Assuming that a "few million" means $3,000,000 after all taxes have been taken out...
Let's see. I have no debts and my family is well off financially. At the drop of a hat I would give my dad $1,000,000 if it would mean he could retire and enjoy a leisurely life (goodness knows I owe my p-rents every last cent probably
), but he's a workaholic and loves his job. I think he enjoys working a long day and then coming home to unwind and starting the whole process again the next day. I don't remember a single day where he just sat around and watched TV all day or didn't leave the house. I don't think he'd want a cent of the money, because he'd want me to use it to provide myself with a stable future. -$0 to Dad.
I have two nieces, both of which I would demand paying through college. Let's overestimate (who knows how much college tuition will cost in 15-18 years) and say -$180,000 to nieces. They can just keep what's leftover. Whatever. $2,820,000 remaining.
Friends? $0 to friends. You're my friend for reasons other than the size of my bank account. I wouldn't be expected to be handed money if a close friend won $3,000,000 from the lottery. I'd want them to use it the same way I would -- don't blow it, and invest it in the future.
...But that doesn't mean you can't have a little FUN FUND set aside
. I'd put $500,000 in an account that I'd use to just spend at will on frivolous items. DVDs, games, trips and the like. That's $16,667 a year for 30 years to just spend on crap like an HDTV, a home theater system, 4-player Daytona USA 2 cabinets....
Down to $2,320,000. If I ever decided to bestow luxurious gifts upon anyone, the cost would come out of the FUN FUND.
I plan on living for the next 55 years. Let's give myself a $30,000 a year living allowance. 401k plan? Try the 1650k plan. Down to $670,000. Let's keep that in an emergency fund. Who knows when a family member or a me will need money for medical expenses. Money all gone!
We done? Yep. So I only gave away $180,000 of my winnings? Sounds pretty assholish, but I don't think you can frivolously give to someone else when the money would best be spent on the comfort of living for your immediate family (I hope to marry and reproduce someday!).
If a family member or friend needed help financially, to pay the rent or was about to get kicked out of their house, of course I'd lend them a hand.