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Spiritreaver
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Fuck the list, only Victor seems to like me.
Not that he isn't awesome or anything.Fuck the list, only Victor seems to like me.
Aw,You know i'm more of a twink lover :O
Spiritreaver
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Thanks for the kind words btw.
As far as bodybuilding goes you're well on the right track. It's really in the diet when it comes to stuff like this. Eat a lot of calories, mostly protein, fats, and some carbs. I generally aim for 1.5g to 2g of protein per pound of bodyweight, 30-60g of protein per meal. Most of it coming from whole foods (chicken, eggs) and a bit coming from shakes.I hit my arms twice a week, once with the big body groups (back/chest) and once on their own or sometimes alongside a smaller group (shoulders/traps). Always heavy, ending with a burnout.
I really thing the biggest help is not get too caught up on cable/dumbbell routines. Throw in a couple of classic barbell exercises (especially for biceps). Much harder to cheat. Make sure you really feel the burn in the bis/tris as well, it's easy to not get curl form down and get no benefit from them. The only things moving during a proper curl should be your arm at the elbow joint. Similar for most tricep exercises as well.
Also pullups/dips/pushups, get em done.
I can give you more indepth help, but we may have to go to PM.
i_am_ben
running_here_and_there
i have not seen that. damn.
:lol you have a pointhe posts here too much not to be
krypt0nian
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Mystic Theurge
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Congrats chronos4590 & Pupi18!
Your boyfriend cheated on you because he's asshole, not because he's bisexual.
You can't generalize the behavior of thousands of people based on the actions of one person.
Your boyfriend cheated on you because he's asshole, not because he's bisexual.
You can't generalize the behavior of thousands of people based on the actions of one person.
SpaceBridge
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he posts here too much not to be
Question is: Are you?
This changes everything.
electroplankton
Banned
Nope but I had a direct experience of a person who, being bi, had also other needings.
Father_Brain
Banned
I know it's trendy to hate hipsters here, but I'm planning on hitting up Metropolitan (the gay bar in Williamsburg) tonight. NYC-GayGAF, let me know if you're interested.
Spiritreaver
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I can be whatever you want babe!
Nah, this is totally the biggest part of me being single. No matter where I go, people can't tell. Everyone in OKC pretty much knows now, but god forbid I go out in a new town, I'm screwed.
Totally given up on the hopeless dream of meeting a random guy at a random place and hitting it off.
I can be whatever you want babe!
Nah, this is totally the biggest part of me being single. No matter where I go, people can't tell. Everyone in OKC pretty much knows now, but god forbid I go out in a new town, I'm screwed.
Totally given up on the hopeless dream of meeting a random guy at a random place and hitting it off.
gay guys love the idea of hitting on a straight dude... you can pretend to be one of those and fulfil a few fantasies.... although from the sounds of it they wouldn't be your fantasies
this is wayyy too adorable.
So I am in a bit of a dilemma.
Long story short, a couple years ago a friend and I found ourselves outside of relationships and finally did something about the sexual tension. For two weeks we hung out a ton and were having a lot of fun, till, he drunk texted me "I am a one man kinda guy and youre that guy," blah blah blah basically professed his absolute love for me. Well, I didn't fully feel the same way, not to mention it had only really been 2 weeks, i wasn't ready to go to that point. I told him upfront "you kinda killed it for me"
Well we didnt talk for two months, then finally when we did, I was in the beginning stages of what would be my last relationship, which a couple months ago ended, 3 years and 4 months.
WELL, we have been talking again, he however lives in Las Vegas now, and I live in West Hollywood. He just told me two days ago that he told his job he wants to be transfered back to the LA/OC area, and apparently it is happening pretty quickly. My worry is how much of that was fueled by the fact we were talking again.
We were also talking, and he said he was coming into the OC Saturday to Tuesday, which are days I work in LA. I went ahead and said "why dont we stop beating around the bush, and you just come to LA saturday, and leave sunday to the OC"
That's what we're doing.
I like this guy, emotionally to an extent, and physically, but I've come to the recent conclusion that I am not looking for anything serious now being out of this 3+ year relationship, but I also feel like it is fear that hes doing the same thing and falling too hard too fast as before.
What do I do? how do I tell him this? I like him enough to "date" or "be steady", but I don't like him enough to be tied down into a titled relationship, not to mention, don't like him enough that he may be warranting moving for this.
The Abominable Snowman
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he posts here too much not to be
DarthWuFei is so hot. He can be either my gay mancrush or that gay-friendly straigt guy you have a hard crush on but respect too much to cross that line... unless drinks were involved.
What type of places do you usually go where people aren't able to tell? I mean, i think us masculine guys don't really pick up outside of bars, clubs, and Bed Bath & Beyond, but is searching in these other places really worth your time?
I have been there once and it was a really fun night. I played pool with random people and beat everyone although I usually never play.
Sadly, I'm still in France for now so I'll take a rain check on that!
Mystic Theurge
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I'll also take a rain check. I'm heading to Phoenix tonight with my friend.
I'll be at Boiler Room and then probably joining Father_Brain at Metropolitan.
Let me know how it is, hope you have fun!
Gurl calm your tits, you aint getting in with that attitude
I bet my list is better
Father_Brain
Banned
Hmm, could drop by Phoenix. What time are you planning on being there?
Though no need to "pretend"...I guess.gay guys love the idea of hitting on a straight dude... you can pretend to be one of those and fulfil a few fantasies.... although from the sounds of it they wouldn't be your fantasies
I've had a few gay guys in random places (mall, work, etc.) telling me (literally) "ugh, straight guys and videogames" when they hear me talking about games with another guy/person/whatever. And even finding out that I was in fact gay, is not like that made a difference..well, aside the "shock" and really open eyes. XD
So to me also, meeting/getting to know a guy randomly is out of the question. And online are too demanding when it comes to pictures and information (pictures are never good enough, too little information, too much information, too tall, too short, too big, too small, boring tastes, not interesting tastes).
Darth's look at least give him an advantage, over others that look like me; at least as far as fantasies go...
You should be honest with him and tell him you're not looking for anything serious, but you'd like to be his friend. And don't (or try not to) sleep with him unless he's clear you're not ready for a new relationship. Don't want to give him any false hope.
But also, be open to it. Who know where this could lead. Relax and have fun, but be honest with him etc etc.
Mystic Theurge
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10 or 10:30.
The Abominable Snowman
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There is this girl at work... Her first day was December 15th, and i was one of the leads to her group training. Well, I guess because we were one of the few 'blacks' there or whatever. We cliqued and after a couple weeks, she talked me into giving her my number. Well, since last week I started getting "Good Morning" and then pretty general chit chat.
Well this morning, she sent me a good morning pic, with a caption of "This is what I look like in the morning, for when I wake up with you one day :*" with her with a little makeup on and a tit exposed. I gave her a dry goodmorning back, then went to work. Lo and behold not even 5 minutes of being here she sits herself on my desk ad begins chatting with me. I tell her i have a headache and she leaves to go to the dollar general down the street to get me tylenol.>_<
Why cant the ones I actually want be this 'easy'
Well this morning, she sent me a good morning pic, with a caption of "This is what I look like in the morning, for when I wake up with you one day :*" with her with a little makeup on and a tit exposed. I gave her a dry goodmorning back, then went to work. Lo and behold not even 5 minutes of being here she sits herself on my desk ad begins chatting with me. I tell her i have a headache and she leaves to go to the dollar general down the street to get me tylenol.>_<
Why cant the ones I actually want be this 'easy'
Spiritreaver
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Oh there's a few fantasies out there for me, hah.gay guys love the idea of hitting on a straight dude... you can pretend to be one of those and fulfil a few fantasies.... although from the sounds of it they wouldn't be your fantasies
I am going out tonight, and I'm honestly thinking of playing up the straight guy, hah, never done it before since my creepy closeted days.
And I'm just a cheesy romantic, You've Got Mail is my favorite romantic comedy of all time. That should say a lot about how I find love. On that note, I don't like picking up dudes in bars for sex or more than that, not in OKC anyway. Not much of what I'm looking for out there and I don't think it's the proper place anyway.
I need to shop at Bed Bath & Beyond more.
Stop lol, I have my own shortcomings.Darth's look at least give him an advantage, over others that look like me; at least as far as fantasies go...
And ugh yes, guys and video games. I love discussing them, but my straight buddy was talking my ear off about SWTOR again at the bar and I needed to go talk to a couple of dudes. I got a text from my buddy asking me if my friend was cock-blocking with Star Wars talk, and I gave him a definitive nod and bailed, lol.
I'll admit I like talking about video games and whatnot in these situations, it makes me feel like I've got a one-up (kik) on people. Yeah that's right Mr. Hot Pants at the bar, I'm not talking to you because you don't know who Larry Butz is.
And I'm fine Marius. 8)
The Abominable Snowman
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ha you're awesome.Oh there's a few fantasies out there for me, hah.
I am going out tonight, and I'm honestly thinking of playing up the straight guy, hah, never done it before since my creepy closeted days.
And I'm just a cheesy romantic, You've Got Mail is my favorite romantic comedy of all time. That should say a lot about how I find love. On that note, I don't like picking up dudes in bars for sex or more than that, not in OKC anyway. Not much of what I'm looking for out there and I don't think it's the proper place anyway.
I need to shop at Bed Bath & Beyond more.
Stop lol, I have my own shortcomings.
And ugh yes, guys and video games. I love discussing them, but my straight buddy was talking my ear off about SWTOR again at the bar and I needed to go talk to a couple of dudes. I got a text from my buddy asking me if my friend was cock-blocking with Star Wars talk, and I gave him a definitive nod and bailed, lol.
I'll admit I like talking about video games and whatnot in these situations, it makes me feel like I've got a one-up (kik) on people. Yeah that's right Mr. Hot Pants at the bar, I'm not talking to you because you don't know who Larry Butz is.
And I'm fine Marius. 8)
I'm not sure what OKC is like, but Bars can be a pretty good place to meet friends. I've met a ton of great people there, but you got to do it a certain way. Entering alone and sitting at the bar is almost guaranteed to do nothing but get you attention from seedy people looking for.... temporary intimacy. Going with a group of outgoing friends can be fun, and expand your friend circle exponentially. And you will develop further friendships and possible relationships. It depends on what you'd be going to the bar for.
umop_3pisdn
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So you were high on drugs, experienced something frighting, and acknowledged that your life was worthless unless you changed it . . . sounds, deep, man, kinda.
Hahaha, well, from my perspective it was more that the angle I was viewing it from was somewhat novel. I don't really believe in the eternal return, and my views have changed quite a bit since then as that experience was over two years ago. But thinking of death as not being an end and perceiving an endless cycle of fate paradoxically made me less... fatalistic. Now I don't think that these are true perceptions, but at the time they got me thinking in a different way enough that I could find what I think now is an appropriate view.
Not really! I mean, even immediately afterwards I wasn't sure if I had the right answer. In fact that wasn't really something that I thought about, I interpreted my experience in more of a metaphorical way. It was like truth, but it wasn't truth. I knew that my motivation came from a very real place and that was enough for me.
I'm not sure what conclusions I would have reached without that. I don't really use it as a basis for much aside from an example of how I've responded to 'death' (or the perception of it) in the past. In Buddhism there's something called samvega-pasada where the intention is to inspire a sense of urgency in one's practice. Death is just a really powerful motivator, and these days that's essentially all I see that experience as in the greater context of my current philosophy... a particularly poignant kick in the ass.
But yeah, I'm not sure what my philosophy would be without some of the experiences that I've had. Some things like the Four Noble Truths in Buddhism seem so intuitive and sensible to me, I think I'd have come around to them eventually even if I hadn't experienced some things, because for a long time I've tended to have a fairly strong grasp of dukkha, so it seems like the next logical step would have been me appreciating that. But probably not with the same sense of desperation
The benefit from my experience was mostly that it got me thinking about death, and by extension how I wanted to spend my life. While maybe Buddhist doctrine would have appealed to me without such an experience, I doubt I would have had the same sense of urgency of "this is what I want to do with my life," at least not quite so soon. It's tough to say, though.If I was living my life based on the memory of one experience, I'd agree with you (or what I assume is your position), it isn't wise. I more so regard that experience as when things began to click for me, as opposed to when they actually clicked. All my investigation since then has been entirely sober (I don't do drugs anymore) and more analytical, if some of my suspicions weren't confirmed or solidified I wouldn't still hold this perspective that I do. In fact I kind of have a doubting temperament by nature, I'm not really capable of that kind of faith
I've had to renew my commitment hundreds of times and on entirely different bases since then.But assuming that weren't true... that's an interesting question. I think like I mentioned earlier it's more about the semblance of truth than actual truth. It's sort of like how fiction can resonate with you even if it's not strictly 'real', but obviously different since drug induced experiences are entirely 'real', but they're temporarily induced states without accomplishment. I'm not sure, I've since doubted everything about the perception of the Universe that I had during that experience, but not the sincerity of my motivation. Some things we have little choice but to believe. Like sometimes when you apply skepticism to something, you only become further convinced, not less convinced
I think I'll be happy. As I mentioned, I've tended to independently have a strong understanding of dukkha, on an unconscious level I was pretty much always looking for the solution to that problem. So it kind of transcends any one experience, I could pretty much relate all of my deepest yearnings to that.
I had those thoughts too ("oh god, I hope they don't find my porn!"), but I was trapped in a thought-loop and by about the dozenth rotation I was so far removed from most "worldly concerns" that I was busy thinking about my next birth and the one after that, etc
The Abominable Snowman
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is OKC Oklahoma City or something else? I'm confused
Spiritreaver
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Oklahoma City is what I'm referring to, he's talking about OK Cupid.
Marius. Just be honest and write as much as you like about yourself, imo when it comes to finding something worth a grain of salt on these kinds of sites. You should be pretty open.
The Abominable Snowman
Member
Ohh.... the dating site. interesting. *looks around*
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Simply marvelous. Congrats to you both!
Well, I just think that it's unwise to stereotype an entire group of people just based on your personal experiences.
CHEEZMO
Obsidian fan
Ugh isn't it the one with Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks? I hate most old romantic comedies with Meg Ryan becuase... I hate Meg Ryan. And Tom Hanks is hideous. The movie is okay but I don't like the main characters.
I liked the one with Anna Farris being a slut for sleeping with 20 guys because there's plenty of Chris Evans's sexy hairy body.
electroplankton
Banned
I agree.
But just because it happened, it creates the possibility to happen in other bisexual guys.
Yes "What's Your Number? " is great, mostly because of Chris Evans :O
Anna Faris is cool too
BTW I feel left out with all those avatars of you good looking people. This will end soon I hope?
Yes, that's the one! I only went to see it because Anna Farris is my boyfriend's favourite actress, I did enjoy Chris Evans. <3
Yes "What's Your Number? " is great, mostly because of Chris Evans :O
Anna Faris is cool too
Yes, that's the one! I only went to see it because Anna Farris is my boyfriend's favourite actress, I did enjoy Chris Evans. <3
Spiritreaver
Member
You know, you don't need good looking people to tell an amazing love story!
Get your avatar up red_13th. I'm taking this month to figure out all the people I'm gonna ask out on a date.
(i may or may not be joking).
Get your avatar up red_13th. I'm taking this month to figure out all the people I'm gonna ask out on a date.
(i may or may not be joking).
The Abominable Snowman
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i will give you my facebook, and my body. (I just cant post a pic here )
)Yeah I got an avatar, didn't want to feel that much like an outsider.
Okay I'll admit hideous is a strong word, but he's not good looking at all imo.
I mean, I can watch a romantic comedy with Gerard Butler, Chris Evans and Hugh Jackman... Tom Hanks would be my last alternative. Right next to Steve Buscemi.
(lol just kidding)
EDIT: oh god now I don't even recognise my own posts.
No, he isn't
Okay I'll admit hideous is a strong word, but he's not good looking at all imo.
I mean, I can watch a romantic comedy with Gerard Butler, Chris Evans and Hugh Jackman... Tom Hanks would be my last alternative. Right next to Steve Buscemi.
(lol just kidding)
EDIT: oh god now I don't even recognise my own posts.
Spiritreaver
Member
i will give you my facebook, and my body. (I just cant post a pic here
So uh yeah, party at my place, what do you guys like to drink?
dragonlife
Member
That still happens to me
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