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[Escape Goat]

As much as I hate to make a dating thread I, unfortunately, must succumb to the GAF craze of seeking advice on the forum.

I wonder if I have commitment issues or something because after the honeymoon period ends (2 month mark) the relationship tends to stagnate and slow up. It becomes the same old thing ever night we go out. The newness wears off and the relationships become a routine. Help me GAF.

FHUTA, Yeah, lets try something new, guys. :lol

 

[theo]

FHUT...ah nevermind

seriously, you need a strong bond and lots of patience and understanding.

 

[rs7k]

A "good" relationship needs a bit of unpredictability. I have friends who have "good", and lengthy relationships, and their lives are full of drama. I can't deal with that myself, so my relationships are ... ah well, fuck relationships

 

[bjork]

It could be that once you get past the infatuation stage, you don't really like the person after learning their little quirks and stuff. It's been my experience that you'll go the extra mile/miles for someone if you think they're really worth it and they strike you the right way.

 

[Boogie]

*insert self-deprecating quip that has nothing to do with the thread-starter*

*await similar reply from demon*

*post pic from Princess Bride*

*????*

*Profit*

 

[Manabanana]

My two-year anniversary was yesterday What's important is to be friends. Look at your relationships with your friends and see why you're so close with them, then look for similar things in a partner. Create common interests, share your hobbies, etc.

 

[Escape Goat]

Thats one thing I've been thinking about. We have alot of same interests. Like, all of them. I'd kind of like to be challenge by someone to find new interests, ya know?

 

[Deleted member 1235]

If it doesn't work after that, then the person is the wrong person. the routine must be an enjoyable one, no escaping the routine.

 

[DarienA]

Thats one thing I've been thinking about. We have alot of same interests. Like, all of them. I'd kind of like to be challenge by someone to find new interests, ya know?

Great you have alot of common interests... so how much do you two actually participate in a variety of those interests?

 

[Cloudy]

We have alot of same interests. Like, all of them. I'd kind of like to be challenge by someone to find new interests, ya know?

I'd like to meet a girl who has the same interests as me* >_<


























*and is also hot

 

[SteveMeister]

My wife and I didn't have any problems lasting 2 months. If it's right, you'll know it. We just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary last week.

 

[tehrik-e-insaaf]

Western courtship customs and expectations... Hmm... Sorry don't know a thing...

But if you wanna know about arranged marriages... Let me know...

 

[bjork]

My two-year anniversary was yesterday What's important is to be friends. Look at your relationships with your friends and see why you're so close with them, then look for similar things in a partner. Create common interests, share your hobbies, etc.

iawtp

I know that guys get that "I think of you as a friend" thing from girls that don't want to date them or whatever, but I'd rather be friends first and maybe date later, and stay together if it's right.

 

[speedpop]

The last relationship I had with a friend lasted for 3 years. We don't talk that much anymore.

The one I am with now has almost exact similar interests as me and I know will more than likely last a lot longer. We barely talked before we got together as it seemed to be a spur of the moment thing.. two nights of hardcore talking = bunk buddies.

 

[Phoenix]

As much as I hate to make a dating thread I, unfortunately, must succumb to the GAF craze of seeking advice on the forum.

I wonder if I have commitment issues or something because after the honeymoon period ends (2 month mark) the relationship tends to stagnate and slow up. It becomes the same old thing ever night we go out. The newness wears off and the relationships become a routine. Help me GAF.

FHUTA, Yeah, lets try something new, guys. :lol

Life is unfortunately routine. My wife and I were together for some 7 years before we decided to get married and much of that time was routine. That's really just the way of things. You'll be able to make excitement many times by doing things that you both enjoy and such, but if you're looking for something that never becomes routine I think you're not being realistic. The fun of being in a relationship is the cool stuff you do that breaks up the routine.

 

[demon]

What the hell is the honeymoon mark?

Oh, and are you being cocky and funny enough? If not, try to dial up the cocky and funny. Or perhaps if your ratio of cocky to funny is off, like say if you're more cocky than you are funny, try to be more funny. Or if, for example, you are being more funny than cocky, try to be more cocky. But not too much. You have to find a nice balance. That's the key to a healthy, long-lasting relationships. It is like the Yin & Yang, only in dating, it's Cocky & Funny.

 

[Cubsfan23]

Damn 2 months is short, mine is usually 6 months. You just answered your own question, don't be predictable and change your routine. About once or twice a month, surprise her with your creativity and imagination when she least expects it.

I'll also add that the girl needs to contribute too, at least once in a while. It's lame if you have a girl that thinks having sex with you is all she has to do.

 

[FoneBone]

Damn 2 months is short, mine is usually 6 months. You just answered your own question, don't be predictable and change your routine. About once or twice a month, surprise her with your creativity and imagination when she least expects it.

I'll also add that the girl needs to contribute too, at least once in a while. It's lame if you have a girl that thinks having sex with you is all she has to do.

*cough*

 

[Boogie]

Heh. Ham plays for the other team, cubs

 

[Cubsfan23]

Same shit applies