So where's Gaborn? (RIP Gaborn)

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I noticed Gaborn's recent absence. Never would have guessed this was the reason. He was a good poster, despite the macabre threads.

RIP, Gaborn.
 
PhoenixDark said:
I just wanted to bump this in light of the historic victories for gay rights that were made last night. Gaborn obviously was no Obama supporter but was deeply focused on this civil rights fight, and I'm sure he would have been celebrating with us if he were still here.
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Yep. Nice post though, and well said.
 
Damn I first saw this thread when it was first created and just sort of brushed it off. Now I saw the modded title with the (RIP) and I was like "nah, surely it's a joke.." but damn! :(

RIP fellow stranger from across the Internet who I never met. You will be missed.
 
Been lurking here since Christ was a chap and without a doubt Gaborn was one of the most recognizable people on GAF. A constant source of hilarity and also harrowing sadness. The way GAF has banded together in recent times over such distraught circumstances is truly an inspiration. RIP.
 
Wow. I don't know what to say.

I didn't know Gaborn very well, and I can't say I always agreed with his point of view on certain things, but man. This is horrible news, and I feel pretty awful.

RIP Gaborn. Your depressing threads will be missed, but you've still somehow managed to give us one last one. Lol (seriously, I'm pretty bummed by this).

Your family and loved ones are in my prayers.

EDIT: Man, I am really fucking depressed by this. I'm 33 years old, and he was only 27. I've always felt blessed when I was able to see another year, but things like this just really, really hit me hard.
 
Machado said:
really? that's sounds quite odd phonetically.
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Its the one that sounds the most natural. With Gay-born you are adding a phonetic to it that has no reason to be there, and Guh-born is the exact opposite of the A in the word.

But it probably depends on your culture.
 
I've been having a lot of trouble processing this.

I first started talking to Gaborn in 2009; I can't remember exactly when because the PM is now gone and my conversations with him were lost in a hard drive crash in late 2010. And even then there's about 19MB of text logs worth of conversations. I talked to Gaborn on an almost daily basis for the last three years, and I noticed the void every time he was gone for a vacation or just life. We talked about the forum (people, topics, moderation, arguments), about politics (our agreements and our disagreements, both of which were numerous), about people's reactions to his politics and topics, books, music, silly things in our lives, television, and so on and so forth. He was a big fan of those silly Gordon Ramsey reality shows, and he ended up getting me to watch, well, every single one of them. He would find the shows on Youtube and we would watch episodes of Kitchen Nightmares, seasons of Hell's Kitchen and MasterChef (all two of them; we both wanted Christine to win, naturally). He also introduced me to my first sitcoms; he got me to watch All in the Family, then Golden Girls, and finally most of Roseanne. He also was a big fan of weird old documentaries, and the old show "What's My Lines", which I know he also got Kabouter to watch some of. I've been reading old conversations, and laughing and crying over old arguments and conversations, even reading conversations where we were watching episodes and being able to tell which episode of which show we were watching.

I haven't been able to go a day without thinking about him and crying; I can't stop crying while writing this. I know people often think that your relationships with people you know online aren't meaningful. I don't really care to argue the point; I just know that for me, a few of them are meaningful and he was one of them. I wish he could have seen this topic; I don't think he quite knew how well-respected he was. I wish he could have seen this election. It would have be fun to tease him about Obama, however much I agreed with a lot of his critiques (similar to some of the critiques made by the Green Party, actually, though not all), and he would have been so happy about the results of marijuana and gay marriage referenda. I have had so many things I wanted to talk to him about in my personal life and about the forum that I really hadn't had the ability to talk to anyone else about, and I would have wanted to hear more about what was going on with him.

I was reading his Facebook page earlier today, and he posted a longer write-up about his friend that he posted on GAF. I won't post it here because of the issues of privacy, but he did link to two songs that he said represented what his friendship had taught him and how he hoped to live his life. I think that anyone who benefited from knowing him well - and most especially lexi and Billiechu - can understand how he took this to heart, and what decent person he was.
 
It's hard to process this. He was one of the best members of this community. He expressed ideas with intelligence and integrity, especially when he was outnumbered. There was no mask on Gaborn--he didn't need to be a character to be noticed.

My world will forever have an empty space where Gaborn once penetrated.
 
I agree with a lot of Gaborn's political views and I dearly wish I was able to express my view as flawlessly and eloquently as he did. GAF and the wider world is a poorer place without him.

R.I.P Gaborn.

Mumei your post almost made me cry. Bless.
 
Mumei said:
I've been having a lot of trouble processing this.

I first started talking to Gaborn in 2009; I can't remember exactly when because the PM is now gone and my conversations with him were lost in a hard drive crash in late 2010. And even then there's about 19MB of text logs worth of conversations. I talked to Gaborn on an almost daily basis for the last three years, and I noticed the void every time he was gone for a vacation or just life. We talked about the forum (people, topics, moderation, arguments), about politics (our agreements and our disagreements, both of which were numerous), about people's reactions to his politics and topics, books, music, silly things in our lives, television, and so on and so forth. He was a big fan of those silly Gordon Ramsey reality shows, and he ended up getting me to watch, well, every single one of them. He would find the shows on Youtube and we would watch episodes of Kitchen Nightmares, seasons of Hell's Kitchen and MasterChef (all two of them; we both wanted Christine to win, naturally). He also introduced me to my first sitcoms; he got me to watch All in the Family, then Golden Girls, and finally most of Roseanne. He also was a big fan of weird old documentaries, and the old show "What's My Lines", which I know he also got Kabouter to watch some of. I've been reading old conversations, and laughing and crying over old arguments and conversations, even reading conversations where we were watching episodes and being able to tell which episode of which show we were watching.

I haven't been able to go a day without thinking about him and crying; I can't stop crying while writing this. I know people often think that your relationships with people you know online aren't meaningful. I don't really care to argue the point; I just know that for me, a few of them are meaningful and he was one of them. I wish he could have seen this topic; I don't think he quite knew how well-respected he was. I wish he could have seen this election. It would have be fun to tease him about Obama, however much I agreed with a lot of his critiques (similar to some of the critiques made by the Green Party, actually, though not all), and he would have been so happy about the results of marijuana and gay marriage referenda. I have had so many things I wanted to talk to him about in my personal life and about the forum that I really hadn't had the ability to talk to anyone else about, and I would have wanted to hear more about what was going on with him.

I was reading his Facebook page earlier today, and he posted a longer write-up about his friend that he posted on GAF. I won't post it here because of the issues of privacy, but he did link to two songs that he said represented what his friendship had taught him and how he hoped to live his life. I think that anyone who benefited from knowing him well - and most especially lexi and Billiechu - can understand how he took this to heart, and what decent person he was.
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I also started speaking with Gaborn in 2009, We spoke almost daily and he became an integral part of my initial support network re: the whole trans thing. He was a positive voice against my sea of anxiety and negativity. He inspired a lot of self-confidence and self-belief, gave advice for any and all situations I got myself into, and did it all with a cool resolve and demeanor. I became very close friends with him, despite only ever knowing him through text.

We talked about politics a lot. I ribbed him about his silly Libertopia beliefs and he chided me for being a greenie tree-hugger. He did in the end teach me a lot about what he believed and I in turn advanced his understanding and knowledge of the T in LGBT. He was so proud of me for how much I had helped change the dialog about trans people on GAF.

He was so excited for me about my trip to Thailand in September of this year. We talked about it nearly every day, how much closer it was, how much happier I'd be afterwards, how excited he was to see me after it was all done.... I can't stop thinking about him, how suddenly he was taken away from me. I last spoke to him a few hours before I was put under for my surgery. It pains me to not have a log of that chat, as it would be the last time I ever spoke to him.

At this point it's getting harder and harder to finish writing this post. It probably sounds cliche but I really wish I could have told him one last time how much he meant to me, and how much I'll miss him.
 
This is so tragic to read. :(

I didn't speak with Gaborn personally, but seeing his name, tag and avatar associated with threads with odd, but hilarious titles always put on a smile on my face even during the most mundane of times.

Rest in peace, good sir.
 
Fuck. I only just saw this thread now and thought the title was an "Lol banned" sort of affair.

Man, I didn't often comment in his threads but I read through them as they happened. He always struck me as somebody who was really passionate and caring even when he didn't have to be.

Rest in peace.
 
lexi said:
I also started speaking with Gaborn in 2009, We spoke almost daily and he became an integral part of my initial support network re: the whole trans thing. He was a positive voice against my sea of anxiety and negativity. He inspired a lot of self-confidence and self-belief, gave advice for any and all situations I got myself into, and did it all with a cool resolve and demeanor. I became very close friends with him, despite only ever knowing him through text.

We talked about politics a lot. I ribbed him about his silly Libertopia beliefs and he chided me for being a greenie tree-hugger. He did in the end teach me a lot about what he believed and I in turn advanced his understanding and knowledge of the T in LGBT. He was so proud of me for how much I had helped change the dialog about trans people on GAF.

He was so excited for me about my trip to Thailand in September of this year. We talked about it nearly every day, how much closer it was, how much happier I'd be afterwards, how excited he was to see me after it was all done.... I can't stop thinking about him, how suddenly he was taken away from me. I last spoke to him a few hours before I was put under for my surgery. It pains me to not have a log of that chat, as it would be the last time I ever spoke to him.

At this point it's getting harder and harder to finish writing this post. It probably sounds cliche but I really wish I could have told him one last time how much he meant to me, and how much I'll miss him.
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It's funny; I wasn't sure how long he'd been talking to you but he talked about you occasionally and copied and pasted some funny banter you guys had. You were actually quite influential on him with regards to trans issues. I actually had a bit of an argument with him about some things relating to it and my own misgivings and double standards in the last few months. I was being a bit silly about the whole thing, though.

And yes, "libertopian" got under his skin... so naturally I made reference to it liberally. I still think that some of his beliefs were placing abstract principles over actual results for actual people who would have to deal with those things (e.g. allowing employer discrimination), but he was a lot of fun to talk to about politics and he didn't just parrot arguments I'd already heard.

Now that he's gone I regret that so much of our time was spent talking about mutual interests and not nearly as much time spent talking about him personally.
 
has Stump been able to each Gaborn's father? I hope there's some sorta development on this and how we can take some more proactive action to remember him.
 
I was wondering where the Gaborn threads were, figured he was just taking a break from GAF or something.

Just saw this thread.

:(

Mumei said:
The last bit of my conversation with him:

(10:05:21 PM) Gaborn: http://www.newscientist.com/article...-from-hell-eats-faeces-to-survive-depths.html

I'm going to post this tomorrow but I thought I'd give you a head's up
(10:05:27 PM) Gaborn: because I know you LOVE squids

..

And he apparently never did get a chance to make that topic. I didn't even realize that until I was checking my logs this evening. =\
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Vampire squid from hell eats faeces to survive depths

:( that he never got the chance to post that article.
 
R.I.P Gaborn.

Internet's been out for the past week so I haven't had the chance to see this thread. Contrary to the whole 'depressing news thread' a lot of the times he enlightened me about things I otherwise wouldn't have cared to know. Really sad to see him go.
 
I haven't really been...sad about this, but its stuck with me far more than I thought it would. I just find myself thinking about it at random parts of the day...
 
I did not know him personally, and I never argued with him, not even once, but I remember some of his threads and I knew about his issues. The thought that he might very well pass away one of these days actually crossed my mind from time to time. I'm sad to see I was right.

I hope he rests in peace, wherever he is now.
 
I need to unsub from this thread. It depresses me so much whenever I see it get bumped.

Gaborn you were a legend here. I and GAF will forever miss you and the world at large will too. So eloquent in your delivery of your opinions. It's possible that GAF didn't agree with you a lot but you made GAF a more informed place.

Fuck, this is so hard. I gotta unsub. We will miss you penetrating our world.
 
I can't believe this. this is sad. I will keep him and his family in my thoughts and prayers.

I missed this thread because I was banned. Sad to come back and see this.
 
Every time I see this thread, I almost tear up. I know I've said it before, but I didn't know the guy. I didn't subscribe to his beliefs either. I didn't understand his obsession with the depressing threads. But he was one of the people I legitimately respected.

I wanted to say that again. I will miss him.
 
Wow, I completely missed this last week. I argued with him quite a bit, particularly back in the Ron Paul heyday of 2007-2008, but he will be missed. :(
 
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