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[Phoenix]

My friends I have terrible news and this may be my last post and maybe the last time you hear from me, but because you are all my friends I wanted you to know.

Yesterday morning I received a call from the hospital. It was my wife telling me that when the nurse came in to take my babies heartbeat, they were unable to find it.

My baby is gone and so far no one can tell me why or what happened. When she died, so too did I die. I am now nothing more than a shell waiting to die myself.

We don't know what we are going to do yet, where she will be buried. But please keep us in your thoughts and prayers.

Her name was to be Kayla Elizabeth Pierce

maybe one day I will return... but I don't see that happening... but anything is possible.

Pray for us and my baby....and God have mercy on those responsible

 

[demi]

Holy shit. I can't think of anything to say, this is the most depressing news to wake up to.

How old was she? If you read this, anyway.

edit after reading Socreges post: She wasn't even born yet? That makes this news even more horrible!

 

[Socreges]

That's so awful. You have my deepest sympathies. And all the best.


If you're answering any questions, when was she due?

 

[Funky Papa]

I don't usually enter into these threads, but I must give you my most sincere condolences. I hope you and your wife recover soon from this disgrace.

 

[Spiritreaver]

That's just terrible, while I can't understand how you feel as parent, the same thin gs happened to my family. My unborn baby sister died a few weeks or so before birth, it really was a hard hit to us and given how my mom took it, your pain greater than many of us can comprehend. So I can't do anything but wish the best of you luck to you, your wife, and the rest of your family.

 

[OpinionatedCyborg]

The loss of a life, especially one so young is incredibly tragic. No one here can fathom what you're going through unless they've been affected by similar circumstances, but our condolences are as sincere as they can be regardless.

You will never forget or fully recover from this tragedy, but I will pray that you overcome it and resume your life as normally as possible. As long as you will live, there will always be a place in your heart for Kayla, but I hope you will come to terms with this mess and let others in as well.

Best wishes to you and your family in these tough times. You will be in my prayers.

 

[seanoff]

:-(

Phoenix, as a dad of a 2 year old i can only imagine your pain.

Requiem aternum Kayla.
(edited for new info)

Best wishes to your wife and yourself.

I do not know what else to say. I'm so sorry.

Good luck and don't give up. Get Kayla some brothers and sisters and remember her that way. A little bit of her will live on through them and both of you.


Sorry mate

Sean


PS while your away we'll miss your logical take on the gaming industry. See u when u get back

 

[sprsk]

:/

 

[capslock]

I too have a two year old daughter, I think that only lets me imagine a tenth of what you're going through.

I am going to be unhappy for a long while now.

 

[belgurdo]

Pray for us and my baby....and God have mercy on those responsible

I understand how you feel, but the hospital didn't harm your child, so don't do anything stupid that will get you or anyone else in trouble. My condolences otherwise

 

[sefskillz]

I'm really sorry. That's awful

 

[Zelda-Bitch]

Fuck dude, I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[Dilbert]

I have no idea what to say...because any kind of condolences don't even begin to cover what you must be feeling.

Even though I don't normally pray, I'm going to say one for you and your wife right now. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.

 

[White Man]

My condolences. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

 

[Boogie]

My condolences, as empty as they are.

 

[Drinky Crow]

I'm very, very sorry to hear this. My greatest condolences.

 

[Matlock]

:/

 

[ToxicAdam]

I have twins on the way in August. This is horrible, I can't even imagine what it would feel like.

 

[Blackie]

I am so sorry for your loss and I will pray earnestly for you and your wife.

 

[SickBoy]

Man, I'm so sorry to hear that. I can only imagine what you're going through right now.. my thoughts are with you...

 

[Prospero]

Horrible news. You have my sincerest condolences.

 

[mrklaw]

My deepest condolences to you and your wife.

I have no way of knowing just how much this must hurt, but my thoughts are with you and your wife at this time.

Please be strong for your wife. Right now she needs you more than she has ever needed you. You have to be outwardly strong for her.

 

[FnordChan]

My sincere condolances. Hang in there.

FnordChan

 

[Dujour]

I'm really sorry to hear that. My cousin recently when through this. Just make sure that you and your wife say goodbye no mater how painful it is. Few things are worse. I'll pray that someday you and your wife see new life.

 

[nitewulf]

sorry to hear this terrible news phoenix, may kayla rest in peace. hang in there.

 

[MmmBeef]

I'm so sorry. I can't comprehend the pain you must be feeling. All my condolences.

 

[Pochacco]

My condolences

Last year, on the last day of one of my Business classes, my prof told us about his life.
He went through the same thing several years ago. You could tell that he still hurt. I think you'll always. Just try to be strong. You and your wife will get through this - it'll just take a lot of time and a lot of tears.

 

[karasu]

I'm sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to the sister i was suppossed to have. I'll pray for you guys.

 

[AirBrian]

That's absolutely horrible. You and your wife have my deepest condolences.

 

[Litigation Manuel]

I am very sorry for your loss. It's unfortunate these things happen, and I hope you and your wife will get through this okay. I'll be praying for you.

 

[Chipopo]

I'm so sorry man.

 

[impirius]

I don't know of any words that could come close to making things better, but please know that you have our prayers and whatever support we can give you.

 

[AntoneM]

I think I can safely say that 100's of gaffers will be praying for you, your wife and for Kayla

 

[Monk]

These are the times when even I feel something. That says a lot from me. My greatest condolences.

 

[FoneBone]

My condolences...

 

[ShadowRed]

God man this is terrible. I’m sure nothing I have to say will lift the weight of this tragedy so I will just simply say I am sorry for your loss.

 

[BuddyC]

Wow, I certainly wasn't expecting something of this magnitude. There's not much I can say that hasn't been said already, but my sincere condolences to you, your wife and your families.

If there's anything we can do for you, just let us know

 

[Phoenix]

Thank you all for your outpouring of support. Since many has asked, I will give some more details.

On Sunday night my wife's water broke, she was in the 33rd week of the pregnancy so it is safe to say that she was a few weeks early. Nevertheless at this point it was well beyond safe for the baby to be delivered. The doctors decided that it would be best if Kayla wasn't delivered until week 34, which would have been this upcoming Wednesday. As a result, starting on Sunday they started monitoring her around the clock. On Wednesday of last week, one of the doctor's wanted to do a amnio test to see if they could tell how far along the lungs were and see how much activity there was. At this time they found that there was insufficient fluid to perform this test. At this point I wondered why they didn't deliver the child if the amount of fluid was so low. Nevertheless the doctors convinced us that the best course of action was to wait until this upcoming Wednesday. Additionally for a reason that remains unclear, the doctors took my wife off constant monitoring and moved her to hourly monitoring at the beginning of every shift. Shifts are several hours apart however, and between shifts there would be several hours where the baby would not be monitored. The whole stupid part of it is that if the baby went into distress, there would be no way to find out - and no way to deliver her. A variety of things could happen in this low amniotic fluid state that could cause her to go into distress including pressure on the umbilical coord or pressure that would cause her to have problems breathing. For whatever reason, these risks were overlooked and being brand new parents - we assumed that our doctors knew what they were talking about. We trusted that they wouldn't do anything that might endanger our child. Saturday night was the last time that I heard my baby's heartbeat. Everything was fine as far as we knew. It wasn't until Sunday morning when the shift changed that they discovered that her heart wasn't beating anymore.

This morning I talked to legal consultants from my company who agreed that clearly there appears to be some malpractice. They are going to meet with my wife and I tomorrow morning to discuss how we will proceed. A set of decisions made by the delivery doctors created an environment through negligence that brought about the environment in which my child died - and for this I beg God have mercy on them because I will stop at nothing to make sure they never practice medicine again.

 

[Justin Bailey]

That's horrible man. . .I'm sorry.

 

[Suerte]

That's awful, I'm so sorry

 

[Ignatz Mouse]

My sincere condolences. I'm sure it must hurt a lot, but hang in there.

 

[BuddyC]

Thank you all for your outpouring of support. Since many has asked, I will give some more details.

On Sunday night my wife's water broke, she was in the 33rd week of the pregnancy so it is safe to say that she was a few weeks early. Nevertheless at this point it was well beyond safe for the baby to be delivered. The doctors decided that it would be best if Kayla wasn't delivered until week 34, which would have been this upcoming Wednesday. As a result, starting on Sunday they started monitoring her around the clock. On Wednesday of last week, one of the doctor's wanted to do a amnio test to see if they could tell how far along the lungs were and see how much activity there was. At this time they found that there was insufficient fluid to perform this test. At this point I wondered why they didn't deliver the child if the amount of fluid was so low. Nevertheless the doctors convinced us that the best course of action was to wait until this upcoming Wednesday. Additionally for a reason that remains unclear, the doctors took my wife off constant monitoring and moved her to hourly monitoring at the beginning of every shift. Shifts are several hours apart however, and between shifts there would be several hours where the baby would not be monitored. The whole stupid part of it is that if the baby went into distress, there would be no way to find out - and no way to deliver her. A variety of things could happen in this low amniotic fluid state that could cause her to go into distress including pressure on the umbilical coord or pressure that would cause her to have problems breathing. For whatever reason, these risks were overlooked and being brand new parents - we assumed that our doctors knew what they were talking about. We trusted that they wouldn't do anything that might endanger our child. Saturday night was the last time that I heard my baby's heartbeat. Everything was fine as far as we knew. It wasn't until Sunday morning when the shift changed that they discovered that her heart wasn't beating anymore.

This morning I talked to legal consultants from my company who agreed that clearly there appears to be some malpractice. They are going to meet with my wife and I tomorrow morning to discuss how we will proceed. A set of decisions made by the delivery doctors created an environment through negligence that brought about the environment in which my child died - and for this I beg God have mercy on them because I will stop at nothing to make sure they never practice medicine again.

That is, assuredly, the most tragic thing I have ever read on the Internet. Go get 'em.

 

[The Take Out Bandit]

It's good to see a follow up post for you. Just to see you're still with us.

Stay focused and keep your chin up. Good luck. Godspeed.

 

[sc0la]

Jesus Christ. I am so sorry for you, your wife and your child.

May better days lay ahead for all of you.

take care, at least as much as one can during a dark time.

 

[Iceman]

Thanks for the info.

This sucks.

 

[Chrono]

I'm so sorry.

 

[Ryck]

Thank you all for your outpouring of support. Since many has asked, I will give some more details.

On Sunday night my wife's water broke, she was in the 33rd week of the pregnancy so it is safe to say that she was a few weeks early. Nevertheless at this point it was well beyond safe for the baby to be delivered. The doctors decided that it would be best if Kayla wasn't delivered until week 34, which would have been this upcoming Wednesday. As a result, starting on Sunday they started monitoring her around the clock. On Wednesday of last week, one of the doctor's wanted to do a amnio test to see if they could tell how far along the lungs were and see how much activity there was. At this time they found that there was insufficient fluid to perform this test. At this point I wondered why they didn't deliver the child if the amount of fluid was so low. Nevertheless the doctors convinced us that the best course of action was to wait until this upcoming Wednesday. Additionally for a reason that remains unclear, the doctors took my wife off constant monitoring and moved her to hourly monitoring at the beginning of every shift. Shifts are several hours apart however, and between shifts there would be several hours where the baby would not be monitored. The whole stupid part of it is that if the baby went into distress, there would be no way to find out - and no way to deliver her. A variety of things could happen in this low amniotic fluid state that could cause her to go into distress including pressure on the umbilical coord or pressure that would cause her to have problems breathing. For whatever reason, these risks were overlooked and being brand new parents - we assumed that our doctors knew what they were talking about. We trusted that they wouldn't do anything that might endanger our child. Saturday night was the last time that I heard my baby's heartbeat. Everything was fine as far as we knew. It wasn't until Sunday morning when the shift changed that they discovered that her heart wasn't beating anymore.

This morning I talked to legal consultants from my company who agreed that clearly there appears to be some malpractice. They are going to meet with my wife and I tomorrow morning to discuss how we will proceed. A set of decisions made by the delivery doctors created an environment through negligence that brought about the environment in which my child died - and for this I beg God have mercy on them because I will stop at nothing to make sure they never practice medicine again.

I am so sorry..... : (

 

[Bristow]

I'm so very sorry to hear this news, Phoenix. Having a young child myself, I can't imagine what I'd do if I were to lose him. I'm sure it would be unbearable and I can only hope you and your wife can find comfort somehow to make it by.

My condolences to you both and please hang in there the best you can. Nothing will ever replace young Kayla, but there is always a chance at new life and happiness.

 

[AntoneM]

take em to court, file with the states medical board and all that stuff, but do not expect their license to be revoked. I didn't work for the Medical Board here in AZ, but I did work at the Dental Board and I would hear things. Just from my experience with the Dental Board and from what I had heard about the Medical Board, I wouldn't expect them to revoke any of the Dr.'s licenses... each state is different but they all have large representation by the American Medical Association so, each state is different but not that different.

I'm not trying to dissuade you from pursuing a lawsuit and a Board action, I just don't want you to be frustrated if the Board doesn't revoke the Dr's license, and it can be frustrating because in all likelyhood, you cannot challenge the Board's decision.

Don't know if the above is any sort of help, but I am indeed, trying to help.

 

[human5892]

Phoenix, you have my fullest condolences, and I wish you the absolute best. Clearly there are lots of people here pulling for you, so I hope you can find some small measure of comfort in that.

Take it easy, and we'll wait for you to come back someday.