Agreed. OP, you make some good points. I will try to keep it at the forefront.
If you're okay with LGBT+ please mention or say so to your friends/family
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I've lost many friends when I told them about it so I'm reluctant to tell new friends about it. However, when Obama pressed on that LGBT referendum, a good straight friend that I used to know so well use that Rainbow picture to show his support of his gay friends in England.
Even though I never told him about my status, I feel so happy that someone that I considered a good friend turned out to be such a kind person. It feels good to know that someone you care about actually gives a shit about the plight of gay people. It's good to have your trust/respect for someone to be validated.
Even though we are separated by countries, I know at least that I have one person I can count on to not be an asshole about my sexuality.
Even though I never told him about my status, I feel so happy that someone that I considered a good friend turned out to be such a kind person. It feels good to know that someone you care about actually gives a shit about the plight of gay people. It's good to have your trust/respect for someone to be validated.
Even though we are separated by countries, I know at least that I have one person I can count on to not be an asshole about my sexuality.
metalslimer
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Yeah growing in a hyper conservative area it's pretty amazing to know you have the support of at least a couple of people.
Alcotholic
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My brother is gay, and I've gone out to advocate for his rights to be a gay man in this society. I've been privileged to grow up and live in an accepting family and around other accepting people. It's been great seeing the advancements of gay rights within our society.
jhmtehgamr20xx
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I've no probs w/ LGBT+ people. Hell I've even said I'd date a transgender woman here before and still stand by that. But by and large I'm generally not too interested in anyone's sexual orientation or sex life unless I'm in the picture as a participant xD.
fivepersondude
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My conversation with my only friend that came out:
Me: Wanna hang out this weekend?
Him: Sounds good, but I have something to tell you
Me: Go on.
Him: I am gay (paraphrasing)
Him: Please don't think wierd about me.
Me: Cool, still wanna hang out.
Actually I lied, my cousin also came out. Very similar conversation, at least with me.
That said I have read op, but no responses, I have a few friends who I believe are close to coming out, should I bring this up randomly in conversation?
Me: Wanna hang out this weekend?
Him: Sounds good, but I have something to tell you
Me: Go on.
Him: I am gay (paraphrasing)
Him: Please don't think wierd about me.
Me: Cool, still wanna hang out.
Actually I lied, my cousin also came out. Very similar conversation, at least with me.
That said I have read op, but no responses, I have a few friends who I believe are close to coming out, should I bring this up randomly in conversation?
metalslimer
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Eh... I don't know if straight up telling people you think are coming out directly is the best move as you don't want to pressure them. Instead you can just show that you are supportive of the lgbt people in general.
My life growing up would have been much easier if I had known where my friends and family stood.
Back when I was only about 18-19, dating my first boyfriend, we were both still too shy to be out to all our family, and didn't go to each other's family functions. However, we did accompany my parents on a trip to Georgia to stay with and see my grandmother and some other family for a few days. As our trip came to a close, an older (like, 25 years older) cousin and I were saying our goodbyes, and she gave me a little card. In it, she had just written that it was nice to see me after such a long time, and that she hoped to see me again soon. She also wrote that she was happy I had found love, and wished me the best. That part will stick with me forever, because my boyfriend and I had made a point to not be too affectionate with each other, or so we thought, but she could obviously tell what was up. That was one of the nicest things anyone ever wrote to me, and I'll remember that forever.
I'm out and proud now, and thankfully my family and friends have never had any issues with it, but I know how important it can be to others, and I've had friends (who I had assumed were straight) confide in me, and it makes me really happy to help them talk through whatever they're going through.
Back when I was only about 18-19, dating my first boyfriend, we were both still too shy to be out to all our family, and didn't go to each other's family functions. However, we did accompany my parents on a trip to Georgia to stay with and see my grandmother and some other family for a few days. As our trip came to a close, an older (like, 25 years older) cousin and I were saying our goodbyes, and she gave me a little card. In it, she had just written that it was nice to see me after such a long time, and that she hoped to see me again soon. She also wrote that she was happy I had found love, and wished me the best. That part will stick with me forever, because my boyfriend and I had made a point to not be too affectionate with each other, or so we thought, but she could obviously tell what was up. That was one of the nicest things anyone ever wrote to me, and I'll remember that forever.
I'm out and proud now, and thankfully my family and friends have never had any issues with it, but I know how important it can be to others, and I've had friends (who I had assumed were straight) confide in me, and it makes me really happy to help them talk through whatever they're going through.
fivepersondude
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That's basically what I meant, sorry I was not more clear.
I think a lot of people are missing the point the OP is trying to make.
There are different, more subtle ways to get across the idea that you're accepting of LGBT.
For example, just posting a short comment in support when gay marriage was legalized. Or any news or whatever related to LGBT issues, you can just make a side comment in support of it. If you see a gay couple or something, point out that you think it's cool and you're happy for them or something.
Basically just get across the fact that you're in support of gay people. Your cousin will get it.
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Perhaps you are intentionally stating a misinterpretation as I clearly didn't suggest to single someone out and state your stance randomly.
You feel like one should know how their family would react and I'm telling you that's not how it works. It's not hard to give peace of mind to your potentially hiding friends dealing with this issue, so I don't get what your opposition is here.
Hmm, i think i understand your point, OP, in my experience my immediate family has only expressed they're all right with such things when they're in suspicion someone they know might be (so they're sending a "you know, im not saying i know you're gay, but i'd be okay with it" message), but rarely do in casual convos, if they were oblivious to someone they love being in the closet it's likely they'd never send the hint that they'd be okay with it.
Funnily enough, my mom and one of my brothers basically said they were cool with it because they had suspicions i might be gay and were like, "you know it's cool, we can help you hook up with boys if that's what you're into", it was kinda awkward, but i still liked the support even if that's not how identify my sexuality, feels good to feel loved.
Funnily enough, my mom and one of my brothers basically said they were cool with it because they had suspicions i might be gay and were like, "you know it's cool, we can help you hook up with boys if that's what you're into", it was kinda awkward, but i still liked the support even if that's not how identify my sexuality, feels good to feel loved.
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