How Do You Feel About Fat People?

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As a former fat guy, I feel pity and then anger at people who are grossly overweight. I know eating that food makes you feel good for a little bit but you are hurting yourself and society in the long run.

I also get upset when I hear excuses as to why people are fat. The vast majority of weight issues is food choice and then amount. When we go food shopping I look at other people's carts and I just shake my head. Oreos and chips? Frozen meals?
 
I love fat people. Every person I see who is fatter and more out of shape than me makes me feel better about myself. I wish everyone else in the world was a massive out-of-shape beluga whale and they all worshipped at my feet like I was some kind of trim fitness god.

(5'10" 185, probably 18-20% BF. By no means am I small/trim/ripped but I'm not obese.)
 
The real question we need to concern ourselves with is "What do fat people think of skinny people" since we are quickly becoming the minority in this country.
 
People make their own choices, frankly. There are lots of people that are overweight, obese, skinny fat, out of shape and so forth.

It all comes down to making the choice and then sticking with it. Some of it is easy...you can lost weight pretty quick by changing your diet, and you can get fit by exercising. Time and effort, but commitment above all else. It's REAL easy to pack on pounds if you don't pay the least bit of attention to your lifestyle.
 
The problem is that fat people's choices have a cost that gets passed down to everyone else.

That's very, very true. At the end of the day, I don't think that many of my personal dollars are going to go to pay for the health care of the unhealthy, however I would be interested to see numbers on what we could do WITH the money that we pay were it not going to pay for the unhealthy.

tl;dr, I ain't mad about it, but I acknowledge that overall health could and most likely would better our society.
 
The only time I feel really judgmental about fat people is when I see a fatty couple with their fatty kids and their shopping cart full of soda and processed foods.

Those poor kids pretty much had no choice but to grow up in a family that doesn't value a healthy lifestyle.
 
Unfortunately, I see someone who is overweight as someone who's taking the path of least resistance and just going with the flow and consuming what's available and what's marketed toward them. It's becoming the status quo and I think it's only going to get worse.

There are so many issues with the state of food marketing at least in the USA that I don't know where to start. Personally, I got back to a normal weight when I took off the blinders, stopped giving in to convenience, and started preparing my own meals every single day. The money I've saved by not eating out is pretty ridiculous - several hundred dollars a month.

I think the part that is most frustrating to me is that there are so many legal institutions that tout themselves as "quick answers" to obesity - weight loss surgery, magic pills, specially marked food products. None of this is going to end a lifetime of obesity. You need to take ownership of your lifestyle and practice those ideas every day for the rest of your life.
 
The real question we need to concern ourselves with is "What do fat people think of skinny people" since we are quickly becoming the minority in this country.

My experience, is either

Oh you have an eating disorder? No

Oh you don't eat alot? I eat right

You don't like fast food or all you can eat places? Hell no

OK joke time over time food culture in the US is bad man.
 
For anyone who is interested, I read this book recently and learned a lot:

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I strongly recommend it to anyone interested in this topic, whatever your positions are. This is a (rather long) excerpt from the beginning of the book that explains the book's, er, framing of the topic:

In this book, I will use the concept of framing to shed new light on contemporary debates over corpulence. Once you put down this book, you will never hear the word obesity in the same way again. This book will show that the term obesity implies a medical frame and examines the material consequences of this frame. A medical frame implies that fat bodies are pathological. It has become so pervasive and so taken-for-granted in the contemporary United States and elsewhere that most people do not even realize that it is a frame and that there are alternative ways of understanding fatness, as, for instance, beautiful, sexy, healthy, or a positive form of human diversity.

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Reliance on particular frames can make it difficult or impossible to perceive contradictory information. Here is an example from another context: when scientists viewed the process of fertilization ofa human egg by a human sperm in terms of a gendered romance of a strong, active male (sperm) and a weak, passive female (egg), they were unable to perceive the ways in which eggs actively selected and joined with sperm. Today, scientists often portray fat cells like they portray fat people: bloated, greasy, and flabby. This is despite research showing that fat cells play an important role in the regulation of appetite and metabolism. Framing bigger bodies as obese (i.e., diseased and risky) bodies makes it difficult, if not impossible, to see these bodies as healthy or good bodies.

In addition to problem frames - different ways of framing corpulence as a problem or not - there are competing blame frames. Thus, some people blame obesity on bad personal lifestyles (a personal responsibility blame frame), while other blame the food industry, urban planning, or poverty (a sociocultural blame frame), others see it as primarily determined by genetics or other biological factors (a biological blame frame). There are heated debates over what is to blame for rising rates of obesity, and yet collectively, these debates serve to reinforce the problem frame of fatness as a medical issue and public health crisis.

There have been a lot of books written about the causes of obesity or of the "obesity epidemic." This book t urns that question on its head by asking what obesity, as a frame, causes. In other words, this book examines the social implications of understanding fatness as a medical health risk, disease, and public health crisis. To do this, it is necessary to understand where these frames come from, what their internal logic is, and how and why they have come to dominate our understanding of fatness. The medical and publich health crisis frames make it diffitul to think of fatness in other terms, such as, for instance, an ascribed characteristic and a form of human diversity that should be valued. To demonstrate this, this book also examines the origins, internal logic, supporters, and very different social implications of other kinds of fat frames, including those that cast fat as beautiful, healthy, and as a basis for rights claims.

Framing Matters

This book will show that the way fatness is framed matters. I ask: Do beliefs that fatness is a disease mean that we are less likely to blame people for their weight? Or is obesity most often understood as a disease that people bring upon themselves? How does understanding fat as obesity affect how we feel about our bodies? How does it inform how medical professionals and the general public treat visibly fat people?

It is crucial to note that different ways of framing blame and responsibility for obesity imply different courses of action. Believing that weight is under personal control may give some individuals a sense of agency and facilitate positive lifestyle changes. However, people who fail to lose weight despite their best efforts may end up feeling guilt and shame. The belief that body size is under personal control would also justify policies that make people personally accountable, by, say, charging people more for health insurance if they fall into the obese category or obligating them to buy two seats if they are too big to fit in a single seat. In contrast, if being fat is seen as due to factors beyond personal control, one can reason that fat people deserve public accomodations, like the disabled enjoy. If being fat as a child is a serious health risk that is due to poor parenting or parental neglect, it may be seen as desirable that social services try to educate the families of fat children or, in extreme cases, even remove fat children from their parents' custody.

If, however, one attributes high rates of obesity among the poor to food insecurity, defined as lacking the money to buy food at some point in the past 12 months, then different policy solutions are likely to be on the table. For instance, one might argue that the food stamp program needs to be more generous so that people do not experience food acquisition cycles, in which food-spending peaks in the first three days after benefits are received and sharply drops at the end of the month when food stamps run out. This perspective relies on research suggesting that this cycle leads to binging on high-calorie foods when the new month's supply of food stamps arrives.

If blame is heaped on the food industry for encouraging unhealthy eating, this implies a need for greater regulation of this industry. If obesity, particularly among the underprivileged, is economically driven by the high cost of fruits and vegetables and the low cost of high-calorie processed foods, this would suggest a need to increase access (e.g., via subsidies) to fruits and vegetables or decrease access (e.g., via taxes) to "bad" foods and drinks. If fat people are fat because they do not have a safe place to exercise, this may point to a need to improve neighborhood safety and provide public gymnasiums and recreational spaces. If the working poor's weight stems from the fact that they cannot look after their health due to the pressures of working two or three minimum-wage jobs, one could argue that the minimum wage needs to be raised so that people working in these jobs have more time to eat well and exercise. Alternatively, if a penchant for cooking and eating fried food or an aesthetic preference for curvy women is to blame for higher body mass among certain ethnic groups or social classes, some sort of educational intervention may be justified. If obesity is genetically or biologically determined, it may be desirable to invest more in biological interventions. As these examples demonstrate, different ways of framing blame and responsibility imply different solutions.

While advocates for these various positions disagree about the causes of and best solutions for the "obesity epidemic," they agree that obesity is a health crisis that urgently needs to be addressed. Indeed, the shared framing of higher body weight as obesity, that is, as medically pathological, allows a wide range of social actors to gloss over different views regarding the causes of fatness and appropriate public health responses to it. Diverse commentators may disagree about why people are getting fatter or how to stop or reverse trends in "obesity," while concurring that higher body weights represent a pressing medical and public health probelm. This is an advantage for anti-obesity advocates, as concern over a given issue is more likely to spread when there are multiple causal frames available, and when it is possible to gloss over disagreements regarding these frames, so long as the issue itself is generally acknowledged to be a problem.
 
Unfortunately, I see someone who is overweight as someone who's taking the path of least resistance and just going with the flow and consuming what's available and what's marketed toward them. It's becoming the status quo and I think it's only going to get worse.

There are so many issues with the state of food marketing at least in the USA that I don't know where to start. Personally, I got back to a normal weight when I took off the blinders, stopped giving in to convenience, and started preparing my own meals every single day. The money I've saved by not eating out is pretty ridiculous - several hundred dollars a month.

I think the part that is most frustrating to me is that there are so many legal institutions that tout themselves as "quick answers" to obesity - weight loss surgery, magic pills, specially marked food products. None of this is going to end a lifetime of obesity. You need to take ownership of your lifestyle and practice those ideas every day for the rest of your life.

I think a major reason people are fat is that they what they are eating at a restrant is a normal sized portion that they should eat at home. If you eat out less you should be able to lose weight and hold on to more money.
 
I'll admit that I probably do judge more than I should. I used to be obese and got in shape and down to a normal weight, and when I see overweight people I tend to think that if I did it, so could they. Thinking like that was a motivational tool for me and it's a hard mindset to break, even if it's true a lot of the time.

Most of my father's side of the family is obese and diabetic, and I was well on the way, so I could have made excuses about how it was genetic or whatever. But while I might be predisposed to being heavy, I'll only get fat if I let myself get fat. Weight doesn't come from nowhere and I believe the vast majority of overweight people could reverse it if they were willing to put the work in. It's not easy, but it's possible.

That said, I would never insult or discriminate against someone for their weight. And if they're happy, whatever. Just don't tell me how it's impossible.
 
I've never been fat, there's no fat people in my family either, the most overweight i've been was like 10lbs above my weight and i lost them in a couple of months by eating a little less than usual and quitting alcohol.

I can't help but think of fat people as lazy, selfish human beings, i guess you could call me a "weightiest" , i don't discriminate based on gender, sexual orientation or skin color, but i do tend to think less of fat people, especially people with fat kids. There is no excuse to raise a fat kid.
 
I can't help but think of fat people as lazy, selfish human beings, i guess you could call me a "weightiest" , i don't discriminate based on gender, sexual orientation or skin color, but i do tend to think less of fat people, especially people with fat kids. There is no excuse to raise a fat kid.

What do you think of ignorant, less educated people?
 
I used to be fat (short and 200+ lbs., now short and 140-something lbs.) so people who are overweight, I understand. However, people who are morbidly obese and can barely move, I feel they should do something about it, whatever it may be, because they're shortening their lives by being like that.
 
I'm not mean to obese people or anything but I do kind of think less of them. I know it's wrong but my damn brain bias can't help it. I think using the "but America has shitty food" excuse is kind of a cop-out also. You can eat healthy if you want to.
 
What do you think of ignorant, less educated people?

There's plenty of ignorant, less educated people who aren't fat. I live in Mexico and obesity is a big health issue here too, we're second to the US in terms of fat population, but it wasn't always like this. People like sitting on their asses eating crap all day, they do, they choose that lifestyle. Most people here in mexico can't afford fast food places or shitty food, it's cheaper to buy a fresh chicken than a McDonalds hamburger you know. I had to use public transport for a while a couple of years ago and people complained that they had to walk a couple of blocks to the nearest bus stop. Most women in lower classes over 40 with kids are overweight because they expect their husband and kids to provide for them and all they do all day is sit on their asses to watch telenovelas and gossip with their neighbors.

I don't treat fat people different from fit people, but i do think less of them, i like junk food too, i eat my fare share of chips, soda and hamburgers but i have self control, the problem is like in many other areas of their life, many people only think about the now and not about the future, the don't think about what being overweight does to their bodies until it's too late.
 
you know the famous picture of the starved african child and the vulture where the photographer won an award and later killed himself.


yeah....
 
Unfortunately, I'm pretty much prejudice against obese people. I don't mind some potbelly, I'm quite overweight myself. But I'm afraid I look at obese people with such disgust that I'm disgust with myself sometime. I'm afraid I'm not the tolerant a human being after all. That said, I don't treat them any differently.
 
They get no sympathy from me, outside of disease related (which doesn't apply to most). Stop taking in more ATP than your body needs while doing nothing to use it for. This is in regards to obese people. Don't even get me started on obese couples with little obese kids.
 
The real question we need to concern ourselves with is "What do fat people think of skinny people" since we are quickly becoming the minority in this country.

No one likes skinny men.

Even worse if you are short.

Sucks when both factors are defined by genes.

At least fat people can be loved.
 
Being totally honest I judge them for their lack of self control. Also being honest I am jealous of how they let themselves eat. It's complex.
 
I'm not mean to obese people or anything but I do kind of think less of them. I know it's wrong but my damn brain bias can't help it. I think using the "but America has shitty food" excuse is kind of a cop-out also. You can eat healthy if you want to.
Fat, tall, skinny, short, it's all the same to me. I never sit around thinking about heavy people. You get to know somebody and none of that matters.

It's difficult to eat right in America. Temptation is all around you everywhere you go if you live or work in a city. I live in a small town with a single road and even then there's Subway (becoming less and less healthy if it ever was in the first place), gas station (they sell crap), Wallgreens (they sell crap), Sav-On (they sell crap), Little Cesars Pizza, donut shop, Pizza Hut, McDonalds, Fred's Hamburgers, Starbucks, Albertsons grocery store (very expensive) and about twenty Mexican shops (very fatty). I'm driving past every single one of these places to pay more money in order to eat healthy multiple times a week.

Ten minutes into the city and it's twenty times worse.

Not everybody is in my situation to where they have a wife who has the time and desire to cook and generally hates fast food. If I was single I'd probably be eating fast food more often. Two double cheeseburgers at $1 each and I'm good for the night.

I could never blame someone for choosing to eat at these places. It's cheap, saves time, taste good and we're constantly being bombarded with it through ads and on the street.
 
@Dark Octave: As has been mentioned in this thread - Mexico is currently number two in obesity, not that far behind the US, and fast food over here is rather expensive compared to the dirt cheap veggies and fruits we have. I'm not exaggerating, I remember being pretty shocked because I saw huge-ass cauliflowers at ~$0.2 USD a piece. Yet people prefer to eat the unhealthy stuff. Mexico will deep fry everything and then soak it in milk cream, and will drink a big portion of Coke along with it. That's absolutely NOT cheaper than eating properly around here.

It has more to do with food addiction, maybe? I'm not sure. Because Japan has tons of incredibly high-calorie food items widely available (and not really expensive) and they are one of the lowest ranked countries in the world obesity-wise.
 
People are people. Some are cool, some are assholes. I've never cared about fat or skinny, unless it's causing medical issues for someone I'm close to.
 
I think part of the problem is misinformation. I remember some people going "well, if I don't eat, I'll go into starvation mode." As if eating a huge amount of healthy food will make you lose weight. And on that topic, some of the "healthy" choices out there are actually not that healthy either. Just bad information out there coupled with easy access to huge portions at low prices is just making it hard.

I was about 25 lbs overweight and went on a diet with a roommate (who lost about 40 lbs) after much, MUCH research and some of the information out there is just an outright lie. I'm not judging anyone but I can see how you can give up after you diet incorrectly thinking you're doing the right thing. If you feel comfortable in your own skin, then all the power to you.
 
I treat them the same way I would anyone else.

Yes, obesity is more a choice than something purely genetic like gender and ethnicity, so hatred of the obese isn't quite the same as other forms of bigotry in that regard, but it's still stupid and misguided.

Some people do make an active choice in their obesity, but that's certainly not the case for everyone. In a lot of cases, the decision is made up for them in childhood when the parents stuff them with soda and fast food at a young age, and by the time adulthood roles around the nasty habit is second nature. Poverty is also a huge factor in obesity. Due to the wrong kinds of subsidies, it's simply cheaper to eat like shit, so impoverished and lower-class individuals are dealt a bad hand in this regard. Also, it's sort of unfair to demonize obese people for their care free attitude towards food and health, when there's plenty of skinny people with the same diet and lack of exercise but the genetic makeup to compensate for it who go unscathed by our remarks.

And finally, you never know if the person you're shitting on is actively in the middle of a weight loss transformation. At that time, the person in question could be eating beyond healthy and exercising profusely in an attempt to shed weight, like I've been over these last few years:

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Basically, treating someone like shit because they're overweight or obese is among the dumbest things in the world. Treat them positively or negatively based on the merits of their overall character, not the way they fucking look.
 
They cause a lot of problems for society and for some percentage of them, the health problems are completely unnessesary.
That's a difficult argument to support when illness related to alcohol, smoking and drug abuse are so prevalent. Not to mention that these choices can lead to a lot more problems for society beyond healthcare like crime, DUI, etc.

There are also a lot of normal weight people with a sedentary lifestyle who can get the same health problems as the overweight. Same for those who do nothing about their stress levels.

It's not fair to label the overweight as a burden to society when there are many, many, lifestyle choices that contribute to health care costs and problems for society. Overweight lifestyle is just another drop in the bucket.
 
Personality wise? Some cool people and some assholes.

Health wise? Obviously it's unhealthy. Some fat is fine but obesity is NOT fine. It's never fine. If you have a serious health issue like a hormonal imbalance or whatever, you can be excused. If you're fat because you're lazy and don't give a shit, I find it hard to muster a huge amount of respect.

Obviously I don't look down on anyone but there really is no reason you should be obese if you have no hardcore condition. Like Evil said, society is kinda to blame but there's plenty of sources of education. If you want to be healthy you will.
 
I don't really like them honestly. I don't group being fat in the same category as being a minority or being a homosexual. 95% of the time, it's a result of poor lifestyle choices and that annoys me. Seeing that lifestyle glorified in shows like Mike & Molly is distasteful to me.
Skimming through the thread I saw plenty of stuff that made me grimace but this line in particular really jumped out at me. How in the fuck is Mike & Molly glorifying a "fat lifestyle?" Because the main characters are fat? Is it because they're (and I would be fairly surprised if this is the case) treated with dignity and respect? Is that glorifying them?

This is something I see relatively frequently - people saying we shouldn't "glorify" being fat. As someone who has been fat for the majority of his life, as someone who was picked on for it constantly growing up, as someone who has had people drive by and take a picture of my partner and I hugging (lol look at the fatties!) without our consent, as someone who has read this very thread: fat is not something we glorify. People who are fat are fat first and people later. Treating fat people with dignity & respect isn't glorifying their being fat - it is being a decent fucking human being.

I am 31 years old and I am fat. I work a full time job where I'm regularly commended for my performance. Was it glorifying my fatness when I was named employee of the month? I'm also going back to school, full time, and have made the dean's list in both semesters since I returned (including straight As last semester). Does allowing me to be put on the dean's list glorify my fatness? I have a really wonderful, loving relationship with my partner, and we connect on many different levels. Is it glorifying fatness that I have a healthy love and sex life? It's a challenge, but I own clothes that I like, and I look good in. I don't wear them to hide my fat. Is it glorifying fatness that I don't have to wear a burlap sack around?

I decided a while ago that I'd like to try riding bike again. Between the ages of like 9 and 16, I rode my bike all summer and swam all day. I was still fat, but it felt good to do it. I've been trying to find a bike, but I exceed the weight limit for most of them. To find a bike that I can safely ride it would cost over $600, which I cannot afford. And even if I could, it's a large outlay for something I may or may not like now that I'm in my 30s. I can't just go buy a used bike on Craigslist and see how it goes. If I lived in a town with a bike share program, I couldn't participate because I'm too fat.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is, even if a show like Mike & Molly is "glorifying a fat lifestyle" we fats get put into our place plenty every day with shit other people take for granted.
 
Skimming through the thread I saw plenty of stuff that made me grimace but this line in particular really jumped out at me. How in the fuck is Mike & Molly glorifying a "fat lifestyle?" Because the main characters are fat? Is it because they're (and I would be fairly surprised if this is the case) treated with dignity and respect? Is that glorifying them?

This is something I see relatively frequently - people saying we shouldn't "glorify" being fat. As someone who has been fat for the majority of his life, as someone who was picked on for it constantly growing up, as someone who has had people drive by and take a picture of my partner and I hugging (lol look at the fatties!) without our consent, as someone who has read this very thread: fat is not something we glorify. People who are fat are fat first and people later. Treating fat people with dignity & respect isn't glorifying their being fat - it is being a decent fucking human being.

I am 31 years old and I am fat. I work a full time job where I'm regularly commended for my performance. Was it glorifying my fatness when I was named employee of the month? I'm also going back to school, full time, and have made the dean's list in both semesters since I returned (including straight As last semester). Does allowing me to be put on the dean's list glorify my fatness? I have a really wonderful, loving relationship with my partner, and we connect on many different levels. Is it glorifying fatness that I have a healthy love and sex life? It's a challenge, but I own clothes that I like, and I look good in. I don't wear them to hide my fat. Is it glorifying fatness that I don't have to wear a burlap sack around?

I decided a while ago that I'd like to try riding bike again. Between the ages of like 9 and 16, I rode my bike all summer and swam all day. I was still fat, but it felt good to do it. I've been trying to find a bike, but I exceed the weight limit for most of them. To find a bike that I can safely ride it would cost over $600, which I cannot afford. And even if I could, it's a large outlay for something I may or may not like now that I'm in my 30s. I can't just go buy a used bike on Craigslist and see how it goes. If I lived in a town with a bike share program, I couldn't participate because I'm too fat.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is, even if a show like Mike & Molly is "glorifying a fat lifestyle" we fats get put into our place plenty every day with shit other people take for granted.
Have you ever thought about losing your excess weight?

Not trying to be rude or anything. I'm just curious.

Do you feel that being your weight is ok and there's no need to lose weight?
 
If you want to be healthy you will.

But it's always the fat people that get called out (here too). Why not drinkers, smokers, ignorant people... hell I'm pretty sure a single car damages the enviroment more dollar for dollar than a fat person's medical care (stats pulled from my ass). You say a fat person is lazy. Well holy shit we are all lazy in this day and age. We fill our lives with pointless entertainment, drive everywhere with vehicles that are very inefficient, consume more meat than the world can produce, use clear water 100x times the need and feed the cycle of planned deterioration for products that take vast amounts of natural resources to make in the first place.

Now unless you really mind your way of life to minimize your enviromental (and societal) footprint then you are not in a good position to judge other people.
 
But it's always the fat people that get called out (here too). Why not drinkers, smokers, ignorant people... hell I'm pretty sure a single car damages the enviroment more dollar for dollar than a fat person's medical care (stats pulled from my ass). You say a fat person is lazy. Well holy shit we are all lazy in this day and age. We fill our lives with pointless entertainment, drive everywhere with vehicles that are very inefficient, consume more meat than the world can produce, use clear water 100x times the need and feed the cycle of planned deterioration for products that take vast amounts of natural resources to make in the first place.

Now unless you really mind your way of life to minimize your enviromental (and societal) footprint then you are not in a good position to judge other people.

There's plenty of skinny people who drink nothing but soda, eat nothing but fast food and suck down a ton of junk food but due to the fact that their bodies process food extremely well, they maintain at a healthy weight without the need of exercise. These people are every bit as unhealthy as their obese counterparts, but they remain unscathed due to the fact that our hatred is based on visuals alone.
 
There's plenty of skinny people who drink nothing but soda, eat nothing but fast food and suck down a ton of junk food but due to the fact that their bodies process food extremely well, they maintain at a healthy weight without the need of exercise. These people are every bit as unhealthy as their obese counterparts, but they remain unscathed due to the fact that our hatred is based on visuals alone.

A good point.
 
Skimming through the thread I saw plenty of stuff that made me grimace but this line in particular really jumped out at me. How in the fuck is Mike & Molly glorifying a "fat lifestyle?" Because the main characters are fat? Is it because they're (and I would be fairly surprised if this is the case) treated with dignity and respect? Is that glorifying them?

This is something I see relatively frequently - people saying we shouldn't "glorify" being fat. As someone who has been fat for the majority of his life, as someone who was picked on for it constantly growing up, as someone who has had people drive by and take a picture of my partner and I hugging (lol look at the fatties!) without our consent, as someone who has read this very thread: fat is not something we glorify. People who are fat are fat first and people later. Treating fat people with dignity & respect isn't glorifying their being fat - it is being a decent fucking human being.

I am 31 years old and I am fat. I work a full time job where I'm regularly commended for my performance. Was it glorifying my fatness when I was named employee of the month? I'm also going back to school, full time, and have made the dean's list in both semesters since I returned (including straight As last semester). Does allowing me to be put on the dean's list glorify my fatness? I have a really wonderful, loving relationship with my partner, and we connect on many different levels. Is it glorifying fatness that I have a healthy love and sex life? It's a challenge, but I own clothes that I like, and I look good in. I don't wear them to hide my fat. Is it glorifying fatness that I don't have to wear a burlap sack around?

I decided a while ago that I'd like to try riding bike again. Between the ages of like 9 and 16, I rode my bike all summer and swam all day. I was still fat, but it felt good to do it. I've been trying to find a bike, but I exceed the weight limit for most of them. To find a bike that I can safely ride it would cost over $600, which I cannot afford. And even if I could, it's a large outlay for something I may or may not like now that I'm in my 30s. I can't just go buy a used bike on Craigslist and see how it goes. If I lived in a town with a bike share program, I couldn't participate because I'm too fat.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is, even if a show like Mike & Molly is "glorifying a fat lifestyle" we fats get put into our place plenty every day with shit other people take for granted.

Why have you not chosen to lose the excess fat?
 
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