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dragonlife said:
My school was by the downtown area, so it was good and bad sometimes, mostly neutral. I still remember an older man giving me "I want to rape" you looks. No joke. Our eyes would meet sometimes (My eyes wander while I wait for things, dammit) and he'd open his eyes wide as he raised his eyebrows at me and smiled. He even looked creepy. And he'd do it every single time.
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That's just wrong...
We had this guy and this woman. Both obviously not completely there. And they'd argue about the same stuff every day, and end with the guy just saying "I'm gonna take you out behind the woodshed!" over and over.
 
Marius_ said:
dont be an ageist
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Marius_ said:
lol, He was joking

you know what they say....

Once you kill a cow you gotta make a burger...
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Opps, yes...missed his edit. Not a very funny joke either way.

Leave the witty quips to the senior queens, right?

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AceBandage said:
Could be he's looking for a work out buddy. I know some guys at my gym that are kind of the same way. They'll just act friendly then ask you to spot them and stuff.
But, who knows. Probably just a wait and see thing.
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I dont lift weights. I only run on the elliptical and tread mill to burn off the large lunches I ingest at work. Damn buffet.

Thats why my body hasn't changed at all.
 
dragonlife said:
My school was by the downtown area, so it was good and bad sometimes, mostly neutral. I still remember an older man giving me "I want to rape you" looks. No joke. Our eyes would meet sometimes (My eyes wander while I wait for things, dammit) and he'd open his eyes wide as he raised his eyebrows at me and smiled. He even looked creepy. And he'd do it every single time.
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Sagitario said:
Now THAT's hilarious!
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8-)
 
Apparently this guy used to finger this girl almost every morning when I road the bus in middle school. I had no idea until another friend who rode that bus told me like 3 years later.

That's really the craziest thing I've ever had happen on public transportation.
 
Typae said:
I would be absolutely terrified in that situation. I commend you for forgiving him though, I would personally never have the heart to forgive someone who attempted to strangle me so out of the blue like that.
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AceBandage said:
On Topic: Not sure I could forgive someone so easily for trying to strangle me to death. Drunken rage or not.
O_o
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I'm actually a pretty unforgiving & stubborn person.

Believe me, even though I said we "patched things up", he was still ostracized from our group of friends for months afterwards. No one wanted anything to do with him after that. He really attempted to make it up to me every chance he got. I guess the turning point would be when he told some guys who didn't know I was gay to STFU when they started talking trash about gays being open after DADT was repelled. He's so comfortable around me now that everytime our group gets together he gives me a big bearhug. He's a great guy who just had a bad night and an ignorant upbringing. I would want someone to give me a second chance in that situation...

The Abominable Snowman said:
Has anyone ever been spontaneously complimented by a straight (Or "Straight") guy and started wondering?

I was at the gym, and minding my own business, went to the locker room after the gym, and this guy walked right up to me (Mid 20's, tall black guy) came up to me and was like "Hey man i see you working out man and you've really changed"

I said "Thank you, im trying to get on your level"

and then stood there for a awkward 2 or 3 seconds that felt like minutes, in silence, and he was like "Alright man I'll see you around!"

So, was he gay? Or just complimenting me because i'm one of the only other black guys who works out at that Golds?

Because if its the former he could GET IT!!!

But i don't pick up any vibes, it was just weird. IDK if he caught me glancing at him or what... because I really havent gotten that much bigger or smaller since working out
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Heh... sounds to me like another case of Overly Friendly/Awkward Straight Guy! Those poor saps have no idea what they do to us. :-(
 
The Abominable Snowman said:
So, was he gay? Or just complimenting me because i'm one of the only other black guys who works out at that Golds?

Because if its the former he could GET IT!!!
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But i don't pick up any vibes, it was just weird. IDK if he caught me glancing at him or what... because I really havent gotten that much bigger or smaller since working out
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I think he's just being awkwardly nice. And that .gif...LOL where is it from?


Also...There's a 15 year old in here?! :O
 
DR2K said:
So I went
black
. Very interesting experience, haha.
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Not as black as New York' mom lolz would you choke your daughter and tell her you'll kill her on national television?
totally not about being black lolz been watching Flavor of Love and I love New York back to back LAWD the memories

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The Abominable Snowman said:
Has anyone ever been spontaneously complimented by a straight (Or "Straight") guy and started wondering?

I was at the gym, and minding my own business, went to the locker room after the gym, and this guy walked right up to me (Mid 20's, tall black guy) came up to me and was like "Hey man i see you working out man and you've really changed"

I said "Thank you, im trying to get on your level"

and then stood there for a awkward 2 or 3 seconds that felt like minutes, in silence, and he was like "Alright man I'll see you around!"

So, was he gay? Or just complimenting me because i'm one of the only other black guys who works out at that Golds?
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Kinsey scale 1 or 2? The kind of straight guys who go around looking for male friends that they consider at their level (in terms of good looks/physique)? There are many of those kinds at gym for some reason. I'm pretty sure most of them are not gay but their behaviors are pretty confusing. They'd come over and ask how many more sets you have and then ask if they can share the machine even though you've told them that you only have one more set left. But the minute you finish your set and leave the machine for him, he too leave the machine (even though he's only done a set) and exercise near where you go next. Some even come with their GF but when their GF does not notice, they specifically stare at/checking out guys that they like (as opposed to observing everyone in the gym), etc.
 
Replicant said:
Kinsey scale 1 or 2? The kind of straight guys who go around looking for male friends that they consider at their level (in terms of good looks/physique)? There are many of those kinds at gym for some reason. I'm pretty sure most of them are not gay but their behaviors are pretty confusing. They'd come over and ask how many more sets you have and then ask if they can share the machine even though you've told them that you only have one more set left. But the minute you finish your set and leave the machine for him, he too leave the machine (even though he's only done a set) and exercise near where you go next. Some even come with their GF but when their GF does not notice, they specifically stare at/checking out guys that they like (as opposed to observing everyone in the gym), etc.
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You work out at a very strange gym.
 
Replicant said:
Kinsey scale 1 or 2? The kind of straight guys who go around looking for male friends that they consider at their level (in terms of good looks/physique)? There are many of those kinds at gym for some reason. I'm pretty sure most of them are not gay but their behaviors are pretty confusing. They'd come over and ask how many more sets you have and then ask if they can share the machine even though you've told them that you only have one more set left. But the minute you finish your set and leave the machine for him, he too leave the machine (even though he's only done a set) and exercise near where you go next. Some even come with their GF but when their GF does not notice, they specifically stare at/checking out guys that they like (as opposed to observing everyone in the gym), etc.
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I think you may be projecting and/or seriously misinterpreting what they might be doing here.
 
So I had a 2nd date tonight.

First date we had drinks and went and watched a movie at his place and hung out chilling and talking till 2am.

This time he came to my place. We watched a scary movie and cuddled.

No sex yet but I don't mind going slow.

I think I like him.
 
SpaceBridge said:
You work out at a very strange gym.
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I'm not the only one who's had similar experience. A friend of mine has had similar situations as well and he's straight.

Rez said:
I think you may be projecting and/or seriously misinterpreting what they might be doing here.
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Except that I wasn't talking about me. They're not staring at me. :P

They're staring at a hot guy and covering my ability to see the mirror (which is necessary when you're doing shoulder/back) because they're too busy flexing/trying to impress said hot guy which happened to exercise nearby. In this one instance, I was half LOL-ing and half annoyed because this guy basically covered up my line of vision just so he could stretch his arm near the hot guy even though he was not doing any other exercise there (all the benches were taken). Like this:

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Replicant said:
I'm not the only one who's had similar experience. A friend of mine has had similar situations as well and he's straight.



Except that I wasn't talking about me. They're not staring at me. :P

They're staring at a hot guy and covering my ability to see the mirror (which is necessary when you're doing shoulder/back) because they're too busy flexing/trying to impress said hot guy which happened to exercise nearby. In this one instance, I was half LOL-ing and half annoyed because this guy basically covered up my line of vision just so he could stretch his arm near the hot guy even though he was not doing any other exercise there (all the benches were taken). Like this:

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Heh, point taken.
 
Aren't most guys by nature just more competitive? So why does someone's attempt to impress another has to have a sexual undertone to it? Gyms, for the most part, have became more of a place for people to strut their stuff, is it any surprise that there are a lot of vain people "working out"? (yes, this is a complete generalization :P)

Scythe27 said:
Anyway, I posted this before but got no response -- what's a good way to make new friends? Friends without benefits I mean. My circle is starting to dwindle and I'd like to hang out with a different crowd for once. Just don't know how to find them.
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Join a hobby group? There should be plenty of local clubs for film, gaming, etc. Even volunteering could get you networked with people you would not otherwise meet.
 
woodypop said:
Is this really true? Source?

It's the second time I've heard it in just a couple months.
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http://blog.cleveland.com/lifestyles/2008/02/muscle_not_cardio_training_the.html
http://blog.cleveland.com/lifestyles/2008/02/muscle_not_cardio_training_the.html

Sure, you can do cardio to burn off calories -- and you should do some for your cardiovascular health -- but the calorie-burning will occur only while you're working out and for a short time afterward, he says.

"Muscles, though, burn calories 24/7," says Creel.

So, the higher your body's muscle-to-fat ratio, the more calories you're burning, even at rest.

You know how people seem to gain weight as they get older, no matter how much they watch their calories? That's because unless they're working to build muscle, they're losing muscle mass. And even if they continue to eat the same number of calories as always, their weight will creep up.
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So, you probably should combine cardio and weight training.
When I go to the gym, I usually do cardio only because weight training bores me to death.
 
Sagitario said:
http://blog.cleveland.com/lifestyles/2008/02/muscle_not_cardio_training_the.html
http://blog.cleveland.com/lifestyles/2008/02/muscle_not_cardio_training_the.html

So, you probably should combine cardio and weight training.
When I go to the gym, I usually do cardio only because weight training bores me to death.
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Well that's reassuring. I prefer lifting weights over doing cardio anyway, but I've still incorporated running into my workouts. I'm just the opposite: cardio bores me, and only by listening to music is it bearable.

Down 12 pounds since January, only 8 more to go!
 
So what is everyone's opinions here on dating age. Are you willing to date someone older or younger than you and by how far? Does age even make a difference for you?

I am happy because I have a date tomorrow!
 
barrin87 said:
So what is everyone's opinions here on dating age. Are you willing to date someone older or younger than you and by how far? Does age even make a difference for you?

I am happy because I have a date tomorrow!
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Congrats :)

And age dont mean shit to me but i like them older lol I dont like being the dominant one.
depends on the situation ;)
 
barrin87 said:
So what is everyone's opinions here on dating age. Are you willing to date someone older or younger than you and by how far? Does age even make a difference for you?

I am happy because I have a date tomorrow!
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I normally date younger than me anyways. I dont think age matters (long as they are legal of course)
 
Most I've done is 5 years older and 5 years younger. I found the former to be a better fit for me. Younger tends to be at a different stage of their life so it can be hard to relate at times.
 
Kyon said:
Congrats :)

And age dont mean shit to me but i like them older lol I dont like being the dominant one.
depends on the situation ;)
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I don't think age necessarily correlates to being the dominant one or not. There was a discussion about age a couple of pages ago but my stance is that it doesn't really matter up to a certain point.

In my opinion there is a huge difference between people pre and post college. Someone who's 20 and still going to college compared to a 30yo who has been working for the last 6 years are not usually at the same stage in their life.

That said it's up to anyone and I don't see a problem with people with a big age gap dating. There are a few examples amongst us. I just couldn't date someone who's way younger or older than me because I feel like we wouldn't want the same things out of life.
 
The Abominable Snowman said:
Has anyone ever been spontaneously complimented by a straight (Or "Straight") guy and started wondering?

I was at the gym, and minding my own business, went to the locker room after the gym, and this guy walked right up to me (Mid 20's, tall black guy) came up to me and was like "Hey man i see you working out man and you've really changed"

I said "Thank you, im trying to get on your level"

and then stood there for a awkward 2 or 3 seconds that felt like minutes, in silence, and he was like "Alright man I'll see you around!"
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Well I've been randomly complimented by a (most probably) gay guy. Weirdest comment ever. I was doing some abs and a guy next to me said something like "you're so fit, you don't have a single gram of fat" (which is not even the case by the way but meh). What are you supposed to reply to that?
 
Yeah, no problems with age..per se. Though in the end, maturity doesn't come with it; so like everything it depends more on that person as an individual; rather than the actual age.
I'd rather date a hard working, responsible 18 years old guy; than a club jumping/Lady Gaga obsessed (sorry fans, not a hater.. just a random example :p) 30/40/50 years old guy.
Same way there are responsible and hard working 30/40/50 years old; and club jumping 18 years old.

If anything, I'd say my "max/min age" is; 20 years over/under mine. (I'm.. technically 30 :p)

EDIT:
Whoa! ichigo in here? Or is my memory fuzzy and I forgot about him? :O!!
 
ciD_Vain said:
I think he's just being awkwardly nice. And that .gif...LOL where is it from?
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Saturday Night Live! And i can't wait to see him in the gym later. I wore my sexy underwear

fernoca said:
Wait, Abominable is black? :O!
New thread for new news!!!
:p
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I'm blickety-black. And Awkward
DR2K said:
So I went
black
. Very interesting experience, haha.
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Replicant said:
Kinsey scale 1 or 2? The kind of straight guys who go around looking for male friends that they consider at their level (in terms of good looks/physique)? There are many of those kinds at gym for some reason.
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So are they attracted at that level of the scale, or will I have to bring alcohol to the gym? I'll have to look up more info on this scale
 
I agree with most of you where I think maturity plays a bigger role in dating that age does. I have only been on a date with someone younger than me once but have dated people much older than me and don't think it's too weird. I would say it more matters on how you can connect to the person. I have met 40 year old guys who don't have a clue before and people in their 20's that have been more mature.

Note: I am more the younger side at 24 but I at least like to consider myself more mature. =D
 
barrin87 said:
So what is everyone's opinions here on dating age. Are you willing to date someone older or younger than you and by how far? Does age even make a difference for you?

I am happy because I have a date tomorrow!
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I tend to date all over the map; but I do prefer older gents. It doesn't really matter as long as I like the guy.

Congrats on your date. \ ^____^ /
 
I prefer to date guys my age with either a 5 age difference either way. I was chatting online with a kid in his early 20's and it was very difficult to find common interests, for example his favorite movie was Resident Evil and Harry Potter.
 
On the dating age topic: My self-imposed (but not inviolable) limit is 5 years older or younger than I am. My younger brother is 10 years younger than me... If the guy I'm seeing is closer to his age than mine I usually think twice about the whole thing.

It's funny cause I was just asking myself this question not so long ago. I'm seeing a guy who's turning 24 just now and I wondered whether the age difference between us was too big (I'm turning 29 in late September), but I don't really think so.

It's also important to note that he's really mature and... just too good to pass up :P
 
SpaceBridge said:
I prefer to date guys my age with either a 5 age difference either way. I was chatting online with a kid in his early 20's and it was very difficult to find common interests, for example his favorite movie was Resident Evil and Harry Potter.
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What's wrong with Harry Potter?!?!? =P

Common interests is a hard thing to find in a date for me. I like video games and when that comes up the other person usually just references the Wii or that they haven't played since the Nintendo. Movies and music is a lost cause for me as well usually since I have odd taste for both.

I have only come across two people with really similar interests. The one guy I couldn't stand because he was an arrogant ass that thought he was better than everyone else because of his family's financial status. The other guy is pretty cool and I would date him but the distance is to far to see each other on a usual basis.
 
SpaceBridge said:
I prefer to date guys my age with either a 5 age difference either way. I was chatting online with a kid in his early 20's and it was very difficult to find common interests, for example his favorite movie was Resident Evil and Harry Potter.
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D:
How can anyone above a teenage consider such horrible flicks as RE movies "favorite" is beyond me.
 
ichigo kurosaki said:
On the dating age topic: My self-imposed (but not inviolable) limit is 5 years older or younger than I am. My younger brother is 10 years younger than me... If the guy I'm seeing is closer to his age than mine I usually think twice about the whole thing.

It's funny cause I was just asking myself this question not so long ago. I'm seeing a guy who's turning 24 just now and I wondered whether the age difference between us was too big (I'm turning 29 in late September), but I don't really think so.

It's also important to note that he's really mature and... just too good to pass up :P
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Like you I was in the more or less my age camp but am now dating someone who's 5 years older (granted that's not that much older).

2 of my roommates are in a relationship and they're 23 and 29. Seems to be going well.
 
Only dated the one person so far but wouldn't feel fair to date anyone 2/3 years younger than me so only over 20. Haven't thought much about older range but I suppose something like 8 years? It's not about how old someone is but it would be strange to date someone whose age is closer to my parents than mine. It's how I see it for the time being.
 
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