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[LakeEarth]

Okay, so it's been approx. 3 years since I've last had a real relationship, 1 and a half since I last had what I would considered a girlfriend, and sex once in the past three years. Needless to say, in the whole female department, I've been pretty depressed.

Now recently I ran into an old, brief flame and we hit it off. I'm not the smoothest guy in the world so I don't get into these situations often. I knew I wouldn't be able to get any kind of relationship between me and her going (she's not a relationship type person), but I somehow get a 'friends with benefits' deal going. Yesterday, through the snowstorm, getting my car stuck, losing control twice and getting lost a few times, I was able to have our first 'benefits' night. Most action I've gotten in a year, and she enjoyed too. My statement that ruined, of which I should've knocked on wood immediately but didn't, was that 'too bad this will end the second one of us gets into a relationship'. Her response was 'That's never going to happen."

The next day, the VERY NEXT DAY, one of her male friends that she liked asked her out, thus completely stopping any further developments between me and her. So hurray. I got exactly 24 hours of happiness before it all comes crashing down again.

Luck. Disaster. Not listening to Cubsfan. It's all crap.

 

[Date of Lies]

I see your problem, you were too cocky and not funny enough.

anyway, I dont understand, why can't you just get dates by yourself?

 

[LakeEarth]

I see your problem, you were too cocky and not funny enough.

anyway, I dont understand, why can't you just get dates by yourself?

I'm not talkative enough. I really don't know how to make conversation out of nothing and thus, meeting women for the first time usually leaves a bad impression on them. But I don't know how to just become talkative until I know the person somewhat. By then though, they lost whatever heat was there to start with. That's why I tend to work better with girls that start off as friends.

I never post any "dating help" threads cause I know what my problems are. People giving me advice I can't possibly follow won't give me any kind of help. This is more like a "why does life hate me" kind of thread, just to let off some steam.

 

[Date of Lies]

I'm not talkative enough. I really don't know how to make conversation out of nothing and thus, meeting women for the first time usually leaves a bad impression on them. But I don't know how to just become talkative until I know the person somewhat. By then though, they lost whatever heat was there to start with. That's why I tend to work better with girls that start off as friends.

I never post any "dating help" threads cause I know what my problems are. People giving me advice I can't possibly follow won't give me any kind of help. This is more like a "why does life hate me" kind of thread, just to let off some steam.

But the whole point of C+F is to not be talkative at all.

 

[supermonkey]

It's your fault for not asking her out first...

 

[LakeEarth]

But the whole point of C+F is to not be talkative at all.

Well when your sitting in the middle of the room with 3 guys and 5 girls, and the guys are talking to the girls and I'm just sitting there, you'd be suprised how little the girls care you're there.

It's your fault for not asking her out first...

Again, this wasn't a relationship situation. I didn't want one with her, she didn't want one with me. We knew what we felt was purely physical and any attempt to go for it would've just ended quicker.

 

[Cubsfan23]

Luck. Disaster. Not listening to Cubsfan. It's all crap.

:lol :lol

You make your own luck.

WTF is up with this "I can't find happiness" now bullshit? Don't make me bitchslap you.

 

[LakeEarth]

:lol :lol

You make your own luck.

WTF is up with this "I can't find happiness" now bullshit? Don't make me bitchslap you.

Have sex once in 3 years (including bj's and hj's) and don't tell me you don't feel depressed.

And yes, I know I make my own luck. But when things start going right, things out of my control always stop it dead in its tracks like this. Last time I had a decent relationship, I met the girl two weeks before I was planned to go on a two month vacation. Lets just say she didn't wait.

 

[supermonkey]

Did she actually say she was ending the friends with benefits? Just because a guy asked her out, or she started going out with another guy doesn't mean she is going to end it. Just means she needs to be more careful about it.

 

[supermonkey]

Have sex once in 3 years (including bj's and hj's) and don't tell me you don't feel depressed.

And yes, I know I make my own luck. But when things start going right, things out of my control always stop it dead in its tracks like this. Last time I had a decent relationship, I met the girl two weeks before I was planned to go on a two month vacation. Lets just say she didn't wait.

Quit being a pus and start making things happen. The worst thing that can happen is a girl can say no... which is basically what is happening when you do nothing.

 

[LakeEarth]

Did she actually say she was ending the friends with benefits? Just because a guy asked her out, or she started going out with another guy doesn't mean she is going to end it. Just means she needs to be more careful about it.

Oh I think I could get some more action before the relationship starts. I'm the nice guy too much, so this time I'll see what I can get. Luckily I left a good impression with her (seemed to like my style of action) so I think I could get away with it. I'll see what I can do.

Quit being a pus and start making things happen. The worst thing that can happen is a girl can say no... which is basically what is happening when you do nothing.

Don't think I haven't been trying. I've been rejected a dozen times in 2004. The one girl that said yes broke it off on the second date. Women like confidence, how do you have it after all that?

 

[Cubsfan23]

I keep hearing a recurring theme in your posts......


" There was a girl "

" There was one girl who i knew for 2 months......."

DATE MULTIPLE WOMEN

Believe me, it's not against the law.

And yeah, this girl will probably still do stuff with you, but you're apparently her 2nd round draft pick right now. Quit being needy and do things with other girls.

 

[supermonkey]

Unless she says she wants to end it... she doesn't want to end it.

 

[LakeEarth]

You all have points. I'll stop posting in here cause I don't like bitching about this, I just get flustered when people start trying to help. I'll just say thanks for listening, and I'll probably give in and post again in 5 minutes :lol

 

[nitewulf]

eh, damn man. that sucks. well at least you got to hit it, so that should keep you going for the next three years.
cheers!

 

[LakeEarth]

eh, damn man. that sucks. well at least you got to hit it, so that should keep you going for the next three years.
cheers!

Actually... no hitting it. She was on the rag so that area was off-limits. First handjob in a year though (thumbs up). :lol

 

[nitewulf]

eh, then you just suck.
well at least you are trying. asking 12 women out is no small feat. and of course there is still a good possibility of hitting it. last but not least, that date may or may not lead to a relationship.

 

[nomoment]

On a positive note, LakeEarth, at least you didn't get syphilis!

 

[LakeEarth]

On a positive note, LakeEarth, at least you didn't get syphilis!

No, but I almost died driving to her house because of the snow :lol

 

[snaildog]

Damn, if she's giving you a handjob then you must be doing something right. They're not a hell of a lot of fun to give; I even get bored giving myself one.

 

[supermonkey]

You didn't hit it....................





Homo

 

[LakeEarth]

Damn, if she's giving you a handjob then you must be doing something right. They're not a hell of a lot of fun to give; I even get bored giving myself one.

Oh I know what I'm doing in the 'action' department (so did she, best hj ever, most girls tend to hurt me when they do that, pull too hard, go too fast, etc). I'm still not 100% comfortable with my kissing technique, but everything beyond that is fine. When I get to a certain point with a woman, like a certain comfort point where I'm not afraid to say what I want to say or do what I want, things keep going well. I'm just a nervous guy in general, and I know I should try to be comfortable like that all the time, but it's just not as easy as it sound.

Simply, I know how to keep them, just not how to get them.

You didn't hit it....................



Homo

Do you blood all over your dick? Does that turn you on?

 

[mattiewheels]

Reading his story only reminded me that I'm pretty much exactly in the same spot as him sexuality-wise...sometimes I forget how appalled and depressed I should be about that.

My problem is, I don't try. Maybe I don't care as much as other guys about getting it all the time, but I do want it. I'm just shy and I never really try anyway. Well, time to go cry myself to sleep.

 

[Cubsfan23]

Do you blood all over your dick? Does that turn you on?

Ever heard of the shower?

If the girl doesn't flow that bad, I don't mind it.

 

[supermonkey]

Oh I know what I'm doing in the 'action' department (so did she, best hj ever, most girls tend to hurt me when they do that, pull too hard, go too fast, etc). I'm still not 100% comfortable with my kissing technique, but everything beyond that is fine. When I get to a certain point with a woman, like a certain comfort point where I'm not afraid to say what I want to say or do what I want, things keep going well. I'm just a nervous guy in general, and I know I should try to be comfortable like that all the time, but it's just not as easy as it sound.

Simply, I know how to keep them, just not how to get them.


Do you blood all over your dick? Does that turn you on?

What does her giving you a hand job have to do with your technique?
And yeah, the shower. It's not like you're gonna suck yourself off afterwards.

 

[LakeEarth]

#1 - we were in a car, and we both still live at home, so that was out. Besides she wanted me no where near down there, not even rubbing her from the outside of her pants.

#2 - How does my technique have anything to do with getting a handjob? If you read the message I was responding to, it said "I must be doing something right", and so that's what I said I was doing right. Most guys get action by how they talk and charm, I'm not good at that, I had to get her in the mood first.

 

[supermonkey]

#1 I've done it in a car once or twice, but I understand.

#2 I guess....

Anyways... you might still get the chance if she didn't say it's over, so good luck.