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[Willco]

There's this girl. She's hot (and no pics, you peverts!). Her current relationship is kind of on the rocks and she's thinking of putting it out if its misery. She's always flirted with me and we've been okay friends for awhile. She said if she breaks up with her boyfriend, "prepare to get a call".

That seems kind of quick to swoop in for a bounce back guy. I dunno. This smells fishy!

 

[DarienA]

Not if you're just in it for the sex and to be seen with her "on your arm".

 

[Willco]

Not if you're just in it for the sex and to be seen with her "on your arm".

I'll bring her to the Redskins/Ravens game and you can meet her! That is awhile away though, so maybe she'll be done with me and toss me to the curb.

 

[Dilbert]

If you want a real relationship...you won't find it with her.

If you want to date and have some fun...why are you on here typing to us? Get busy, soldier!

 

[levious]

it depends how much better looking you are then the other guy.

 

[Tritroid]

Well if you're really 'good friends', her saying 'expect a call' could just mean literally expect to get a call from her after the break up because she'll need someone to talk to.

 

[clipunderground]

Your thinking too much. Just go for it..

 

[Error Macro]

My friend was in the same situation... a chick dumped her boyfriend of 5 years to go out with him. This was after she only knew my friend for a little over a week. I guess she was getting tired of her boyfriend's shit or something. I really did not think it would last at all, but they've been going out for 2 1/2 years now. The thing I think about in my mind though, and why I could never do that, is, if she could drop someone after going out with them for so long, and for someone who she just barely met, what's to say she wouldn't do it again with you?

 

[Mr Gump]

There's nothing wrong with it aslong as you arent too attached to her. Keep an open mind that things may go down the toilet at any time so when its time to flush atleast make sure you're riding the wave.

 

[RaymondCarver]

I was that guy for two years in college. A girl called me up, heartbroken over the professor she'd been in love with. He said they couldn't be together because it just wouldn't work. He had a wife in another state, and she, my friend, couldn't compete with that.

Anyway, I played the surrogate boyfriend for a while. I wrote her a letter saying, "We may not be in love, but for a while I can show you what love is supposed to be."


It was fine for me, but what I leared from the experience is that I'm someone who ties emotion to sex. I sorta can't help it if I start to love the person I'm in the act of mating with, continually. That's why I don't have casual sex that much, but I'm still in college and willing to try.







In your situation, just listen to what this girl has to say. Be there for her to talk to. That's all she wants. If she wants a relationship of sexual nature, she'll let you know. Until then, if that ever should offer itself, just listen. That's all some people want is for someone to listen.

 

[way more]

The way a girl gets over her last guy is by finding a new person. Therefore think of yourself as playing the role of a relationship counselor. You are more like a therapist . . . who has sex with his clients.

 

[Error Macro]

It was fine for me, but what I leared from the experience is that I'm someone who ties emotion to sex. I sorta can't help it if I start to love the person I'm in the act of mating with, continually. That's why I don't have casual sex that much, but I'm still in college and willing to try.

I think that pretty much happens to everybody. That's mostly why I'm against pre-marital sex. It screws up your judgement towards the other person. Instead of loving the person for who they really are, in reality, you mostly just love the sex. Seems to me that girls are disastrously affected by this, and unfortunately for guys like me that care about them for more than their physical affection, we're left some chick who has emotional baggage. I'm not dealing with that shit ever again.

 

[Willco]

Well if you're really 'good friends', her saying 'expect a call' could just mean literally expect to get a call from her after the break up because she'll need someone to talk to.

Nah, this is the first time she's ever called me. We've spoken when we see each other, we both go to the same school and such.

 

[Error Macro]

Ok, so she may be just looking for a "shoulder to cry on" type, and you're just the first hapless victim, err, I mean guy, that she's come across that seems like a good candidate.


PESSIMISM IN ACTION

 

[darscot]

This is without a doubt a booty call. Enjoy it for what it is and don't complicate things. Play your cards right and you can maintain this type of relationship for years. Just don't let your ego interfer or you'll loose both the friendship and a reliable booty call.

A very clever girl once told me the best way to get over a man is to get under a new one. Works for both men and women and has never steered me wrong.

 

[Ninja Scooter]

i went through a similar situation. There was this girl i got along with really well, but she had a boyfriend of like 3 years. One day she comes up to me and says they broke up. Its wierd, cause all the while i was hoping she would so i could get some of that, but once it actually happened, i sort of lost interest and didn't want to be the "rebound" guy, especially not when she's out of such a long relationship.

 

[Grizzlyjin]

This smells fishy!

Too easy...

Anyway, I wouldn't do anything right now if you actually want something good to come of this. I don't think you should pull a move or anything, just be the nice guy and listen to her story.

 

[Mike Works]

"I like candlelight dinners, long walks on the beach, and men who enjoy typing the majority of their threads in capslock"

 

[Flynn]

Put me down for a "go for it, but be aware that your days are numbered" vote.

Most rebound relationships are short-lived.

ErrorMacro's friend somehow dodged that bullet.

 

[Vormund]

If you want a real relationship...you won't find it with her.

If you want to date and have some fun...why are you on here typing to us? Get busy, soldier!

Yep. See how it goes, but just don't expect much.