gburgess10
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Wow that was a funny pic. :lol
I think my step dad might be cheating on my mom
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Masta_Killah
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Solid Moustache said:
Lost Fragment
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Update:
Went through his emails. Didn't find anything of note in his inbox, but there are several incriminating emails in his sent items folder. Sigh. Was really hoping that I wouldn't find anything.
So I printed off the emails and I'm gonna talk to him about it. Problem is that I don't think my mom would believe it even if I give her the emails I printed off.
Went through his emails. Didn't find anything of note in his inbox, but there are several incriminating emails in his sent items folder. Sigh. Was really hoping that I wouldn't find anything.
So I printed off the emails and I'm gonna talk to him about it. Problem is that I don't think my mom would believe it even if I give her the emails I printed off.
Mr. Dobalina
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Lost Fragment said:
This will go well.
Please provide an example what is "incriminating."
Lost Fragment
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Mr. Dobalina said:
They're basically just him describing himself somewhat disingenuously and giving off times when he's available.
?ou are about to do more damage to your family unit than him just flirting around. You will be the sole person responsible for the destruction of your family. I suggest you continue monitoring (considering buying a keylogger) and wait for hard proof of anything actually happening.
With some hard evidences, then you can choose to strike.
With some hard evidences, then you can choose to strike.
Lost Fragment
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Tence said:
Being dishonest.
He described himself as mid-40s (he's mid-50s) and being slightly overweight (nah...he's really overweight).
Can't say I know if he really has a big dick or not.
Mr. Dobalina
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Lost Fragment said:
We need the full context - you REALLY need to think about this and the potential consequences.
I don't know the ages of your mom/step-dad or what their situations are (who is the breadwinner, etc.) but things you don't even think about might go down. I just read a story of a woman who found some kiddie-porn on her husband's computer (no evidence of her husband actually doing anything, but nonetheless) and she reported him - he's now in jail and she is homeless. I'm not for protecting pedos, but she said in retrospect she would never have reported it knowing the consequences.
Their relationship is not yours to decide. If you REALLY want to take this forward, you should show them to your mom and let her decide what to do with them.
This thread is not good. And the OP is not good. To have a avatar of Dr. Drew but to not be smart is greatly ironic. I'll state it again. Nothing good will come from this. Mom won't believe him, and you'll ruin the relationship with you and him. She'll believe him over you, and then she'll kick you out or if you don't already live with her, not talk to you anymore, cause she needs a husband, no matter how shitty he his. Everyone needs someone.
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME FROM THIS
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME FROM THIS
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME FROM THIS
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME FROM THIS
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME FROM THIS
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME FROM THIS
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME FROM THIS
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME FROM THIS
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME FROM THIS
NOTHING GOOD WILL COME FROM THIS
Lost Fragment
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Tence said:
Indeed. I'm gonna tread lightly here.
Still not entirely sure I'm gonna do anything at all.
peacebyanymeans
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Lost Fragment said:
Uh, I'm sorry but, and this may sound a little rude, what gives you the right to go through someone's email and accuse a person of infidelity without any hard evidence.
Right after my family first got a computer, when I was in the 9th grade, I would notice that my stepdad would stay up on it very late and would continually change passwords, settings, etc even though he had no idea what the shit he was doing. To make it easier to undo later I put a keylogger running in the background on the pc.
What I found when I went through those logs were dozens of outgoing messages to various women who were not my mother. This was years before CL and I don't remember what site it was on but it was f'd up and I didn't know what to do. I, like the OP, didn't think my mother would believe me even if I showed her everything - she knows less about computers and the internet than almost anyone I've ever known. At any rate, I realized that despite the talking, I didn't have much I could prove anything with conclusively here, so I put it on a floppy (yes this was that long ago) and hid it in my grandmother's house, telling her that I did so that she wouldn't accidentally toss it just in case I needed it for something down the line.
That was in 99 or 2000. Years went by, I moved out, I kind of forgot about all of this.
And then, out of seemingly nowhere, last year he left my mother and their two (teenage) children in the middle of the night, with a note, to move in with someone he met on the internet.
And the worst part is I still can't bring myself to tell my mother about what I know because it will only make her feel even worse. I hated the idea of her being married to such a horrible, destructive human being (the guy did a lot of other fucked up stuff besides and my younger siblings are incredibly socially inept for it) and despite that still when he did leave I wasn't happy, I was outraged and worried.
OP you really don't know how much you're going to want to know if something goes down. I would tread lightly so you don't beat yourself with guilt later. You don't have enough to prove or predict much now, it seems, so you can't totally act on it but if something does happen later you'll still have the guilt of knowing in advance.
What I found when I went through those logs were dozens of outgoing messages to various women who were not my mother. This was years before CL and I don't remember what site it was on but it was f'd up and I didn't know what to do. I, like the OP, didn't think my mother would believe me even if I showed her everything - she knows less about computers and the internet than almost anyone I've ever known. At any rate, I realized that despite the talking, I didn't have much I could prove anything with conclusively here, so I put it on a floppy (yes this was that long ago) and hid it in my grandmother's house, telling her that I did so that she wouldn't accidentally toss it just in case I needed it for something down the line.
That was in 99 or 2000. Years went by, I moved out, I kind of forgot about all of this.
And then, out of seemingly nowhere, last year he left my mother and their two (teenage) children in the middle of the night, with a note, to move in with someone he met on the internet.
And the worst part is I still can't bring myself to tell my mother about what I know because it will only make her feel even worse. I hated the idea of her being married to such a horrible, destructive human being (the guy did a lot of other fucked up stuff besides and my younger siblings are incredibly socially inept for it) and despite that still when he did leave I wasn't happy, I was outraged and worried.
OP you really don't know how much you're going to want to know if something goes down. I would tread lightly so you don't beat yourself with guilt later. You don't have enough to prove or predict much now, it seems, so you can't totally act on it but if something does happen later you'll still have the guilt of knowing in advance.
Shotgun Kiss
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If it were me, I'd approach him, but kind of give him the benefit of the doubt, and ask if he was on that site just for shits and giggles.
That way, you can let him know you're at least a little suspicious without being outright confrontational and thowing accusations about. If he was there with the intent to cheat, he'll likely lie, but he'll definitely have to re-evaluate things and he might be more likely to not pursue anything. If he already has, he'll be more likely to break it off with your mom (which sounds bad, but it's better than her continuing to see somebody who's cheating on her).
That way, you can let him know you're at least a little suspicious without being outright confrontational and thowing accusations about. If he was there with the intent to cheat, he'll likely lie, but he'll definitely have to re-evaluate things and he might be more likely to not pursue anything. If he already has, he'll be more likely to break it off with your mom (which sounds bad, but it's better than her continuing to see somebody who's cheating on her).
Lost Fragment said:
Ew, what a creep. Do whatever you want and don't feel bad about it.
If this was your dad and not your step-dad I might think differently, but the dude sounds like a loser if he's describing his dick and when he's available to local women while he's with your mom. Quite a bit different than just browsing.
Good luck either way and I hope it works out for your mom, either by him not going through with it or her getting rid of him.
Tommie Hu$tle
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peacebyanymeans said:
Agreed going with the emails at this point may be a bit too far. I'd start out with his browsing history simply becasue it is pubically available and you can explain how you got there when you were fixing his computer. However since you do have the emails you might as well finish the trail just do it in a way that is steady and measured.
Mr.Squirrel
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whatever you do, make you give gaf every detail!
peacebyanymeans
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DON'T TELL ME WHAT I CAN'T DOJacobi said:
So if he's in his mid-50s I'm going to assume your mom also is? Your mom is old and is tired of laying under some fat guy, she's done with that shit. But your stepdad still has needs. He's really not "cheating," he's just fucking hookers, there's a huge difference. Let him have his fun.
SapientWolf
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It's probably not wise to tip him off without getting things like specific meeting times/places, or better yet, photographs. There is no evidence of any actual infidelity. All you have right now is intent.Lost Fragment said:
Good relationships are built on trust first and foremost. He is unworthy of this trust, so the relationship cannot last. End it now to minimize your mother's hurt. Take him out the back and put him down; such ill behavior must be bred out. If he has any children, don't use them for breeding, as they may pass these undesirable traits down. Do it for your mother and the greater good.
How did you fixing his internet? I suspect my little boy is browsing the inappropriate website, I have ever put this Internet filter for Mac in his Mac to block his access to the porn site, but he may find ways to by pass it. I am not sure. I am considering using the Aobo Mac keylogger to monitor his online activities. But I am not sure if this keylogger for Mac is safe to use.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Ada said:
Wow. How did you even find this thread?
SCULLIBUNDO
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Necrobump!
The Big Rig
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What is with all these threads coming back?
Junior... I get it now.
Edit: I guarantee this issue has been worked out. No more advice needed.
Junior... I get it now.
Edit: I guarantee this issue has been worked out. No more advice needed.
Lost Fragment said:
I've checked them before without any intention of using them. I watch Jerry Springer without wanting to meet his guests. I browse 4chan without any intention to become a racist pedophile. Sometimes you want to survey the train wreck.
EDIT: Oh so he is doing it. The guy doesn't even delete his sent items? He deserves to get caught.
IamMattFox
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Maybe we'll get a spicy update?The Big Rig said:
Whats with all the banned people in this thread?
In any case op....I would tell my mom in a heart beat about this. How long have they been married? Personally i would rather be with no one than some one i cant stand and doesnt respect me enough as a person. But this is me, your mom might be weaker in this sense that she needs some one....Do what you think is right for your mom...
Also if you dont tell her it will probably eat at you for ever. Youll never be able to look at her or your stepdad the same way again..
In any case op....I would tell my mom in a heart beat about this. How long have they been married? Personally i would rather be with no one than some one i cant stand and doesnt respect me enough as a person. But this is me, your mom might be weaker in this sense that she needs some one....Do what you think is right for your mom...
Also if you dont tell her it will probably eat at you for ever. Youll never be able to look at her or your stepdad the same way again..
The Big Rig
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The topic was from a year and a half ago. People get banned for many things through out the years, including bumping year and a half old threads.
Lionel Mandrake
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Was kind of hoping for an update.
Sho_Nuff82
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How do juniors even find this shit? Is it like "hey, that thread I was reading the day I signed up isn't deleted yet, time to give years-late advice to all of my bookmarks" or just random google searches?
TheChewyWaffles
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Valhalla said:
Yah well there's going to be one more in the very near future.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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BigNastyCurve said:
That junior has two posts.
Has anyone ever been banned with their very first post?
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