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[Days like these...]

So long story short, my 5 year old daughter was affected pretty severely by my borderline Narc ex and on the way to school this morning she told me "I can't wait till you die so I don't have to go to school" so I just looked in the rearview mirror and said "for now keep waiting" and smiled.

 

[Auto_aim1]

She's 5. You can reprogram her. Just keep her away from toxic people.

 

[West Texas CEO]

Therapy.

 

[Facism]

Personally, I would have just died right there at the wheel.

Seriously though, im assuming she's got a life of love ahead of her with you and should be ok

 

[Mistake]

Children have no concept of time, so I wouldn't dwell on it too much. It was pretty clear to me every time my students returned after being away for the weekend. I called them Moody Mondays.

If your ex is being negative around the kid, you need to be more positive and loving. Things will balance out as they should

 

[Skyfox]

If the kid is just acting out then give little to no feedback.

We always did this whenever our kid did something outrageous by chance. Ignore.

If you react they'll do it more.

 

[violence]

My parents would’ve gone Bruce Lee on my ass

 

[Trunx81]

When I read the thread title, I thought you had teenage kids ..
She´s 5 and doesn´t understand what she said. Talk to her about it. What would happen if you weren't around. Consequences of this. Tell her you understand that she doesn´t like school. One of the best parenting advices I´ve ever got was to declare to your kid that you understand what they are going through. Not only "it´s not allowed" or "because I say so", but rather "I understand that this upsets you and I can see why. Let me explain to you why I´m doing this." Same goes for the typical "Don´t you want to clean up your room?"-question. It implies that you are giving your kid a choice, but in the end its a demand. Kids learn this way that their voices don´t matter. "Please clean up your room. Shall we do it together?" works so much better.

 

[kanjobazooie]

My mother used to pray for me to die almost ever week, and I handled it well.

(she had undiagnosed schizophrenia at the time btw)

 

[TheInfamousKira]

My oldest told me to die once.

I went ahead and did.

Showed him.

(Posting from YouTube, 3 AM, GONE WRONG)

 

[Winter John]

What? Yeah, she tells me to go jump off a roof every other week. You know why? Because I raised her right.

 

[AJUMP23]

I would tell them to fix that type of thought or I will fix it for them.

 

[Dacvak]

So long story short, my 5 year old daughter was affected pretty severely by my borderline Narc ex and on the way to school this morning she told me "I can't wait till you die so I don't have to go to school" so I just looked in the rearview mirror and said "for now keep waiting" and smiled.

Wow you're just gonna sit there and take that? Come on man, she's 5 years old. You can definitely take her in a fight.

 

[Northeastmonk]

I’ve learned that kids will provoke you no matter what you do or say. You can’t be on the same level as a child. You’re the adult. You aren’t their friend. You are setting an example with every word you use and everything you do.

My kid asks me for stuff all the time and I’m the biggest jerk if I don’t do what she says. I’m the worst parent because I don’t let her play M rated games or drink all the soda she asks for. I remind her that my insurance paid to get her teeth fixed.

 

[Fbh]

 

[bitbydeath]

I wouldn't let it phase you, she's five.

 

[MaestroMike]

Fill her up with cake, ice cream and caffeine in the mourning to pep her up lol

 

[Kilau]

Young kids are like drunks, they have high emotions and don’t really know what the are saying a lot of the time. It can hurt because you love them so much but you have to move past it. Unless… it’s behavior being taught, have to correct that.