Just relax and do it like real man. Go straight to the lips, but don't use your tongue for atleast 10 minutes. Do not be afraid and enjoy.... why 10 minutes...well,long story...includes me, my best fmale friend and a very busy pedestrian-only alley around 3 pm...to sum up: kissing for almost 20 minutes, first time since 2001...holy shit , best kissing ever