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My god, what a sad sad story, i wish you and your wife all the best....
I just noticed this thread and while reading it i just instantly felt so sad.

My deepest condolences for you and your wife.

Edit:
O, and unleash hell on those doctors......

 

[Diomedeskun]

I was born premature and my two older brothers died at birth. As someone who came very close to dying similarly, my prayers are with you.

 

[Mejilan]

Against the sorrow and loss that will inevitably be part of both of you for the rest of your lives, and the ugliness of the impending legal battle... be strong and be true.

There is no cure or salve for sorrow, for it is the flip-side of love. But time does ease burdens (though it never diminishes uncompromising love!), and the future may hold a bounty of joys that will make dealing with a tragic present more bearable.

You have my sympathy, and wish you and yours the best.

 

[Kuro Madoushi]

There aren't any words that can give you back what you lost.

It was an awful thing to happen to you, and it'll be a loss to us all if you don't come in here anymore.

But just know that we're all supporting you and we'll be here when and if you decide to come back.

 

[RaymondCarver]

Phoenix, my thoughts are with you, your family, and anyone else close to you.











(silence and pause) Take care.

 

[Amakusa]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss Phoenix, I know you feel a great pain in your heart but as long as you always remember.. that pain will slowly heal. It just takes time mate, it just takes time.

 

[Manics]

My deepest sympathies. I can't begin to understand what you must be going through.

 

[Sh0k]

I'm sorry about your loss Phoenix.

We also lost our first child long time ago, it wasn't at that late stage of the pregnancy but still was a very sad chapter in our lives.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[Malleymal]

I am sorry man.... I saw this topic and never looked in, glad i did... My prayers are with you and your wife... your daughter is in a better place....

 

[Jotaro]

Against bad fortune, show good heartedness. I wish you the best in your life.

 

[tt_deeb]

I lost a sister in a similiar way. I was too young then, and still now, to grasp the magnitude of such an event. I can't give any advice that has already been said. I wish your family the best in overcoming these depressing times.

 

[CrawfishPete]

since my little boy was born a year an a half ago, i have become much more emotional and sensitive and right now i am so very sad to hear about your loss.

i cant imagine how I would react and i am amazed at your clarity of thought and strength.

Please continue to fight on through this terrible time.

Sometime when you feel better, PM me and I will find something to give you a laugh.

Only the finest dick and fart jokes for you

but seriously, my prayers to you and your family. You are not alone in grieving your loss.

 

[Folder]

That’s terrible Greg, I’m moved and shocked by your news and the thoughts of my wife and I are with you. Life can be so random, so fucking horrible and seemingly for no reason. There is no positive to this. It’s not enriching and there’s no way of extracting anything other than pain and bitterness from it. I’m very sorry and I hope to god your wife can come through it. It must be utterly unbearable for her.

A similar thing happened to my aunt’s baby. She is a resilient and strong person and this was around 12 years ago but you can still see the sadness etched on her face. I have to stop typing now but please remember, with every day things will get better.

You can both pull through this. I’m really sorry.

Stefan W

 

[Ferny84]

I'm sorry about your loss, I lost a sister the same way.

 

[junkwaffle]

 

[Phoenix]

Thank you all for your thoughts, your kind words, and some interesting reading.

I'll be back on GAF now as its best to hang out with you guys and girls. I won't be around as much as I used to, but I'll be lurking for certain.

Regrettably I do want to inform those that asked, I have received the pathology report and it is now certain that Kayla's death was both preventable and a direct result of decisions made by doctors responsible for her care and safety. As such I have now begun to devote a considerable amount of my energy to researching the nations medical code and the laws related to it to prepare for the actions that I now deem necessary.

I did want to share with you some words that I gave at Kayla's Euology. Though some of you will not understand because you lack some of what I have I invite you to read it anyways.


Kayla's Memory

I close my eyes and see your face so clearly
sleeping as a baby should
so peaceful and calm

I see your first steps
your smile as you triump over the world

I see us calming your cries
drying your eyes
healing your woulds
and doing things I never thought I would have the strength to do - like chaning diapers

With my eyes closed I can see you walking to school
from the car I can see your dog looking
wanting to follow you
He has long since changed his loyalties and spends most of his time with you now


I hear your voice
I teach you about the world and help you grow into the person you want to be
I conceal a smile as you teach me about the world and how it has changed since I was young

Years pass and you become a young woman, so beautiful

I keep your hair long
as well as your clothes
I watch as boys begin to notice and you notice them

I keep a watchful eye
knowing that you will challenge me
but always showing you why things must be so you can make good decisions for yourself
.... and then grounding you

As you age, the clarity of my vision fades
I cannot see clearly what you have become, but you are happy
I watch you life a life
And see you there at the end of mine

Only when I close my eyes can I see your face
And in my thoughts and dreams we live the life that we can no longer share

But because I know the Lord
I can open my eyes and live my life
and know we'll meet again



-----------------------------


I remain thankful for the 9 months of life that Kayla and I shared and as I turn to do what must be done I keep myself centered knowing that she wouldn't have wanted me to fill my heart with anger, rage or vengence. As I would have taught to fight for justice above all other callings, and above all other priorities - so now do I begin a fight for justice that few of you will actually understand.

While I will not seek to debate the opinions stated by some I want you to realize that there are some things in this life that ARE worth fighting for. While there are no plans for it - there are some things in this life that ARE worth dieing for. Justice is one of them.

I remain eternally an optimist. I believe that change is possible when the cause is just and those fighting for it are just. Though I may stumble and fall on the way, I refuse to accept that 'we must accept our current situations'. It is our duty and obligation to make each of us better whenever we are given an opportunity to do so, and so now the battle is joined.

 

[borghe]

If you are seeking out honest change in a flawed system, you have my deepest support. Just make sure your desired goal is honest and noble and you will prevail.

 

[Nester]

I hope everything goes well for you. My wife almost died and ending up losing half of her stomach when our daughter was born due to doctor neglect. We consulted one lawyer about it and he wouldn't take the case, saying that doctors in Minnesota won't testify against each other in Minnesota, and they'd have to fly in a doctor from a different state or some other crap. Haven't really looked into anything futher after that.

 

[DarienA]

Beautiful words... they sum up alot of what I feel when I like at my 4 month old daughter and try to vision how her life is going to play out... I feel you.. I feel you.

 

[AniHawk]

Phoenix, I'm so sorry for your loss. You have my deepest condolences. Your family will be in my prayers.

That is a beautiful eulogy.

 

[Drinky Crow]

You've comported yourself with great dignity, Phoenix. You have my respect and admiration.

I'll say that when I get irritated at my own daughter -- now nine months and as feisty as her father ever was -- I also remember your loss and remind myself that I should never take her life for granted.

I'm glad to read that you'll fight against the system and demand redress for your terrible loss. Me and my wife had a lazy obstetrician/DR doctor who insisted on our daughter's birth at her exclusive convenience; we were fortunate only in that she became so obstinate that we were forced to choose a new delivery doctor in the final months. I can't imagine what the result might have been had she been more subtle and less obstructionist. As new parents, it's so difficult to tell -- we place a lot of trust in the hands of these so-called experts, and we often are led to believe that we can't trust our own judgment. I can't imagine a more horrible evil to arise from human pettiness than the selfishness that leads to the betrayal of such a personal trust.

There are many medical folks out there who practice solely out of a desire for money, and who place their personal convenience over the lives of the children they are paid to ward. They really must discover the consequences, and in your action, you may save other lives.

Again, as a father, my deepest condolences.

 

[seanoff]

Fantastic eulogy Pheonix.

I could only wish to write and deliver something that good.

We had the luck of being referred to a wonderful O/B, she was great and gave us one piece of advice, do what u think is best for u. I wish u could get her, fantastic doctor, 2 of her own young children, real empathy. Try and find someone like that, ask around.

Welcome back.

 

[Malakhov]

Good god, that eulogy was great phoenix. It made me shed some tears.

My deepest sympathies. I'm not a religious person but if there is a god, I hope he'll take good care of Lyla and you and your family.

 

[human5892]

Phoenix, I'm touched by your eulogy, and impressed that you are pursuing this for your daughter. Many people would've just given up and let themselves be overcome by grief, which IMO is the wrong thing to do.

Again, my condolences, and I wish you the best of luck in getting some kind of legal closure (at the very least) out of this.

 

[isamu]

Sorry to hear what happened man. My condolences.

However, I must say that I agree with the following

You have my sympathies, but you're better off dealing with this with your loved ones. You're clearly distraught but I sincerely believe posting this on the internet isn't helpful to anyone, especially yourself. You should be with your family. We can't help you. They can. This should have been kept a private matter.

 

[Cold-Steel]

Take it one day at a time man.

Just make sure your desired goal is honest and noble and you will prevail.

Good luck. You have my condolences as well.