Holding your SO's purse

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rhodo said:
First off I'm just happy because my gf doesn't have a purse because she thinks they're dumb.

Second, if something like that did happen I'd give her the same response she'd give me if I asked her to carry some of my random shit: What do I look like, your bitch?

Then we'd go on for a bit about who's the real bitch and end up carrying our own shit and everything works out fine
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LookAtMeGo said:
That sounds like a terrible way to live.
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LAMG, you said it...

Seriously? WIth some of the fellas in this topic?
 
She's only asked me if she had a good reason, like not feeling well or sore. I don't mind in the least, in fact it's usually her being stubborn and me offering to carry it. Not sure why I would refuse, it's not like it's heavy.
 
ScatheZombie said:
The problem with this line of thinking is that everyone is selfish and inconsiderate sometimes. Everyone. EVERYONE.

Assuming you have a SO, you've probably been somehow selfish or inconsiderate towards them in, say, the last 48 hours. You may not even realize it. It happens. We're people. We are inherently selfish and inconsiderate. Just be around young children for like ... 10 minutes. Tiny little Hitlers. Every single one. Because they haven't been taught to suppress that part of themselves in public yet. They haven't figured out that other people exist and have value.

So when you treat your relationship like some competition between who can be less (or more) inconsiderate and selfish, are making tallies in some mental list of perceived slights, are assuming your SO is just being a dick when they ask for a simple favor, are expecting them to explain themselves every time they say or do some trivial thing you don't personally agree with ... when you do that, you are being a child. You don't trust your SO. You value yourself more than them. And you shouldn't be in that relationship anymore.

But that's like way, way, way, way, way down the line from holding her purse.
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You need to take the statement in full. It's pretty relevant when you factor it all in.

The facts are she just didn't want to hold it and then complains when he suggests taking it back to the car. That's a reasonable solution and she handled it unreasonably all around. It's not just holding her purse. There's more to it.
 
Marty Chinn said:
You need to take the statement in full. It's pretty relevant when you factor it all in.

The facts are she just didn't want to hold it and then complains when he suggests taking it back to the car. That's a reasonable solution and she handled it unreasonably all around. It's not just holding her purse. There's more to it.
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One would assume that there are items in the handbag that the OPs girlfriend thought necessary to have in close proximity.

Wasting time taking it back to the car is in no way a reasonable solution.
 
AShep said:
One would assume that there are items in the handbag that the OPs girlfriend thought necessary to have in close proximity.

Wasting time taking it back to the car is in no way a reasonable solution.
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If neither one wants to carry it and he's willing to take it to the car, it is easily a reasonable solution. What is this magical item that needs to be carried in a purse that is so dire to have within closer proximity and why is she not telling him about this important item?
 
Marty Chinn said:
If neither one wants to carry it and he's willing to take it to the car, it is easily a reasonable solution. What is this magical item that needs to be carried in a purse that is so dire to have within closer proximity and why is she not telling him about this important item?
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The OP mentioned hygiene products specifically.

Are you really going to base your argument around where the OPs girlfriend might be in her menstrual cycle?
 
Dice// said:
LAMG, you said it...

Seriously? WIth some of the fellas in this topic?
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Seriously some of the shit said in here is super cringe worthy. Maybe i was raised differently but i don't understand the problem and i am amazed at some of the excuses.
 
AShep said:
I think this is a bit melodramatic.

First of all, the OP has admitted that it's the aesthetic of carrying the bag that bother him which is petty.
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Yes, that is certainly dumb, I agree.

By all accounts the OPs girlfriend doesn't expect him to carry around her handbag all day every day. She just didn't feel like it on this particular day.
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I was under the impression that she just expected him to do that for her for no particular reason. It sounds kind of petty too. If there was a good reason (tired, sore arm, overburdened etc.) doing a nice thing for your SO is obviously not an issue.
 
Morrigan Stark said:
Yes, that is certainly dumb, I agree.

I was under the impression that she just expected him to do that for her for no particular reason. It sounds kind of petty too. If there was a good reason (tired, sore arm, overburdened etc.) doing a nice thing for your SO is obviously not an issue.
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I don't need a "good reason" to do something nice for my SO. Doing something nice IS the reason.

Marty Chinn said:
What if she made you do this every day?
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Well, she'd probably be a different person, and we wouldn't have lasted this long. I'm assuming the assumption that I'm there to carry a purse for that person would also come with other personality quirks and assumptions I wouldn't put up with. However, that's not the case that's presented. The case that's presented is that the OP has been with a person for 2 years, she asked him to carry a purse, and he was so put off by this that he both asked a coworker and made a thread asking other opinions.

I've been with my fiance for 3 years. If something similar happened, it wouldn't have been a question, as I've said before. There is no "pack mule" mentality presented in the OP. They've been together for a substantial amount of time, this is the first time he was asked, and his response was, "wtf, why?"

For me, it would be a non-issue.
 
All of you guys saying, "Just leave it in the car!"

Uh, what happens when someone spots a purse lying in your car, breaks your window, and steals it?
 
Marty Chinn said:
If only cars had some sort of compartment to hold gloves or a place in the back like a trunk.
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How the fuck is a glove compartment supposed to fit a big ass purse like that?

And don't you usually have a window that looks into the trunk? Like how are you supposed to see behind you through your rearview window?
 
Morrigan Stark said:
I was under the impression that she just expected him to do that for her for no particular reason. It sounds kind of petty too. If there was a good reason (tired, sore arm, overburdened etc.) doing a nice thing for your SO is obviously not an issue.
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What if it was preventative? Like I steal my mom's purse away from her all the time, because I know it's heavy and I know it'd hurt her eventually. Why do I have to wait until she's physically to that point, when I know I have more stamina than her and won't tire out as easy? Maybe the girlfriend was just thinking it'd be a long shopping trip, so she might let him wander off later by himself while she went into stores he didn't like (e.g., hollister and their shitty perfume)? Of course, I don't know if that's was the case here. But hell, why can't you be lazy once in a while with someone you're comfortable with? Like sometimes my sibling to asks me to feed them, and I give 'em shit about it jokingly, but I still do it, because I know they'd do the same for me.

Marty Chinn said:
How old are you? Have you ever been in a car?
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Uhhhhh I've driven like 3 different cars in my lifetime, and I've always had a window looking into my trunk.

Also I don't know how you expect large purses like this

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to fit in a tiny glove compartment that likely has other shit like the car manual, your documents, CDs, napkins, and whatever else you put in there, in it.

Skilletor said:
What kind of trunks are you used to seeing? Lol
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e.g., ford escape

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Marty Chinn said:
Do you not notice what other cars look like? Also I've easily fit a purse in my glove compartment before.
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This doesn't help matters if the guy drives a car like me, or if the girlfriend has a large purse (which according to the picture, she does).

And even if he did have a car like that, I don't get why he would expend the effort to go to the car, walk back, and make his girlfriend wait for no good reason, instead of just like carrying the thing.
 
thesaucetastic said:
This doesn't help matters if the guy drives a car like me, or if the girlfriend has a large purse (which according to the picture, she does).

And even if he did have a car like that, I don't get why he would expend the effort to go to the car, walk back, and make his girlfriend wait for no good reason, instead of just like carrying the thing.
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That is not a large purse. It's way smaller than the picture of the purse you showed. A ton of people don't drive SUVs. It's crazy that you think all cars have trunks like an SUV. In fact even in SUVs they're not all exposed.
 
Marty Chinn said:
That is not a large purse. It's way smaller than the picture of the purse you showed. A ton of people don't drive SUVs. It's crazy that you think all cars have trunks like an SUV. In fact even in SUVs they're not all exposed.
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Google image search makes it look like a big purse to me (same bag, different color)?
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And I drove a sedan that had the same type of trunk. In both cases I could easily see into them if I have groceries lying back there.
 
thesaucetastic said:
I drove a sedan that had the same type of trunk.

Google image search makes it look like a big purse to me (same bag, different color)?


And I drove a sedan that had the same type of trunk. In both cases I could easily see into them if I have groceries lying back there.
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Are you really really trying to say all trunks are exposed or even at the bare minimum most cars have exposed trunks? For real? I don't think I've ever seen a sedan with an exposed trunk. What make and model is this? Are you sure you're not confusing it with a hatchback? You seem like you don't know much about the different types of cars out there.
 
Marty Chinn said:
Are you really really trying to say all trunks are exposed or even at the bare minimum most cars have exposed trunks? For real? I don't think I've ever seen a sedan with an exposed trunk. What make and model is this? Are you sure you're not confusing it with a hatchback? You seem like you don't know much about the different types of cars out there.
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Like I even give a fuck about cars more than the fact that I have to drive one. Who gives a shit, hatchbacks and sedans look close enough to the same thing just from googling it. The one I was thinking of is a hatchback apparently.

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And honestly, with a $10,000 purse? I wouldn't chance leaving it unattended in a car.
 
thesaucetastic said:
All of you guys saying, "Just leave it in the car!"

Uh, what happens when someone spots a purse lying in your car, breaks your window, and steals it?
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thesaucetastic said:
How the fuck is a glove compartment supposed to fit a big ass purse like that?

And don't you usually have a window that looks into the trunk? Like how are you supposed to see behind you through your rearview window?
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thesaucetastic said:
Uhhhhh I've driven like 3 different cars in my lifetime, and I've always had a window looking into my trunk.

Also I don't know how you expect large purses like this



to fit in a tiny glove compartment that likely has other shit like the car manual, your documents, CDs, napkins, and whatever else you put in there, in it.


e.g., ford escape
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thesaucetastic said:
This doesn't help matters if the guy drives a car like me, or if the girlfriend has a large purse (which according to the picture, she does).

And even if he did have a car like that, I don't get why he would expend the effort to go to the car, walk back, and make his girlfriend wait for no good reason, instead of just like carrying the thing.
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LOL, just put it on the floor in the back.
 
thesaucetastic said:
Like I even give a fuck about cars more than the fact that I have to drive one. Who gives a shit, hatchbacks and sedans look close enough to the same thing just from googling it. The one I was thinking of is a hatchback apparently.
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So you admit you don't know shit about cars to the point that you don't even understand that cars have trunks. You didn't even know what a hatchback was versus a sedan and many hatchbacks in my experience have covers over the trunk space so that it's not completely exposed. Maybe you shouldn't double down on the ability to put something away in a car if you don't know anything about cars. I would have thought trunks would have been common knowledge though. I mean how many times do we see in movies and TV shows someone getting thrown into a trunk?
 
Marty Chinn said:
So you admit you don't know shit about cars to the point that you don't even understand that cars have trunks. You didn't even know what a hatchback was versus a sedan and many hatchbacks in my experience have covers over the trunk space so that it's not completely exposed. Maybe you shouldn't double down on the ability to put something away in a car if you don't know anything about cars. I would have thought trunks would have been common knowledge though. I mean how many times do we see in movies and TV shows someone getting thrown into a trunk?
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Do you honestly think most people give a shit about what a hatchback is versus a sedan? It's just a car, dude. Most people don't give that much of a shit as long as it still drives. I live in a city and your car can get broken into for less than a purse, like a shopping bag or a bookbag thrown in the back seat.

And who said I was doubling down? Seems like you're much more invested into this argument than I ever was.
 
thesaucetastic said:
Do you honestly think most people give a shit about what a hatchback is versus a sedan? It's just a car, dude. Most people don't give that much of a shit as long as it still drives. I live in a city and your car can get broken into for less than a purse, like a shopping bag or a bookbag.
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Umm yes many do care when buying a car because it's a specific design. Just like a SUV is a type of a car, and just like a minivan is a type of car. The different design have their different uses so you can bet many people buying a car do care about the difference between a hatchback compared to a sedan just like someone cares about a SUV versus a sedan.

People break into cars when they see something of value that they think they can get quickly. They aren't likely to break into a trunk when they can't see if there's anything at all worth breaking into. You seem to really want to try to prove that somehow people don't have trunks in their cars and they don't store things in there.

And who said I was doubling down? Seems like you're much more invested into this argument than I ever was.
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Because rather than conceding that you were wrong, you're still trying to prove that you're right.
 
Marty Chinn said:
Umm yes many do care when buying a car because it's a specific design. Just like a SUV is a type of a car, and just like a minivan is a type of car. The different design have their different uses so you can bet many people buying a car do care about the difference between a hatchback compared to a sedan just like someone cares about a SUV versus a sedan.
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More often I just hear sedan vs. SUV vs. minivan vs. truck, honestly.

You seem to really want to try to prove that somehow people don't have trunks in their cars and they don't store things in there.
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Where exactly am I trying to prove this?

Because rather than conceding that you were wrong, you're still trying to prove that you're right.
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What am I trying to prove I'm right about?
 
thesaucetastic said:
More often I just hear sedan vs. SUV vs. minivan vs. truck, honestly.


Where exactly am I trying to prove this?


What am I trying to prove I'm right about?
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You're very defensive and sure seem resistant to just admitting you're wrong even though other people have also commented on the topic of trunks and cars too:

And don't you usually have a window that looks into the trunk? Like how are you supposed to see behind you through your rearview window?
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Uhhhhh I've driven like 3 different cars in my lifetime, and I've always had a window looking into my trunk.
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And I drove a sedan that had the same type of trunk. In both cases I could easily see into them if I have groceries lying back there.
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Who gives a shit, hatchbacks and sedans look close enough to the same thing just from googling it.
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Do you honestly think most people give a shit about what a hatchback is versus a sedan? It's just a car, dude. Most people don't give that much of a shit as long as it still drives.
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Marty Chinn said:
You're very defensive and sure seem resistant to just admitting you're wrong even though other people have also commented on the topic of trunks and cars too:
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?? Didn't I already say that the car I was thinking of was a hatchback?

I don't really get how your interpreting my posts to me saying "OMG ALL CARS HAVE THE SAME TRUNK AS MY CARS DID". Like where are you seeing that?

I even said that if he did have a car with a trunk like the one you posted, I don't get why he'd go all the way back just to put the purse in there, and make his girlfriend wait.

In summation, what are you even talking about.
 
thesaucetastic said:
?? Didn't I already say that the car I was thinking of was a hatchback?

I don't really get how your interpreting my posts to me saying "OMG ALL CARS HAVE THE SAME TRUNK AS MY CARS DID". Like where are you seeing that?
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Because you thought it was weird that someone might actually put something in their trunk because it would be exposed and then when shown a bunch of trunks that weren't exposed, even one SUV that wasn't exposed because it has a cover, you didn't concede you were wrong/mistaken. You then even went further to try and imply that nobody knows the difference between a hatchback and sedan just because you didn't. I'm not the only one who thought your comments were odd either as other people replied to you too.
 
Marty Chinn said:
Because you thought it was weird that someone might actually put something in their trunk because it would be exposed and then when shown a bunch of trunks that weren't exposed, even one SUV that wasn't exposed because it has a cover, you didn't concede you were wrong/mistaken. You then even went further to try and imply that nobody knows the difference between a hatchback and sedan just because you didn't.
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Like literally if I ask some of my friends what the difference between a hatchback and a sedan is, they wouldn't be able to tell you without googling it. Most people around me wouldn't give much of a shit about cars.

And am I suppose to just say, "whoops I'm wrong"? Like what about you and thinking that the purse would fit into the glove compartment? Where's your concession?
 
thesaucetastic said:
Like literally if I ask some of my friends what the difference between a hatchback and a sedan is, they wouldn't be able to tell you without googling it. Most people around me wouldn't give much of a shit about cars.

And am I suppose to just say, "whoops I'm wrong"? Like what about you and thinking that the purse would fit into the glove compartment? Where's your concession?
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What concession? I already told you I could fit a purse of similar size in my glove compartment.

I'd actually be curious how many of your friends wouldn't know the difference. Most people i know would and neither me, nor the rest of them are car enthusiasts. They just knew what they were spending thousands of dollars on.
 
Marty Chinn said:
What concession? I already told you I could fit a purse of similar size in my glove compartment.

I'd actually be curious how many of your friends wouldn't know the difference. Most people i know would and neither me, nor the rest of them are car enthusiasts. They just knew what they were spending thousands of dollars on.
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So what, am I supposed to call them up at 4 am over a neogaf thread lol

I barely drunk enough for this conversation in the first place
 
Well this thread took a weird turn from page 1 to 8 lol. After 10 years of marriage she knows I would hold her purse but knows well enough not to ask me to carry it "just cause".
 
thesaucetastic said:
did you really just take a picture of your own glove compartment just to prove someone wrong on the internet LOL

man, I should just head back to the bar
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You really just can't admit you're wrong can you? You'd rather deflect, play it off, and whatever else to avoid just simply admitting your wrong. That must be some pride you have to not concede especially after requesting me to concede.
 
It's no big deal. You're doing something polite and considerate for someone you care about with an almost insignificant amount of effort required of you.

Try asking to carry her purse without being prompted and you'll feel even better about it.
 
Marty Chinn said:
You really just can't admit you're wrong can you? You'd rather deflect, play it off, and whatever else to avoid just simply admitting your wrong. That must be some pride you have to not concede especially after requesting me to concede.
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What the fuck are you talking about, seriously. I just thought it was hilarious that you care about this argument so much that you went out of your way for a picture. But whatever, I can't be assed to give the same effort, so here you go buddy: "whoops I'm wrong". Does that make you feel like a winner yet
 
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