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[Funky Papa]

I never understood that concept, personally. I can kinda get the race thing, but why is the woman being taller a turn-off? I would have no problem dating a taller woman.

Some men show preference towards smaller women, but in most cases is not exclusive and many of us don't care about that *at all*.

Petites are cute and fun. Taller girls have more of everything (leeeeegs). I'm happy with either option. People restricting themselves to one body type are missing out big time.

 

[Metallix87]

Some men show preference towards smaller women, but in most cases is not exclusive and many of us don't care about that *at all*.

How about the reverse? I've experienced that on OKCupid. I'm 5'8, which I don't think is short by any stretch of the imagination, and once I tried messaging a girl who claimed in her profile to be 5'3, and she responded that she only dates guys who are at least 6'0. WTF?

 

[AlphaTwo00]

How about the reverse? I've experienced that on OKCupid. I'm 5'8, which I don't think is short by any stretch of the imagination, and once I tried messaging a girl who claimed in her profile to be 5'3, and she responded that she only dates guys who are at least 6'0. WTF?

At least she replied.

Replies gets you all sorts of things that they were filtering out for. That was an simple one.

 

[Funky Papa]

How about the reverse? I've experienced that on OKCupid. I'm 5'8, which I don't think is short by any stretch of the imagination, and once I tried messaging a girl who claimed in her profile to be 5'3, and she responded that she only dates guys who are at least 6'0. WTF?

Yeah, we've already talked about that. Whereas men don't care that much about height, some girls can be picky (if not mean) to ridiculous extremes.

At least she replied.

Replies gets you all sorts of things that they were filtering out for. That was an simple one.

Yep.

 

[Metallix87]

At least she replied.

That's true, and I can respect that, but why the arbitrary six foot limit?

 

[Funky Papa]

That's true, and I can respect that, but why the arbitrary six foot limit?

Because it's a buyers' market and they get to pick the man/D of their dreams, unlike most guys.

As sad as it is, I'm sure most guys would also prefer a 20-something with cracking titties instead of an average girl. The thing is, they get to make that choice due to sheer numbers and we don't.

 

[.GqueB.]

As a white male who has dated a black female, I can say it was an enjoyable experience that I would gladly repeat if I were single again.

Meeting her parents, however, was a godawful nightmare that I never want to repeat. Never met a father so hostile towards me in my life.

I kind of want to hear this story.

 

[Josh with a J]

Finally a bonus to being white, about time.

 

[GabDX]

We have self respect, and can choose that. This is very ignorant.

It is. Sorry

 

[DOWN]

Finally a bonus to being white, about time.

"Finally"

Spoiler

joking or no?

 

[Dash27]

My son is only 6, but one of his friends happens to be a black girl (we're white) he's known since daycare. She comes over sometimes for a play date or we drop her to school. I mentioned to my wife that I hope he ends up dating girls like Kendal, she's very sweet and smart. But we both agreed he will probably end up bring home some jackass.

Also noted that when i was telling him i was going to visit my friend in Atlanta he asked me about him. How old is he, is he tall, does he have brown skin. It's just great seeing how all the kids his age that he knows doesnt give a shit about color other than a description like tall, thin, eye color, hair color...

Also need to add the obligatory NSFW Patrice, Louis CK on Opie and Anthony talking about porn racism:

NSFW Language:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SpwMxD6hh38

Human's as a species tend to generalize. I find a smaller percentage of black girls attractive it seems. But there are definitely black women I would and have dated.

 

[xiceman191]

I'm not surprised to see black women rated that low especially how the Internet in general love to shit on black women.

 

[War Peaceman]

"Finally"

Spoiler

joking or no?

It's obviously a joke!

I personally think it is incredibly sad that these statistics are as extreme as this. As a white male I am a beneficiary of this, but I find it very depressing because one of the best things about multicuturalism and dating outside of your own race is the opportunity to learn new things, experience different types of people and generally move outside of your comfort zones. Plus there are some goddamn sexy people out there in every race. Living in a University city and working at a University has really been a joy for me, as I can remember in my childhood almost never seeing anybody who was not white. It's hard to associate different races with being attractive when you never encounter anyone from within these groups.

I think that in a real life dating situation, where you can't as reliably pre-screen or filter through potential partners would lead to nicer data - I'm, perhaps naively, inclined to believe that people's subconscious prejudices would be overcome if two people were compatible.

 

[Josh with a J]

"Finally"

Spoiler

joking or no?

100% joke my man.

 

[Strictly]

London.

Take a walk in Westfield and I see more black/white couples than black/black.

 

[viciouskillersquirrel]

This is very interesting. Have a link of the survey by any chance?

There was a GAF thread about it years ago. I tried searching, but came up empty handed. Sorry.

 

[block tower]

How about the reverse? I've experienced that on OKCupid. I'm 5'8, which I don't think is short by any stretch of the imagination, and once I tried messaging a girl who claimed in her profile to be 5'3, and she responded that she only dates guys who are at least 6'0. WTF?

thats weird to me. im 6'2, if i date girls under 5'5 i feel like im with a child lol. i couldn't date a girl almost a foot in difference.

 

[freddy]

Sorry to hear about the last part. I had a boyfriend that also was similarly terrified by my parents like that. He was Vietnamese-American, so he was not approved, despite the fact we're all Asians. 12 years later, he says he still has nightmares about my dad's car, and whenever he sees a car of my dad's make and model, he still panics a little. I feel for you.

If you had a boyfriend 12 years ago aren't you a little old for your parents to be telling you who to date?

 

[Kikirin]

#1 - My parents would be really, really, really upset. I could probably never date someone who didn't understand why I would choose to not pursue certain things because of my parent's approval (or filial piety). It's just too different. To me, parental approval is important, almost crucial.

Other yellow people from this area, or at least with recently immigrated parents, understand why I wouldn't go out of my way to do certain things. Just because I COULD do something and would have no problem doing it otherwise, doesn't mean I will DEFINITELY do it, and if my parents that strongly disapprove of it, it will discourage the activity.

Solid post. The filial piety stuff can be a big factor for Asians, female and male alike.

If you had a boyfriend 12 years ago aren't you a little old for your parents to be telling you who to date?

See quoted section above.

 

[War Peaceman]

I would question whether someone can be described as an adult if they take that level of restriction from your parents. If you are still under their guardianship, then I suppose that is reasonable, but otherwise it is pathetic. If your parents are upset because you date someone of a different race then they deserve to be unhappy because that is horrible. No tolerance for this bullshit.

I'm not about to tell you what you should or shouldn't find attractive but if you exclude an entire race based on what your parents think then you are a fool.

 

[AlphaTwo00]

Other yellow people from this area, or at least with recently immigrated parents, understand why I wouldn't go out of my way to do certain things. Just because I COULD do something and would have no problem doing it otherwise, doesn't mean I will DEFINITELY do it, and if my parents that strongly disapprove of it, it will discourage the activity.

This. So much this.

Never mind the racial issue. Even within Chinese, you're literally tossing more fuel to the fire when you get different regional backgrounds like mainland, taiwan, hong kong and other regions. Sure, parents will say they're ok with it, but god damn I've seen cases where the knives come out, and it ain't pretty.

It's not about parent's disapproval, it's about mitigating shit that you don't want to deal with. The last thing you really need to worry about is how the parents may be out to sabatoge things and the kind of pressures they'll put on you.

 

[DonasaurusRex]

you chose the worst example, she's half white.

these are better examples


edit: well shit, viva a fox is part native american....

double edit: welp, doubly shit. Naomi has chinese jamaican ancestry lol

even better

 

[CrashSimonFaye]

#2 - I have literally never met, in real life, a single black person that is the type of guy I go after. I don't think being black has anything to do with this, rather, my area is primarily yellow and white.

I have been thinking about this topic, but it occurred to me that I wouldn't not be interested in someone simply because he wasn't yellow. Any funny, interesting, or sweet, articulate STEM-y major/someone into tech, even if not STEM-y in college, that loved video games and sushi/ramen/coffee would catch my eye.

I guess what really happens with me is that I am particularly attracted to Asian-Americans, but anyone with those aforementioned qualifications are what I go after... and there's no shortage of those, so I've never had a scarcity of my preferred males and never had to think about dating "outside" my preferences.

I'm in OC too! I live in a city that is like 55% white and 43% yellow. I've seen maybe two black families in my life, and maybe three or four brown ones (in my city). Though, I think the city next to me is more like 30% or 40% brown. Odd.

Well...ahem.

How do you do?