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Requiem for Kayla (PLEASE READ)

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This is tragic news. You have my deepest condolences. There is not much that can be said, except that I know God is with you at this time and will carry you through this ordeal. Be strong for yourself, and most importantly, be strong for your wife, who needs you now.

My prayers are with you.
 
Man I was shocked to read this, as the same thing happened to my aunt a while ago, and she was due for delivery as well.

I hope that you and your wife (your wife especially) make it through this. It's hard to get over :-\

Please stay on GAF man, or return when your life turns back around. I mean, we're always here for you.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss - I can't imagine what it must feel like. And I wish you the best of luck in your legal proceedings. Your courage may very well save the lives of other children.
 
Dude, I'm sorry. Just... damn.
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Fuck, this has been a horrible day. First this news, and then on another forum I browse, a prominent poster just lost his wife after a long and courageous battle with cancer.
 
Sorry to hear about this, Phoenix. You're one of the posters whose posts I actually enjoy reading.

My parents also dealt with the death of one of their babies -- my youngest brother died only three days after birth. They still visit his grave every year, and he'd be 16 in December. I remember visiting his grave the day he was buried and my parents were telling me that I should find a toy to throw in the grave before he was fully buried, and all I could come up with was a measly plastic snake.

:(

Anyway, you'll get through this.
 
I couldn't even respond because I know that nothing I say can help make such a hard time easier for you, but I just want to let you know that my prayers are with you and your wife.
 
Incognito said:
Sorry to hear about this, Phoenix. You're one of the posters whose posts I actually enjoy reading.
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Same. Always very insightful and civil (thinking of the belligerent political threads). Hopefully you decide to return, Pheonix.
 
I can't even imagine how you and your wife must feel right now.
All i can say is that i am very sorry for your loss and i give you my deepest condolences and hope you both will find the strength in each other to live through this.

:(
 
I will definitely miss you Phoenix, the forum is certainly going to be lessened without your rational and evenhanded posts, but do what you've gotta do. I'm hoping, for you and your wife.
 
My dearest friends,

I want to thank you for all the love, support, gifts and encouraging words
you have given to Deirdre, myself, and our family during these difficult
times. The next step on our journey is to lay Kayla to rest. The funeral
services will be held at

Mount Pilgrim Missionary Baptist Church
11360 Kali-Oka Road
Eight-Mile, AL 36613
251-679-6971

on Saturday March 19, 2005 at 11:00 AM.

The funeral home information is

Reese Funeral Home
925 South Bessemer Ave
Mobile, AL 36610
251-456-2257


Anyone wishing to send wreathes, flowers, and the like can have them sent
there.

Anyone wishing to attend the services but having some problems getting there
or getting travel plans set up, you can call my cell phone at 678-925-7981,
the church at the number listed above, or my mother in law's residence at
251-452-0372. While we know that everyone would love to be there for us, we
completely understand that it may be impossible to make travel arrangements
and join us. We understand this. Please do not imperil yourselves
financially to try and attend. We understand the constraints of the real
world and that you may not be able to make it despite your desire to do so.
No one will think any less of you if you cannot attend.

Our road to recovery will likely be a long and difficult one, but it is one
where we welcome our friends to help us along the way. Hearing your voices
and knowing that you are there for us lends us comfort. I know many of you
may be uncomfortable calling or talking to us, but we do welcome you in our
lives now and gain strength in your comfort. While things now may make
communication somewhat problematic and we may miss or forget to return your
call, please don't take this as a sign that we don't wish to speak to you.
We do. Please try calling us again.

Because there is a lot of confusion surrounding the events that led to
Kayla's death - I don't have a lot of answers for many of the questions that
people may want to ask and that I will have trouble answering. I can however
tell you what we do know. On Saturday March 5th my wife was admitted to
Dekalb Medical Center because her water broke - indicating that Kayla was
ready to be born. However Deirdre was having no contractions so she was
admitted to the hospital to be monitored along with Kayla until which time
she would reach 34 weeks of maturity and her lungs would be fully developed
at which time labor would be induced. That day would have been today March
16th. For reasons that are not completely understood, a decision was made to
remove Kayla from constant monitoring and instead only monitor her at each
hospital shift. During the evening of Saturday March 12th I heard Kayla's
heartbeat for the last time. Everything appeared to be fine and I headed
home to finish preparing the house for her arrival and finish some pending
work so that she could have my undivided attention. On Sunday March 13th at
the beginning of the morning shift nurses were unable to find Kayla's
heartbeat and it was later confirmed that she had died.

Answers will come in the months ahead, and hopefully we will know what
happened during those final hours. We have been assured by some of our
friends who are medical doctors that she would not have suffered. This gives
us some level of comfort as she would have died as if she were sleeping.

When I close my eyes I can still see her face, and in my thoughts and dreams
we live the life that we can no longer have. So if by chance one day you
should see me sitting alone with my eyes closed - excuse me while I spend
some time with my baby.

Thank you for everything that you have done and will do for us,

Gregory Deirdre and Kayla Pierce
 
Wow, my condolences Phoenix. I don't have much else to say, just that as a new dad (again), I can only imagine it's like living in a nightmare. :(
 
I am terribly sorry for your loss. Don't know what else to say as I am not very good at dealing with loss, but I hope those doctors pay for what they have done. My condolences.
 
I'm going to stick this thread because I passed over reading it like 5 times, and the only reason I eventually clicked on it was because it reached over 50 replies. Hopefully more people will read it now and be able to send flowers, cards, condolences, or advice.
 
I just Buddy C some money for flowers. Come on everyone, let's all chip in and send him a huge arrangement so Pheonix can see how much we care for him and the loss of his daughter.
 
I'm so sorry...you and your wife will be in my prayers. I teared up just reading your posts..I'm sure you would have made amazing parents. It's situations like this that make you truly appreciate those close to you.

From one GAF poster to another, you're going to be missed, Phoenix. Your input is valued, being one of the more level-headed people around here, and I've always found your posts enjoyable. Farewell for now.
 
I've been trying to contact people via IM, PM and chat, but that's proven to be quite inefficient. Mods, if this presents a problem, just let me know.

A group of us will be to sending flowers to the funeral home. No user names will be mentioned on the attached note, the signature simply reading the Gaming-Age Community.

If you'd be interested in participating, please contact me via PM, AIM (ZombieWaffles) or e-mail (buddyc@gmail.com).

Thanks.
 
I feel at a loss for a proper way to express my condolences for you, your wife and of course Kayla. I do hope you come back to GAF after everything has settled down and you have found the justice that you deserve.
 
Wow...this is absolutely tragic, and you have all of my condolences.

I remember being a small child in the cemetery where my grandfather is buried. In the same plot, on a sort of overall tombstone for the family, were two names I didn't recognize. My father explained that they were children who had not survived child birth. Back then, the levity of the situation was not apparent to me, but now it just hit me like a sack of bricks. There is no way to even express adaquately what that must feel like.
 
I am terribly sorry for your loss. I wish you the best of luck in getting through this.

I have been in a somewhat similar situation, but I didn't know about it until months after the fact (long story) and that was bad enough, so I can't even imagine what this must be like.
 
BuddyC said:
I've been trying to contact people via IM, PM and chat, but that's proven to be quite inefficient. Mods, if this presents a problem, just let me know.

A group of us will be to sending flowers to the funeral home. No user names will be mentioned on the attached note, the signature simply reading the Gaming-Age Community.

If you'd be interested in participating, please contact me via PM, AIM (ZombieWaffles) or e-mail (buddyc@gmail.com).

Thanks.
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That's a good idea. I just want to throw the suggestion out there, however, that I know there are a lot of generous people on Gaming-Age and that a fund for flowers could grow to be pretty significant.

I think while it's great a symbol of sympathies here is sent, someone needs to be mindful of scale. IMO, it would be inappropriate for Gaming-Age to send a giant bouquet or wreath that dwarfs everything else at the funeral. Let's bow to modesty. That said, I think the more people who donate, the better... perhaps the surplus can be donated to a charity of some sort in the name of Kayla, or the Pierce family?

I know that idea may have already crossed some minds, but I just wanted to get it out there, because if it hadn't, it should.

Having known Greg online for a long time (I'd wager 8 years or so in some capacity or another), I'm thinking of sending my own message to the family, but I'll give it some thought today and email the "group effort" if I decide to go that way.
 
If we end up with a significant amount of funds, I'll certainly look into the donation options. As it stands, we've got enough to buy a nice bouqet, but nothing one would consider extravagant. Also, if anyone wishes to contribute after the order is placed tomorrow night, I'll pursue the charity route.
 
oh no. So sorry about your loss. And all the more hurtful cause she could have so easily been fine. Take care of yourself and the missus.
 
You know the missus and I last night were discussing this new monitor we installed under our 4 month old daughter's crib to detect movement. My daughter currently has a cold and is breathing pretty raggedly, suffice to say the conversation centered around the missus wanting to make sure that Nyera was breathing ok at night.

Goddamn man... as new parents ourselves we both extend our support to you, and I'm more than willing to chip in for flowers... somebody make sure to PM me, email me, ICQ me or whatEVER you have to do to get ahold of me and let me know where to paypal the funds to.

EDIT: Rhonda just confessed to me that she was very scared during her recent pregnancy, occasionally during the pregnancy she would mention to me that she hadn't felt the baby move in a certain amt of time... so she definitely understands the concerns... and she mentions that the doctors were incredibly inept... we personally know two children in our townhome area born much earlier than that... I'm on the phone with her right now and I can hear the anger and pain in her voice.... again we extend our support to you and your family Greg.
 
If we're all going to send money to someone, could someone please let me know who, and PM me an address or something?

I was planning on sending a card myself, but if we're all gonig to get money together I'd like to do that.
 
God, really sorry to hear that Phoenix. I've always enjoyed reading your posts and I hope you stick with us. There's no way GA OT can be the same without your crazy avatar stalking political threads.

My prayers are with you, take care.
 
Hey, I send my condolences. That's very sad news, and I hope you and the wife get through it ok. I really don't know what else to say, since I can't possibly know what you're going through right now. Just best wishes, and I hope you return again. PEACE.
 
I don't know what to say but give you my condolences. I wish you and your wife all the best so you can both get through this hard time.
 
As a father of an 11 month year old, I'm a very very sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers as you try to get through this.
 
speaking as someone who has a little one coming in the next two months, I certainly feel your pain. I can only imagine the hell that I would go through if I lost my child.

My condolences to you and your family.
 
Good God, this story makes me feel helpless. I can imagine how you feel. I'm sorry for your loss. One thing though -


DO NOT LEAVE GAF.


You need this place right now. You need friends, as dumb as the lot of us can be. You're going to need a place to say the things you can't say in your day-to-day life. You're going to need a place to vent. Don't go off on your own when you need people. We'll try to be here for you.
 
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