My brother's finally getting kicked out.
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Wow. That's pretty cool. Well, while you're in this situation, can you answer me a simple question? Respond however you like. But personally, I just wanna cut through all the nonsense hiding this issue and get the truth:NLB2 said:
They can fly, right? It's all just a big conspiracy, isn't it?
Only the ones with the cool yellow streaks.Litigation Manuel said:
They clip there wings at the zoo so they can't fly.
A bigger part of the conspiracy is the fact that while I was researching great apes in Africa, we discovered the missing link.
He's now a proffesional fighter in Japan.
Lemurnator has no obligation whatsoever to be involved in her brother's life. Siblings can have abusive relationships. It would be silly for Lemurnator to try to help her abuser just because of the familial link. You can choose to have children, but not siblings (older ones, at least). That's why it's an issue the parents must deal with.
I do worry about this person (the brother), however, and the people around him, family and non-family. He is old enough to live on his own, but not very well suited to do so, mentally. And living with (step)parents that cannot treat/help him is not much of an answer either, for him or the parents. A parent's job is to guide someone, but occasionally a child will get out of control outside of the parents' range of influence. This, at least, sounds like the case with Lemurnator's brother. I don't know how much influence his parents and step parents have had in his life, but somehow his behavior got really messed up. At this point, he can legally be let loose to work it out himself, but it will probably be better for everyone if he gets help from his parents.
A child can be abusive to the parents, too. I suppose in that case, a parent could sever ties to the child (of age, of course), assuming that it's out of control and that the child has already been damaging to their lives. It may be in some parents' best interest to do that. Kids 18+ (though 18-22 year olds are rarely this independent IMO) can definitely be beyond parental influence and extremely independent in thinking, rendering any help they could give rather ineffective. Most likely, kids that bad will not want help or want to change, which is really the first step. So I can see a parent kicking that type of person out. Really, they are a parent no longer, and just have an abuser in their household. I think 18 is too young to decide this, but I don't know every parents' situation.
Lemurnator's brother, however, sounds at least civil enough for his parent/step parent to work with. At least I hope so (of course I wouldn't know), but if that's the case, I think the first thing they should do is try to help him realize he has a problem, or at least get him to think about it (it would probably take time). From there, maybe he can get professional help. No matter what happens, I'd really like to see the professional help happen. The guy needs it, and so do probably most of the people around him (need him to get help, that is).
I do worry about this person (the brother), however, and the people around him, family and non-family. He is old enough to live on his own, but not very well suited to do so, mentally. And living with (step)parents that cannot treat/help him is not much of an answer either, for him or the parents. A parent's job is to guide someone, but occasionally a child will get out of control outside of the parents' range of influence. This, at least, sounds like the case with Lemurnator's brother. I don't know how much influence his parents and step parents have had in his life, but somehow his behavior got really messed up. At this point, he can legally be let loose to work it out himself, but it will probably be better for everyone if he gets help from his parents.
A child can be abusive to the parents, too. I suppose in that case, a parent could sever ties to the child (of age, of course), assuming that it's out of control and that the child has already been damaging to their lives. It may be in some parents' best interest to do that. Kids 18+ (though 18-22 year olds are rarely this independent IMO) can definitely be beyond parental influence and extremely independent in thinking, rendering any help they could give rather ineffective. Most likely, kids that bad will not want help or want to change, which is really the first step. So I can see a parent kicking that type of person out. Really, they are a parent no longer, and just have an abuser in their household. I think 18 is too young to decide this, but I don't know every parents' situation.
Lemurnator's brother, however, sounds at least civil enough for his parent/step parent to work with. At least I hope so (of course I wouldn't know), but if that's the case, I think the first thing they should do is try to help him realize he has a problem, or at least get him to think about it (it would probably take time). From there, maybe he can get professional help. No matter what happens, I'd really like to see the professional help happen. The guy needs it, and so do probably most of the people around him (need him to get help, that is).
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