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My father was an asshole.
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And my mother was a dick.
Together they FHUTA.
Together they FHUTA.
A few things he wasn't:
-Drug addict.
-Physical abuser.
-A good father.
-Poor, or even close.
-Honest.
-Highly intelligent.
-Deep-rooted.
-Open-minded.
-Broad-minded.
-A fan of videogames past Super Mario Bros. 3.
-Good at managing his deep pockets. (Scumbag)
-Good at providing his oldest son (me) and his two younger kids the proper attention.
-Good at keeping promises.
-Good person to converse with.
...there's a lot more, but that covers the hard stuff.
-Drug addict.
-Physical abuser.
-A good father.
-Poor, or even close.
-Honest.
-Highly intelligent.
-Deep-rooted.
-Open-minded.
-Broad-minded.
-A fan of videogames past Super Mario Bros. 3.
-Good at managing his deep pockets. (Scumbag)
-Good at providing his oldest son (me) and his two younger kids the proper attention.
-Good at keeping promises.
-Good person to converse with.
...there's a lot more, but that covers the hard stuff.
Coming back to my father's house tonight for a visit, I realized he's still the same old asshole after not living with him for a year or two. I had lived with my mom prior before she moved...and then went to stay with pops. Anyway, coming back tonight (luckily he actually lets me use my laptop, more importantly, on his phoneline, surprise), he's still doing his drinking thing, still with his ugly-as-fuck girlfriend (and my dad is a good-lookin' 43-year-old...was in church a few years back and some old lady thought we were brothers). Still dedicating his whole existence to her. Still can't carry on a conversation. Just a bunch of all bullshit bringing back horrible memories. I'd rather have been beaten than to have a dumbfuck father who I can't converse with. His line of thinking is HIS way, he only knows what he's told, and only follows a standard set of rules. He doesn't have a personality. He borrows.
How I wish I was thrown down a flight of steps instead.
EDIT: What hurts the most is being hit with EVERYTHING at once, and not being ignorant of it over the years, or now, even. How I wish I was a mud puddle, ready for evaporation. How I wish I had never seen through him.
How I wish I was thrown down a flight of steps instead.
EDIT: What hurts the most is being hit with EVERYTHING at once, and not being ignorant of it over the years, or now, even. How I wish I was a mud puddle, ready for evaporation. How I wish I had never seen through him.
My dad was an alcoholic, got into trouble with the law, went to prison, left the country and been married three times. He had troubles, I wouldn't want to be in his shoes. He may never rise above where he is now, forever in a debt of child support that he didn't pay so long ago. I don't hate him. I feel bad about where he is, I forgive him. He's a better person now than he was when I was young. Hating your dad won't get you much, even if he keeps giving you reasons to hate him.
Yes, but the ideology of living one life is baffling concerning I have one father. Had one childhood. Had one teenagehood. Will have one long-ass adulthood. Will remember him when I die. Being 20, I don't have too long to go before I'm not really considered a "youngin'" anymore. I don't want this shit to go to waste before too long, moreorless, I want him to hold himself accountable and stop being this way, but in my right mind, I know he won't. I can hardly accept it either. And it fucking sucks.etiolate said:
ErasureAcer
Banned
Jesus is the only father you need. /religious kook
Cerebral Palsy
Banned
Catalyst said:
Oh, your father is a Republican too? There could be some father/son bonding potential here.
He's further to the right than I am. But normally he doesn't know what he's talking about, just follows a long, with no personal stance. Or so it seems. It's kind of funny when we're both conservatives (I guess I'm more republican, but I'm more of something else since I don't really agree with a lot of republican ideology), yet we butt heads like hell on a lot of issues. The difference between my dad and I: he doesn't "understand" things, whereas I do. He has liberal thinking cooped up with republican ideology. ...whoa, what a clusterfuck.Cerebral Palsy said:
Jesus is the man. It'll be rather nice to have him to look up to someday
.norinrad21
Banned
No idea who my dad is, well sort of, i haven't met him yet but we talk on the phone from time to time ranging from 3-4 times a year.
From what i know he's currently married and has 2 ex wives, my mom included.
not that i care nor am i interested in meeting him, he missed out on my childhood and some of the most important years of my life.
Nope i don't hate him, i just feel sorry for the guy in a weird way.
From what i know he's currently married and has 2 ex wives, my mom included.
not that i care nor am i interested in meeting him, he missed out on my childhood and some of the most important years of my life.
Nope i don't hate him, i just feel sorry for the guy in a weird way.
Hahaha, my dad is about five inches short than me (he's 5'7", :lol), and about five to ten pounds less. If I wanted to, I'd crush him....but I don't know how skilled of a brawler he'd be since I've never seen him fight. He headlocked me once when I was 14 because I talked back to him, but he was obviously drunk :lol.Teddman said:Has anyone here ever gotten into a straight-up fistfight with their old man? Now that would be an interesting situation, emotionally charged for sure.
I never went there, seeing as how my dad has about half a foot and 80 pounds on me.
I couldn't hit my dad, though. As much as I've wanted to, and as much as I do now, I couldn't. He's still my dad, afterall. He'd have to hit me first, and I'd have to be in a really bad mood. I'm afraid I'd kill him.
DCharlie
And even i am moderately surprised
i got lucky, both my parents rocked and i had an extremely happy childhood.
Saying that ...
"Has anyone here ever gotten into a straight-up fistfight with their old man?"
yes. Once.
When i was 15.
Didn't last very long.
My dad had a reputation when he was younger for being a psycho and he wiped me out very quickly. I haven't had many fights, but i've never been take apart by anyone except my old man (saying old, he'd have old been about 37)
Saying that ...
"Has anyone here ever gotten into a straight-up fistfight with their old man?"
yes. Once.
When i was 15.
Didn't last very long.
My dad had a reputation when he was younger for being a psycho and he wiped me out very quickly. I haven't had many fights, but i've never been take apart by anyone except my old man (saying old, he'd have old been about 37)
My old man was a bastard as well. (Literally!) He was an alcohlic and abusive to my mom. He also was only vaguely aware of the short people running around his house was his children. He was also vice chair of the "Assholw West Indian fathers stuck in the colonial era" committee. Yes. My father was an ass indeed. Strangely enough I admire him. He was a very successful individual in life. He also raised me as a man pretty good. (Minus the whole wife beating alcoholism thing). As much as I disliked him I respect him and love him for the good he brought in my life. I am much better off for having a strong male figure in my life. Of course i'll never forget the evil things he did but I do forgive him. Things could have been worse. He could have bathed me until i was ten with hot masssage oils...
Manabanana
Member
My dad rocks. He has a short temper, but he's not irrational. He's also one of the smartest guys I know. I've never been in a fight with him (or even close, considering he's about 120lbs. heavier than me and he used to be a bodybuilder). He threw down with his old man once, though. My grandfather hates/hated my mother. My father, obviously, loved her. My father had just announced they were getting married. My grandfather called my mother a whore (no clue why, she absolutely is/was not), so my dad snapped and a brawl broke out...IN THE HOUSE. My grandfather and father are NOT small guys. My dad's biceps were, at one time, as big as my head. My grandmother (who loves my mother) was hitting them both a flyswatter as this was happening, telling them to get out of the house. I wasn't born yet, obviously, but my mother, father, and grandmother have all told me this story. We don't see my grandfather at ALL, and my grandmother and grandfather divorced. My grandmother is the coolest grandmother I've ever known. She sings Aerosmith around the house.
keeblerdrow
Member
Let posting here, more LiveJournal, please.
Forgotten Ancient
Banned
Did Linkin Park's new CD get leaked already?
My pops has always been a tough guy because he played football(Penn State) but he risked a lot for my lil brother and older sister...we always came first...
And he used to let me stay up till 3am so we could be contra and super mario3 together...
Only thing is, he put me through a wall when i was 15 becuase i gave him the finger(wrong thing to do against a big black man)..
But he gets a 9.8 outta 10.
And he used to let me stay up till 3am so we could be contra and super mario3 together...
Only thing is, he put me through a wall when i was 15 becuase i gave him the finger(wrong thing to do against a big black man)..
But he gets a 9.8 outta 10.
MrPing1000
Member
my parents roxxors really. They give off at me for not doing anything but its all true. Groovy having a dead that listens to doom metal, plays guitar and is pretty amusing overall
MrAngryFace
Banned
I love my mom, but I dont get along with almost everyone else in my family.
Basically if a family cant run your life, they get pissed. Gee, sorry guy.s
Basically if a family cant run your life, they get pissed. Gee, sorry guy.s
My dad whupped me when I needed it.
Hugged me when I didn't deserve it.
Warned me regularly how tough it can be to survive in society as a minority, but to never accept it as an excuse for failure.
If I'm one-tenth the father to my son as my father is to me, I'll count myself incredibly blessed.
I love him.
Hugged me when I didn't deserve it.
Warned me regularly how tough it can be to survive in society as a minority, but to never accept it as an excuse for failure.
If I'm one-tenth the father to my son as my father is to me, I'll count myself incredibly blessed.
I love him.
dskillzhtown
keep your strippers out of my American football
Most sons hate their dad until the son becomes an adult. That is just how it is. Usually the dad is the one who has to hand out discilpine and enforce rules. I think both the child and the father get a bit too used to those roles. So when the child becomes an adult, the roles finally can be changed. I look back now knowing my dad was hard on me because he was trying to teach me life and that was his way of doing so.
SlickWilly223
Time ta STEP IT UP
My dads alright, my mom does most of the parenting while he's at work.
I never got in a fight with him, but at about age 15 when I started beating him in arm wrestling matches... well, he's more afraid of me then I am of him so..
I never got in a fight with him, but at about age 15 when I started beating him in arm wrestling matches... well, he's more afraid of me then I am of him so..
bob_arctor
Tough_Smooth
Joe said:
Mark Twain?
Anyway, my dad is the coolest bad-ass on the planet. Straight gangsta.
:lol :lol To those who tried to ruin this thread: mission failed. Live journalism succeeds. And you know, there's nothing wrong with mentioning a few things over the internet, no need to make fun of anyone for being honest like this. No need to be inhumane and uncompassionate.
To the guys who participated civily, you guys rule...and I thank you.
Anyway, I can respect my dad in a lot of ways as well. He's worked at a Duke Power nuclear power plant for 16 years. He went from being a security guard when I was a little kid to a reactor operator (don't get the Homer Simpson impression, this is the real deal -- Homer was more of a senior reactor operator, actually). He went from makes $13 an hour to making $33 an hour. When he gets his senior reactor operator's license, he'll be making $40+, with the annual raise until he retires. Then there's his retirement, which will possibly make him a millionaire. He earned the shit. He went through a divorce, and his alcoholism, and still hasn't ever been fired, hasn't been reprimanded, and has kept a clean record at his job. I don't know how he does it, but he should be this way at home.
Over the years growing up, I've always had good birthdays and CHristmases, and he still buys me almost whatever I want, even not living with him anymore...bought me a $400 leather jacket two years ago, along with a couple Xbox games. That's great and all, but I would have taken him being a more better father than anything else. And like I said, his time is running out.
To the guys who participated civily, you guys rule...and I thank you
.Anyway, I can respect my dad in a lot of ways as well. He's worked at a Duke Power nuclear power plant for 16 years. He went from being a security guard when I was a little kid to a reactor operator (don't get the Homer Simpson impression, this is the real deal -- Homer was more of a senior reactor operator, actually). He went from makes $13 an hour to making $33 an hour. When he gets his senior reactor operator's license, he'll be making $40+, with the annual raise until he retires. Then there's his retirement, which will possibly make him a millionaire. He earned the shit. He went through a divorce, and his alcoholism, and still hasn't ever been fired, hasn't been reprimanded, and has kept a clean record at his job. I don't know how he does it, but he should be this way at home.
Over the years growing up, I've always had good birthdays and CHristmases, and he still buys me almost whatever I want, even not living with him anymore...bought me a $400 leather jacket two years ago, along with a couple Xbox games. That's great and all, but I would have taken him being a more better father than anything else. And like I said, his time is running out
.Particle Physicist
between a quark and a baryon
i like my dad. he aint perfect.. hes a bit broken here and there.. but hes done good with me.
Biological father: Left me at age one, calls once a year or so. Bodybuilder, alcoholic, coward.
Step father: Lazy irresponsible alpha male. Typical old dog that can't learn how to roll over. Sticks to his habits wich include being the alpha male, an ass, and alone. Been looking for another apartment for about a year but when you live in a city of students it's hard. I recent him to the bone.
Step father: Lazy irresponsible alpha male. Typical old dog that can't learn how to roll over. Sticks to his habits wich include being the alpha male, an ass, and alone. Been looking for another apartment for about a year but when you live in a city of students it's hard. I recent him to the bone.
My father is a religious kook. He tried for ten years (when we were young and easy brainwashing victims) to teach the family the "christian values" by any means necessary, but in the end he miserably failed. Now every time he talks about morality, sex etc etc etc the whole family makes fun of him and he shuts up. He is the least respected member of the family and I have to admit that I really really enjoy it.
Spiritreaver
Member
Let's see here. My biological dad left my mom when he heard she was pregnant with me.
My only stepdad was an alcholic, he wasn't a wife beater, but he nearly got to that point. He actually whipped my sister and I, mostly me, to a point that I think just crossed the line. He was seeing another woman right infront of his own kids while my mom was down in Texas to take care of our sick grandmother at the time. My sister and I told her when she got back, and there was just this huge fight. Luckily my mom got a divorce before things went on another level. I've seen him twice since, last time was earlier this year. Apparently he's gotten into a lot of trouble, and I haven't a clue where he is now. Nor what he did.
I would honestly like to be able to say something good about either of them. But there's nothing. Absolutely nothing.
My only stepdad was an alcholic, he wasn't a wife beater, but he nearly got to that point. He actually whipped my sister and I, mostly me, to a point that I think just crossed the line. He was seeing another woman right infront of his own kids while my mom was down in Texas to take care of our sick grandmother at the time. My sister and I told her when she got back, and there was just this huge fight. Luckily my mom got a divorce before things went on another level. I've seen him twice since, last time was earlier this year. Apparently he's gotten into a lot of trouble, and I haven't a clue where he is now. Nor what he did.
I would honestly like to be able to say something good about either of them. But there's nothing. Absolutely nothing.
I've felt sorry for my dad until recently, when I realized how much of a fuck-up he was. I can't have compassion for a fake and a liar. He wants to actually lower child support for my brothers so he can have more money for his girlfriend. What a total loser.Drexon said:Hehe, I remember when mom started dating again after they divorced. That was great, he was sooo mad and fucked up.
I just have to brag on my dad for a second here. He got laid off of his job of 15 or so years (I.T. Manager), but instead of letting it get him down, he dusted off his old business degree and started his own computer shop. He runs the whole thing himself, and I don't see how he puts up with all the hassle that comes with owning a small business.
And c'mon, how many people can say that their dad made them a custom DOS menu? I mean, the menus would even 'explode' out. How cool is that?
And c'mon, how many people can say that their dad made them a custom DOS menu? I mean, the menus would even 'explode' out. How cool is that?
My dad is ok. A bit too traditional and chinese for me tho. And shares my blood of a short temper. Also difficult to reason with, although impressed if you can on occasion show him sound logic past his illogic... which can be difficult to get past. But he wishes the best for us, and isn't malevolent in any sense.
way more
Member
My father a great person, opedial syndrome was virtually nonexsistant. My mother was a bitch, bi-polar, borderline personality, co-dependent, a true bitch who hurts everyone around her. We cut off our fathers more easily then we can our mothers. Our parents raise us and are our gods, they controll our development and that bitch make me so afraid of intimate contact that I hate her so nuch. I can only have sex with a girl I am dating, anything more meaningful and suddenly I'm afraid how she will hurt me. I fucking hate consolence and compliments because what that psycho bitch. Being close with physical contact is something I've overcome just because of the great people I've met since blowing that asshole off.
Humans repair themselves as long as they can find good social interaction. Finding the right people now can cure you of the psychopaths you've lived with. You're only human an so were those fucknuts.
Humans repair themselves as long as they can find good social interaction. Finding the right people now can cure you of the psychopaths you've lived with. You're only human an so were those fucknuts.
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