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[rs7k]

Somebody needs to get this computer away from me.

Stoned on a Thursday, I was wondering if your sex drive determines your ability to get girls. When I get blazed, my sex drive becomes incredibly intense, just now I've masturbated 4 times under an hour. I could be like that normally if I had the dedication to go through such pain daily... :/ Anyways, yeah my sex drive becomes really intense when I'm in my current state of mind, so it must be one of my "quirks" (is it normal, I don't know) in normal life becoming intensified all of a sudden.

Now I don't mean to brag, apparently I'm quite good-looking, and I always get told the ladies love me. Then how come I can't score any hot chicks, let alone score at all? Is my sex drive so big that women make me anxious quite often, since they're what I desire so much, and I'm so scared to screw it up?

It just feels like everybody else around me gets a lot more luck with girls than I do, and it really makes me feel abnormal. Wow, this message is really taking a long time to write. Anyways, I know I'm not, but maybe my anxiety is just too obvious. I've been thinking of that for a while.

Anyways, I was just wondering, since we're all GAers and half the bandwidth of the average user is probably dedicated to porn, are we all the same? Can you guys relate to me? I'm thinking I'm probably the total opposite to someone like robertsan.

 

[demon]

Having a high sex drive will get you laid better than having no sex drive will. I think that's common sense. Chronic masturbators are the guys who have no sex drive when they need it. You just have to channel that sex drive outwardly in a non-weird way when you're with a girl...or something.

 

[rs7k]

Having a high sex drive will get you laid better than having no sex drive will. I think that's common sense. Chronic masturbators are the guys who have no sex drive when they need it. You just have to channel that sex drive outwardly in a non-weird way when you're with a girl...or something.

Yeah, maybe it's just that when I have a lot of free time and I'm bored, I always thinking about taking a look in my porn drawer. Maybe it's a really bad habit, but it's the first time I've thought about this habit in a bad way in over 8 years. I don't ever try with girls, it's when I do or start thinking trying when talking to a girl that I get nervous and can't seem to say anything interesting without getting real anxious. So maybe if I stop this daily practice, it'll fix my problems with girls or at least make them more minor, and it'll make me seek girls more actively?

 

[DJ Sl4m]

It seems I can never get enough, I love the flirting the sex, getting them naked, all of it.
I just need to learn when to say enough, although I'm not sure I know when that is

 

[rs7k]

It seems I can never get enough, I love the flirting the sex, getting them naked, all of it.
I just need to learn when to say enough, although I'm not sure I know when that is

*starts crying*

*throws monitor at wall in fit of jealousy*

i h8 u

 

[Cubsfan23]

Stop masturbating (as much). It will give you a high sex drive, and high sex drives overpower any fear you have with women.

 

[CajoleJuice]

Come on Cubsfan...it took you over a half-hour to reply...you're slacking.

 

[Lathentar]

At least he didn't respond with Cocky and Funny.

 

[XS+]

Stop masturbating (as much). It will give you a high sex drive, and high sex drives overpower any fear you have with women.

Truth.

EDIT: Only problem is you might come off as a slobbering desperate horndog if you don't know how to maintain your composure.

 

[demon]

Stop masturbating (as much). It will give you a high sex drive, and high sex drives overpower any fear you have with women.

Not true. I didn't masturbate for three straight weeks a couple semesters ago for this very reason, and it didn't help.

I think realistically it could help you when you're at a later stage with a chick, like if you're hanging out and wondering whether or not you should make a move. For me it doesn't do a damn thing when it comes to fears of approaching and starting conversations with girls.

 

[CajoleJuice]

Not true. I didn't masturbate for three straight weeks a couple semesters ago for this very reason, and it didn't help.

I think realistically it could help you when you're at a later stage with a chick, like if you're hanging out and wondering whether or not you should make a move. For me it doesn't do a damn thing when it comes to fears of approaching and starting conversations with girls.

Same thing here. Only I just have trouble making moves, talking I can do any day of the week.

 

[bionic77]

Your sex drive depends on a lot of things, it doesn't just all relate back to masturbation. At least that is how it is for me the older I get.

 

[Deleted member 1235]

for a dude I think 3 days pretty much maxes you out as far as being "backed up"
i read after that that the body starts reabsorbing shit or just spitting it out in your sleep....

 

[demon]

i read after that that the body starts reabsorbing shit or just spitting it out in your sleep....

So that's that leak in the ceiling the girl on the floor below me was complaining about...

 

[Leon]

Maybe the fact that you're stoned on a thursday night explains a whole lot about why you're not scoring. If you're good looking, and apparently, "the ladies love you", you've got absolutely no damn reason not to hook up. I picture you choosing smoking alone over socializing sober. Let me know if I'm wrong. If I'm right, you're an ass and I've got no sympathy (a few friends of mine are exactly like that).

 

[mashoutposse]

This is what alcoholic beverages are for Take girl out, get her drunk, then get drunk yourself (near wasted if you have to). Not that the sex is gonna be bangin but you're gonna need to get off the schneid somehow to start gaining confidence.

 

[AeroGod]

just now I've masturbated 4 times under an hour

Dude, you're going to beat yourself sterile. STOP NOW. Put your dick down and slowly back away. Keep a cooler around filled with ice so you can grab a few cubes and put them in your boxers whenever you get the urge.

Damn kids.

 

[Zaptruder]

Then how come I can't score any hot chicks, let alone score at all?

Just to inform you and everyone that makes a similar mistake, that usage of 'let alone' is incorrect. It means, 'not to mention' or, Some X(minor) thing can't be done, (don't even have to bother mentioning) Y(major) thing.

In otherwords, you say, "... I can't score with any chicks, let alone hot ones?"

 

[videogamer]

Same thing here. Only I just have trouble making moves, talking I can do any day of the week.

Yeah when I do that, the urge to masturbate rises very fast the first couple days, and then after that, the sex drive drops down. Even instantaneous out-of-nowhere boners occur less often.

 

[J2 Cool]

Yeah, I need to get the sexual drive across better to girls. I can make girls extremely comfortable around me but I think you want that bit of sexual tension. I know a lot of girls think I'm adorable. Get the smiles when I see em, the comforting if Im upset, today with the whole class around the library a table of girls call me over to ask stuff and keep me around. But usually these are the chicks doing something with the assholes on the weekend. I need to drive it home somehow but am kinda stuck.

 

[Date of Lies]

Now I don't mean to brag, apparently I'm quite good-looking, and I always get told the ladies love me. Then how come I can't score any hot chicks, let alone score at all? Is my sex drive so big that women make me anxious quite often, since they're what I desire so much, and I'm so scared to screw it up?

See the contrast with myself, I think I'm good-looking, but that's never been the main weapon in my arsenal. Women in my life are usually mad at me, yet I don't have your problems.

The guys I know that think women love them are those polo wearing losers that are always hugging and kissing up to girls.

Women shouldn't be your goal right now though, get some other things in your life fixed. You can do better than smoke weed alone on a thursday. Get involved, get busy, get focused.

You masturbate alot because you have too much time on your hands, and cut the weed.

The day you get higher ambitions than "getting laid," you'll hopefully realize how shallow and pointless all that was, THEN the women will come.

 

[Dilbert]

Sex drive is one of those random things you're given at the start of your life. (You know the drill: 3d6 Strength, 3d6 Intelligence, 3d6 Wisdom, 3d6 Dexterity, 1d20 Sex Drive.) Personally, I don't think there is much you can do to change it.

As for how it relates to getting women...well, women can smell desperation a mile away. Even if you've been sleeping alone for a year, you have to act like you have been warming the bed of every hottie in town. The other thing is that you have to find the balance between making it clear that you're sexually attracted to someone, and also spending time on the other facets of her personality. If you don't act like you want to get her into the sack, it won't happen. If you act like ALL you want to do is get her into the sack, it won't happen.

And, of course, the most important thing: When you DO get her into the sack, you'd better damn well know how to work it.

 

[Makura]

With great wisdom Date of Lies speaks, yes.

 

[J2 Cool]

The guys I know that think women love them are those polo wearing losers that are always hugging and kissing up to girls.

hehe, reminds me of this guy who I eat lunch with. Got kicked out of the table and went to sit with a bunch of chicks. Next thing we know he's carrying like 5 of their trays to the garbage. I asked him "man, what the hell was that?" and he told me "they're girls. you do nice things for them, they do nice things for you". I should have smacked him right there and then. He's way off

 

[rs7k]

Maybe the fact that you're stoned on a thursday night explains a whole lot about why you're not scoring. If you're good looking, and apparently, "the ladies love you", you've got absolutely no damn reason not to hook up. I picture you choosing smoking alone over socializing sober. Let me know if I'm wrong. If I'm right, you're an ass and I've got no sympathy (a few friends of mine are exactly like that).

I don't smoke alone. I was with girl friends last night sharing joints and watching snowboarding videos at the city college. I just made the thread when I got home.