Moridianae
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I'll try to make this as concise as possible. I was in a position at a job for over 5 years, growing with the company. It came at a cost, however.
The boss man was manipulative and being retail, I oft missed out on my family. A friend of mine came calling with a new job offer, which would enable me more time with my family, but at a *very* slight decrease in pay. I took it and there was a lot of resentment.
I felt when my boss found I was leaving, as he felt he'd invested a lot of time in me to just leave.
Several months later, he'd kept in touch with me over time. He approached about returning. As Covid had hit, my new job was in uncertain waters. Fears of layoffs, hour cuts, etc.
As my friend was the owners son, I knew my job was probably protected. I lowballed a figure to return(which was less than I made before I left and less than I make now).
He responded he'd have to fight through hoops to make even that happen and made other remarks about me being "100% committed", which I took as he'd hold my return over my head as a favor when he'd make demands.
If you wanted me back and didn't harbor resentment, you would've offered what I originally made or more and been more understanding.
I realized these things and subsequently blocked him and moved on. My new job has proven to be loyal and protective amidst this pandemic since that time.
A few months later, I received a text from an old, close friend at my old job. It seemed to be a check-in, so we chatted a bit. Then he started asking me to apply for my old position(which was open). I asked open questions without answering him, then he started odd questions, even calling me without saying anything, then asking if I blocked the boss, etc.
I now feel he was put up to this and I'm so upset that this guy would use a friend of mine to do this. I loved all my coworkers, but this feels low.
I don't want to block my friend, but how dare he put someone up to this. This isn't the way you get someone to return. I blocked your cell, not the business.
What should I say to my friend? Nothing? Just continue moving on?
The boss man was manipulative and being retail, I oft missed out on my family. A friend of mine came calling with a new job offer, which would enable me more time with my family, but at a *very* slight decrease in pay. I took it and there was a lot of resentment.
I felt when my boss found I was leaving, as he felt he'd invested a lot of time in me to just leave.
Several months later, he'd kept in touch with me over time. He approached about returning. As Covid had hit, my new job was in uncertain waters. Fears of layoffs, hour cuts, etc.
As my friend was the owners son, I knew my job was probably protected. I lowballed a figure to return(which was less than I made before I left and less than I make now).
He responded he'd have to fight through hoops to make even that happen and made other remarks about me being "100% committed", which I took as he'd hold my return over my head as a favor when he'd make demands.
If you wanted me back and didn't harbor resentment, you would've offered what I originally made or more and been more understanding.
I realized these things and subsequently blocked him and moved on. My new job has proven to be loyal and protective amidst this pandemic since that time.
A few months later, I received a text from an old, close friend at my old job. It seemed to be a check-in, so we chatted a bit. Then he started asking me to apply for my old position(which was open). I asked open questions without answering him, then he started odd questions, even calling me without saying anything, then asking if I blocked the boss, etc.
I now feel he was put up to this and I'm so upset that this guy would use a friend of mine to do this. I loved all my coworkers, but this feels low.
I don't want to block my friend, but how dare he put someone up to this. This isn't the way you get someone to return. I blocked your cell, not the business.
What should I say to my friend? Nothing? Just continue moving on?
