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[kumanoki]

I'm married. I've been married for almost four years (this March), but we've been together for ten.

How does your significant other handle your gaming obsession? How do you pick your battles?

My wife is tolerant. Space is limited in our small apartment, and we only have one television. This creates a few problems when I want to play a game and she wants to watch a movie, but we usually compromise.

 

[Jonnyram]

Three years of marriage, four years total together.

Before we got married, it wasn't so bad because there were hardly any decent games that year. Then when we got married and moved in together, FFXI came out. We had many problems with that game and in the end she explained that me playing that game was like me having an affair with another woman, so I quit.

She hates games, but this seems to be because she got addicted to them when she was younger and had a Famicom. She'll play stuff like Puzzle Bobble and Taiko with me, and when she does play, her addiction shows. She freaks me out because she won't let me stop playing with her! But we do have fall outs with other games still. She especially doesn't like the explosions and other loud noises from games like Halo. At least I have a separate room and TV for gaming. I'd have no chance if I were competing with the shit TV she watches.

 

[Mofo]

Been married for almost 10... my "other" handles it pretty well. She lets me do my thing and has even given me my own room to divuldge in my obsession. Though she rarely plays, she understands why I spend so much time doing what I do.

That being said, it took me a good month to talk her into agreeing on my PSP purchase. It's all about choosing the right battles.

I think the only gaming disagreement we've ever had was early on in the marriage - I was spending too much time on Super Mario Kart/XBand... ah, the good old days.

 

[marko]

gaming obessesion has gotten less and less, getting older, kids, work, just can't play as much.

 

[Date of Lies]

Though she rarely plays, she understands why I spend so much time doing what I do.

And how does she interpret this exactly?

 

[Agent Icebeezy]

My wife games as well. She's been buying me games since Ultima 9

 

[impirius]

I'm getting married in June, and we're each bringing a GC, an Xbox, a PS2, and a DS to the family. We'll see how that goes.

 

[maharg]

Lets just say we were wooing each other in the lead up to the Legend of Zelda: OoT coming out, so there were no misconceptions from square 1 about my level of interest in games.

She shares it, really. Not to the same degree as me (and I'm not even close to as into games as I was then, either), but she loves video games and is always into a little multiplayer action. Unless she loses a lot. Then she gets a bit pouty.

It's never been a cause of problems.

 

[Flynn]

My wife logged tons of time on Animal Crossing and beat the first Pikmin.

She also likes DS minigames.

On the other hand she thinks that World of Warcraft is silly. But I suspect that she secretly likes the game because she has the Tivo and the Netflix cue all to herself.

 

[kumanoki]

Animal Crossing is the only game I've ever seen that my wife will actively play. It almost made her late for work one day!

 

[gblues]

My wife has her games, I have mine. And we have separate computers, so she can play her games whilst I do whatever. It's a nice arrangement.

Nathan

 

[Drinky Crow]

Married for seven years, together for almost nine. She plays a few games herself -- well, okay, Diablo 2 -- and she's tolerant of my hobby/habit as long as I budget my time responsibly. Which I do. Usually. So it's all cool.

I also have a six month old daughter who's as cute as hell and noisier than me.

 

[hyp]

my wife doesn't mind at all. in fact, she encourages me to get the latest and greatest games so she can watch.

 

[Crow357]

Married 9 years. Met at the Internet Gaming Zone. I now have a 5 computer network in my home so we can do it LAN style.

 

[8bit]

My wife is quite happy to watch if I'm playing something, and plays through some games(such as the recent Zelda games, or the GTA:SA flying school missions).
I don't watch any television, so when I'm not playing something she has control of the TV. I tend to read instead.

 

[draven]

Getting married in July, and after being together for five years, my fiancee's pretty comfortable with my gaming obsession. Early on, she had her ballet classes and I had my gaming, so mines was the less expensive habit. Now, she's in medical school and I'm a working stiff, so she knows I have a lot of free time to fill.

Our kids eventually playing video games, though, is another battle that I have yet to win...

 

[SteveMeister]

Married 12 years. My wife works with me at Bethesda Softworks -- she's the lead character artist -- and is an avid gamer, currently addicted to FFXI. We also play D&D once or twice a month. So we kind of support each other's gaming habits

 

[DCharlie]

Hmmm... been with my GF for 4 years now , marriage is inevitably around the corner.

She's pretty much worse than i am in terms of game addiction, so should work out fine.

 

[JackFrost2012]

This creates a few problems when I want to play a game and she wants to watch a movie, but we usually compromise.

compromise = watch a movie

She's pretty much worse than i am in terms of game addiction, so should work out fine.

Yeah, I think you need to be posting in the "how does your significant other deal with your weaksauce lack of devotion to gaming" thread!

 

[Ignatz Mouse]

Married for 10.5. together for 14.

My wife likes to watch, sometimes plays, but other than that we have time apart. I don;t play anywhere near as much as I used to in the last year or two, though. My gaming goes in cycles.

 

[DCharlie]

"Yeah, I think you need to be posting in the "how does your significant other deal with your weaksauce lack of devotion to gaming" thread!"

Yeah, notice i'm spending less time on GAF? i'm working on my weaksauceness!

I'm actually going to finish RE4, and then i'm going to play WoW to counteract her FFXI addiction so help me god!

It's like taking up heroin to trump her crack cocaine habit....

 

[DeEJaYMiND]

Married for almost 5 years and never had a seriously problem because of gaming Just the usual “dinner is on the table” and 10mins later she shows up asking if she needs to tell that again LoL

In fact now that i think about it she was more addicted than me in games like Ragnarok Online, Soul Calibur 2, Animal Crossing (too much time on it) and now it's Mr. Driller for the DS... She also likes to play Monkey Ball, Mario Tennis and she finished Perfect Dark for the N64.

 

[Sh0k]

Been married for almost 17 years, almost 21 years together. Never had a problem as long as I have my priorities clear, meaning that my last priority in my list is gaming. I play mostly late at night. I only had a big problem with my Counterstrike addiction, one month I want it to be number one in the stats at the server I always play, my average play time for that month was around 5 hours a day ..... I got first place though

 

[AirBrian]

Been married for 2 1/2 years, but have been together for 8 years. She had a NES growing up and her favorite game was Super Mario Bros. 3. We met when I was in college and I introduced her to the N64. We would spend hours playing SF Rush (and Rush 2), Pilot Wings 64, Mario Kart 64, Mortal Kombat, and Zelda: OoT.

This generation she hasn’t played as much because she’s finishing up her Masters. But she has found time for Zelda: WW, Mario Kart: Double Dash!!, SSX Tricky (and SSX 3), Mortal Kombat: DA, and lately Donkey Konga. This past week she’s probably watched me play Resident Evil 4 about 90% of the time when it’s on. She loves the game but refuses to play because it’s too scary. :lol

The Mrs. also loves the Sims (PC version) and now of course the Sims 2. She also plays Age of Empires II, Rise of Nations, and Worms. She’s also a big fan of Tetris and Super Street Fighter Puzzle II.

So obviously she is very tolerant of my gaming needs. We only have one TV but have a TiVo, so that really helps to reduce the number of TV conflicts.

 

[Slo]

My wife minds. A lot. Her problem with it is that any moment I spend playing videogames is a moment that I could potentially be spending with her. And technically she's right, I don't deny that. She says that videogames are the "other woman" in our relationship, which I don't really agree with. It has become an issue in our relationship, despite the fact that I only play games for around an hour a day at maximum, and sometimes not at all.

The root of the problem is that videogames are what I do when we aren't getting along, or when she's not feeling particularily romantic. I spend a TON of time with my family (I have two young kids) and I work ~50 hrs/week so most of my time is spoken for. I have very little time to game. The only time that's free for "adult activities" is after the kids go to bed. So, at about 10:00 PM after the kids go to bed, I do some reconnisance, and if I have any chance of getting laid at all, I shut the TV off. If not, I send her to bed by herself. She for some reason objects to this.

From my side of the aisle, I think I have a right to a reasonable ammount of "me time." The key word being reasonable.

 

[DarienA]

My missus games... not nearly as much as me but she does... she really likes Dynasty Warriors and she's in to the Midway retro packs.... we play DW together, and recently when we were at the store she spent a good amount of time on RE4 so I'll probably pick that up for her. We recently converted our downstairs room in to a game room for all our game systems, posters, action figures, etc... She doesn't mind me gaming as long as I divide up my time and give her and the baby girl some attention. I have no problems with that. Though it does mean that some weeks I won't get as much gaming time in as I'd like to(I work 7-4 so I turn in fairly early to get up pretty early). But it also means that she realizes there will be some evenings and weekends where all I want to do is VG, and she has no problems with that... if she is tired I'll just bring our daughter with me... she likes all the color changes on the TV anyway... I'll slowly turn her in to a gamer. We have 5 TV's, 2 Tivos, and 3 surround sound systems so we never have TV conflict issues.

 

[Wulfer]

My wife and I have been married for over five years (we were a couple for 3 years) now and going strong. My friends and I have gaming get together's on weekends and she likes to watch us play the games and sometimes she plays too. We have four Televisions and a lan network for our computer, Xbox's and Xbox Live so, no trouble there. She enjoys the DDR games, Age of Empires collection, Mario Kart, puzzle games like tetris and bust a move. She generally runs off with my pocket Neo-geo to play sonic and bust a move. I let her watch her shows and she let's me play my XBL at night on the days that I'm off. She bought me 6 games during Christmas (all I wanted) so, I think things are going great. I have to agree with others though, game time and internet read/post time are limited between working full time + a second job part-time(wife's in college, I've been out for years) and family.

 

[psycho_snake]

Im not married and Im not close to thinking about it, but thats because of my age. My GF lives very close so we get to see each other a lot and she doesnt mind me playing even when she is over.

 

[mrroboto]

married 5 years this june, 2 kids.

 

[Karg]

Married almost a year, been together for a total of going on 6 years. I've had to start a thread like this for FFXI. Oh sweet jesus how much my wife hated that game. All consuming, all powerful. But I quit and just play Halo 2 and other great titles lately every now and then. So she has pretty much accepted that gaming is a passion for me.

 

[Folder]

Just tied the knot.
My wife likes games and plays more than I do.

 

[The Guivre]

Been together for four years, will be married this fall. The first 3 years were long distance so the gaming was never really an issue. Now that we're living together the schedules are still sort of getting into place.

The big problem is if I game and she's in the apartment then I instantly qualify as ignoring her. It's not to the point where I think it could threaten the relationship, just results in the occaisional spat. I think once Kingdom Hearts 2 comes out along with the new Pokemon she'll find herself spending a bit more time sitting on the couch contentedly while I stare at the TV playing Xbox or PS2. One day perhaps my dreams of having my future wife join me in gaming will be realized.

 

[Christoff Yurievich]

Married almost 7 years now. She games, but not nearly as much as I do. She watches me play a game like Gradius V and wonders why I don't just "skip" the levels that I've already played time and time again. She doesn't understand the challenge is trying to get as far as you can, not just beating the game and getting rid of it.

This is probably the only point we disagree on. She's always harping about "you beat that game, so get rid of it!" :lol The bad thing is that she's constantly eyeing my SNES and games for a trip to eBay. While I can understand her point that I don't play the games very much, lately I've had to deal with school/work/and getting ready to have a kid all at the same time AND she quit her job so she's around all the time now.

 

[Sirolf]

Been together for five years,married since one year....She's cool with my hobby but i have to stop when she says so....and immediately!! :lol

 

[lachesis]

I am married for about 3 years (been together 4 years). My wife does mind if I play games too much - but that's when she's not busy. She's still in school and a lot of times, she has to work on her school projects / homeworks (at home), so it leaves me some good gaming time when she's in the study/workroom. I've been pretty patient regarding getting too many games that would cut into our "together time", and she apparently felt bad about it and bought me MGS3, RE4 and Halo2 last weekend.

lachesis

 

[Ryck]

Not married but we picked up the engagement ring last night.(does that count) At first she was very anti video games as she hadn't really played them growing up , but after being/living together two years she's pretty into games now and plays them regularly

some of her favs

Animal Crossing
Mario Kart DD
Shanghai
Super Puzzle Fighter
Gran Turismo 3
Puzzle Bobble
Kingdom Hearts
House of the dead 3