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Is Happiness Relative?

Just musing. Sitting by a campfire tonight with family, friends, and fire works with music and food and fireworks and just feeling grateful for all of it while a friend of mine who makes a lot more money is miserable tonight. Yes, it’s a rhetorical question.

Still, I invited him over tomorrow for more of the same to see if I can cheer him up.

Just a mental checkup. How is everyone on GAF doing right now? Don’t be afraid for ask for help.
 
I just got back from a Fourth of July family get-together after not speaking face-to-face with another human being for two weeks due to COVID quarantine. Haven't felt this content in a long time. Even as an introvert who can go without socializing like a camel goes without water, I have slowly learned that it's incredibly important to feel connected to other people.

So, yes, happiness = relatives

Glad you're doing well, and that's great of you to include your buddy!

Hope everyone on GAF is doing well, too. If not, feel free to PM me if you'd like to talk--I'm a weirdo who enjoys playing armchair therapist.
 
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nush

Member
I'm doing pretty well, thanks for asking

You're easily pleased though.

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Kamina

Golden Boy
It's not relative, it's a state of mind.
Agreed

Money doesn’t make happy either, at least not long term; maybe if you are in dire need or it is required to pay of a large dept.
Happiness is a conglomerate of many factors in your head.
 
Thank you for caring so much OP. I'm sure various GAFers are going to read your deep thoughts and realize, they don't need to be afraid to ask for help. I hope you were drunk when you posted this cause it's insanely condescending and dumb.
Resetera is that way you wanker.
 
Agreed

Money doesn’t make happy either, at least not long term; maybe if you are in dire need or it is required to pay of a large dept.
Happiness is a conglomerate of many factors in your head.

The old saying that "money can't buy happiness" is absolutely true, I know miserable rich people.
What money CAN give you is financial security, which is a major stressor for a rather large portion of the population no matter where you live.
Too many families/people living paycheck to paycheck. Too many people busting their asses at multiple jobs just to keep their head above the waterline.
60 years ago you could get a factory job and own a house, raise a family, own cars etc. The blue collar Joe is getting left in the dust via automation and capitalism and I really don't know how to solve the problem.
One thing is for sure, trickle down economics was a pipe dream. The rich continue to stockpile and get even more wealthy while the poor continue to get poorer.
 
The old saying that "money can't buy happiness" is absolutely true, I know miserable rich people.
What money CAN give you is financial security, which is a major stressor for a rather large portion of the population no matter where you live.
Too many families/people living paycheck to paycheck. Too many people busting their asses at multiple jobs just to keep their head above the waterline.
60 years ago you could get a factory job and own a house, raise a family, own cars etc. The blue collar Joe is getting left in the dust via automation and capitalism and I really don't know how to solve the problem.
One thing is for sure, trickle down economics was a pipe dream. The rich continue to stockpile and get even more wealthy while the poor continue to get poorer.
They’re going to stockpile themselves out of luxury then if they keep going the automation route.
 

Amory

Member
Yes, especially nowadays when life has become just a bunch of people climbing over each other to try to buy everything, right before they head over to their therapist to discuss their crippling depression and anxiety

Learning to be content with less is a critical life skill. It's easy to get addicted to the concept of "more", but more often doesn't mean better.
 
Yes, especially nowadays when life has become just a bunch of people climbing over each other to try to buy everything, right before they head over to their therapist to discuss their crippling depression and anxiety

Learning to be content with less is a critical life skill. It's easy to get addicted to the concept of "more", but more often doesn't mean better.

Humanity has the disease of "more." Gotta have more! Gotta have more money, more power, more Twitter clout, more drugs, more sex, more things, more more more!
It's crazy too me that we pay sports stars and media personalities bajillions while the people that actually move the wheels of society earn a pittance in comparison.
How did we get to a point where a ballplayer can earn 50 mill a year whenost teachers I know in Florida work a second job just to make ends meet. Our priorities are all fucked up
 
Mossybrew Mossybrew is the antithesis of a resetera poster, don't go for the low hanging fruit because you can't understand where he's coming from.

I'm guessing from your use of "Wanker" you are not familiar with the average American.
Naw, he bitched out like a poster there. No time for that.

I am the average American.
 

Celcius

°Temp. member
I literally came to Neogaf today to make this thread lol. I see I’m not the only one thinking about happiness lately.

Lately I haven’t been so happy. I’m saving up to buy a house this fall and in the meanwhile I’ve temporarily moved back in with my parents (since right before last Christmas). I really miss my independence and not having to share spaces, but I just keep telling myself to make it until October 1st and then I’ll be in a really good position to buy something (3 months to go…). In the meanwhile I’m saving like crazy to make my time here really count.

I’m also 35 now and as you get older your health isn’t necessarily quite what it used to be, but I know I still have a lot to be thankful for. One of my favorite anime and video game voice actors was my same age and he just died a few weeks ago from cancer, so I know not to take life for granted.

I’ve also felt burned out at work for the past several months. I just hit my 9 year anniversary here a month ago. I just feel like I’m on a treadmill in life lately and never getting to the payoff/good part, but I know the future can be better.

Thanks to this thread I’m going to make a conscious effort to be happier this week, not let small stuff bother me, and stay focused on achieving my goals this year.
 

Doom85

Member
Had an extremely shitty work week two weeks ago due to 4 of the 12 people in my work section being off all week, one due to vacation and the other due to minor injuries, a death of a friend, etc. Valid reasons, sure, but that doesn’t make the massively increased work load all week any easier, and by Friday I felt so overwhelmed at one point I excused myself in the bathroom and cried for a minute. That never has happened to me before due to work or stress, but it was just too much for me at the moment especially when I find half my co-workers and supervisors either lazy or semi-incompetent and I often have to pick up the slack.

The extra sting to all this is this is the week that my parents, my sister and her family were all vacationing in a nice summer home on the East Coast (US) and I was unable to join them because due to various people retiring last year the percentage of people in my work section who could be on vacation was lowered and as such every single work week in the summer was already taken as I have the lowest work seniority in my section despite having been there for 16 years. And my sister and her husband are both teachers so they can only vacation during the summer.

So yeah, an extremely stressful week that could have been the exact opposite, not exactly fun.

Doing better now. Last night my friends and I finally got to play Dungeons and Dragons again (started playing for the first time a few months back, but this is only our third session due to schedule conflicts though everyone should be free for a while now). Was a ton of fun, even better now that we have proper maps and the particular quest we were on was way more interesting than the first two. Also got two natural 20s in the final combat of the session, which did 20 and 28 damage which is huge for level 3 characters (I’m playing a rogue, and the Sneak Attack ability really does serious damage especially when it’s a critical). And some of my friends who were struggling with the rules (like one of my friends made Constitution his dump stat which is almost a death sentence, so he’s only 15 HP at Lv. 3 while I’m double that) but I think they’re getting the hang of it and things are flowing better. Since 2020, I’ve watched like 50 episodes of Critical Role so I kind of had to help the DM explain certain concepts to the others they weren’t getting at first.
 

Heimdall_Xtreme

Hermen Hulst Fanclub's #1 Member
Life is difficult, suffering and sacrifices are justified when you know that you are on the right path, if you look back and see what you did in your life and the achievements you have made, you become a valuable person and you realize the meaning of life.


Money can help in life, but it's not everything... and there's no need to worry, with the achievements that one achieves, the money comes by itself.
 
Humanity has the disease of "more." Gotta have more! Gotta have more money, more power, more Twitter clout, more drugs, more sex, more things, more more more!
It's crazy too me that we pay sports stars and media personalities bajillions while the people that actually move the wheels of society earn a pittance in comparison.
How did we get to a point where a ballplayer can earn 50 mill a year whenost teachers I know in Florida work a second job just to make ends meet. Our priorities are all fucked up


Long-terms gains de-prioritized over short-term. Teachers teaching kids who will go on to generate wealth 10 years down the line vs a b-ball player who puts bums in seats and whose merch is up 5pts over prior month. The teachers' impact on kids' wealth generation is hard to tie back/quantify/objectively measure, but the bean counters can give pretty accurate reads on what impact keeping a $50M per year player around will have.
 

teezzy

Banned
I'm a single 31 year old dude living in a decent house in the Detroit suburbs. My income is fair, and I have an okay savings with no debt apart from a modest car and house payment.

For me, I became a lot happier once I stopped worrying about so many things which were either out of my control or didn't affect me directly. I'm not here to save the world, nor am I in any position to.

Growing up, I was super edgy and a bit of a misfit. I have a lot of peace within me compared to then and have embraced normalcy in ways I'd never had imagined prior. Still an odd duck and people often comment that I'm a unique guy, but never in a bad way. I don't think I'll ever escape that

Lately I've been trying to get into better shape and read more books. That's been more than enough to stimulate me and give me something to aspire towards. If I meet a special someone along the way towards achieving that personal growth then all the better

Best wishes to all fellow internet nerds reading this
 
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I just thought it was funny my post was called insanely condescending and dumb in an insanely condescending and dumb manner.
That dude was a dickmeister. I wonder what people like him are like in their day-to-day. Did we just see a rare lapse in his chillness that's unrepresentative of his character, or is he always an insufferable prick?
 
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Aesius

Member
Long-terms gains de-prioritized over short-term. Teachers teaching kids who will go on to generate wealth 10 years down the line vs a b-ball player who puts bums in seats and whose merch is up 5pts over prior month. The teachers' impact on kids' wealth generation is hard to tie back/quantify/objectively measure, but the bean counters can give pretty accurate reads on what impact keeping a $50M per year player around will have.
Plus, professional athletes have extremely rare skillsets. Even benchwarmers are almost unfathomably good at the sports they play in comparison to the average Joe. Whereas there are plenty of shitty teachers out there and the profession itself has a relatively low barrier to entry.
 
Plus, professional athletes have extremely rare skillsets. Even benchwarmers are almost unfathomably good at the sports they play in comparison to the average Joe. Whereas there are plenty of shitty teachers out there and the profession itself has a relatively low barrier to entry.
Yeah, good point, too. But it's like...if there was a teacher out there who was in the top 0.1% of all teachers (like how the b-ball player is an outlier in their amazing ability), they wouldn't be making $50M a year
 
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teezzy

Banned
Athletes burn out quick. The average person isn't Brady, Crosby, or Ovechkin by any stretch of the imagination. They make big money for their franchise for the limited time they can physically push themselves as hard as they do before injury/age catches up to them and spend the rest of their days off in the sunset

They're not overpaid. Americans place a lot of value on entertainment, especially sports. Just a result of our culture.
 
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