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[MrAngryFace]

Do you prefer to take it slow, fast? Why?

 

[IJoel]

Awww is the little baby in love?

*runs*



As for relationships, they usually depend on the level of commitment of each person. Sometimes you find people that want to go slower than normal. A few weeks to start it, and, of course, it takes longer to gain trust and all that hoopla.

 

[Incognito]

depends on the girl.

 

[MrAngryFace]

ah

 

[tedtropy]

Mine are always fast. We will say let's take things slow blah blah blah and then in two weeks she loves me and hopefully I love her. What is it that makes a girl fall in love?

Having a checking account number?

 

[darscot]

Making a girl fall in love with you is the easy part. It's falling in love yourself that is hard. My grandfather told me this when I was a wee lad. It's very true.

 

[Mama Smurf]

Depends what you mean. My relationships get serious quite early on, but they don't necessarily go any further than that. I guess they stagnate a bit.

I've never been in love for example. I've done the whole being young, thinking you're in love and even saying it, then breaking up and realising you didn't have a fucking clue. Like I say though, I was young, I'm sure lots of people go through that.

 

[Agent Dormer]

Very quickly with alcohol.

 

[SKluck]

very very slow, then very fast. It's like at a certain point something clicks and it kicks into turbo.

 

[Boogie]

*Insert self-deprecating comment here*


*await witty retort from Cubsfan*

 

[BuddyC]

Very quickly with alcohol.

and then someone doesn't call back or want to hang out anymore. "oh it's just weird now." asshat.

 

[Agent Dormer]

and then someone doesn't call back or want to hang out anymore. "oh it's just weird now." asshat.

Well, maybe if you didn't take those pictures of us and show them to your mom. I wasn't ready for that!

 

[demon]

whats a relation chip?

 

[BuddyC]

whats a relation chip?

it comes standard with the latest video card download.

 

[MrAngryFace]

The big problem is figuring out whats lust and whats love. ive considered myself 'in love' many times in the past and well.. lets just say it wasnt that so much.

I think learning what love ISNT was important, since now I have a better idea what to look for.

 

[MonkeyBoy]

just curious MAF, what have you learned about love?

 

[SlickWilly223]

I like to take relationships slow. If I have a girl who happens to be a friend, I don't push my luck. I just let the friendship develop until she realized that she wants me.

 

[lost_insaniti]

take it slow. For me, it's been 19 years and counting, ha ha ha...*sob*

 

[MrPing1000]

take it slow. For me, it's been 19 years and counting, ha ha ha...*sob*

18 years here...... dammit

 

[Boogie]

20 years. Beat ya both, booyah!

 

[enjoy bell woods]

Relationships suck because you potentially lose a great friend when it's over. Fuck that.

 

[demon]

20 years. Beat ya both, booyah!

Step aside, monkey.....three more weeks and it'll be 23 years here!

 

[MrAngryFace]

some things are worth the risk. You can often risk a good friendship by NOT dealing with a potential deeper relationship. A lot to due with the stress of unspoken feelings and all that uncertainty crap.

 

[demon]

some things are worth the risk. You can often risk a good friendship by NOT dealing with a potential deeper relationship. A lot to due with the stress of unspoken feelings and all that uncertainty crap.

What exactly do you risk happening by not exploring a 'deeper' relationship with a friend?

 

[MrAngryFace]

its simply a case of not being honest. Sure, if there arent deeper feelings, then there just aren't. No threat there. The friendship is still honest on that personal level.

However if there IS something else, the risk of an 'incident' or misunderstanding of some nature becomes a very real thing. For example, one will be blindsided by a sudden emotional (bottled up) revelation later on. Hiding something like this isnt very honest, and even if it seems like its 'for the good of the relationship' it still changes EVERYTHING, and to a degree that might even match what would have happened if you had just gone through with it.

 

[StoOgE]

Mine allways have gone slow.. mostly because Im a chicken shit. I could have a girl sit next to me in class every day, have her talk to me about stupid shit everyday despite my not really responding to her, have her follow me out of class (had one follow me to my busstop half a mile from campus, still didnt ask her out), have her ask me what Im doing this weekend, have her laugh at things that arent even jokes and still think that she doesnt really like me. Hell, I once dated a girl for 3 months and never actually asked her out because I thought she would say no. But thats just me. I eventually was forced to get over all of that by a girl who would more or less tell me what I was going to ask her.

As far as friends: I agree with MAF. Sometimes its one sided and you get stuck in the friend zone. Sometimes its mutual and both people pretend its not there because they are afraid to screw up the friendship. Ive had alot of those, over time the friendship degrades, it becomes really ackward at times... and you dont talk about things you did when you were drunk... its very strange, but all the same, if you are wrong (and you are never 100% sure its mutual) even asking her out could endanger the friendship... and if she does say yes and its ends messy then you will likely have lost it too.

 

[MrAngryFace]

The friendship tends to degrade in the presence of hidden feelings because either one or both HONESTLY believe 'it could be more' even if they dont say it. The fact that it isnt 'more' leads to a great deal of frustration, which is dealt with by a slow distancing, or explosive cataclysmic armageddon.

 

[demon]

Hell, I once dated a girl for 3 months and never actually asked her out because I thought she would say no.

 

[StoOgE]

You have to understand, Im stupid and way to self concious. Whenever someone laughs, I assume its directed at me

 

[MrAngryFace]

Do you live on your own yet stooge? how old are you? Not meant as a setup for mocking, it just matters as far as your self image goes. I stopped caring what people thought around 19-20, I mean REALLY stopped to the point that I could be my own person instead of some toady, which is what most people are anyway.

 

[StoOgE]

Ive been on my own for a while... most of those stories I told are actually from several years ago.. Im much better now than I had been.

 

[Eminem]

Very quickly with alcohol.

:lol :lol so true

 

[MrAngryFace]

I think for a lot of people, growing up starts when you live alone for a little while.

 

[demon]

I think for a lot of people, growing up starts when you live alone for a little while.

Does that include living in single-person dorm rooms for four years?

 

[enjoy bell woods]

You have to understand, Im stupid and way to self concious. Whenever someone laughs, I assume its directed at me

I'm actually mostly like what you've described. I feel you.

 

[demon]

You have to understand, Im stupid and way to self concious. Whenever someone laughs, I assume its directed at me

That explains nothing. May I refer you to my previously posted gif.

 

[Mama Smurf]

I'm actually mostly like what you've described. I feel you.

You what?

I used to find it more of a problem not knowing the difference between caring about someone and love, rather than lust and love. I always found the lust/love thing quite easy.

I have a ridiculous obsessive personality though, so people often think I'm in love, but I'm not. Just obsessed.

 

[MrAngryFace]

your avatar works then ha ha ha.

 

[enjoy bell woods]

You what?

I used to find it more of a problem not knowing the difference between caring about someone and love, rather than lust and love. I always found the lust/love thing quite easy.

I have a ridiculous obsessive personality though, so people often think I'm in love, but I'm not. Just obsessed.

Stooge described some of his personality flaws. I said that I have similar problems. What don't you understand?

 

[Vormund]

Current one = really bloody slow.

Really my fault though as I'm afraid I'm going to stuff it up....normally I don't worry about it though.

 

[drohne]

i don't think i've ever seen maf say anything about girls or a girl in all of his millions of gaf posts. there are no gender-specific pronouns in here either. theory: maf is gay.

 

[StoOgE]

That explains nothing. May I refer you to my previously posted gif.

Oh, Im sorry.. I think I understand your confusion..

I asked her to go out, but never bothered asking her about a steady relationship.

 

[Boogie]

Step aside, monkey.....three more weeks and it'll be 23 years here!

I knew I couldn't compete with you, demon. But some day.....some day.....

 

[Ranger X]

I don't know what's exactly "fast" or "slow" in that matter but let me tell you guys that a relationship doesn't take more than 2 month to really take off. And it doesn't take more than 2 weeks to frequent someone and do stuff.

 

[Boogie]

I don't know what's exactly "fast" or "slow" in that matter but let me tell you guys that a relationship doesn't take more than 2 month to really take off. And it doesn't take more than 2 weeks to frequent someone and do stuff.

Unless you're Boogie, in which case it takes at least 7 months and counting....or maybe never