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[Alyssa Hu$tle]

You ever been stood up on the internet? By that I mean, you make a time when you are going to chat or game with someone, and they just don’t show?

Being in Australia, most people I converse with on-line are in a in a different time zone, and hooking up at a convenient time for both can be a challenge. This one time I actually took a couple of days off work to spend time with a cyber-friend during my day hours, and they didn’t show, despite us co-ordinating things and them knowing this was the very reason I took time off. I spent hours sitting there like a fool in front of the computer, waiting in vein.

Now, in such circumstances, does one have the right to feel a little dejected, or not because it is not “real” and only the internet, thus the obligation is not as strong as in reality?

 

[Papi]

You took days off work to spend time with a cyber "friend"?
How silly.

 

[OpinionatedCyborg]

Internet etiquette dicates you call the perpetrator a fag, click the block-unblock button repeatedly, sign their email up for gay robot porn (<3), create new IM accounts to harass them as alternative aliases, and finally, hand out their email/IM address on a message board so random people can tell this person that their mom's a whore.

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

Internet etiquette dicates you call the perpetrator a fag, click the block-unblock button repeatedly, sign their email up for gay robot porn (<3), create new IM accounts to harass them as alternative aliases, and finally, hand out their email/IM address on a message board so random people can tell this person that their mom's a whore.

:lol :lol :lol Too funny

 

[aoi tsuki]

Said person is a dick. The meeting place is virtual, but the plans and the people who make them are real.

 

[Alcibiades]

what about if someone tells you they want to do something on Easter and you end up not doing anything for the whole day waiting for them to contact you (well I did do stuff but I didn't leave my dorm so I could be ready whenever they called) and I wait all day and don't go to the lab and then they never call...

later that week I learn they had received GTA San Andreas from GameFly and he was in a hurry to finish it so he played it all day and went to mass last by himself instead... he finished a few days later and supposedly got addicted on Easter, wanted to finish quick so he could cancel the service...

never told him I was mad but that did suck...

no more pseudo-arrangements for me...

 

[ChrisReid]

You took days off work to spend time with a cyber "friend"?
How silly.

How's that any different from time you take off to spend with a "real life" friend?

 

[Deleted member 4784]

Said person is a dick. The meeting place is virtual, but the plans and the people who make them are real.

Yeah, seriously. I wouldn't get pissed off or anything if I was in this situation, since "stuff happens" and all of that, but I'd still expect some apology for being stood up if there was no real excuse for it. I mean, this may be the Internet, but that doesn't change the fact that there are real people behind all of that text.

 

[Papi]

How's that any different from time you take off to spend with a "real life" friend?

It's different for me since i haven't met most of my "cyber friends". Experience has shown me that a lot of people are full of shit online. I wouldn't inconvenience myself and go out of my way to spend time with a cyber friend because i don't trust them.
Friends that i chat to online are different to "cyber friends".

 

[Scrow]

:lol :lol :lol Too funny

what's so funny? hurry up and post their email.

 

[MC Safety]

That's what the Internet does: it breeds boors who can't be called on their behavior.

It's probably best to just download the porn, be a grump on the InterWeb forums, and then shut the computer off and experience real life with its vast supply of real people and friends.

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

Yeah, seriously. I wouldn't get pissed off or anything if I was in this situation, since "stuff happens" and all of that, but I'd still expect some apology for being stood up if there was no real excuse for it. I mean, this may be the Internet, but that doesn't change the fact that there are real people behind all of that text.

Yeah, I'm not pissed off so to speak. To be honest, I don't think the individual in question would do this on purpose without a perfectly justifiable explanation. I guess I got stood up for the first time in real life this week, and as this has happened to me also I was making the comparison between them both.

Look, to be honest at the end of the day, I am sure both my real friend and my internet friend both had very good reasons.

Funny, both leave you feeling like shit no less. But I am not pissed off.

With either of them.

 

[ToxicAdam]

Don't let it upset you. Don't become anti-people and start having 10 cats as pets.

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

...Friends that i chat to online are different to "cyber friends".

I don't know what you mean by that (well, I can imagine), but in the context to which I was referring, they are one of the same. I mean "cyber" in the sense of not “real”, as in on the internet.

Jeez, don’t know what kind of friends you have!

*shhhh*
(I’ll PM you later and maybe we can conference )

 

[Kung Fu Jedi]

Well, I have friends in real life who I meet online for games/chatting etc. and than I have cyber-friends who I've never met, but still chat or game with from time to time. My real life friends can get me to set aside time to game with them to meet online, but my cyber-friends tend to be more casual. If we run into each other online, than we'll chat or play.

 

[Mama Smurf]

I hate people who are late. Actually I hate people who are always late. Actually I hate people who are always late and don't seem to realise it's a problem or apologise.

If you're 20 minutes late, I expect a phone call/text. If I don't get one, I expect an apology. these are the rules people!

 

[Gibbo]

Apology or not, the late comer is still a dick. Here I am making all necessary effort to come on time... and there you are, behaving as though being late is some trendy thing to do.

 

[maynerd]

I'll be your friend.

 

[Dilbert]

Being in Australia, most people I converse with on-line are in a in a different time zone, and hooking up at a convenient time for both can be a challenge. ... I spent hours sitting there like a fool in front of the computer, waiting in vein.

I'm sorry about that, baby. I took the naked pictures like you requested, and I was all ready to hop online and "chat" with you, but it turns out that I needed to spend WAY more time Photoshopping them than I originally thought.

My bad. What are you doing tomorrow?

 

[Manics]

I've only ever been stood up for cyber-sex. In that case I just watch late night tv with those commercials about the phone sex and I feel satisfied after a while.

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

I'm sorry about that, baby. I took the naked pictures like you requested, and I was all ready to hop online and "chat" with you, but it turns out that I needed to spend WAY more time Photoshopping them than I originally thought.

My bad. What are you doing tomorrow?

Oh Baby, I don't know how I can forgive you... I sat there for hours and hours, naked, with nothing but my cam on.
No more dates with you Jinx... you have burned me and I will save my tricks for someone who cares...
See, Maynerd wants to be my friend... I have pleanty of other people I can play with, I don't need you!

(But still feel free to email me any naked pics you feel necessary).

 

[Deleted member 4784]

Oh Baby, I don't know how I can forgive you... I sat there for hours and hours, naked, with nothing but my cam on.
No more dates with you Jinx... you have burned me and I will save my tricks for someone who cares...
See, Maynerd wants to be my friend... I have pleanty of other people I can play with, I don't need you!

(But still feel free to email me any naked pics you feel necessary).

LMAOOO!!!! :lol :lol :lol

 

[miyuru]

That sucks you've been stood up online. I don't really know what to tell you though, I don't really meet people on the net, especially to the level you are.

The only interaction with others over the net I have is this forum and MSN, and MSN contacts are all people I know already in real life.

 

[shuri]

you really took a few days off from work to hang out with an online person?

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

you really took a few days off from work to hang out with an online person?

Yeah, I did. That was for real. I chat to a lot of people, but out of those I have a small handful of net-friends that I am very close to. Some I have been chatting to for years now, and we talk about pretty much anything and everything. They have encouraged me through some hard times and vice-versa, I have seen them cry and they have seen me cry. We have laughed and shared the good times too. With 1 of them I have practically watched their family grow up through stories and photos, and I know everything there is to know about their kids. I have sent Birthday presents, Christmas presents, cards and such, and I have received stuff to. There are a couple of people on-line (admittedly not many) that I consider to be true friends that are very dear to me and I care about them a lot. And I know that these people know they have a true friend in me, and if there was anything I could possibly do for them, I would.

So yes, I really took a couple days off to be with an on-line person, and to me it wasn’t that strange.

 

[Tarazet]

Yeah, I did. That was for real. I chat to a lot of people, but out of those I have a small handful of net-friends that I am very close to. Some I have been chatting to for years now, and we talk about pretty much anything and everything. They have encouraged me through some hard times and vice-versa, I have seen them cry and they have seen me cry. We have laughed and shared the good times too. With 1 of them I have practically watched their family grow up through stories and photos, and I know everything there is to know about their kids. I have sent Birthday presents, Christmas presents, cards and such, and I have received stuff to. There are a couple of people on-line (admittedly not many) that I consider to be true friends that are very dear to me and I care about them a lot. And I know that these people know they have a true friend in me, and if there was anything I could possibly do for them, I would.

So yes, I really took a couple days off to be with an on-line person, and to me it wasn’t that strange.

See, I relate to being close to people online and everything.. but they can't interrupt my life. However much I may love someone, I can only be with them when their free time overlaps with mine...

 

[Willco]

Yeah, I did. That was for real. I chat to a lot of people, but out of those I have a small handful of net-friends that I am very close to. Some I have been chatting to for years now, and we talk about pretty much anything and everything. They have encouraged me through some hard times and vice-versa, I have seen them cry and they have seen me cry. We have laughed and shared the good times too. With 1 of them I have practically watched their family grow up through stories and photos, and I know everything there is to know about their kids. I have sent Birthday presents, Christmas presents, cards and such, and I have received stuff to. There are a couple of people on-line (admittedly not many) that I consider to be true friends that are very dear to me and I care about them a lot. And I know that these people know they have a true friend in me, and if there was anything I could possibly do for them, I would.

So yes, I really took a couple days off to be with an on-line person, and to me it wasn’t that strange.

What a whack job.

 

[miyuru]

What a whack job.

:lol

Well hey if it works for Alyssa, I'll let it be.

That doesn't change my stance on making friends like that over the net, I just couldn't care less, I already have enough friends.

 

[Mike Works]

Alyssa DeJour I am asking you out on an internet date. I want to take you to the Gaming Forum sometime in the evening this Thursday.

 

[bjork]

"I have a small handful of net-friends that I am very close to. Some I have been chatting to for years now, and we talk about pretty much anything and everything. They have encouraged me through some hard times and vice-versa,"

I used to make posts like this here.

/amcry

 

[Fifty]

Damn you Serafitia!

 

[Eminem]

What a whack job.

:lol :lol :lol :lol :lol :lol

 

[Deleted member 4784]

I don't see how that makes her a "whack job". I mean, in this day and age, there are people getting married that initially came to know one another via the Internet (my sister is one of them). I really don't see what the big deal is with her having a few close friends from online.

 

[hXc_thugg]

Alyssa DeJour I am asking you out on an internet date. I want to take you to the Gaming Forum sometime in the evening this Thursday.

I'm free for Thursday, Mike! I put out!

 

[cloudwalking]

I don't see how that makes her a "whack job". I mean, in this day and age, there are people getting married that initially came to know one another via the Internet (my sister is one of them). I really don't see what the big deal is with her having a few close friends from online.

I don't think it's so much about having close friends online, that's common. "Taking a few days off work" to sit in front of the computer and spend time with a friend over a messaging client or whatever just seems a bit overboard. I'm dating someone I met online and I wouldn't consider taking time off work to have a day-long chat session. Don't people have lives to live? A phone call after arriving home from work would make more sense, and is much more personal.

 

[Mike Works]

I'm free for Thursday, Mike! I put out!

Sorry dude, I have a thing for Australians right now. Maybe in a few months if this thing with me and Alyssa doesn't pan out!

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

I don't think it's so much about having close friends online, that's common. "Taking a few days off work" to sit in front of the computer and spend time with a friend over a messaging client or whatever just seems a bit overboard.
I'm dating someone I met online and I wouldn't consider taking time off work to have a day-long chat session. Don't people have lives to live? A phone call after arriving home from work would make more sense, and is much more personal.

It wasn't for a day-long chat session, more a "day-time" session. Yes, I have a life to live, and because of my social life that weekend was a big weekend for me, trust me I appreciated the extra recovery time. Is it that strange to take a couple of days off work to chill out and have a long weekend? I could have spent those couple of extra days chilling out on the couch in front of the TV (it’s getting on winter here)… or on the computer.

And I agree with the whole phone call after arriving home from work thing, however the whole point of the “day-time” session was because of the time difference. I don’t care who the hell it is, they’d better have a damn good reason for calling me up at 3am!

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

Sorry dude, I have a thing for Australians right now. Maybe in a few months if this thing with me and Alyssa doesn't pan out!

a/s/l? :lol :lol :lol

 

[Mike Works]

21/m/canada

a???

 

[Koshiba]

Yeah, that was a bit rude of them. Hopefully they did have a good reason. That's happened to me once or twice too. What I hate though is when people that are online and seem to have no lives.. and so they become one of your best friends online for a couple years.. then suddenly they get a life and abandon you completely. Now that is just wrong. .: cough :. I'm a little bitter from my ex-online best friend doing that.

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

21/m/canada

a???

Well Mike, I would love to accept your internet date to the Gaming Forum sometime in the evening this Thursday, however unfortunately I already have a dinner date in real life this Thursday. But thank you for your kind invitation no less.
You sound cute.
*kiss on the cheek*

 

[Mike Works]

oh i'm sorry thursday won't work for me either, hXc_thugg is taking me out to the ice cream social, maybe i can accomodate your needs at a later date in time

 

[Mr Gump]

I get the sloppy seconds.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

Well just my 2 cents. I think you should be totally pissed at the individual in question for standing you up. Personally I can't think of a single reason why they would do something like that to you.

At the same time things happen, IF they had a valid reason. Then I think you should go easy on them. As you well know it is difficult to schedule anything with such a large time difference.