, but I mean someone who I'm not in a relationship with). And I guess that best friend doesn't have to be gay, or even male, but I'd prefer it because I'd like to be able to relate to my best friend in as many ways as I can. And I'm sure a lot of it also has to do with the fact that I've lived the whole first 18 years of my life as a straight guy, and I just wish I could take that back and experience life differently, with a good friend by my side. I dunno, I'm probably not even making any sense anymore at this point. I'm tired and ranting on about silly things that I feel inside. =P
To me it does. I don't date anyone younger than 28 as a matter of principle. 28-40 is my ideal range, and if they're 1-2 years older than me it's perfect Of course if I meet a really mature and sensible younger guy then my principle's out the door.
I've tried going more to clubs/partying to meet people and stuff; but guess since I'm forcing myself to enjoy it; when I'm not..guess that doesn't help matters. Then the few gay friends I do have, yeah they're good friends; but they also fall into that things you said. Too much drama, even one time all together playing video games there was drama because one was going out with 2 of the guys that were there and they discovered about it..that day.
Others like to drink a lot or smoke too much weed. Hey, I've tried both (weed and beers) and while I don't get drunk or wasted easily, neither look/hope to do so..I end bored when they're drunk or sleep or awake, but talking; well.. about nothing since they're wasted. Then the ones that "need" to go to clubs. I've told them, hey we could go to watch a movie or to your house to play PS3 or something, nope!! "Meet me at the club if you want to hangout, bye!!!". An all they do at the club is flirt with every guy that walks there, pretend to dance and get drunk (and in fights).
Plus, I fell when I go out with them, that I'm just not there. Is not like my presence there meas or adds much; since I'm usually ignored too.
And things like that. So I'm back to my "straight friends". Heck they know I'm gay, when they hang out with me is to have fun, play games, go to movies, jokes, talk, spend time...even when one of the is married and another is with a girlfriend. I'd like to have more gay friends, but is like they expect me to change the way I am in order to hang out with them. And I've tried to, but..is just not me.
I've tried going more to clubs/partying to meet people and stuff; but guess since I'm forcing myself to enjoy it; when I'm not..guess that doesn't help matters.
Then the few gay friends I do have, yeah they're good friends; but they also fall into that things you said. Too much drama, even one time all together playing video games there was drama because one was going out with 2 of the guys that were there and they discovered about it..that day.
Others like to drink a lot or smoke too much weed. Hey, I've tried both (weed and beers) and while I don't get drunk or wasted easily, neither look/hope to do so..I end bored when they're drunk or sleep or awake, but talking; well.. about nothing since they're wasted.
Then the ones that "need" to go to clubs. I've told them, hey we could go to watch a movie or to your house to play PS3 or something, nope!! "Meet me at the club if you want to hangout, bye!!!". An all they do at the club is flirt with every guy that walks there, pretend to dance and get drunk (and in fights)
And things like that. So I'm back to my "straight friends". Heck they know I'm gay, when they hang out with me is to have fun, play games, go to movie,s jokes, talk, spend time...even when one of the is married and another is with a girlfriends.
I'd like to have more gay friends, but is like they expect me to change the way I am in order to hang out with them. And I've tried to, but..is just not me.
Wow, that really is the same as me. I try to get people to come over and play games or something, but nope. =/ I've gone to a club twice with my one gay friend, and I hated it. I'm always pretty much ignored when I'm with other gay guys, too. And I definitely have many more straight friends than gay friends. Right now the people I like to hang out with most (actually, they're pretty much the only people I hang out with anymore, if you even want to call it "hanging out") are the guys from my StreetPass group, because I can actually nerd out and be myself around them.
I always used to think that very few gay guys actually live the stereotypical gay lifestyle, but now I know why those stereotypes exist... Surely there's more variety out there...right? >.>
