"All game is Inner-Game"
That is the mantra of a website I've recently discovered. He teaches guys to come from the heart, and to get a girlfriend by qualifying her (based on what you want in a girl), instead of relying on techniques to get a girl.
---All you need in this "game" is Heart and Standards. When you truly come from the heart, and insist that people be nice to you (by walking off when they are rude, or aloof, or whatever), youll never need to worry about things like, What should I say? How are my clothes? Is my body language cooler than everybody elses?
---The SIMPLE SOLUTION to this is changing your attitude from, How can I get this womans approval and love? to Does she qualify to be with me as a friend, lover, or nothing at all?
MEMORIZE that question until it becomes a habit.
Perhaps that sounds too simple, but ultimately, the best solutions in life are always simple, arent they?
You dont need a gameplan, you dont need a trick, you dont need a magic opener and you dont need to memorize a dozen attract routines. All you need is the mindset of THE QUALIFIER. You need to be sincere, well-intentioned, you need to be friendly with a sense of humor, and you need to qualify them.
When you have this attitude, your natural, charming, cocky/funny self will spontaneously emerge.
---To those afraid to approach women:
YOU
ARE
ENOUGH
All you need to do is walk up to that person and introduce yourself and be curious about her to see if she QUALIFIES. If she dont like it, ITS NOT YOU. Its HER that is f*cked up! Here you are, youve got good intentions; you want to hold her and love her and make her feel special and desired and give her the best orgasms of her life, and she actually REJECTS THAT? How f*cked up is this woman youre pursuing? How NEUROTIC is she to throw someone beautiful like yourself away? How stupid is she to be kicking you in the nuts like that?
Question:
If a woman approached YOU and said, Hey, I hope you dont mind me saying this, but I find myself very attracted to you. Are you single? Oh you are? Great, lets go get a coffee and talk, its on me!
Would you laugh at her and shoot her down?
So why be afraid, EVER, of approaching? Know what I mean?
---How to Stop Caring what others think:
First of all, not caring what others think is a HUGE inner-game piece that takes a while to master.
It's simply the greatest gift you can give yourself. You cannot live peacefully until you stop worrying about what others think.
Here's what I think this boils down to:
You care about what others think of you, because you fear they will JUDGE YOU.
Now think about this:
As soon as you stop JUDGING YOURSELF for those things, the problem is GONE.
S-O-L-V-E-D.
The solution is to stop judging YOURSELF.
Think about it.
When you are affected by other people's opinion of you, essentially you are saying, YOUR opinion of me is of greater value than MY OWN.
when you come from the heart and live with REAL integrity, you're never ever ever ever ever nervous around women, and you never, ever give a flying f*ck what other people think of you.
It's as simple as that.
An honest, heart-centered man who lives with INTEGRITY feels no shame or shyness, PERIOD.
The above was a few samples from the website. If you would like more in-depth advice on this subject, I'll give you the link to the free newsletter archive. Give me a PM to let me know you're interested.
"When the student is ready the teacher will appear"
That is the mantra of a website I've recently discovered. He teaches guys to come from the heart, and to get a girlfriend by qualifying her (based on what you want in a girl), instead of relying on techniques to get a girl.
---All you need in this "game" is Heart and Standards. When you truly come from the heart, and insist that people be nice to you (by walking off when they are rude, or aloof, or whatever), youll never need to worry about things like, What should I say? How are my clothes? Is my body language cooler than everybody elses?
---The SIMPLE SOLUTION to this is changing your attitude from, How can I get this womans approval and love? to Does she qualify to be with me as a friend, lover, or nothing at all?
MEMORIZE that question until it becomes a habit.
Perhaps that sounds too simple, but ultimately, the best solutions in life are always simple, arent they?
You dont need a gameplan, you dont need a trick, you dont need a magic opener and you dont need to memorize a dozen attract routines. All you need is the mindset of THE QUALIFIER. You need to be sincere, well-intentioned, you need to be friendly with a sense of humor, and you need to qualify them.
When you have this attitude, your natural, charming, cocky/funny self will spontaneously emerge.
---To those afraid to approach women:
YOU
ARE
ENOUGH
All you need to do is walk up to that person and introduce yourself and be curious about her to see if she QUALIFIES. If she dont like it, ITS NOT YOU. Its HER that is f*cked up! Here you are, youve got good intentions; you want to hold her and love her and make her feel special and desired and give her the best orgasms of her life, and she actually REJECTS THAT? How f*cked up is this woman youre pursuing? How NEUROTIC is she to throw someone beautiful like yourself away? How stupid is she to be kicking you in the nuts like that?
Question:
If a woman approached YOU and said, Hey, I hope you dont mind me saying this, but I find myself very attracted to you. Are you single? Oh you are? Great, lets go get a coffee and talk, its on me!
Would you laugh at her and shoot her down?
So why be afraid, EVER, of approaching? Know what I mean?
---How to Stop Caring what others think:
First of all, not caring what others think is a HUGE inner-game piece that takes a while to master.
It's simply the greatest gift you can give yourself. You cannot live peacefully until you stop worrying about what others think.
Here's what I think this boils down to:
You care about what others think of you, because you fear they will JUDGE YOU.
Now think about this:
As soon as you stop JUDGING YOURSELF for those things, the problem is GONE.
S-O-L-V-E-D.
The solution is to stop judging YOURSELF.
Think about it.
When you are affected by other people's opinion of you, essentially you are saying, YOUR opinion of me is of greater value than MY OWN.
when you come from the heart and live with REAL integrity, you're never ever ever ever ever nervous around women, and you never, ever give a flying f*ck what other people think of you.
It's as simple as that.
An honest, heart-centered man who lives with INTEGRITY feels no shame or shyness, PERIOD.
The above was a few samples from the website. If you would like more in-depth advice on this subject, I'll give you the link to the free newsletter archive. Give me a PM to let me know you're interested.
"When the student is ready the teacher will appear"
