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[MilkyJoe]

You could always find someone at the women-only speedrun meet-up.

You can't tell which are men!!! Especially those three on the left, four on the right and those seven in the middle!

 

[Dacvak]

this reminds me, an old ex of mine still has my 3DS

Holy shit, same!

 

[Queso de Grande]

I found it is nice to have separate hobbies. My wife will support me playing games, but outside of mobile games she isn’t interested in playing. She likes other things and it gives us stuff to talk about and encourage each other with.

 

[BlackTron]

this reminds me, an old ex of mine still has my 3DS

She used u bro

 

[f~N_CH_1:3:3:3_SushiBoat]

My wife is legit hardcore gamer and general 80s themed nerd. We met at work; she was actually worried about finding a guy that would put up with her nerdiness, lol. Our tastes are different, but we share a valheim seed and rotate playing single player games we both enjoy. And if a steam sale hits we both get to spend equal or lesser value.

We are both aligned politically, faith and fiscally, which probably has more union value than our shared hobbies.

 

[Banjo64]

My advice would be find someone you are compatible with - you don’t need to share hobbies. You just need someone who understands that you have your hobbies, and they can have theirs. If you think ‘I want a gamer girl’ then it’s never going to happen.

 

[RaptorGTA]

Long time ago..i wanted a gf that was a gamer like myself.


And then I played with a couple in Bad Company 2. Sure, me and my friends when we played together..we got mad at each other for missing this..or not doing that..but you log off and cool down. Hang out tomorrow and all is good. But those two would go at each other...get angry and log off...the next day, one of them would bring up something from the previous evening event..and it would start again.

Made me rethink having a gamer gf as I knew it would cause issues. I wasn't mature enough to have that.

 

[Kenneth Haight]

FULL of good looking woman with bachelor's PHD's exotic hobbies and shit

Are they a legend that has some mega banter in the Friday night thread, the COOLEST thread on GAF though? They may have their “education” and all that shit, but are they making a difference in the world and keeping it real?

 

[jason10mm]

I've only met a few gamer girls that I found attractive. Gaming is a sedentary hobby and the participants look like it

But they keep selling us that 'women' are a massive audience...yet word on the street is that is a load of horseshit. Sudoku on the phone does NOT count.

 

[daffyduck]

You can't tell which are men!!! Especially those three on the left, four on the right and those seven in the middle!

To be fair, the red shirts in front are kind of cute, but they probably think guys who identify as guys are nazis.

 

[mitch1971]

Are you telling me this is not a beautiful lady?

Years ago I'd just be laughing at that hat in the picture.

 

[Pagusas]

I got my wife into gaming after we met. Started with simple things like Wii sports occasionally for fun stay at home date nights, than progressed to Pokémon and Mario kart, than Borderlands 2, Diablo 3, and now she's a bigger gamer than I am, with her own custom PC setup. I wouldn't go looking for a gamer girl, I'd just say go find someone who enjoys spending time with you, from there your hobbies will naturally bleed into one another.

 

[EverydayBeast]

Gaming as identity I think is embarrassing, I think everyone loves gaming to a degree.

 

[NecrosaroIII]

Here are things I think you should look for instead, OP

- Shared moral values
- Mutual respect for each others bad habits
- The ability to support each other emotionally
- The ability to raise each other up and achieve your goals
- The willingness to share interest in their SO's hobbies. Too many people are focused on trying to find someone that has their own interests that they forget to look for someone that they can learn for and share in their joys.
- Physical attraction. It's not the most important factor, but it IS important
- A sense shared sense of humor.
- The ability to set boundaries. You don't want to be too dependent / independent on each other, or else you're going to get tired of one another.

 

[Miyazaki’s Slave]

Actually happend...at the dinner table...after which I paid and politely excused myself.

Spoiler: HA! I don't play games.

Me: "I don't have many hobbies really. I love my job and that takes up tons of my time and its always been my "hobby" so I don't miss the fact I don't get as much time with games as I did when I was younger.

Her: "No I don't play games, they don't seem like a productive experience and you hear so many bad things about the guys who play...who has time for that nonsense?"

DING: Apple notification pop up

Her: "Ha...well I play candy crush. One sec my energy is full!"

Me: "Sweet! What level are you on?"

Her: "Huh? Oh somewhere in THE FUCKING 14,000" (I added the fucking part)
Me: "Oh so you do play games! We are already off to a great start"

Her: "Candy Crush isn't a game...its a thing my friends all do. It doesn't take up any time really"

 

[MagusMajul]

I've had prostitutes watch me play video games in the hotel room most get bored and want to leave.

 

[Shaki12345]

You could always find someone at the women-only speedrun meet-up.

I see at least 5 "would's".

 

[Angry_Megalodon]

She likes music, games and dogs.

Spoiler

 

[mopspear]

But try to find someone who’s also interested in the Roman Empire. That’s! a challenge

I've known a few women who are really into video games but I've never even heard of a woman (who isn't an archeologist on TV) that is into the Roman Empire. Women must be Roman Republic fans .

For OP, the important goal is not to find a woman who likes video games, but to make sure they don't hate video games. You will have plenty of other things to do together or talk about. Probably a lot of things you don't know you like yet, or things you like that you never think about. My wife doesn't really play video games so often but she has a passing interest. That's good enough. She might look at what I'm doing or comment on it or whatever and she at least understands and lets me have my time with my games. I have heard stories from my friends about wives who hate video games and their husbands have to play them on vacation with the boys or in secret. You can't play all the way through Final Fantasy XVI in the bathroom (is this why the Steam Deck was invented?). Plus, what if she likes games but they're not the same genre as you? There are so many games today it's hard for my interests to even overlap with my guy friends half the time!

 

[daffyduck]

..

 

[Rentahamster]

(I added the fucking part)

I bet you did, you sly dog you

 

[Miyazaki’s Slave]

I bet you did, you sly dog you

HA!
Those eyes probably would have worked...next time I am just going to have Gaf open on my phone and the first one to recognize it will be the winner!!!

 

[daffyduck]

She likes music, games and dogs.

Spoiler

Could be the new Vampire Slayer.

 

[GateofD]

like almost all the females at my work play fortnite for some reason. but i wouldn't call them gamers.

 

[Venom Snake]

Honestly, I genuinely wish I could meet a woman who also appreciates gaming. I feel like there’s still kind of a nasty stigma attached to the hobby, like you’re supposed to “compensate” but having other interests that are “cool” to make up for it.

Obviously there’s more to life than just games, but it’s something that means a lot to me at least, and I wonder sometimes if I could ever meet someone who also shares an interest in gaming at *some* level.

How would you even meet a potential partner? About the only game I even *occasionally* hear a woman talk is Call of Duty, and that’s not exactly the most conducive environment to developer a rapport (and jesus is that community toxic to those poor girls; no wonder we all get a horrible reputation).

Yes, i met mine in Monster Hunter World (as weird as it sounds ), joined her mushroom-picking quest thinking she was just a beginner so i wanted to help. As it turned out, she was already lvl999. She is Japanese, a treasure for life.

In fact, i know many women who actively play, but not all of them admit to it right away.

Most of them prefer single-player and mobile games, but a few are very active in online RPGs and these are the ones i would feel at home with, given the hobby.
At least from my point of view, they seem the most committed.

 

[DeafTourette]

I know several beautiful women who game. They aren't basement dwelling nerds who play FPSs all day everyday and stupid high scores... But they have their own consoles and play things like Tekken, Zelda, Mario, Forza or Gran Turismo and GTA ... AND THEY ARE SINGLE! They don't play for a man's attention, they play for themselves. There's one I'd like to date but she doesn't really see me that way. But I'll tell you this... Her and another friend are passing along their love of gaming to their daughters.

 

[jcorb]

I guess part of it is that I’m 37, I’m not just “dating for the hell of it”, I really want to be thinking long term, you know? And I worry that gaming being “acceptable” could eventually turn into bitterness and resentment towards it.

I mean obviously, you still want a partner you can connect on other levels too. Shared views on morals, how we would want to raise kids, and actually being responsible adults.

But yeah, I guess I didn’t worry so much about finding “the right partner” when I was younger, because it felt like I had all the time in the world. I’m a little older now, and it feels like I need to be much more intentional about finding someone, and I don’t want to go in with unrealistic hopes for a partner.

It’s sort of like a job, I guess. I had a pretty good job, that a lot of people probably thought was prestigious and paid really well, but I was fucking miserable the whole time. I don’t want to find myself in a relationship that feels “good enough”, you know? I want to meet someone I feel like I can truly be myself with, flaws and all. Kind of scares me sometimes that that woman doesn’t really exist.

 

[TronNerd82]

GIRLFRIEND REQUIRED

REQUISITES:
- being female (optional)

 

[poppabk]

Nope but I got my wife obsessed with Brotato.

 

[NecrosaroIII]

It’s sort of like a job, I guess. I had a pretty good job, that a lot of people probably thought was prestigious and paid really well, but I was fucking miserable the whole time. I don’t want to find myself in a relationship that feels “good enough”, you know? I want to meet someone I feel like I can truly be myself with, flaws and all. Kind of scares me sometimes that that woman doesn’t really exist.

Its something you always have to work on in a relationship. You dont get to that level of trust overnight. It takes months, even years to make happen, and then youre gonna spend the rest of your relationship working together to maintain. And trust me, if you are insecure now, it will get worse in a relationship. New insecurities will pop up, and you will find new ways to self sabotage. Your goal is to work against yourself if youre like that. Your own mind will be an enemy.

 

[GigaBowser]

lucky married highschool sweetheart who is beutirful annd games with me buuuuut now i am 300 pounds nother womans would never talk to me now ahah

 

[ÆMNE22A!C]

Are they a legend that has some mega banter in the Friday night thread, the COOLEST thread on GAF though? They may have their “education” and all that shit, but are they making a difference in the world and keeping it real?

 

[bad guy]

As long as she likes playing with my Joystick.

Are we talking about the little nipple joystick on the Switch, or a THRUSTMASTER?

 

[Hudo]

Are we talking about the little nipple joystick on the Switch, or a THRUSTMASTER?

 

[Lunarorbit]

My ex coworkers got married 10 years ago cause they use to play some obscure French rpg called Dofus.

One of my current coworkers also met his gf gaming.

Totally possible.

 

[Draugoth]

They exist, not so sure you would want to date one

 

[AJUMP23]

Have you thought about an AI?

 

[poodaddy]

Both my ex wife and current wife are gamers. They're easy to find OP, look for the chicks that seem kinda shy but have like a Kirby sticker on the back of their Kia. Bonus points if they're hot and wear plaid skirts with fishnets or see through tights.

 

[jason10mm]

I see at least 5 "would's".

Oh man, I can get 2 easily, maybe 3 if I"m drunk....but FIVE!?! We should play a guessing game of who is picking who. The bonus round is selecting who is gonna have a "The Crying Game" moment when they get home

 

[Shaki12345]

Oh man, I can get 2 easily, maybe 3 if I"m drunk....but FIVE!?! We should play a guessing game of who is picking who. The bonus round is selecting who is gonna have a "The Crying Game" moment when they get home

These 5 are all in sober mode btw..

 

[Lucifers Beard]

They're out there for sure. My wife and I have played a bunch of games together. Recently finished Baldur's Gate 3 and have been playing through POE2 and D4. It's also important that you share other interests too though I think, you can't really base a relationship around video games. I'd also probably get a bit bored if that's all she wanted to do.

 

[Boozeroony]

I see at least 5 "would's".

Would ask for pronouns?

 

[Shaki12345]

Would ask for pronouns?

I don't do pronouns.

 

[Kilau]

I thought I did but her interest in games evaporated once I put a ring on it. Maybe I was the game getting played.

 

[DeafTourette]

I don't do pronouns.

So you never say:

He
She
Her
His
We
Our
They
I
Theirs
Ours
Him
Us
Your
Them
Who
What
Whom

In any sentence or paragraph, ever?

 

[Shaki12345]

So you never say:

He
She
Her
His
We
Our
They
I
Theirs
Ours
Him
Us
Your
Them
Who
What
Whom

In any sentence or paragraph, ever?

I do but when it's about sex I just let the sex do the talking.

 

[MilkyJoe]

So you never say:

He
She
Her
His
We
Our
They
I
Theirs
Ours
Him
Us
Your
Them
Who
What
Whom

In any sentence or paragraph, ever?

Obviously means preferred pronouns

 

[Days like these...]

Dude just find a dude we're more into gaming than women

 

[DeafTourette]

Obviously means preferred pronouns

I was joking. He got the joke.

 

[MilkyJoe]

I was joking. He got the joke.

2025 , can never tell who is mental now