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[Duderz]

Earlier this morning, I received a call from my friend's mother saying that one of my old high school buddies who I was real close to with had too much to drink at his dorm in UCLA, and slipped and fell off a three-story balcony, breaking his neck.

I'm pretty fucked up, as I haven't had anyone close to me pass away since, like, elementary school, so I'm not sure how to really deal with this in a healthy way. Today was a lot of mourning, and visiting with friends. Rough.

He and I used to run Cross Country together, and was really my running partner, so anyone familiar with that sport knows how much of a family it really becomes. Very tough to deal with.

Any advice / stories that people are willing to share are welcome.

 

[AlteredBeast]

you could always go the apathy route, seems to work well for me whenever I hear of family/friends that get cancer or die.

I guess that would suck for many people for that to happen, so I am sorry that you feel that way, don't dwell on the death too long or could end up with depression for something you can't change or affect. Remember the good times together, that's about all that matters.

 

[Widfara]

you could always go the apathy route, seems to work well for me whenever I hear of family/friends that get cancer or die.

huh?

 

[AlteredBeast]

Read: not caring or feeling anything that resembles sadness.

 

[Flynn]

Spend time with friends -- get together and do something that your friend liked to do. Celebrate the short time you had with him.

 

[Callo Merlose]

I'm really sorry to hear that, Duderz. I've always been afraid of hearing similar news about my friends that dorm/drink. Again, sorry for your loss.

 

[Jewbacca]

Finish that beer he started in memory of him.

 

[zon]

Accept that he's gone, cherish the time you spent with him and be happy that you met such a good friend. Focus on the positive stuff

 

[speedpop]

Sorry to hear it. Best way to deal with it is to just let it come then go, no real way to try and combat a death of someone close.

 

[Zaptruder]

remember, death is always more painful for the living than the dead.

 

[kevm3]

just keep his memory alive and know that we all will share his fate one day and you may see him again on the other side.

 

[Omie]

I dorm at UCLA and hearing about this was simply tragic, my condolences go out to you.

 

[NLB2]

Sorry about your loss, dude.
Have you tried going for a run?
Supposedly exercise helps in this kind of stuff. Probably especially so when he was your running buddy.

 

[sonicfan]

Sorry to hear about your friend.

I see that it made the front page of the Daily Bruin.

http://www.dailybruin.ucla.edu/news/home.asp

 

[White Man]

huh?

It worked for me.

 

[Oldschoolgamer]

Sorry about your loss. Try to focus on the positives in life---fun times you spent with friends.

 

[ConsumerSquare]

I'm not sure how to really deal with this in a healthy way.

The "healthy" way is to do whatever feels right for you. Don't worry yourself over whether or not you're coping properly; there really aren't right or wrong ways of dealing with grief (aside from destructive behaviors).

 

[shuri]

A shitty way to die; but don't forget that friends only truely die when you stop thinking about them and all the good times you had with them

 

[Duderz]

Thank you for posting that article, sonicfan. I was wondering how his parents were, and it looks like a memorial service is coming soonner than I thought.

Thank you for all the kind advice, everyone. I really, truly appreciate it.