So here's the set up:
About 2 years ago, I met and eventually befriended a girl at my university. She's generally a incredibly nice and energetic person and I've enjoyed her company since I've met her (that is until the problem I've realized that I will mention later). Unfortunately, she's a a sufferer of severe anxiety/depression and has attempted to commit suicide twice in the past way before I've met her.
She seems to coping with it quite well though, but you can totally tell she's struggling with it if you were in my shoes. Not a month goes by where at least one night, she'll come to me on Facebook having a breakdown and where I would spend at least 90 minutes trying motivate her and pull herself together. This isn't the problem though - I do legitimately care for and want to ensure her well-being, and am glad to help her out getting through her emotional states.
The real problem is that I've lately come to the realization she's one of the most self-centred and narcissistic people I've met. And I desperately want to call her out on it.
Here's a sample of the many things she does regularly that is already beginning to test me:
1.) Whenever I'm engaged with a very good conversation with another friend - even if a particularly important one - she will almost always abruptly butt in with an absolutely unrelated topic that usually involves herself and her interests. You could be conversing about your wedding plans to your best man, or that your suffering from severe STREP throat - she likely WILL interrupt with her interest in kittens as long as she is there. Repeat for the rest of the day.
2.) Same thing for when it comes to text or Facebook PM - my phone will frequently buzz throughout the day due to the most trivial things that happen to her such as how she doesn't like the color of this shoe she came across or whatever the hell she's eating right now even if it's just a grocery sandwhich.
3.) I frequently host movie nights for my circle of friends - movie nights that half the time she herself proposes. What does she do 90% of the time she's there? Pay no attention to the film and continously keep texting god knows who on her phone. When she does, it's usually to turn the screening into her own personal Blu-ray non-stop commentary.
4.) For a person who knows the worst thing that happen without emotional support, she seems rather uninterested in giving it. There are one or two times where me or another friend would look to her for venting or some support and it usually almost immediately ends with her just saying "Welp" or sudden derailment back to Exhibit 1 & 2.
So yeah, I'm actually very fed up with her behavior and desperately want to call her out on it already. What sucks is that again, I don't wanna end up hurting her feelings that much as they are clearly fragile due to her condition, so she could end up reacting/doing something more drastic than it should be. I think even worse is that I can see how the reasoning behind her actions can stem from the sever anxiety she has,which makes me feel like a more of a dick when I think about it. Still, I want to make her understand she has to be at least be a bit more considerate to other people.
So there, that's my vent post.
tl;dr - I'm very frustrated at this person, but she's got depression, so I feel like a dick for feeling so. Still want to solve the issue.
About 2 years ago, I met and eventually befriended a girl at my university. She's generally a incredibly nice and energetic person and I've enjoyed her company since I've met her (that is until the problem I've realized that I will mention later). Unfortunately, she's a a sufferer of severe anxiety/depression and has attempted to commit suicide twice in the past way before I've met her.
She seems to coping with it quite well though, but you can totally tell she's struggling with it if you were in my shoes. Not a month goes by where at least one night, she'll come to me on Facebook having a breakdown and where I would spend at least 90 minutes trying motivate her and pull herself together. This isn't the problem though - I do legitimately care for and want to ensure her well-being, and am glad to help her out getting through her emotional states.
The real problem is that I've lately come to the realization she's one of the most self-centred and narcissistic people I've met. And I desperately want to call her out on it.
Here's a sample of the many things she does regularly that is already beginning to test me:
1.) Whenever I'm engaged with a very good conversation with another friend - even if a particularly important one - she will almost always abruptly butt in with an absolutely unrelated topic that usually involves herself and her interests. You could be conversing about your wedding plans to your best man, or that your suffering from severe STREP throat - she likely WILL interrupt with her interest in kittens as long as she is there. Repeat for the rest of the day.
2.) Same thing for when it comes to text or Facebook PM - my phone will frequently buzz throughout the day due to the most trivial things that happen to her such as how she doesn't like the color of this shoe she came across or whatever the hell she's eating right now even if it's just a grocery sandwhich.
3.) I frequently host movie nights for my circle of friends - movie nights that half the time she herself proposes. What does she do 90% of the time she's there? Pay no attention to the film and continously keep texting god knows who on her phone. When she does, it's usually to turn the screening into her own personal Blu-ray non-stop commentary.
4.) For a person who knows the worst thing that happen without emotional support, she seems rather uninterested in giving it. There are one or two times where me or another friend would look to her for venting or some support and it usually almost immediately ends with her just saying "Welp" or sudden derailment back to Exhibit 1 & 2.
So yeah, I'm actually very fed up with her behavior and desperately want to call her out on it already. What sucks is that again, I don't wanna end up hurting her feelings that much as they are clearly fragile due to her condition, so she could end up reacting/doing something more drastic than it should be. I think even worse is that I can see how the reasoning behind her actions can stem from the sever anxiety she has,which makes me feel like a more of a dick when I think about it. Still, I want to make her understand she has to be at least be a bit more considerate to other people.
So there, that's my vent post.
tl;dr - I'm very frustrated at this person, but she's got depression, so I feel like a dick for feeling so. Still want to solve the issue.