Hope he recovers - his is a voice that we need, though perhaps not one we deserve. It's easy to say that he simply repackages age-old wisdom for modern times, in part because it is mostly true, but there is value in that repackaging in that it places it before the eyes of those who would otherwise miss it. Good advice is useful, and the 12 rules are precisely that.
A reminder:
Rule 1 Stand up straight with your shoulders back
- Hell yeah. Your outward appearance affects how others treat you, which affects your mental state. I've offered similar advice, a kind of fake it til you make it, to students being bullied and it was effective. As a teacher I do of course have to give bullies some shit, but the best I can do is to give them the tools to not be bullied. Overall the policy worked pretty well.
Rule 2 Treat yourself like you would someone you are responsible for helping
- Given all of us can give good advice to other people but then forget to do the same for ourselves, there is some value here. Why not take yourself out, into the third person, and ask what you'd advise someone in the same situation?
Rule 3 Make friends with people who want the best for you
- The number of people I've known over the years who were held back by their friends is astonishing. Much failure comes from that - friends who resent success, or don't support you, or worse actively hold you back by dragging you into their shit.
Rule 4 Compare yourself with who you were yesterday, not with who someone else is today
- Again a sensible option. Others may be further along the path to success, that doesn't mean you can't get there, but there's little point a 20 year old who hasn't done anything yet comparing themselves to a 50 year old who's been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and acquired the material possessions and life success that brings.
Rule 5 Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
- Seems like a pretty obvious and sensible rule for deciding how to handle discipline.
Rule 6 Set your house in perfect order before you criticise the world
- Repackaging the old saying 'let he who is without sin cast the first stone'. We'd all do well to follow that one - if nothing else we'd see fewer Twitter mobs.
Rule 7 Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient)
- Delayed gratification? What is this shit? Oh wait, yep, the foundation to civilisation itself.
Rule 8 Tell the truth – or, at least, don’t lie
- I would extend that by adding that one should not lie to oneself. Too many people engage in deception.
Rule 9 Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t
- Every online debate would be more civilised this way. I remember waaaay back when I first arrived and still had a bit of the screeching REEer in me (having fled RPS' god-awfulness) and I was being a bit of a prick to
DunDunDunpachi
- but he was so patient and civilised (and to be fair lots of others were too, but he stands out because he does it so often) and honestly he must be practicing that approach - it helped me so much and I honestly wish I could be better at rule 9.
Rule 10 Be precise in your speech
- One of the biggest difficulties faced by the poorest kids was not a failing of intellect necessarily, nor a lack of academic capability, but communication. They would shout abuse at each other instead of stopping to take the time to explain their issues. Precision in speech is vital because if we can't communicate properly with each other how are we ever going to improve our own understanding of the world and truly debate issues? In many ways it's a partner rule to rule 9.
Rule 11 Do not bother children when they are skate-boarding
- Kids will do stupid shit, but they'll learn from falling off their skateboards. Leave them to it.
Rule 12 Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street
- I always do because I love cats, but that's the literal take. Taking some time out to enjoy the small joys in life is good for your mental health, so damn well do it. Take the time to look at that lovely sports car someone's parked up. Enjoy the lovely pair of jiggling tits on the jogger. Smell the air when someone's just cut the grass. Life has good things and just skipping them to get to other 'more important' things misses something vital in life.
So, yeah I think he's a good guy. His rules are sensible. Now go clean your fucking room, it's a mess.